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why do i get ignored

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Very confused , i send out polite messages think my profile isn't to bad. I know i'm no brad pitt , but I'm real, and no one replys , any advice where i may be going wrong . ??

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By *issBehavingxxWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

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By *osweet69Couple over a year ago

portsmouth

Who said that

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By *issBehavingxxWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

Did someone say something??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Note to self. Must find out where that squeak keeps coming from!

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By *r Mahogany70Man over a year ago

Leicester

Considering the thread title it would have been funnier if no reply had been posted at all

Too late, so OP I'll summarise the responses others such as yourself have received...

Be patient... Try clubs... Various advice on profile presentation...

Think that about covers it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just take it they are not up for it if you get no reply. If messages are not working try clubs or socials. Ignore this lot they love taking the piss.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just take it they are not up for it if you get no reply. If messages are not working try clubs or socials. Ignore this lot they love taking the piss.

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cheers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Very confused , i send out polite messages think my profile isn't to bad. I know i'm no brad pitt , but I'm real, and no one replys , any advice where i may be going wrong . ??

Do you think a profile that "isn;t to bad" is going to stand out from the 100's of other profiles?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do not want to sound harsh mate but no meets in over a year on here . I would of given up . So good on you for still trying and good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tbh mate. Theres a lot of i's in your profile text. I this, and i that! Try putting down something about what type of lass your looking for. That may cut out a lot of profiles, but it will catch the eye of the interested ones.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Also, consider whether a swinging site is your best bet to meet singles, rather than couples/groups etc. It's a tough environment for you singly guys, so all you can do to improve things to work in your favour, the better.

As I think others have said, it's better to be ignored than have your time wasted etc. In an ideal world, people would send each other some flowers, a bottle of Scotch, some chocs, just because they seem such decent people, as fellow internet site users. In the real world, many people get besieged with interest, get harangued by some that they've turned down - demanding to know, or be given a chance, or just don't have the time or matching expectations of others. So most messages won't get responded to on here and many sites.

It's not a pursuit for the feint of heart, and indifference or rejection is just a reflection on the other's tastes, and partly on how we've communicated and what we have to offer: if we don't match, then it's on to the next one, who may well deliver the goods.

Make friends, socialise and get out there - best of all, don't just rely on Fab for a life, whether it's a sex life, or otherwise. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do not want to sound harsh mate but no meets in over a year on here . I would of given up . So good on you for still trying and good luck "

where did it say no meets in over a year???-musta missed it lol

anyway OP..a couple of better pics wouldnt go amiss, a slightly geeky look might need some kind of makeover

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do not want to sound harsh mate but no meets in over a year on here . I would of given up . So good on you for still trying and good luck "

Guess you missed the guys green tick then!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do not want to sound harsh mate but no meets in over a year on here . I would of given up . So good on you for still trying and good luck

where did it say no meets in over a year???-musta missed it lol

anyway OP..a couple of better pics wouldnt go amiss, a slightly geeky look might need some kind of makeover"
Read his profile no veris . And been on here a year . Just saying

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do not want to sound harsh mate but no meets in over a year on here . I would of given up . So good on you for still trying and good luck

where did it say no meets in over a year???-musta missed it lol

anyway OP..a couple of better pics wouldnt go amiss, a slightly geeky look might need some kind of makeover"

Yes I agree the pics aren't doing it for me. Have another go or even better get your face down to a social or club. I think most people look better in the flesh than a photo anyway x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do not want to sound harsh mate but no meets in over a year on here . I would of given up . So good on you for still trying and good luck

where did it say no meets in over a year???-musta missed it lol

anyway OP..a couple of better pics wouldnt go amiss, a slightly geeky look might need some kind of makeover Read his profile no veris . And been on here a year . Just saying

u never read it right he IS verified, they just arent showing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do not want to sound harsh mate but no meets in over a year on here . I would of given up . So good on you for still trying and good luck

where did it say no meets in over a year???-musta missed it lol

anyway OP..a couple of better pics wouldnt go amiss, a slightly geeky look might need some kind of makeover Read his profile no veris . And been on here a year . Just saying

u never read it right he IS verified, they just arent showing"
Oh sorry my mistake . I apoligise op

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

its hard to take decent pictures of myself holding the phone , I'm looking for some one to help with that , but thats like pulling teeth

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By *ubberdollieWoman over a year ago

Stoke

"its hard to take decent pictures of myself holding the phone , I'm looking for some one to help with that , but thats like pulling teeth"

The big glaring spelling error in your profile title isn't a good start.

I don't mean this to be offensive but looking at your pics, I think you would only appeal to a certain type of woman, one who goes for guys out of The Big Bang Theory maybe ? So perhaps you need different pics, if you want to appeal to the masses?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Whats the big deal when i joined , .... I joined about a year ago , one night after far to much brandy , I'm no suit , dont work in an office , i'm a grafter , i rarely check my emails , most if them just wanna give me a cock enlargement , or i'v inherited money of my uncle in Ghana , so i just delete all , i found FABs email about a week ago and started using this site , i appreciate advice and tips , I'm looking on the meets and social thread , Swinging is a bit like a job your not skilled in , you want the training but employees only want people that are trained . It seems once u get ur foot in the door ur in , so to speak , i'v looked in to chams , waiting list for single male , and i quote '' How longs a piece of string'' . I'm trying to get my female flat mate to join as a couple with me . Regards to my pictures , its hard to take decent pictures in a phone at arms length , i'v had one meet, she left great verification . I do look much better in the flesh

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"its hard to take decent pictures of myself holding the phone , I'm looking for some one to help with that , but thats like pulling teeth

The big glaring spelling error in your profile title isn't a good start.

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"Who said that

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

You've misspelled your profile title. Just saying....

Get yourself on the Fab Forum Social list. It's at Xtasia, very reasonably priced, and you'll meet tons of people. OK, it's not til next Feb, but you've waited this long to get active.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

say you are married, a barebacker, a straight guy who loves pumping the man pussy of a TV or similar....

you won't be ignored for long....

welcome, have fun and good luck

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

" Very confused , i send out polite messages think my profile isn't to bad. I know i'm no brad pitt , but I'm real, and no one replys , any advice where i may be going wrong . ??

You keep asking similar sorts of questions but don't appear to be taking any notice of the answers. One thing on here is certain - the ladies don't give out sympathy shags.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

" Very confused , i send out polite messages think my profile isn't to bad. I know i'm no brad pitt , but I'm real, and no one replys , any advice where i may be going wrong . ??

You keep asking similar sorts of questions but don't appear to be taking any notice of the answers. One thing on here is certain - the ladies don't give out sympathy shags. "

I have been known to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Very confused , i send out polite messages think my profile isn't to bad. I know i'm no brad pitt , but I'm real, and no one replys , any advice where i may be going wrong . ??

You keep asking similar sorts of questions but don't appear to be taking any notice of the answers. One thing on here is certain - the ladies don't give out sympathy shags.

I have been known to

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Really ? Well let me tell you about me .. I have been very poorly and am now feeling a little bit better and would settle for a sympathy shag right now

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

" Very confused , i send out polite messages think my profile isn't to bad. I know i'm no brad pitt , but I'm real, and no one replys , any advice where i may be going wrong . ??

You keep asking similar sorts of questions but don't appear to be taking any notice of the answers. One thing on here is certain - the ladies don't give out sympathy shags.

I have been known to

Really ? Well let me tell you about me .. I have been very poorly and am now feeling a little bit better and would settle for a sympathy shag right now

Awww I'm sorry but I am 'sympathising' with someone else tonight.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Very confused , i send out polite messages think my profile isn't to bad. I know i'm no brad pitt , but I'm real, and no one replys , any advice where i may be going wrong . ??

You keep asking similar sorts of questions but don't appear to be taking any notice of the answers. One thing on here is certain - the ladies don't give out sympathy shags.

I have been known to

Really ? Well let me tell you about me .. I have been very poorly and am now feeling a little bit better and would settle for a sympathy shag right now

Awww I'm sorry but I am 'sympathising' with someone else tonight.

"
Oh well cant knock a guy or trying lol xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

" Very confused , i send out polite messages think my profile isn't to bad. I know i'm no brad pitt , but I'm real, and no one replys , any advice where i may be going wrong . ??

Do you think a profile that "isn;t to bad" is going to stand out from the 100's of other profiles?

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i'v made changes to my profile. May i ask for you opinion please

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

thanks for your words of advice , i'm change my profile tex , your opinions greatly appreciated ..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Much better. Just look out for those spelling errors (missing letters),

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How many attention seeking threads do you want in the space of a couple of days?

If you want to get noticed in the forums you are doing so in a negative fashion. Get out there and make interesting or trivial posts, but no more whiny ones. People have given you advice and will get annoyed when that advice is overlooked. Bottom line you are in the majority group here seeking the minority group. Get with the programme and make yourself stand out, no pun intended.

You have made some improvement on your profile but more needs to be done. IF you are going to put on your profile that you are intelligent, then surely you are intelligent enough to re-read and edit? Spell-checker is your friend, laziness is your enemy.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Much better. Just look out for those spelling errors (missing letters),

Good luck

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i'm using my phone , tiny buttons , massive thumbs , not Good combo , plus no spell check . Tbh spelling isn't my forte . I'm a scaffold , carpenter. Plumber general handy man and a chef , i'm better with my hands than i am academically

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Much better. Just look out for those spelling errors (missing letters),

Good luck

i'm using my phone , tiny buttons , massive thumbs , not Good combo , plus no spell check . Tbh spelling isn't my forte . I'm a scaffold , carpenter. Plumber general handy man and a chef , i'm better with my hands than i am academically "

Not a valid excuse. If you can get the vast majority of the words right, then a bit of effort can get the rest sorted as well.

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"How many attention seeking threads do you want in the space of a couple of days?

Good luck.

the biggest puzzle is why the "Why am I ignored?" threads ignore the sound advice that is given in the hundreds of recent similar threads and just go head and post yet another...

Kind observers in this section of the forum have an almost full-time job giving exactly the same advice over and over and over...

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

the biggest puzzle is why the "Why am I ignored?" threads ignore the sound advice that is given in the hundreds of recent similar threads and just go head and post yet another...

Kind observers in this section of the forum have an almost full-time job giving exactly the same advice over and over and over..."

I agree, you really wouldn't think it was rocket science but apparently it is!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How many attention seeking threads do you want in the space of a couple of days?

Good luck.

the biggest puzzle is why the "Why am I ignored?" threads ignore the sound advice that is given in the hundreds of recent similar threads and just go head and post yet another...

Kind observers in this section of the forum have an almost full-time job giving exactly the same advice over and over and over..."

I can be ever so forgiving of guys who sincerely seek advice even when there are thousands of similar threads, but surely even the best will in the world, repetitive threads from the same member (look at green arrow)... oh boy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh and I must add that I am certainly not unchilled, so to speak... I had the most wonderful night last night

and so am awfully tired

(and have to go to work soon

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh and I must add that I am certainly not unchilled, so to speak... I had the most wonderful night last night

and so am awfully tired

(and have to go to work soon

)."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

My bad, i apologise, there are many puss takers on here , i listen to all advice and make changes , want to get pictures sorted but Thats easier said than done

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My bad, i apologise, there are many puss takers on here , i listen to all advice and make changes , want to get pictures sorted but Thats easier said than done "

Puss takers has to be the best freudian slip I have seen in a long time :D.

Oh and believe me if I was taking the piss (and not giving advice) you would most certainly know about it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My bad, i apologise, there are many puss takers on here , i listen to all advice and make changes , want to get pictures sorted but Thats easier said than done

Puss takers has to be the best freudian slip I have seen in a long time :D.

Oh and believe me if I was taking the piss (and not giving advice) you would most certainly know about it!

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i have no doubt , I'm no Pissy cat either , i consider my self to be a lyrical poet , I'm good with words , just not spelling ,

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