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when profile has very little detail?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I consider myself a bit of a wordsmith and quite good in chatting to folk and I usually look at the profile and look for that 'hook' in which to generate a message...well thats my way of doing it.
How on earth are you meant to concoct a message when a profile has detail like 'will fill in later'...what more could you put in a message than saying hello.
I think the fab police should put a limit on how many words you need to put in the profile this will at least give us a fighting chance to get chatting on here. |
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"I consider myself a bit of a wordsmith and quite good in chatting to folk and I usually look at the profile and look for that 'hook' in which to generate a message...well thats my way of doing it.
How on earth are you meant to concoct a message when a profile has detail like 'will fill in later'...what more could you put in a message than saying hello.
I think the fab police should put a limit on how many words you need to put in the profile this will at least give us a fighting chance to get chatting on here."
I find it a good way of filtering. Anyone that can't be bothered to write even a couple of informative sentences in their profile probably won't be the sort of person I can get chatting to. It's like getting blood out of a stone! Lol.
'Hi, my name is ...... and I'm 25, I'm a male looking to meet woman' (this is an example) is my favourite. Basically just written what we can see in the stats on the profile anyway! Lol x |
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"I find it a good way of filtering. Anyone that can't be bothered to write even a couple of informative sentences in their profile probably won't be the sort of person I can get chatting to. "
This! I might occasionally send a speculative wink to someone with a very sparse profile - usually if there's a photo that catches my eye, 'cos I'm a bloke and very shallow like that (!), but generally the empty profiles tell me to move on to the next one.. |
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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago
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I do wonder at the people who send a single email, often only a few words and in one case just 'interested', which often seem coupled with a profile as sparsely populated. It always leaves me thinking in what, especially when it is a 'straight' guy sending it to me.
I think there must be a lot of people believing in telepathy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Easy don't message them "
This 
Inputs = outputs!!
No effort in a profile - be that text or pics and it doesn't arouse my interest, let alone arouse anything else!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some of us can't be to open on our profile due to our jobs but I always send a detailed message and face pic when contacting anyone new x"
How does a job affect profile content? 
There's no need to mention your job - but plenty of scope to be creative, descriptive and interesting!
Same goes for pics - a face shot isn't necessary but interesting pics certainly attract more - well I guess the appropriate word is interest!  |
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"Some of us can't be to open on our profile due to our jobs but I always send a detailed message and face pic when contacting anyone new x
How does a job affect profile content?
There's no need to mention your job - but plenty of scope to be creative,
descriptive and interesting!
Same goes for pics - a face shot isn't necessary but interesting pics certainly attract more - well I guess the appropriate word is interest! "
Fair point and taken on board a profile facelift could be in order  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some of us can't be to open on our profile due to our jobs but I always send a detailed message and face pic when contacting anyone new x
How does a job affect profile content?
There's no need to mention your job - but plenty of scope to be creative,
descriptive and interesting!
Same goes for pics - a face shot isn't necessary but interesting pics certainly attract more - well I guess the appropriate word is interest!
Fair point and taken on board a profile facelift could be in order "
Wasn't a comment on your profile - haven't looked!!
And as for plastic surgery...............  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My profile is short and has very little detail,I like it that way at the moment
I don't believe that forcing a word limit will make any difference,people are either naturally engaging and have personalities that will attract others ......or they're not
Let the cream rise on its on own  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lets be honest here. The gals can afford to have "will fill in later" on their profiles. They will STILL get inundated with messages from guys. And most of those will say "hi, i like your profile, fancy a fuck"? Whereas, us guys seem to have to put down a chapter from war n peace to have a chance! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's not much information on which to make a decision if there's no pics and little detail in the profile, except of course, the decision to ignore it. "
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"There's not much information on which to make a decision if there's no pics and little detail in the profile, except of course, the decision to ignore it. "
As often as not, the authors of such profiles are the ones who appear three times a day on here asking for help...I wonder why..  |
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It could also be that there wants n needs change all the time.
A single female could sometimes really really be looking for a tall dark slim guy and then next week fancy being boffed silly by a Phil Mitchell look alike.
There is also, shock horror  the people that don't use profiles to get meets and prefer meeting at clubs and socials.
But don't send people with 'To be filled in later' on their profile a message saying how you loved their profile, it makes you* look a prat.
*This is a generic 'you' not aimed at anyone in particular. Unless the cap fits |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It could also be that there wants n needs change all the time.
A single female could sometimes really really be looking for a tall dark slim guy and then next week fancy being boffed silly by a Phil Mitchell look alike.
There is also, shock horror the people that don't use profiles to get meets and prefer meeting at clubs and socials.
But don't send people with 'To be filled in later' on their profile a message saying how you loved their profile, it makes you* look a prat.
*This is a generic 'you' not aimed at anyone in particular. Unless the cap fits "
I think Phil has had his day.
I like profiles which shows the member to have a sense of humour akin to mine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Easy don't message them "
Short succinct and completely on the money
Our advice to all site members would be if you cannot grasp the simplicity of 'Easy don't message them' then maybe you should not be here |
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I know my profile message could be more detailed and I, at times, come across profile texts that funny and cleverly written. That takes time and effort, and I find it more enjoyable to go for socials, make contacts, sort out pictures and verifications, and let those speak for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I consider myself a bit of a wordsmith and quite good in chatting to folk and I usually look at the profile and look for that 'hook' in which to generate a message...well thats my way of doing it.
How on earth are you meant to concoct a message when a profile has detail like 'will fill in later'...what more could you put in a message than saying hello.
I think the fab police should put a limit on how many words you need to put in the profile this will at least give us a fighting chance to get chatting on here.
I find it a good way of filtering. Anyone that can't be bothered to write even a couple of informative sentences in their profile probably won't be the sort of person I can get chatting to. It's like getting blood out of a stone! Lol.
'Hi, my name is ...... and I'm 25, I'm a male looking to meet woman' (this is an example) is my favourite. Basically just written what we can see in the stats on the profile anyway! Lol x"
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By *utmegsMan
over a year ago
Closer than you think |
I do like to see a bit about people on their profile, although I recently had a fantastic meet with a woman who said very little on hers.
On the other hand, I cand stand the masive essays and lists of "don'ts" on some. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I consider myself a bit of a wordsmith and quite good in chatting to folk and I usually look at the profile and look for that 'hook' in which to generate a message...well thats my way of doing it.
How on earth are you meant to concoct a message when a profile has detail like 'will fill in later'...what more could you put in a message than saying hello.
I think the fab police should put a limit on how many words you need to put in the profile this will at least give us a fighting chance to get chatting on here."
Nice profile. Shame your not in SW.
By the way... Cute bum. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some of us can't be to open on our profile due to our jobs but I always send a detailed message and face pic when contacting anyone new x"
That's a cop out. I have to be careful with my line of work but nothing is given away in my profile. X
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For me a profile is like a shop window, the more I like what I see in it the more likely I am to find out more about the goods inside.
I like an honest profile, that is as informative as possible, I get around 100 mails a day, most of them being 1 liners or having no reference to my own criteria so I eliminate them from my thoughts straight away, the worst are those that ask me to read their profiles when they obviously haven't read mine.
But single males message me, couples tend to just send a friends invite or a wink and don't even bother with a message.
I never look at winks and I don't have anyone on my friends list, I know who my friends are without the need for having them on a list, I use the hotlist to keep track of people I like.
At the end of the day though it is each to their own.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I consider myself a bit of a wordsmith and quite good in chatting to folk and I usually look at the profile and look for that 'hook' in which to generate a message...well thats my way of doing it.
How on earth are you meant to concoct a message when a profile has detail like 'will fill in later'...what more could you put in a message than saying hello.
I think the fab police should put a limit on how many words you need to put in the profile this will at least give us a fighting chance to get chatting on here."
some people do this to avoid tons of messages. Some people would rather message people themselves. The reality is if you don't like someone's profile move on and ignore them rather than trying to force them to do what you want them to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just a thought, but maybe these gals don't want to be inundated with messages, so put "will fill in later".
Maybe they've just joined and having a look at the site before making their mind up about what they actually want from the site.
Or, just maybe, they know that no matter what drivel they have on their profile, they will still get messages asking for meets from the 'any holes a goal' squad. |
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