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A single bloke who is really freaking me out!
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How do I deal with this one? A bloke off here has mailed me several times and every time I block him he comes back a few days later with a whole new profile, new name etc and tries again. This time its been a few weeks , but here he is again today with a whole new persona! Tell me, why the hell is he bothering? And is it just me? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do I deal with this one? A bloke off here has mailed me several times and every time I block him he comes back a few days later with a whole new profile, new name etc and tries again. This time its been a few weeks , but here he is again today with a whole new persona! Tell me, why the hell is he bothering? And is it just me?"
as others has said is best report n keep blocking it
if you dont want single males mailing u u can change yer mail settings
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Set filters so men can't contact you but as your profile says only looking for men put a bit on your profile saying you are looking for men but you have the filters set so you can contact the men who interest you rather than being bombarded by messages. Good luck x |
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"How do I deal with this one? A bloke off here has mailed me several times and every time I block him he comes back a few days later with a whole new profile, new name etc and tries again. This time its been a few weeks , but here he is again today with a whole new persona! Tell me, why the hell is he bothering? And is it just me?"
I'd message you to if only I was taller and older.
I'm off to google stretching techniques and find a fake passport 
On a serious note if you just ignore him he wont know youve blocked him and may get bored waiting for a reply |
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"How do I deal with this one? A bloke off here has mailed me several times and every time I block him he comes back a few days later with a whole new profile, new name etc and tries again. This time its been a few weeks , but here he is again today with a whole new persona! Tell me, why the hell is he bothering? And is it just me?"
Admin should be able to trace via the IP address |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep set up a newbie filter, and any other filters that you think might help, non verified etc x "
 Blocking newbies and unverified members may not totally stop him but it will make it a lot harder and still allow other me to message you. |
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Thanks all, I hadn't thought but as he has no verification and keeps opening new profiles I could change my message filters. Off to do that now and by the way ladies. If anyone persistently mails you and signs of with ' Love T x ' you'll know what to do lol. Thanks again all x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had people create new profiles just to have the last word when I block them. And worse. Fake profile created to get my attention and be malicious about my relationship. Some people don't have happiness and need to entertain themselves through bizarre means. I think it's all so beneath me... I Don't block... Just ignore and delete without reading. People soon move on. |
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over a year ago
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Is there a chance that this man is just blanket mailing everyone in the area when he sets up a new profile? ive blocked newbies because people come and go all the time and I just assumed the messages that kept coming from the same people were because they forgot who they messaged the last time they were here  |
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No he thinks if he messages me over and over he will wear me down, but I took all the good advice and changed my filters so hopefully that's it now. From what he wrote in his messages I think he lives in a fantasy world , strange chap . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"my friendly advice is, change your profile altogether, unless you have already done that "
Why should she change her profile because of someone elses behaviour? |
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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago
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"my friendly advice is, change your profile altogether, unless you have already done that
Why should she change her profile because of someone elses behaviour? "
I'm just saying...
it wouldn't be a suggestion that she did anything wrong...and I'm not saying he shouldn't be blocked from the site altogether...it would just make it easier for her to avoid the annoying guy |
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"Go along with it and pretend you are interested. Arrange to meet then just don't turn up. Not that he would anyway. "
Then she'd get reported for being a no-show! 
Oh and blocking IP addresses doesn't work now that we all use mobile devices, the IP address changes. And you can change your home one too easily. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As much as i can see this would do your head in and be an inconvenience BUT
he's not breaking the site rules by joining and deleting and coming back UNLESS he is abusive and harassing you! then report it to the admin
Bur personally i think hes just trying it on, best you can do is apply the filters
I have no newbies and ones without a public photo cant message me and that seems to work for me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Surely if this guy persists then Fab should be looking to block his IP address  "
Which is a completely pointless thing to do, as IP addresses can be changed, hidden and spoofed very easily. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why bother blocking him if he just keeps coming back with new profiles. Just leave his mails unread and don't respond at all. I don't like to block the really weird people as they will only come back again a little bit more irate. |
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over a year ago
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"Why bother blocking him if he just keeps coming back with new profiles. Just leave his mails unread and don't respond at all. I don't like to block the really weird people as they will only come back again a little bit more irate."
i tend to do this x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Surely if this guy persists then Fab should be looking to block his IP address "
didnt know deleting your profile and restarting one was against the terms and conditions as if so fuck me id be in breech  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do I deal with this one? A bloke off here has mailed me several times and every time I block him he comes back a few days later with a whole new profile, new name etc and tries again. This time its been a few weeks , but here he is again today with a whole new persona! Tell me, why the hell is he bothering? And is it just me?"
Just keep blocking him. That takes seconds. Him creating a whole new profile etc. Takes much longer. |
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"How do I deal with this one? A bloke off here has mailed me several times and every time I block him he comes back a few days later with a whole new profile, new name etc and tries again. This time its been a few weeks , but here he is again today with a whole new persona! Tell me, why the hell is he bothering? And is it just me?"
I had the same problem with a couple from here(who are still here) who I said NO to a meet with them.
I don't know why but they just couldn't handle the word "no thanks". .
After blocking them he!!!!! came right back within minutes with another profile and uttering lots of abuse and swearing etc .
I guess it goes with the course that some on here should be adult enough not to throw their dummy out when someone says no and just think.................
ok their loss |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Some people just cant take rejection and god id say if they cant there in the wrong place im sorry to hear of all these problem some of you woman are having from stupid men that cant take a simple no iv had many a lady say sorry your not what im looking for or your not my type and iv just said thanks anyway and good luck no point in getting upset about it or staking them |
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"How do I deal with this one? A bloke off here has mailed me several times and every time I block him he comes back a few days later with a whole new profile, new name etc and tries again. This time its been a few weeks , but here he is again today with a whole new persona! Tell me, why the hell is he bothering? And is it just me?"
I had one that opened several accounts to get round block. Reported all profile names to admin, within hours all profiles disappeared from site |
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"Admin can get his ip address and report it to his ISP as a abusive/stalking user. Also they can inform the police. "
Inform the police of what? Unless he actually threatens her they won't do much and I'm pretty sure they should be using their money catching real stalkers.
Yes it is irritating the OP and he is being a pest and may be odd I haven't heard the op mention threats or that he a threat to her safety. He hasn't actually done anything other than pester, has he? I've had persistant mailers here (same profile so they know they are doing it) and on another site and if I reported them all to get their IP address and report to the police I could give them enough work to last them all year!
The advice of blocking new users is the best advice. |
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