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I'm not getting anywhere arranging a meet.

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi! This might not be a problem for most of you seasoned swingers but for myself I find I'm not having luck at all arranging it.

Alls I wanted was to get a guy to do me as a surprise for my hubby's birthday and it's just been timewaster after timewaster.

I'm polite, friendly maybe my humour doesn't translate on this..I dunno but it's just not happening.

I even did a separate profile but that was just a disaster too!

I can't think what I'm doing wrong. Humph.

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By *utterflywingsWoman over a year ago

Creswell Derbyshire

"Hi! This might not be a problem for most of you seasoned swingers but for myself I find I'm not having luck at all arranging it.

Alls I wanted was to get a guy to do me as a surprise for my hubby's birthday and it's just been timewaster after timewaster.

I'm polite, friendly maybe my humour doesn't translate on this..I dunno but it's just not happening.

I even did a separate profile but that was just a disaster too!

I can't think what I'm doing wrong. Humph."

Dont worry i cant get a meet either, just too many time wasters, but hey ho

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It's so annoying! I mean it starts off good then when it comes down to arranging it all dries up. I suspect some just want a bit of dirty talk with no intention of meeting. Pfft.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman over a year ago

kinky land

screening procedures, screening procedures & screening.

Fab men out there for the pleasure, but you need to know what you want, when you want it and then go find it.

Be upfront with what you want so those that do contact you will know whats expected.

A singles profile for a man to play with you and your man isn't a single profile, and will be seen as you being 'fake and wasting their time' 2 wrongs do not make a right though.

Asking for help in the forum is one thing, complaining in the forum another.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What a nice surprise for your hubby, have you thought about getting an escort, usually, you can say time, place and exactly what you want, its so much easier than relying on someone who may or may not turn up. Think about it like he is a kiss o gram .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's so annoying! I mean it starts off good then when it comes down to arranging it all dries up. I suspect some just want a bit of dirty talk with no intention of meeting. Pfft."

depends what kinf of context you are looking to meet this single guy to 'suprise' your fella.

i, for one, wouldnt like to think i would be having sex with someone, only to get a tap on the shoulder and a good kicking because this 'suprise' wasnt exactly what hubby had in mind for his birthday lol.

maybe only contact men that are well verified and do meet up with people.

its a very difficult situation to walk into.

we have met single guys in the past, and has gone alirght, but that was probably because i spoke to them over messages and everyone was sure we were all 'in the loop'

good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi! This might not be a problem for most of you seasoned swingers but for myself I find I'm not having luck at all arranging it.

Alls I wanted was to get a guy to do me as a surprise for my hubby's birthday and it's just been timewaster after timewaster.

I'm polite, friendly maybe my humour doesn't translate on this..I dunno but it's just not happening.

I even did a separate profile but that was just a disaster too!

I can't think what I'm doing wrong. Humph.

Dont worry i cant get a meet either, just too many time wasters, but hey ho

well if you cant get meets, what chance the rest of us?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hmmm

Well what to say?

Maybe your profile needs a tweak?

It doesn't say much constructive n rather alot of things you don't like.

Also that legal notice is deemed nonsense even by the head honchos that run fab unless of course you really are mega wealthy n can spend couple or so years going thro courts pursuing someone/institution so perhaps lose that paragraph???

Would that all perhaps tighten the profile?

Or is it you can get so far towards a meet n then the chaps fail to close a deal with you??

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I see where you are coming from. I will say this on the profile I since deleted I put exactly what I wanted. Also on this profile which is both mine and the hubby's I've put what we are after. I wouldn't say I'm complaining I'm just quite fed up of trying and getting no where. They want cams or dirty talk but as soon as it's a meet they either stop messaging or make excuses and I'm ok with it, we've all got lives outside of this. I'm just saying that I'M having no luck. I've had meets etc been to the clubs but the one time I want to arrange it on my own it's non stop rubbish.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hmmm

Well what to say?

Maybe your profile needs a tweak?

It doesn't say much constructive n rather alot of things you don't like.

Would that all perhaps tighten the profile?

Or is it you can get so far towards a meet n then the chaps fail to close a deal with you?? "

Duly noted. It does need tweaking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thought it was only men like me that had this problem not couples or females

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's so annoying! I mean it starts off good then when it comes down to arranging it all dries up. I suspect some just want a bit of dirty talk with no intention of meeting. Pfft.

depends what kinf of context you are looking to meet this single guy to 'suprise' your fella.

maybe only contact men that are well verified and do meet up with people.

its a very difficult situation to walk into.

we have met single guys in the past, and has gone alirght, but that was probably because i spoke to them over messages and everyone was sure we were all 'in the loop'

good luck"

Haha! Basically the idea is I tell him when he gets in that we're off out for the night and then I'll let him know what's happening. He's cool with me doing it, we already have. It's just he finds it more of a turn on if I just go and do it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thought it was only men like me that had this problem not couples or females"
oh no speaking for myself I can say it's been a pain in the arris.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hmmm

Well what to say?

Maybe your profile needs a tweak?

It doesn't say much constructive n rather alot of things you don't like.

Would that all perhaps tighten the profile?

Or is it you can get so far towards a meet n then the chaps fail to close a deal with you??

Duly noted. It does need tweaking."

Oh well hope it helps - have a goggle of mine - someone sent me a mail saying summat like 'that is the most terrifying kamikaze profile I've ever seen from a guy on here how on earth do u get ANY meets? ' n I replied well I guess cos I tell it like it is! '

Or summat like that!

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ta cockle! I'm not beat yet. X

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"It's so annoying! I mean it starts off good then when it comes down to arranging it all dries up. I suspect some just want a bit of dirty talk with no intention of meeting. Pfft.

depends what kinf of context you are looking to meet this single guy to 'suprise' your fella.

maybe only contact men that are well verified and do meet up with people.

its a very difficult situation to walk into.

we have met single guys in the past, and has gone alirght, but that was probably because i spoke to them over messages and everyone was sure we were all 'in the loop'

good luck"

If I were a single guy and a woman approached me to do her for her husband I'd say "yeah...right" and block for taking the piss!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You must be taking the jam out of my doughnut. No way!! You look lush from what i can see...

..if you cant get a meet, then there is no hope for me lol

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's so annoying! I mean it starts off good then when it comes down to arranging it all dries up. I suspect some just want a bit of dirty talk with no intention of meeting. Pfft.

depends what kinf of context you are looking to meet this single guy to 'suprise' your fella.

maybe only contact men that are well verified and do meet up with people.

its a very difficult situation to walk into.

we have met single guys in the past, and has gone alirght, but that was probably because i spoke to them over messages and everyone was sure we were all 'in the loop'

good luck

If I were a single guy and a woman approached me to do her for her husband I'd say "yeah...right" and block for taking the piss!

this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I call shenanigans!

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By *lackshadow7Man over a year ago

Toronto

In the nicest possible way, it sounds like your screening/ selection process could use some work. It is just one of those things you develop over time i guess.

You have had at least a couple of meets, so maybe utilise the steps that led to those successful meets and build upon them for the future.

Also, the scenario you mentioned would make me instantly wary to be honest. Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We are the same young couple looking for a woman and all want to play on cam but never meet up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We are the same young couple looking for a woman and all want to play on cam but never meet up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And when you're a genuine guy you never get replies: it's never ending

Just like everyone said: maybe a bit of rework... anyway, just have a look at the veris: it will easily show you who turns up to meets and who doesn't!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well I have no idea why you are getting timewasters, I would jump at the chance to meet with you guys and have lots of fun. There are some genuine guys out there of that I know cause I'm one of them. good luck though.x

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By *odareyouMan over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"Thought it was only men like me that had this problem not couples or females"

Men have the problem, ladies and couples alike, Its a common misconception that more messages mean more meets, the number of messages is immaterial if none of the contacts are what you re seeking,

O.p, if the process you re using to select is nt proving successful you need to change something to do the same things over and over again and expect a different result is insane ;-?

Best of luck in your search,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

8o/ I'm quite pissed off wirth her problem.. now what'll happen is I'll get ignored, peeps will filter the f@ck out of me and other genuine single new starter men cos of useless morons!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I call shenanigans!"
oh now! No shenanigans at all. I'm calling it quits. Think I'll stick to clubs.

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