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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Had a fabulous time with a guy today and he seemed to enjoy himself too. We chatted about meeting again. I have sent a message stating what a lovely time I had and know that it has been read but for some reason I am being ignored for the last 3 hours. I am not going to cry into my cornflakes if he doesn't want to meet again but a simple reply is only good manners isn't it? Or am I expecting too much?  |
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I don't know how quickly he messaged you in the past, but perhaps he has other things going on in his life?
I often read messages but don't have time to reply in the way I'd like - so will do so when it's more convenient. I wouldn't take it personally as there could be a million reasons / things going on 
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Your take on it is that you've been ignored for three hours which is a very negative way of looking at things. He could be busy, might be with someone there are loads of reasons why three hours could pass in which he had no opportunity to reply. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"I don't know how quickly he messaged you in the past, but perhaps he has other things going on in his life?
I often read messages but don't have time to reply in the way I'd like - so will do so when it's more convenient. I wouldn't take it personally as there could be a million reasons / things going on
Tx "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah we used to take the 'ump if we didint get a reply for a few hours- until we realised we do it ourselves when life gets in the way of fabswingers, People arent always online either even if the profile says they are.
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"Hm thanks. My own insecurities I suppose x"
Maybe but you will cause yourself a lot of grief if you put this spin on things. Wait until you meet a guy who next day becomes user no longer on site lol, if you don't laugh and shrug it off you're finished. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe hes seen
"Profile Not Available
This member has hidden their profile".
and thinks youre hiding from him!  "
We message via what's app so it's not this but thanks x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had a fabulous time with a guy today and he seemed to enjoy himself too. We chatted about meeting again. I have sent a message stating what a lovely time I had and know that it has been read but for some reason I am being ignored for the last 3 hours. I am not going to cry into my cornflakes if he doesn't want to meet again but a simple reply is only good manners isn't it? Or am I expecting too much? "
If he reads the forums and realises that within a few hours of meeting you are starting threads about being ignored he may feel less inclined to reply at all, just a polite thought |
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"Had a fabulous time with a guy today and he seemed to enjoy himself too. We chatted about meeting again. I have sent a message stating what a lovely time I had and know that it has been read but for some reason I am being ignored for the last 3 hours. I am not going to cry into my cornflakes if he doesn't want to meet again but a simple reply is only good manners isn't it? Or am I expecting too much? "
Do you reply to all your messages straight away? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ive seen me not reply to text messages or emails for days on end! doesnt mean im not interestecd just means i was busy when i read them and i forgot to reply |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You seem a bit too needy in my opinion - surely it was nsa sex - he's under no obligation to reply - manners notwithstanding - i'd just get on with my day knowing i'd had a lovely time. Z"
i agree sorry  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually send round a red rose every day for the next year after a meet. I also have a star named after them. Not unusual for me to have a marching band play several Stevie Wonder songs in their front garden. Anything less than this is disrespectful.
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Wow. Methinks the OP looking for lurve! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually send round a red rose every day for the next year after a meet. I also have a star named after them. Not unusual for me to have a marching band play several Stevie Wonder songs in their front garden. Anything less than this is disrespectful.
can you send a couple of vases, im running out  "
Don't be greedy. It's been over a year and don't forget I did name that new species of frog I found in the Amazon after you. Jeeeez some people! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had a fabulous time with a guy today and he seemed to enjoy himself too. We chatted about meeting again. I have sent a message stating what a lovely time I had and know that it has been read but for some reason I am being ignored for the last 3 hours. I am not going to cry into my cornflakes if he doesn't want to meet again but a simple reply is only good manners isn't it? Or am I expecting too much? "
Maybe he has one of those 'life' things that can get in the way sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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3hours is no time at all. My FB will sometimes read messages but can't always reply as is in RM & sharing accommodation with other guys. And if a guy walks in he will just shut Internet down.
I've been in chat room chatting to A N Other when my mum has knocked my door, just closed Fab down with no warning.
Stop worrying about it. Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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looks like a single guy is getting his own back on single women by not replying to their messages and pushing them into making 'no replies are just rude' threads lol |
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"Had a fabulous time with a guy today and he seemed to enjoy himself too. We chatted about meeting again. I have sent a message stating what a lovely time I had and know that it has been read but for some reason I am being ignored for the last 3 hours. I am not going to cry into my cornflakes if he doesn't want to meet again but a simple reply is only good manners isn't it? Or am I expecting too much? "
Three hours?!! How dare he!!!
I've had enjoyable meets with people and said let's do this again. Other things come up, other people I'm more interested in...it happens.
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"Hm thanks. My own insecurities I suppose x
Maybe but you will cause yourself a lot of grief if you put this spin on things. Wait until you meet a guy who next day becomes user no longer on site lol, if you don't laugh and shrug it off you're finished."
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"Had a fabulous time with a guy today and he seemed to enjoy himself too. We chatted about meeting again. I have sent a message stating what a lovely time I had and know that it has been read but for some reason I am being ignored for the last 3 hours. I am not going to cry into my cornflakes if he doesn't want to meet again but a simple reply is only good manners isn't it? Or am I expecting too much?
If he reads the forums and realises that within a few hours of meeting you are starting threads about being ignored he may feel less inclined to reply at all, just a polite thought "
This!
Needy after one meet would put me off contacting. Met a guy for a social meet. I walked home (10 minutes)he took the train. When out I have my phone on silent and never walk and talk.
By the time I got home I had about ten messages. The first, thanking me for meeting him and putting him at ease etc, the last, had I used him for a free meal is that why I was ignoring his texts!
Suffice it to say I never played with him: needy and clingy I can do without! |
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"Had a fabulous time with a guy today and he seemed to enjoy himself too. We chatted about meeting again. I have sent a message stating what a lovely time I had and know that it has been read but for some reason I am being ignored for the last 3 hours. I am not going to cry into my cornflakes if he doesn't want to meet again but a simple reply is only good manners isn't it? Or am I expecting too much? "
From my experience on here you're asking for too much to expect a reply to a message. It seems the norm to delete and block. |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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OP. I can see where you are coming from. However I have been on this site longer than you now and have learnt a few things.
Referring to your post. Most men will be at your beck and call prior to a meet. Responding straight away, being very attentive etc. post meet is a different matter. The goal and excitement building up to meeting is gone. You both had fun. But the intensity now dies down.
I like you, send a message saying how much fun I had. Some respond quickly, some a lot lot later. Some just when they want a meet again. The dynamics of the relationship between you both will have changed.
You quickly learn to just enjoy the experience you had together for what it was. Have your next adventure lined up and you won't notice how long it takes for someone to message you back after a meet, as you are building up the excitement for your next one.
Welcome to the forums and keep on posting. Xx |
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"OP. I can see where you are coming from. However I have been on this site longer than you now and have learnt a few things.
Referring to your post. Most men will be at your beck and call prior to a meet. Responding straight away, being very attentive etc. post meet is a different matter. The goal and excitement building up to meeting is gone. You both had fun. But the intensity now dies down.
I like you, send a message saying how much fun I had. Some respond quickly, some a lot lot later. Some just when they want a meet again. The dynamics of the relationship between you both will have changed.
You quickly learn to just enjoy the experience you had together for what it was. Have your next adventure lined up and you won't notice how long it takes for someone to message you back after a meet, as you are building up the excitement for your next one.
Welcome to the forums and keep on posting. Xx"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had a fabulous time with a guy today and he seemed to enjoy himself too. We chatted about meeting again. I have sent a message stating what a lovely time I had and know that it has been read but for some reason I am being ignored for the last 3 hours. I am not going to cry into my cornflakes if he doesn't want to meet again but a simple reply is only good manners isn't it? Or am I expecting too much?
If he reads the forums and realises that within a few hours of meeting you are starting threads about being ignored he may feel less inclined to reply at all, just a polite thought "
hmm...bunny rabbits n pans of water spring to mind  |
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