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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"hi. have been searching now for a while for a fwb. but finding it difficult.
any single ladies who have a regular offer any advice?"
Don't look. I wasn't looking. Didn't think I wanted one, now would hate to be without my partner in perversions.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"hi. have been searching now for a while for a fwb. but finding it difficult.
any single ladies who have a regular offer any advice?
Don't look. I wasn't looking. Didn't think I wanted one, now would hate to be without my partner in perversions.
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not so much looking but would not turn downthe idea lol. nice to have someone to accompany me to parties |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"hi. have been searching now for a while for a fwb. but finding it difficult.
any single ladies who have a regular offer any advice?
A fwb??"
fwb = friend with benefits |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can't offer advice as in a similar situation, I'm just trying to be patient because I know I am so fussy over who I play with.
I met my past fwb here before and it was pretty successful for the few months it lasted, but it was easy to rule out people by being clear on what I wanted and didn't want, ie no relationship, but okay with some socialising when suitable, like rude cinema trips or drinks with heaps of filthy banter and foreplay, etc... Good luck  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As cali said don't look .....mine found me and it has its ups and downs ( no pun intended) but its also a lot of fun ....good luck "
thank you. have plenty of offers but how can someone offer fwb when u have never met them lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh sorry I see no I had met mine and had been talking for ages and at the start we were just meeting now and then but its changed a bit over time . Maybe see someone for a meet and just see what happens talk for a while with them see what happens good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Oh sorry I see no I had met mine and had been talking for ages and at the start we were just meeting now and then but its changed a bit over time . Maybe see someone for a meet and just see what happens talk for a while with them see what happens good luck x"
i usually chat with a guy for a while then meet for them to message me.after saying they want.another meet to then say they have a regular and they come first lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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God that's not easy is it . I haven't read your profile but maybe out that your hoping to find a regular fb ...worth a try then in the mean time have fun trying others out till you find one  |
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As Cali said, don't look. Some of my nicest fwb situations were meets that I ended up seeing regularly.
I do find it to be strange territory; if you have no rules then someone is likely to get hurt, if you have lots of rules it's kind of unsexy!
The thing is managing your own expectations and your fwb's expectations.
Also, there's no rules against having more than one fwb!
Good luck xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"hi. have been searching now for a while for a fwb. but finding it difficult.
any single ladies who have a regular offer any advice?
A fwb??"
Boyfriend or girlfriend ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"hi. have been searching now for a while for a fwb. but finding it difficult.
any single ladies who have a regular offer any advice?
Don't look. I wasn't looking. Didn't think I wanted one, now would hate to be without my partner in perversions.
Because a lot of men think you want gifts buying and looking after with money. That's what a lot thinks it stand for
not so much looking but would not turn downthe idea lol. nice to have someone to accompany me to parties"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"hi. have been searching now for a while for a fwb. but finding it difficult.
any single ladies who have a regular offer any advice?
A fwb??"
Boyfriend or girlfriend ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"hi. have been searching now for a while for a fwb. but finding it difficult.
any single ladies who have a regular offer any advice?
A fwb??
fwb = friend with benefits"
Ah right, thanks  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As cali said don't look .....mine found me and it has its ups and downs ( no pun intended) but its also a lot of fun ....good luck
thank you. have plenty of offers but how can someone offer fwb when u have never met them lol"
I get that too lol, a lot of men on here say that's what they want but sometimes it doesn't work when you meet them. Keep trying and eventually it will come to pass, worked for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wow v surprised at what I'm reading as I get the impression that there are 200 guys to every girl. So would have thought it is easy to find/ meet a fwb.
Either, v happy to chat to anyone from London.
Good luck everyone |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
It's not just the sex it's the personality too. Sometimes you just hit it off. I have seen guys regularly before but they became a little too intense for me so stopped seeing them. My rule is no baggage. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not just the sex it's the personality too. Sometimes you just hit it off. I have seen guys regularly before but they became a little too intense for me so stopped seeing them. My rule is no baggage. "
This was one of my problems, also mediocre sex was another  |
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My regular chap as I prefer to call him, is the very first guy I met when I joined. I wasn't looking for a FB and when we first met he thought I was an opinionated gobby cow and I thought he was too square. But we just hit it off sexually and just grew on eachother.
I see other men , whilst he is happy to just see me as he has a very busy life.
My advice would be to go for fellas around your own age that you have stuff in common with and let the friendship develop from there. Good luck hun x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My regular chap as I prefer to call him, is the very first guy I met when I joined. I wasn't looking for a FB and when we first met he thought I was an opinionated gobby cow and I thought he was too square. But we just hit it off sexually and just grew on eachother.
I see other men , whilst he is happy to just see me as he has a very busy life.
thank u. ive had a few meets and got on great. but have found it was all a show not sure if it was just me
My advice would be to go for fellas around your own age that you have stuff in common with and let the friendship develop from there. Good luck hun x"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met Rob on here and now wouldn't want to play without him! Wasn't expecting to find a friend on here but have been very pleasantly surprised and the sex just keeps getting better!
Like everyone else has said and you've observed you won't know if you'll be compatible or even want to keep meeting regularly until you've met a few times, plenty of choice on here though and so delicious when you get it!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I meet with a guy on here regularly & have done for 5 months. I wasn't looking for FB & don't really like the phrase. It was a normal meet & we chatted again afterwards & agreed to meet again. We have continued to meet & I think the key is the discretion & trust. He has to be discrete as he works in the public. I have seen him out & about whilst working & just said Hi. But with regular repeat meets the sex gets more interesting. xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had a few regular fb's. But only two fwb.
Its a mutual appreciation thing, we both enjoy sex with one another and keep meeting. We have separate lives and yet we stay in touch on a regular basis. A friend with benefit is an added dimention of intimacy, weekends away, meals, etc. x
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"As Cali said, don't look. Some of my nicest fwb situations were meets that I ended up seeing regularly.
I do find it to be strange territory; if you have no rules then someone is likely to get hurt, if you have lots of rules it's kind of unsexy!
The thing is managing your own expectations and your fwb's expectations.
Also, there's no rules against having more than one fwb!
Good luck xx"
I agree. Especially expectations, if those are discussed and in tune it can help you have fwb harmony! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP. The only advice I can give is let them know that's what you would ideally like. If they want that too then you'll only know after you've met them. Some fbs work out. Some don't.
But the fun is in the trying them out |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"It's not just the sex it's the personality too. Sometimes you just hit it off. I have seen guys regularly before but they became a little too intense for me so stopped seeing them. My rule is no baggage.
This was one of my problems, also mediocre sex was another "
I never see anyone a second time if the sex is mediocre. Sex with an fb should be good otherwise where's the benefit? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's not just the sex it's the personality too. Sometimes you just hit it off. I have seen guys regularly before but they became a little too intense for me so stopped seeing them. My rule is no baggage.
This was one of my problems, also mediocre sex was another
I never see anyone a second time if the sex is mediocre. Sex with an fb should be good otherwise where's the benefit? "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've had a few regular fb's. But only two fwb.
Its a mutual appreciation thing, we both enjoy sex with one another and keep meeting. We have separate lives and yet we stay in touch on a regular basis. A friend with benefit is an added dimention of intimacy, weekends away, meals, etc. x
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I wasn't looking for a fwb but we kept meeting up. She sees other guys and I see other women. We did lay down some groundrules which suited me fine, so it's worked out well. The sex gets better the more I know her. So maybe it will be a guy you have great sex with and click with and want to see again. Good luck  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I wasn't looking for a fwb but we kept meeting up. She sees other guys and I see other women. We did lay down some groundrules which suited me fine, so it's worked out well. The sex gets better the more I know her. So maybe it will be a guy you have great sex with and click with and want to see again. Good luck "
got to get thw meets first lol |
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By *ariad.Woman
over a year ago
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Ive had the same fwb for 4 years, he was my very first meet. We started off as two strangers but in time our friendship and trust grew. Yes over the years weve pissed eachother off on occasions but I can say in all honesty hes now one of my closest and most trusted friends on and off the scene. We both play separately but when we get together the sex is bloody mind blowing to say the least and is always fresh, something you dont find very often in random meets. We have no expectations of one another and respect that our relationship is a friendship and not anything more or less.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same here. I see one guy regularly for cinema, meals out etc plus all the benefits and it works so well for us. Neither of us wants a partner and we both see other people occasionally without any jealousy.
I do find that many guys that contact me are only interested in the benefits without the friendship, which does not suit me so well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"hi. have been searching now for a while for a fwb. but finding it difficult.
any single ladies who have a regular offer any advice?"
u said this a few weeks ago x |
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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"Nearly all my meets ended up as one-offs, not intentional, just happened that way.
Suits me well. "
you can very easily get bored with the same one over and over my regular fb is very jealous but what he don't know don't hurt him lol |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Nearly all my meets ended up as one-offs, not intentional, just happened that way.
Suits me well.
you can very easily get bored with the same one over and over my regular fb is very jealous but what he don't know don't hurt him lol"
I wouldn't stand for jealousy. My fb knows about every meet and I know about his. And we certainly don't get bored with each other. Two years and it's still working well. |
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"Nearly all my meets ended up as one-offs, not intentional, just happened that way.
Suits me well.
you can very easily get bored with the same one over and over my regular fb is very jealous but what he don't know don't hurt him lol"
seven years I've known a couple of mine and not bored. I certainly wouldn't put up with jealousy, its about fun, not hard work |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I was looking for a friend with benefits and found a lover with potential. (I've totally nicked that from somewhere but don't know where)
We had an instant click on so many levels. I had many meets (that I enjoyed) prior to him where it just didn't happen in the same way... We had fun and I would have met them again but the click wasn't the same. It takes time. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"hi. have been searching now for a while for a fwb. but finding it difficult.
any single ladies who have a regular offer any advice?
u said this a few weeks ago x"
ive never started a thread on fb'S before so tgink u have the wrong person |
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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"I was looking for a friend with benefits and found a lover with potential. (I've totally nicked that from somewhere but don't know where)
We had an instant click on so many levels. I had many meets (that I enjoyed) prior to him where it just didn't happen in the same way... We had fun and I would have met them again but the click wasn't the same. It takes time."
cant ever be the same can it? as for jealousy ... sometimes its nice to have a bloke who gives a fuck abt me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was looking for a friend with benefits and found a lover with potential. (I've totally nicked that from somewhere but don't know where)
We had an instant click on so many levels. I had many meets (that I enjoyed) prior to him where it just didn't happen in the same way... We had fun and I would have met them again but the click wasn't the same. It takes time.
cant ever be the same can it? as for jealousy ... sometimes its nice to have a bloke who gives a fuck abt me "
Oh... I have had to deal with the jealousy of a few but not between us. Someone even created a fake profile to tell me that they had been with him on a day he was with me. Crazy stuff! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was looking for a friend with benefits and found a lover with potential. (I've totally nicked that from somewhere but don't know where)
We had an instant click on so many levels. I had many meets (that I enjoyed) prior to him where it just didn't happen in the same way... We had fun and I would have met them again but the click wasn't the same. It takes time.
cant ever be the same can it? as for jealousy ... sometimes its nice to have a bloke who gives a fuck abt me
Oh... I have had to deal with the jealousy of a few but not between us. Someone even created a fake profile to tell me that they had been with him on a day he was with me. Crazy stuff! "
I had that happen to me a while back with a woman messaging me blow by blow detail of a supposed meet she had had with my fwb but it was all lies as we was away that weekend |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was looking for a friend with benefits and found a lover with potential. (I've totally nicked that from somewhere but don't know where)
We had an instant click on so many levels. I had many meets (that I enjoyed) prior to him where it just didn't happen in the same way... We had fun and I would have met them again but the click wasn't the same. It takes time.
cant ever be the same can it? as for jealousy ... sometimes its nice to have a bloke who gives a fuck abt me
Oh... I have had to deal with the jealousy of a few but not between us. Someone even created a fake profile to tell me that they had been with him on a day he was with me. Crazy stuff!
I had that happen to me a while back with a woman messaging me blow by blow detail of a supposed meet she had had with my fwb but it was all lies as we was away that weekend"
Well... I can understand the jealousy but I can't understand the reaction or vindictiveness. Especially having it directed towards me. They never actually spoke to me directly so it was a bit pointless on their part.
But, in essence, finding someone for regular fun is possible you just need to stick with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've had a few regular fb's. But only two fwb.
Its a mutual appreciation thing, we both enjoy sex with one another and keep meeting. We have separate lives and yet we stay in touch on a regular basis. A friend with benefit is an added dimention of intimacy, weekends away, meals, etc. x
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OP, suggest you chat on here for a while and then meet for lunch/coffee and if the chemistry is there you are away ... FWB in the making. |
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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"I was looking for a friend with benefits and found a lover with potential. (I've totally nicked that from somewhere but don't know where)
We had an instant click on so many levels. I had many meets (that I enjoyed) prior to him where it just didn't happen in the same way... We had fun and I would have met them again but the click wasn't the same. It takes time.
cant ever be the same can it? as for jealousy ... sometimes its nice to have a bloke who gives a fuck abt me
Oh... I have had to deal with the jealousy of a few but not between us. Someone even created a fake profile to tell me that they had been with him on a day he was with me. Crazy stuff! "
weird |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dont we all wish we could find a fwb!
I did  "
Not being funny, but is it really that hard to find one with the amount of blokes on here. I myself would love one |
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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"Dont we all wish we could find a fwb!
I did
Not being funny, but is it really that hard to find one with the amount of blokes on here. I myself would love one "
didn't find him on here known him nearly 3 yrs now |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive had the same fwb for 4 years, he was my very first meet. We started off as two strangers but in time our friendship and trust grew. Yes over the years weve pissed eachother off on occasions but I can say in all honesty hes now one of my closest and most trusted friends on and off the scene. We both play separately but when we get together the sex is bloody mind blowing to say the least and is always fresh, something you dont find very often in random meets. We have no expectations of one another and respect that our relationship is a friendship and not anything more or less. "
same here |
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