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Just had a meet with a guy...

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Found him on the bi site, so we chatted a little and arranged a spur of the moment meet

Honestly, it wasn't all I thought it was cracked up to be and I wanted to talk to you lovely swingers about it to get it off my mind

It's annoying because the lad was so nice, really calm and reassuring and he put me at ease straight away. He was slim with a big cock, all trimmed neat too and he was good looking.

I don't know what happened I was so horny before he picked me up but I just couldn't get the little man up

He tried wanking me and then sucked my cock (he was actually quite rough though and hurt a bit) and I sucked him off too. Made him cum in my mouth, but I just couldn't even get myself close

I thought I was bi and I thought I was turned on by cock, but maybe this just shows that I should stick to fucking pussy

Just thought I'd share and would love to know what u all think x

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By *uby0000Woman over a year ago

hertfordshire

try him with a female too then you can have both

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman over a year ago

Glenrothes

Had you been with another guy before and not had any issues? Sometimes no matter how you feel, there isn't that special "spark" that's needed.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"Found him on the bi site, so we chatted a little and arranged a spur of the moment meet

Honestly, it wasn't all I thought it was cracked up to be and I wanted to talk to you lovely swingers about it to get it off my mind

It's annoying because the lad was so nice, really calm and reassuring and he put me at ease straight away. He was slim with a big cock, all trimmed neat too and he was good looking.

I don't know what happened I was so horny before he picked me up but I just couldn't get the little man up

He tried wanking me and then sucked my cock (he was actually quite rough though and hurt a bit) and I sucked him off too. Made him cum in my mouth, but I just couldn't even get myself close

I thought I was bi and I thought I was turned on by cock, but maybe this just shows that I should stick to fucking pussy

Just thought I'd share and would love to know what u all think x"

maybe the roughness put you off and the more you tried to get hard, the more pressure.

but you sucked him off so that's all good

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would of made a good film though tinker tailor soldier bi

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yeah I've met guys before, there was one when I was much younger who I used to see often and never had a problem, in fact our meets were mind blowing

Then nothing for a few years, had one meet about a year ago which was absolutely terrible and really put me off up until now

I dunno the thought of cock really turns me on and I do love gay porn, maybe it's better kept as a fantasy rather than a reality

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By *lleyCat1969Man over a year ago

Folkestone

The two of you should get together with Buxom-Brunette on the 'How do I find two bi guys' thread.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman over a year ago

Glenrothes

"Yeah I've met guys before, there was one when I was much younger who I used to see often and never had a problem, in fact our meets were mind blowing

Then nothing for a few years, had one meet about a year ago which was absolutely terrible and really put me off up until now

I dunno the thought of cock really turns me on and I do love gay porn, maybe it's better kept as a fantasy rather than a reality"

Sounds as though your bad experience a year ago is causing the problem. Just take your time to find the right person to have fun with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yeah I've met guys before, there was one when I was much younger who I used to see often and never had a problem, in fact our meets were mind blowing

Then nothing for a few years, had one meet about a year ago which was absolutely terrible and really put me off up until now

I dunno the thought of cock really turns me on and I do love gay porn, maybe it's better kept as a fantasy rather than a reality

Sounds as though your bad experience a year ago is causing the problem. Just take your time to find the right person to have fun with."

Yeah I think you're right

Just need to find someone I feel comfortable with where I can get more into it, he can do things I enjoy and I can discover things that turn me on, just need to be more relaxed really

Tonight seemed more about the other guy getting off, and after that he wast really interested in finishing me

Thanks for your advice sweet x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Aww, bless your heart x

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman over a year ago

Glenrothes

Sounds as though your bad experience a year ago is causing the problem. Just take your time to find the right person to have fun with.

Yeah I think you're right

Just need to find someone I feel comfortable with where I can get more into it, he can do things I enjoy and I can discover things that turn me on, just need to be more relaxed really

Tonight seemed more about the other guy getting off, and after that he wast really interested in finishing me

Thanks for your advice sweet x"

My pleasure. Just looking at what makes things good for me on a meet. No reason why it should be any different for two guys! Just chill, relax, have a laugh and take it from there and good luck.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Would of made a good film though tinker tailor soldier bi

That's funny!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Tonight seemed more about the other guy getting off, and after that he wast really interested in finishing me."

I think you've just given the answer yourself. Without chemistry it's just mechanical, and that can easily go wrong.

Have a coffee meet first, next time, and see if you feel a spark, a connection.

And be honest about it, tell your companion that you need time to relax before you can get aroused. Try some foreplay first. It'll make the experience so much better. Good luck

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By *ubberdollieWoman over a year ago

Stoke

I think the suggestion of a MMF set up might be the way to go. That way you are under less pressure to perform with the guy .

Please don't think its you tho, I recently posted a thread about guys who couldn't stay hard with condoms on, and so I know how awkward you feel when things don't go to plan... hugs x

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By *ucy and CarlCouple over a year ago

Broadstairs

Your profile says you are straight. Should that really be bi?

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By *icked weaselCouple over a year ago

Near Edinburgh..

If its been a Few years since your last - The Put it Down to a Bit of Stage Fright !!

Think positive and Get him back round to prove you really can give him a good seeing too..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You mentioned you had a bad experience a year or so ago! That could be playing on your mind? And you said the guy tonight was a tad rough?

I wouldn't beat yourself up about it...,

Maybe find someone who is understanding, or as it's been mentioned find a bi couple or a couple with a bi man...it might help!

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think the suggestion of a MMF set up might be the way to go. That way you are under less pressure to perform with the guy "

I was going to suggest the same...and if you check out the other thread running you'll find no shortage of volunteers

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By *.nottsbloke..Man over a year ago

the vale

i am sure if you lick another guys spunk from a ladies boob the situation will sort itself out

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Your profile says you are straight. Should that really be bi?"

Possibly bi curious? Or bi pissed off now.

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

i would say don't be too hard on yourself, over analyse or try and label yourself... take each meet as it comes without expectations and just enjoy!

Ruby x

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By *eddonistikMan over a year ago

Manchester

"Found him on the bi site, so we chatted a little and arranged a spur of the moment meet

Honestly, it wasn't all I thought it was cracked up to be and I wanted to talk to you lovely swingers about it to get it off my mind

It's annoying because the lad was so nice, really calm and reassuring and he put me at ease straight away. He was slim with a big cock, all trimmed neat too and he was good looking.

I don't know what happened I was so horny before he picked me up but I just couldn't get the little man up

He tried wanking me and then sucked my cock (he was actually quite rough though and hurt a bit) and I sucked him off too. Made him cum in my mouth, but I just couldn't even get myself close

I thought I was bi and I thought I was turned on by cock, but maybe this just shows that I should stick to fucking pussy

Just thought I'd share and would love to know what u all think x"

If he was rough and only interested in cuming himself no wonder you weren't turned on? Have you thought of doing what I do, only do solo meets with Tgirls, best of both worlds then? I play with other guys, bit of oral, sometimes to completion or touching during group or GBs, however I never fuck them. I only do everything with Tgirls, might work, who knows?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

when meeting a bi, gay or straight guy, always, always make sure you cum first, quite often bi curious and straight guys feel very guilty and leave as soon as they cum....

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By *eddonistikMan over a year ago

Manchester

"when meeting a bi, gay or straight guy, always, always make sure you cum first, quite often bi curious and straight guys feel very guilty and leave as soon as they cum...."

Quite good advice that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My mate on here is gay male abd he was same, it don't change fact he's gat hub just that under pressure to please was abit much for him. You be ok, just relax and enjoy xx

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Yeah I've met guys before, there was one when I was much younger who I used to see often and never had a problem, in fact our meets were mind blowing

Then nothing for a few years, had one meet about a year ago which was absolutely terrible and really put me off up until now

I dunno the thought of cock really turns me on and I do love gay porn, maybe it's better kept as a fantasy rather than a reality"

Perhaps if you admitted to yourself you're bi and embraced your sexuality you maybe able to actually enjoy your encounters...just a thought!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I (Bigpea) completely understand, and I've been there myself. You have all the build up and then when you're with that person there's something that you feel isn't right. I think sometimes bi men (perhaps gay men too) are just presumed to be able to have sex on tap. There is perhaps more of a pressure on men to perform, so to speak.

I agree with everyone else, you really shouldn't beat yourself up about it. You need to find the right guy in the right setting for you. You say you've had a bad experience in the past. Don't underestimate how that can still affect you subconsciously too.

Take care.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would of made a good film though tinker tailor soldier bi

Hilarious

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wonder if before being classed sexually you could sample things first like try before you bi

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for all the replies, you're a lovely bunch and have definitely made me feel better about the whole situation!

And for those saying my profile says straight, yes it does as as I prefer to search for guys in my own time and not have them winking or friending me, if I want to search for a guy ill do the looking. But after last night I'm not even sure I am so bi curious anymore, it had made me a little confused as to be honest if the majority of meets with guys are like that then I'm straight haha

I think it's safe to say for the foreseeable future I'm more interested in ladies and pussy

until such time that I find a relaxed couple or single man who I'm ready to try it again with

Oh and I do like the mentioned idea about t girls, I am interested in those who are convincing. I would definitely meet a transsexual girl for some fun to experiment with x

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