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Why are there so many god dam time wasters on this site people making out there interested and then ignore you or finally say oh you aren't are type after swopping messages and bloody pics oh it makes my blood boil ..... Rant over |
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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago
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"Why are there so many god dam time wasters on this site people making out there interested and then ignore you or finally say oh you aren't are type after swopping messages and bloody pics oh it makes my blood boil ..... Rant over"
At least you have each other for company and fun. Unlike the lonely individual(s) who waste peoples time and will be sat on their own masturbating to porn. |
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over a year ago
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"Why are there so many god dam time wasters on this site people making out there interested and then ignore you or finally say oh you aren't are type after swopping messages and bloody pics oh it makes my blood boil ..... Rant over"
And how exactly are they meant to know your not there type with out messaging or seeing pictures!?  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"or finally say oh you aren't are type after swopping messages and bloody pics"
Ooops, I do that all the time. Usually because I don't fancy them, or they've said something to put me off meeting them. |
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"....or finally say oh you aren't are type after swopping messages and bloody pics
That's not timewasting. That's just the reality of not appealing to everyone. It happens. Deal with it."
We can deal with it thanks.. but when people arrange and say lets meet up takes the pee |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why are there so many god dam time wasters on this site people making out there interested and then ignore you or finally say oh you aren't are type after swopping messages and bloody pics oh it makes my blood boil ..... Rant over
And how exactly are they meant to know your not there type with out messaging or seeing pictures!? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"....or finally say oh you aren't are type after swopping messages and bloody pics
That's not timewasting. That's just the reality of not appealing to everyone. It happens. Deal with it."
 Too many people on here confuse rejection with timewasting |
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"....or finally say oh you aren't are type after swopping messages and bloody pics
That's not timewasting. That's just the reality of not appealing to everyone. It happens. Deal with it.
We can deal with it thanks.. but when people arrange and say lets meet up takes the pee"
They say let's meet up BEFORE you both swap pics? And after they swap pics change their mind? Saying the words "let's meet up" constitutes a binding agreement now?
I've been doing it all wrong |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why are there so many god dam time wasters on this site people making out there interested and then ignore you or finally say oh you aren't are type after swopping messages and bloody pics oh it makes my blood boil ..... Rant over
And how exactly are they meant to know your not there type with out messaging or seeing pictures!?
Jedi powers doh "
Oh right. So we have been doing it all wrong for the past 18 month on here.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why are there so many god dam time wasters on this site people making out there interested and then ignore you or finally say oh you aren't are type after swopping messages and bloody pics oh it makes my blood boil ..... Rant over
And how exactly are they meant to know your not there type with out messaging or seeing pictures!?
Jedi powers doh
Oh right. So we have been doing it all wrong for the past 18 month on here. "
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"Why are there so many god dam time wasters on this site people making out there interested and then ignore you or finally say oh you aren't are type after swopping messages and bloody pics oh it makes my blood boil ..... Rant over"
Maybe they were interested at the beginning and then they changed their minds. That's not timewasting to me....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yay! Another time wasters thread! It's been too long! 
One persons definition of 'timewasting' is anothers definition of taking time to decide whether to meet, chat or just say "thanks, your actually not for us/me".
Those that look for short notice meets, expect that a simple initial message will definitely lead to more, expect others to behave/interact in the same way as them, or rely solely on Fab as their source of 'adult fun', tend to throw the word 'timewaster' around a lot more than those who see the site for what it is - a contact facility, an 'advertising' site for someone's interests and personality, a means to introduce yourself to others - rather than any form of guaranteed fun providing service.
Those that use the site in a sensible manner, as simply part of their interactions (the others being clubs and socials) and who have little, if any expectancy from anything that happens on site - will rarely utter the word - or ever have need to!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why are there so many god dam time wasters on this site people making out there interested and then ignore you or finally say oh you aren't are type after swopping messages and bloody pics oh it makes my blood boil ..... Rant over"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why are there so many god dam time wasters on this site people making out there interested and then ignore you or finally say oh you aren't are type after swopping messages and bloody pics oh it makes my blood boil ..... Rant over"
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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago
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In 6 years I have only ever had one person who I would consider a timewaster. And that was when I was left sitting alone in a pub waiting for someone that never turned up.
If after a few messages with someone and I decide not to take it any further (or vice versa), that is not a timewaster. That is realising that the person you are chatting to is not for you. And that's completely fine in my book. And that's bloody life in anyone's book!
The term "timewaster" is thrown around on here far too much. And like a couple of others above said - rejection DOES NOT equal timewaster. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't say that's time wasting, communication is all part of the process and can be fun, a bit like networking ) and if you don't fancy someone then there is little point in proceeding any further.
maybe you need to approach messaging in a different way, swap pictures straight away, ask leading questions & offer dates which you're available to meet on.
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Why are there so many god dam time wasters on this site people making out there interested and then ignore you or finally say oh you aren't are type after swopping messages and bloody pics oh it makes my blood boil ..... Rant over"
its only "timewasting" if you are doing something that you wouldn't be otherwise... so if you are on the site chatting and replying to messages, I am guessing that is what you would have been doing anyway....
as someone said... for "timewasting" read "rejection"....
these types of threads are an insight to how people deal with a "no thanks" i.e not very well..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why are there so many god dam time wasters on this site people making out there interested and then ignore you or finally say oh you aren't are type after swopping messages and bloody pics oh it makes my blood boil ..... Rant over"
Rant over but the start of a new tread, irony |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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how is exchanging messages timewasting?
we wouldnt want to talk to you now for fear of being branded a time waster if you just simply arent what we want.
need to rethink your idea of a timewaster, personally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why are there so many god dam time wasters on this site people making out there interested and then ignore you or finally say oh you aren't are type after swapping messages and bloody pics oh it makes my blood boil ..... Rant over"
We have not has our time wasted as of yet though our definition of time waster may differ from yours. If you are finding it a persistent problem then be more specific with what you want in your profile and then look at your selection process and how you use the site. So many Fab users dont suffer from timewasters.
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"....or finally say oh you aren't are type after swopping messages and bloody pics
That's not timewasting. That's just the reality of not appealing to everyone. It happens. Deal with it.
Too many people on here confuse rejection with timewasting"
Indeed, as it can't be they're undesirable in any way shape or form!  |
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"Yay! Another time wasters thread! It's been too long!
One persons definition of 'timewasting' is anothers definition of taking time to decide whether to meet, chat or just say "thanks, your actually not for us/me".
Those that look for short notice meets, expect that a simple initial message will definitely lead to more, expect others to behave/interact in the same way as them, or rely solely on Fab as their source of 'adult fun', tend to throw the word 'timewaster' around a lot more than those who see the site for what it is - a contact facility, an 'advertising' site for someone's interests and personality, a means to introduce yourself to others - rather than any form of guaranteed fun providing service.
Those that use the site in a sensible manner, as simply part of their interactions (the others being clubs and socials) and who have little, if any expectancy from anything that happens on site - will rarely utter the word - or ever have need to! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yay! Another time wasters thread! It's been too long!
One persons definition of 'timewasting' is anothers definition of taking time to decide whether to meet, chat or just say "thanks, your actually not for us/me".
Those that look for short notice meets, expect that a simple initial message will definitely lead to more, expect others to behave/interact in the same way as them, or rely solely on Fab as their source of 'adult fun', tend to throw the word 'timewaster' around a lot more than those who see the site for what it is - a contact facility, an 'advertising' site for someone's interests and personality, a means to introduce yourself to others - rather than any form of guaranteed fun providing service.
Those that use the site in a sensible manner, as simply part of their interactions (the others being clubs and socials) and who have little, if any expectancy from anything that happens on site - will rarely utter the word - or ever have need to! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"....or finally say oh you aren't are type after swopping messages and bloody pics
That's not timewasting. That's just the reality of not appealing to everyone. It happens. Deal with it.
We can deal with it thanks.. but when people arrange and say lets meet up takes the pee"
You didn't mention arrangements or meets in OP.
As long as they cancelled well in advance, and not left you sitting in a pub waiting for them, then wouldn't say they were time wasters, everyone entitled to change mind |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why are there so many god dam time wasters on this site people making out there interested and then ignore you or finally say oh you aren't are type after swopping messages and bloody pics oh it makes my blood boil ..... Rant over"
Tbh. I don't see it as timewasting if i or the other person decide we aren't for each other after exchanging pics! After all, physical attraction has to count, as well as mental attraction.
Timewasting to me is a no show, with no prior warning given, and me having spent time and effort getting ready for it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's another timewaster thread started in the lounge.
Reading all these timewaster threads are a waste of time so I'm not gonna read them from now on. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A no show is (a) a timewaster, (b) someone who has got cold feet, or (c) someone who has experienced unforeseen circumstances.
A last minute cancellation is (a) a timewaster with a conscience, or (b)/(c) above.
Everything else is just part of the filtering for potential meets process. |
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Oooh im guesing I must be a time waster ... was speaking to a couple for a while with the _iew of meeting ..bumped into them at a party and seem's their pics they sent me were 15 year's earlier ... lol ..subsequently I told them I wasn't interested .. and got called a timewaster ... if you ask me ..they wasted my time by sending me old pic's! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are all here to fill time in our lonely lives, mostly when we have full balls, and have a fantasy of emptying them. So no one is actually wasting time, time wasting is when someone arranges a meet and you actually spend time and money getting there, to be let down, everything else is courtship, playing the game, certainly not timewasting. If you were not feeling randy, and had something else to do, you wouldn't be here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"....or finally say oh you aren't are type after swopping messages and bloody pics
That's not timewasting. That's just the reality of not appealing to everyone. It happens. Deal with it.
Too many people on here confuse rejection with timewasting"
Perhaps if in all the discussions we replaced the word rejection with selection everybody would understand that we have to chat a little to decide who to select to take things further with.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The ones that get my goat are the ones who exchange pics..chat for ages.. lead you on with a "yeah deffo wanna meet up/meet for coffee" and then block you for asking where n when!!
But i am a big lad and just move on..maybe it was a passing fancy... lol
Its not like i'm not genuine
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The ones that get my goat are the ones who exchange pics..chat for ages.. lead you on with a "yeah deffo wanna meet up/meet for coffee" and then block you for asking where n when!!
But i am a big lad and just move on..maybe it was a passing fancy... lol
Its not like i'm not genuine
Dave "
I know what you mean, the problem is some people are up for arranging a meet after the second email, others think you are pushy if you suggest it after 10 emails and exchanging pics etc. We have to get better at selecting those we judge to be on a similar wavelength to ourselves. I still find it very difficult to access character until we meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you reply to a message it's a legally binding contract unless you fuck or perform a sex act on the sender. You are deemed a timewaster I have heard it all now |
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I feel bad for "wasting" people's time when I turn them down after a few messages or an initial meet, but I'd rather that than go further without really wanting to, just to avoid hurting their feelings.
The real timewasters are the ones who never have any intention of meeting up, the ones to disappear and reappear, make half-arsed efforts to set up meet etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've been chatting to a lady for about 3 weeks, she has been pushing too meet and I suggested a coffee to see if we click. She suggests a day and time I agree then nothing from her until the date has passed when I get a "haven't heard from you" message. It's annoying as the first time it happened I just said that if she wants some fun on the net and never to meet that's fine but if like to be open. But she said no, she wanted a meet and did the whole thing again. I've stopped responding to her messages and blocked.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been chatting to a lady for about 3 weeks, she has been pushing too meet and I suggested a coffee to see if we click. She suggests a day and time I agree then nothing from her until the date has passed when I get a "haven't heard from you" message. It's annoying as the first time it happened I just said that if she wants some fun on the net and never to meet that's fine but if like to be open. But she said no, she wanted a meet and did the whole thing again. I've stopped responding to her messages and blocked.
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Instead of waiting for the day to pass, make contact in the morning. No response = no meet.
I always contact my meets a.m and give them a get out of meet clause. So far this has ensured no shows. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel bad for "wasting" people's time when I turn them down after a few messages or an initial meet, but I'd rather that than go further without really wanting to, just to avoid hurting their feelings.
The real timewasters are the ones who never have any intention of meeting up, the ones to disappear and reappear, make half-arsed efforts to set up meet etc."
I don't agree , the only real timewasters are those that arrange a meet then don't turn up without cancelling before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We are all here to fill time in our lonely lives, mostly when we have full balls, and have a fantasy of emptying them. So no one is actually wasting time, time wasting is when someone arranges a meet and you actually spend time and money getting there, to be let down, everything else is courtship, playing the game, certainly not timewasting. If you were not feeling randy, and had something else to do, you wouldn't be here "
I have never had full balls. Often wondered what it would feel like though lol
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been chatting to a lady for about 3 weeks, she has been pushing too meet and I suggested a coffee to see if we click. She suggests a day and time I agree then nothing from her until the date has passed when I get a "haven't heard from you" message. It's annoying as the first time it happened I just said that if she wants some fun on the net and never to meet that's fine but if like to be open. But she said no, she wanted a meet and did the whole thing again. I've stopped responding to her messages and blocked.
Instead of waiting for the day to pass, make contact in the morning. No response = no meet.
I always contact my meets a.m and give them a get out of meet clause. So far this has ensured no shows."
I did, no reply so I didn't go to the meet.
Time wasters are why I prefer clubs, face to face social chat with people not playing games |
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"....or finally say oh you aren't are type after swopping messages and bloody pics
That's not timewasting. That's just the reality of not appealing to everyone. It happens. Deal with it.
Too many people on here confuse rejection with timewasting"
I was called a timewaster because I met someone before I met them. I'd had him arranged well before them but because I couldn't fit into their schedule I got an abusive message and blocked before I could explain anything |
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