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over a year ago
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is it ok if you go to a club for the first time and don't do anything for the first time if we don't feel it enough? but want to just see how we feel around all the sex and naughtiness?..was thinking of going to a couples night maybe at secrets in totnes.or are we gonna look stupid being approached all night and turning people down,i know that people respect a no,but we just want to take it easy for nw..we are very secure together..thanks for any replys |
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You arent obliged to have fun at a club, dip your toes in have a lookie at all the rooms but dont feel pressured into having fun on the first night, see how you both feel and go from there! X |
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When I go to a club by myself I rarely if ever play as I like to play together now... So no one thinks it's odd after all clubs are as much about the social side too.
Cali |
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Our first club visit we did just that, chatted socialised but didn't play, it's up to you what you do and when, and there's no pressure ( or at least we didn't feel pressurised ) had a great evening and met some lovely people  |
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thankyou guys for your replies,am thining maybe going to secrets in totnes and was wondering also what to wear ,I guess a sexy dress and stockings etc is a safe bet,do people walk around pretty much naked?sorry if these sound like stupid questions.xxxxx |
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They aren't stupid questions at all, I'm sure we've all been there, I know Jaz and I have!
I would advise checking the clubs website, but I wore the kind of dress I'd wear for a night about town, with some nice undies and heels. Men are normally advised to dress to impress- shirt, jeans and smart shoes as a minimum hope this helps.
And remember to enjoy, even if you only watch |
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We did not play for the first few times we visited a club. We got used to the concept and enjoyed the surroundings we were happy playing with each other and putting on a show. |
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"is it ok if you go to a club for the first time and don't do anything for the first time if we don't feel it enough? but want to just see how we feel around all the sex and naughtiness?..was thinking of going to a couples night maybe at secrets in totnes.or are we gonna look stupid being approached all night and turning people down,i know that people respect a no,but we just want to take it easy for nw..we are very secure together..thanks for any replys"
Vouyerism is participation. |
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Secrets is a wonderful place. From our experiences there everyone is respectful. Lots of different areas for you to watch. Or spend time socialising downstairs.
Go and enjoy it. Might even see you there |
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Dont go in thinking its a fuck fest and people are at it everywhere or that youll be constantly approached.
Our first time in club we never played and neither did many others was more of a social gathering.
Just go in with no fears or expectations and go at your own pace and im sure youll be returning for more. |
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On our first club visit we didn't interact sexually with anyone else, just spoke to people in the bar, watched people in playrooms and then went in and joined them but just played together. We went again a couple of weeks later and had our first soft-swing. It's best to take things easy until you're familiar with the scene and not expect to fuck other people from the moment you arrive - clubs are not like that. |
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