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Not having any luck finding a lady to play with us
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What is wrong with us. Not sure if it our profile or two many couples on this site.
We have only have luck with what turned out to be men acting as women.
So many fakes  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is wrong with us. Not sure if it our profile or two many couples on this site.
We have only have luck with what turned out to be men acting as women.
So many fakes "
You're one of thousands (couples, single males and other single females) seeking a single fem.
What on your profile will make them choose you o er others? If you can answer that then you should be able to answer you're own question!
*or try clubs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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tbf your pics dont sell you too well.
if you are looking for someone you want to connect with then maybe get some more 'attractive' ones up (by no means do i mean the ones you have are ugly, but rather dressed up, body shots and so on) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Now you can understand how frustrating it is for us single males!
I would love to say give it time! However I have been here on and for years lol!! You get use to it and kind of accept it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is wrong with us. Not sure if it our profile or two many couples on this site.
We have only have luck with what turned out to be men acting as women.
So many fakes
You're one of thousands (couples, single males and other single females) seeking a single fem.
What on your profile will make them choose you o er others? If you can answer that then you should be able to answer you're own question!
*or try clubs "
Your profile reads as very selfish...all about what you and your hubby want. Doesn't seem to be a lot in it for the single femme so why would this rare breed choose you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We do exist and even in your region!
But... Your profile has no pics of hubby - I wouldn't want to play with someone I can't see - a cock pic doesn't count.
And you only talk about what you want to get out of it rather than why the woman might want to play with you. It can't be a one sided thing.
Other than that your profile is good and you may find her. Hope you enjoy fab x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are plenty just takes hard work... it's not always easy to find a lady, who finds you both attractive, this I have found is the main issue, but gain people's trust chat be open and honest... This has been the key to most of our meets with ladies, like obi said there's always clubs always a good starting... Or meeting point good luck ... Happy hunting  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"What is wrong with us. Not sure if it our profile or two many couples on this site.
We have only have luck with what turned out to be men acting as women.
So many fakes
You're one of thousands (couples, single males and other single females) seeking a single fem.
What on your profile will make them choose you o er others? If you can answer that then you should be able to answer you're own question!
*or try clubs
Your profile reads as very selfish...all about what you and your hubby want. Doesn't seem to be a lot in it for the single femme so why would this rare breed choose you? "
have to say that both of the above are exactly what i was thinking..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of you put in the leg work and are prepared to travel, them I am sure there is a lady out there for you!
I am not going to tell you what to put in your profile, as others have already done that!
Maybe take a look at the some of the threads about couples meeting bi fems! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is wrong with us. Not sure if it our profile or two many couples on this site.
We have only have luck with what turned out to be men acting as women.
So many fakes "
It's not the easiest to find a "real" one on here. In the past year we have had one meet with a single woman and spoke to plenty that as far as we are aware are fakes. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"What is wrong with us. Not sure if it our profile or two many couples on this site.
We have only have luck with what turned out to be men acting as women.
So many fakes
It's not the easiest to find a "real" one on here. In the past year we have had one meet with a single woman and spoke to plenty that as far as we are aware are fakes. "
So single women not interested in you are all fakes?  |
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By *hameless-2Couple
over a year ago
_hameless-2 ~ HULL |
Have you ever thought of going to house party's.
Just because they are swinging party's doesn't mean you have play especially on your first party.
They are a great way of getting to meet people in the scene.
We've got 5 single women coming to our party on Saturday night.
Along with cpls and 4 single men   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile reads like the male wrote it,also you will never find a woman who is just a living breathing sex toy for the pair of you.
Get some pics of both of you that stand out
We have chatted with single females and have said everything is onntheir terms,we don't constantly message or anything.they know we are here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I agree, Your pix are very stereotypical and probs done on a mobile phone. Makes you look tacky and not all that good to meet. Just telling you straight. Another idea is to get a couple you have become friends with and agree to do a mutual swap. Full of good ideas me LOL.
"tbf your pics dont sell you too well.
if you are looking for someone you want to connect with then maybe get some more 'attractive' ones up (by no means do i mean the ones you have are ugly, but rather dressed up, body shots and so on)"
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You're looking for female body parts to put on a show in front of hubby, to turn him on enough to then join in.....is what i took from how you're profile reads?
This may not be the case, but how woman (as it's females you're seeking) interpret what you've written will be part of them not paying you attention....
I play for my own gratification not to just be part of someone elses fantasy....i know I'm not alone in that way of thinking |
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We seem to have had some success in this particular area, and after chatting about it with various ladies I think we know why....
We don't hunt them down, we just let them know we are interested and then leave it up to them.
If this is the only thing you are after in swinging, then, in a way, you become like the single guys looking for a lady, you become part of a large crowd all after the same thing, and you will find it difficult to stand out.
From interacting with bi ladies at parties, clubs, and socials, we have learned that you focus on whats in it for her, as opposed to what you want from a meet like this. Make friends, have a laugh, and then just leave it up to her.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We seem to have had some success in this particular area, and after chatting about it with various ladies I think we know why....
We don't hunt them down, we just let them know we are interested and then leave it up to them.
If this is the only thing you are after in swinging, then, in a way, you become like the single guys looking for a lady, you become part of a large crowd all after the same thing, and you will find it difficult to stand out.
From interacting with bi ladies at parties, clubs, and socials, we have learned that you focus on whats in it for her, as opposed to what you want from a meet like this. Make friends, have a laugh, and then just leave it up to her. "
Couldn't agree more. We have no problem finding single females but have never used this site to find them. Much, much easier to make contacts in the real world. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We seem to have had some success in this particular area, and after chatting about it with various ladies I think we know why....
We don't hunt them down, we just let them know we are interested and then leave it up to them.
If this is the only thing you are after in swinging, then, in a way, you become like the single guys looking for a lady, you become part of a large crowd all after the same thing, and you will find it difficult to stand out.
From interacting with bi ladies at parties, clubs, and socials, we have learned that you focus on whats in it for her, as opposed to what you want from a meet like this. Make friends, have a laugh, and then just leave it up to her. "
exactly this-all of the bi single women we have met have come through other means such as socials or through parties...we don't go looking for them... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We seem to have had some success in this particular area, and after chatting about it with various ladies I think we know why....
We don't hunt them down, we just let them know we are interested and then leave it up to them.
If this is the only thing you are after in swinging, then, in a way, you become like the single guys looking for a lady, you become part of a large crowd all after the same thing, and you will find it difficult to stand out.
From interacting with bi ladies at parties, clubs, and socials, we have learned that you focus on whats in it for her, as opposed to what you want from a meet like this. Make friends, have a laugh, and then just leave it up to her. "
Totally agree with this. Pushy couples just totally put me off. I'm not here to be anyone's fantasy. I'm here to have my own fun and that has to be appreciated by the couple  |
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"What is wrong with us. Not sure if it our profile or two many couples on this site.
We have only have luck with what turned out to be men acting as women.
So many fakes "
Join the club! We have found a lot of fakes too but have decided now to stick to couples. We find them a lot easier to talk to and enjoy the social side too. We're still on the look out for a female but not stressing if we don't find one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We seem to have had some success in this particular area, and after chatting about it with various ladies I think we know why....
We don't hunt them down, we just let them know we are interested and then leave it up to them.
If this is the only thing you are after in swinging, then, in a way, you become like the single guys looking for a lady, you become part of a large crowd all after the same thing, and you will find it difficult to stand out.
From interacting with bi ladies at parties, clubs, and socials, we have learned that you focus on whats in it for her, as opposed to what you want from a meet like this. Make friends, have a laugh, and then just leave it up to her.
Totally agree with this. Pushy couples just totally put me off. I'm not here to be anyone's fantasy. I'm here to have my own fun and that has to be appreciated by the couple "
And the single women need to appreciate that the couples are here to have there own fun as we'll.
it's a two way street. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is wrong with us. Not sure if it our profile or two many couples on this site.
We have only have luck with what turned out to be men acting as women.
So many fakes
You're one of thousands (couples, single males and other single females) seeking a single fem.
What on your profile will make them choose you o er others? If you can answer that then you should be able to answer you're own question!
*or try clubs
Your profile reads as very selfish...all about what you and your hubby want. Doesn't seem to be a lot in it for the single femme so why would this rare breed choose you? "
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Personally put off by "can be friends first if you would like." I would only consider sex if I got to know you at least a little before hand. The most attractive thing to us has is personality, that's gotta me right before any shinnanigans occur.
Doesn't mean everything can't all happen in the same day.  |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
"You could broaden your chances by giving up smoking.
It's Stoptober."
Lol, I sense that's intended as tongue in cheek, but be wary of those that would jump on the "its our choice" bandwagon |
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ive just looked at your profile, 1st thing is you have ONLY been on here 4 months and have 1 webcam very, we have had lots of fakes but also met lots of real couples and single females and a few males, i would say try a club, you will get to meet lots of people from here over time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So many couples think that single fems will be dying to play with them, like its already been said why should a nice lass play with a couple when they only want her for their satisfaction, its very much about the other person and not just you, theres plenty of couples on here willing to treat a sigle fem like they should be and make it a thrilling experience for all 3, how many meets you think i owuld get if all i wanted was personal satisfaction? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We get our single bi fems from a different site as they are hard to find on here. We have had many fun times! "
You sound as if your just picking up somthing from the shop  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We found our special female at Saturday evening in disco club. We all clicked straight away and at the end of evening we found out that we all are more than happy to share a bed. She dont know that we are swingers or done it before, but we all are good friends now and planning to repeat it. |
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"We get our single bi fems from a different site as they are hard to find on here. We have had many fun times! You sound as if your just picking up somthing from the shop "
They do. It's called a knocking shop |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We get our single bi fems from a different site as they are hard to find on here. We have had many fun times! You sound as if your just picking up somthing from the shop "
I thought that too. Yuk. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We get our single bi fems from a different site as they are hard to find on here. We have had many fun times! You sound as if your just picking up somthing from the shop
I thought that too. Yuk. "
Ditto but I thought it hilarious . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You could broaden your chances by giving up smoking.
It's Stoptober.
Lol, I sense that's intended as tongue in cheek, but be wary of those that would jump on the "its our choice" bandwagon "
Actually I was being serious. Of course it is their choice but the benefits of giving up smoking outweigh continuing it. Better health, financial benefits and not deemed as anti-social.
I've kissed a female smoker and it was absolutely gross. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We go to clubs and attend parties. Over time we've built up a little group of swinging friends which includes ladies, men and couples.
I do have to remark though that as a couple we are here for our own fantasy. Now I appreciate others are too and when those fantasies match it all makes for a fun time, now just sex but chat and laughs too. But we would never change anything about ourselves to fit in or attract anyone else. Noone else is that important to us. |
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