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Do you think you could be a sex addict??
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My first question i would like to ask is "do you think you could be a sex addict??"
If yes do you feel it is reflecting you in a good or bad way?
I would love to see the difference in opions on this subject. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My first question i would like to ask is "do you think you could be a sex addict??"
If yes do you feel it is reflecting you in a good or bad way?
I would love to see the difference in opions on this subject."
no a forum addict maybe , lol |
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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago
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I don't think I am.. true addicts need it no matter what risks no matter how adversely it affects them. I love sex and always have and I am sure I would really not like to go without but where is the line drawn to being an addict. Looking forward to this thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sex addiction is a very serious thing, and isn't just about 'I want to have sex lots'. When you suffer from it, it preoccupies everything you do. Sometimes it can be debilitating.
I've suffered, it's horrible. I still suffer sometimes. You'll know if you have it (it's generally a sign of a personality disorder) because it will start to gradually take over your life and prevent you doing things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My first question i would like to ask is "do you think you could be a sex addict??"
If yes do you feel it is reflecting you in a good or bad way?
I would love to see the difference in opions on this subject."
To begin with you need to define what a 'sex addict' is because it's not just someone who has a lot of sex. It's someone who depends on sex to treat an internal malady - a feeling of irritability and discontent that only sexual escapades will 'cure' ...the real diagnosis however, will only come once the person - for whatever reason decides to stop - if and when they do, they find they can't then they're probably a sex addict.
Does this make them a bad person? No.
Should they be judged? No.
Do they need help? Probably ...but by professionals, I suspect. |
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I should be so lucky, but I've been on the wagon for years now!
Seriously though, I used to have a real problem but deprivation has solved it. Going cold turkey as it were may not be pleasant especially when it's not voluntary, but it cures the problem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My first question i would like to ask is "do you think you could be a sex addict??"
If yes do you feel it is reflecting you in a good or bad way?
I would love to see the difference in opions on this subject."
Addicted to penetrative sex? No. Addicted to sex as in wanting more than I get? Yes. Does it mean I will go with anyone and everyone? No which means I am not a sex addict but I do play whenever I get the chance, and I think about it often. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My first question i would like to ask is "do you think you could be a sex addict??"
If yes do you feel it is reflecting you in a good or bad way?
I would love to see the difference in opions on this subject."
We think we are as we're either doing it,planning more of it or thinking about it!! |
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"I should be so lucky, but I've been on the wagon for years now!
Seriously though, I used to have a real problem but deprivation has solved it. Going cold turkey as it were may not be pleasant especially when it's not voluntary, but it cures the problem."
Not for me it doesn't. |
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"I should be so lucky, but I've been on the wagon for years now!
Seriously though, I used to have a real problem but deprivation has solved it. Going cold turkey as it were may not be pleasant especially when it's not voluntary, but it cures the problem.
Not for me it doesn't."
You have not tried it, so you would not know. You are married which means you probably have sex sometimes, also you have been verified by someone who says you had "naughty times". |
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"I should be so lucky, but I've been on the wagon for years now!
Seriously though, I used to have a real problem but deprivation has solved it. Going cold turkey as it were may not be pleasant especially when it's not voluntary, but it cures the problem.
Not for me it doesn't.
You have not tried it, so you would not know. You are married which means you probably have sex sometimes, also you have been verified by someone who says you had "naughty times". "
I have been fortunate that I have fairly recent activity on here. At home, a starvation diet has been on the menu for years. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I could be one. Luckily I have a very understanding partner who is also probably one
If I wasn't in a relationship with her and in this lifestyle I don't think I would be happy.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I could be if I had the time, I work full time, am a single mum and doing a degree in dementia so my time to meet is very limited, however I think I could be addicted to wanking, I seem to be at it a awful lot  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am a sex addict, its an actual craving and need for me.
Many find it amusing ect but as a previous poster has said it can be debilitating. Ive put myself in stupid situations purely because i needed my fix. I have it mostly under control due to my partner helping me however if i get to 5 days without sex, it starts taking over again. Its not that i cant just stop thinking about it, the feeling of need physically takes me over, it effects my moods and my ability to carry out simple tasks. I struggle to have conversations with people because my body is in need of its fix.
Yes its down to mental health issues predominantly however many doctors don't recognize it as a medical condition.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am a sex addict, its an actual craving and need for me.
Many find it amusing ect but as a previous poster has said it can be debilitating. Ive put myself in stupid situations purely because i needed my fix. I have it mostly under control due to my partner helping me however if i get to 5 days without sex, it starts taking over again. Its not that i cant just stop thinking about it, the feeling of need physically takes me over, it effects my moods and my ability to carry out simple tasks. I struggle to have conversations with people because my body is in need of its fix.
Yes its down to mental health issues predominantly however many doctors don't recognize it as a medical condition.
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my god, then the 10 years i did without would kill you, lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am a sex addict, its an actual craving and need for me.
Many find it amusing ect but as a previous poster has said it can be debilitating. Ive put myself in stupid situations purely because i needed my fix. I have it mostly under control due to my partner helping me however if i get to 5 days without sex, it starts taking over again. Its not that i cant just stop thinking about it, the feeling of need physically takes me over, it effects my moods and my ability to carry out simple tasks. I struggle to have conversations with people because my body is in need of its fix.
Yes its down to mental health issues predominantly however many doctors don't recognize it as a medical condition.
my god, then the 10 years i did without would kill you, lol."
10 years!
the longest ive ever gone without was 6 weeks, i literally played until i was raw in that time!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I believe so, yes. Sex controls my life. And I hate it. Tho I disagree with the previous poster who believes an addict would put themselves in risky situations and just fuck anyone. I have been in situations I have had to go without, and my moods suffer, badly. I have gotten to the stage where I have smashed things up in frustration. I don't just take any offer. I can exercise a level of self control.
However, other areas of my life then suffer. I can't concentrate and I become snappy and very irritable.
I can go 4/5 days at most without it taking grip and it starting to really interfere with my life. But it's always there. The need is always there. It has ruined every relationship I have been in.
I have been offered help, but I'm afraid I won't find the right balance, so for now, I chose to cope.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Quite possibly we are .... not sure though .
We have yet to go a day without sex in one form or another in the three years we have been together .
On playing nights up to three or four times is not uncommon .
So perhaps we are but it doesn't affect us negatively so we don't plan to change  |
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"My first question i would like to ask is "do you think you could be a sex addict??"
If yes do you feel it is reflecting you in a good or bad way?
I would love to see the difference in opions on this subject."
I have - on purpose - not read any other posts! To your question OP, my answer is YES! No reflection on anything, I just enjoy sex...end of! Whats not to like! |
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By *eeajCouple
over a year ago
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addict? hmm not sure but I do have a very high sex drive and im yet to meet a guy who can keep up.
I think about sex 24/7 and once I've had it im already thinking about when i'll next get it.
infact once ive had it I want more and more.
I don't risk my relationship for sex and wouldn't put myself in danger   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm registered as a sex addict.. and I will always have the battle with it... I will often put it above all else... However with the help of my good friend currently I feel I am winning the battle..
It doesn't stop the urges but it gives me the inner strength to put my self worth above the physical act.
It can destroy you... Most on here I wouldn't say are sex addicts... I at some points in my life wouldn't care the risk to myself and was oblivious to the effect it had no those around me...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't risk my relationship for sex and wouldn't put myself in danger "
I think this about sums up the difference... That and not caring who or how good it was x x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you think you could be a sex addict You ask ?. Like everything it can become very boring if you over do sex ..... No matter how much you love it. Becomes not special but a thing you do like going to the loo no matter if different people and different things you do ....... I am sure people get addicted to sex as missing other things in their lives and it fills some sort of gap and an escape. I could have sex everyday I get offers of everything now after years a 5 min shag and 1 hour shag is just no good for some a fix to me a let down so I look for whats right for me now . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My first question i would like to ask is "do you think you could be a sex addict??"
If yes do you feel it is reflecting you in a good or bad way?
I would love to see the difference in opions on this subject."
As with any addictive behavior, there are many reasons that can influence the reason for an addiction. There can be biological psychological or spiritual reasons-or a combination of many reasons. Sexual acting-out happens to be the drug of choice that is used to numb the pain. Biological reasons Endorphins and enkephlines are the feel-good chemicals in the brain. They are released to give a feeling of happiness and well-being. The biological addict gets his fix by ejaculating or fantasizing, which in turn, supplies these chemicals to the brain. Psychological reasons. The addict may sometimes use the rush of endorphins to escape emotional stresses that have come from emotional or physical trauma that has occurred in the addict's life. Feelings of lack of control due to these reasons can be triggered by countless sources. The addict may also be meeting the need to act-out due to an intimacy disorder. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My first question i would like to ask is "do you think you could be a sex addict??"
If yes do you feel it is reflecting you in a good or bad way?
I would love to see the difference in opions on this subject."
Yes you can be, I have been told I have a mild addition too it, on my personal experience I need to have it, an once I do it doesn't "hit the spot" it's a hard thing to explain. I never hear a girl complain like it just means they can have sex anytime really + plus its too easy to get turned on. hope I helped |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to be in my early thirties... became less selective in my meets and lost the buzz after a few years on the scene... At the time I decided to take a break from the scene to rediscover myself...
Following my return to the lifestlye I became more selective of my meets and now have more control over my sexual urges/desires...
I now find myself in a happier place with the balance of meets and time I spend connected to the scene...
Must be my age |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, fortunately.
I have an addicting personality and have had some nasty addictions in the past, Alcohol, ciggies, amphetamines.
I got clear of those with help from friends and knowing i had a problem.
I love sex and i love the feelings it gives me and i want it as often as i can get it but it doesnt control me or rule my life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i could be, but im not.
sex is, and always will be, very much take it or leave it.
i didnt lose my virginity until i was 21, and have never really had much interest in it, much like i have never been too bothered about drink or drugs.
everything in life is very much meh! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sex addiction is a very serious thing, and isn't just about 'I want to have sex lots'. When you suffer from it, it preoccupies everything you do. Sometimes it can be debilitating.
I've suffered, it's horrible. I still suffer sometimes. You'll know if you have it (it's generally a sign of a personality disorder) because it will start to gradually take over your life and prevent you doing things."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am. and to be honest I'm not worried about it. My sex drive peaked a couple of years ago and still continues to grow.... Lol...
As for good or bad.... That depends who's on receiving end
Advice to you.... Enjoy, as long as your not harming anyone else or its causing a problem in your relationship.... Carry on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I am. and to be honest I'm not worried about it. My sex drive peaked a couple of years ago and still continues to grow.... Lol...
As for good or bad.... That depends who's on receiving end
Advice to you.... Enjoy, as long as your not harming anyone else or its causing a problem in your relationship.... Carry on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know I'm not. I don't really have a high sex drive either.
I enjoy clubs, parties and meeting people. A big part of that is the atmosphere, the dressing up, chatting to people, the actual sex with others is not as important as those things.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also I never think or fantasise about sex during the daytime or indeed a lot. I get excited about going to clubs and look forward to it, but the sex is not the focus for me.
I don't wear stockings in the day or no knickers or a low top. I don't fantasise about random people in the street or those I work with.
I dont search profiles and fantasise over pictures on fab either. When I log on my first port of call are the forums. I don't read messages straight away etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. I don't have an addictive nature at all. Watched the program porn on the brain last night. That was pretty revealing. God help the generation of kids coming up just now! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. I don't have an addictive nature at all. Watched the program porn on the brain last night. That was pretty revealing. God help the generation of kids coming up just now!"
yes your right in saying that .. with it all on the net and phones its been so easy for them to get into it all .Time will tell.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am. and to be honest I'm not worried about it. My sex drive peaked a couple of years ago and still continues to grow.... Lol...
As for good or bad.... That depends who's on receiving end
Advice to you.... Enjoy, as long as your not harming anyone else or its causing a problem in your relationship.... Carry on "
how can your sex drive have peaked if its still growing? lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All very interesting , I don't consider myself a sex addict , sex once a week or fortnight is enough for me, but if you go 3, 4, 5 weeks or longer with out, it makes frustration creep in and make you want it more and more , I suppose giving the impression that your an addict , cos you want what your not getting , or does ot mean I am an addict ?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I was probably a sex addict when I was in my early 20s, I continually hunted for sex, wasn't very choosy and was never satisfied.
I was always thinking when my next encounter would be and would get quite aggressive If I didn't get sex.
If I wasn't fucking I was thinking about fucking and it was a massive distraction, and put a strain on relationships.
I still have a very healthy sexual appetite but its now very much under control and these days Iprefer quality over quantity.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"think about it more than act on it 24/7 right now i am "
well if you was , Sex would not give you joy no more , Just a fix a high and a low you could not cope with so you need the next fix and it go s on and on and take over your life ... nothing matter but that THE FIX sex .
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Any addiction is only a problem once you accept that it's restricting your life and you're no longer satisfied.
I've admired the honesty of many of the posters, and realise how easy it is to get pulled into having more and more of something that's great, incl. sex. I usually balance things, and recognise when life's not balanced, but sense an addictive element of my own personality/behaviour, so am careful. This includes spending, sex, good food/booze etc.
What usually separates us from other animals is our ability to have self-awareness and to do something about it, and focus on alternative goals. Addictions can sometimes distort our reality, and create chemical dependencies, whether it's neuro-chemical or external substances. I hate feeling too dependent upon anything, and I manage my sexual needs by focusing on having less sex, but better sex when I have it, as this leaves me feeling satisfied enough, and not out of my own control. |
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"My first question i would like to ask is "do you think you could be a sex addict??"
If yes do you feel it is reflecting you in a good or bad way?
I would love to see the difference in opions on this subject."
Yes I'd say I was a sex addict as I look for it nearly every day, and I don't think it does me any harm lol |
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"My first question i would like to ask is "do you think you could be a sex addict??"
If yes do you feel it is reflecting you in a good or bad way?
I would love to see the difference in opions on this subject."
It is worth finding out about it, I went to sexaholics anonymous for a while, sorted me out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My need for sex is as much psychological as physical. I am currently fighting breast cancer and feel this has increased my desire to "be wanted" and to be seen as a sexual woman. All this despite having a loving husband and a good sex life.  |
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