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So i took a chance on a new member, and arranged to meet her tonight, at hers.
I agree to pay for a takeaway for her, and get a taxi to her place, we had agree to meet about 10pm, and i actually get there at 9.49ish, cant pay by card for the taxi so i use some cash, which leaves me short for her takeaway thats 28.75 quid. which is a ton of food and i told her 2-3 times i didnt want anything.
oh and the takeaway guy is mad cos hes been there already for 5-10mins. thats who i meet after getting out of the taxi.
I have to sprint to the nearest shop which isnt close to get cash to pay for her dinner AND the late dinner of someone else.
then i ring her to find out where to go and shes "thanks for nothing ive just had the police round because of you" (because i couldnt pay for all the meal right away the delivery guy was on the phone with his boss etc) and she couldnt possibly meet me now because of that and messing her business with the take away place.
on reflection a suspiciously fast response from the police over a meh case?
I cant think i did anything wrong, and it was only ~30mins from when we confirmed meeting to me actually being there.
to me it seems like i was setup,
I mean you would have to be stupid to order a meal u cant pay for and rely on some person you never met to pay for it, who isnt even there yet and getting a taxi on a friday night to get there, and expect that person to arrive 5-10mins early with more cash than he said he had, right?
she didnt even say thankyou or sorry.
what you guys and gals think?
I reported her btw.
so i get a bunch of painful memories for my 50quid wasted.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your a mug mate ....lol. I'd have got back in that taxi to go back home ....end of ! |
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"So i took a chance on a new member, and arranged to meet her tonight, at hers.
I agree to pay for a takeaway for her, and get a taxi to her place, we had agree to meet about 10pm, and i actually get there at 9.49ish, cant pay by card for the taxi so i use some cash, which leaves me short for her takeaway thats 28.75 quid. which is a ton of food and i told her 2-3 times i didnt want anything.
oh and the takeaway guy is mad cos hes been there already for 5-10mins. thats who i meet after getting out of the taxi.
I have to sprint to the nearest shop which isnt close to get cash to pay for her dinner AND the late dinner of someone else.
then i ring her to find out where to go and shes "thanks for nothing ive just had the police round because of you" (because i couldnt pay for all the meal right away the delivery guy was on the phone with his boss etc) and she couldnt possibly meet me now because of that and messing her business with the take away place.
on reflection a suspiciously fast response from the police over a meh case?
I cant think i did anything wrong, and it was only ~30mins from when we confirmed meeting to me actually being there.
to me it seems like i was setup,
I mean you would have to be stupid to order a meal u cant pay for and rely on some person you never met to pay for it, who isnt even there yet and getting a taxi on a friday night to get there, and expect that person to arrive 5-10mins early with more cash than he said he had, right?
she didnt even say thankyou or sorry.
what you guys and gals think?
I reported her btw.
so i get a bunch of painful memories for my 50quid wasted.
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Just put it down to experience. If she was real it seems she just wanted a free takeaway. £28.75 worth of food for one person? |
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Obviously some very manipulative women about. That's awful though!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lmao well and truly done over  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Next time don't offer food especially as I suspect her and her bloke were sitting there filling their fat faces laughing at the mug who paid for it |
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that is shocking 
I'm gobsmacked! Don't know what to say.  |
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Think she suggested take away...
Yeah I got mugged and feel really shit about it. Keep wondering if I should of done something different. Can't sleep n feel sick.
It would of been my first meet since November, and I wasn't being pushy at all, so it really hurts, specialy with my poor mental health 
Disapointed some people are positive about taking advantage of others too. |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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Well put this one down to experience. It does appear that she was looking for someone only to pay for her and her friend/partners takeaway, took advantage, ordered more than she would normally.
So many men will do anything to meet with you. There are some unscrupulous people who will take advantage. I would like to think that these are in the minority though. I hope you took the takeaway home with you. |
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Oh I walked back the 2 miles or so to the town centre, a friend took me home |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I mean you would have to be stupid to order a meal u cant pay for and rely on some person you never met to pay for it"
I think the term stupid applies to you in this case. I feel sorry for you but get some common sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Although you cant condone what the female did....... Bloody hell how desperate are some blokes to get their end away?
All this for a shag. Its a swinger site not a dating agency. Id supply the condoms and a bottle wine .tops.
And whod want to fuck after consuming the amount of food the op apparentlly purchased. And all after a 10 min phonecall.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You were totally screwed mate, and not in a pleasurable way either!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Although you cant condone what the female did....... Bloody hell how desperate are some blokes to get their end away?
All this for a shag. Its a swinger site not a dating agency. Id supply the condoms and a bottle wine .tops.
And whod want to fuck after consuming the amount of food the op apparentlly purchased. And all after a 10 min phonecall.."
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Nope never even saw the take away. Delivery guy told me he nearly lost his job over this.
And I expected her to arrange delivery for say 10.15 or we go to the place n order, Like a normal person would. Not ring me in the taxi saying he's mad coz im not there already, and send him to meet me.
so she put me in that position, and that's tough one to be put in, in hindsight i didn't expect someone to be such a dick.
And it wasn't just to have sex, company too.
I guess its difficult for a woman here to imagine not being wanted, at all, by anyone for years. To feel not good enough, by any measure. Then turn down some woman who seems nice and wants to meet.
I had expected her to pull out, that happens alot to me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Omg thats terrible. To think that sum ppl hv no shame to do that to another person. Its disgusting. She obvs has no conscience and is more worried about stuffing her fat face.
Be wiser next time and dont pay for sumomes takeaway. Just put it down to experience. Forget her, she aint worth another thort in yr mind, she'l get caught out one day. Chin up hun x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What a bitch! Yeh looks like you were set up hun. Put it down to experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So i took a chance on a new member, and arranged to meet her tonight, at hers.
I agree to pay for a takeaway for her, and get a taxi to her place, we had agree to meet about 10pm, and i actually get there at 9.49ish, cant pay by card for the taxi so i use some cash, which leaves me short for her takeaway thats 28.75 quid. which is a ton of food and i told her 2-3 times i didnt want anything.
oh and the takeaway guy is mad cos hes been there already for 5-10mins. thats who i meet after getting out of the taxi.
I have to sprint to the nearest shop which isnt close to get cash to pay for her dinner AND the late dinner of someone else.
then i ring her to find out where to go and shes "thanks for nothing ive just had the police round because of you" (because i couldnt pay for all the meal right away the delivery guy was on the phone with his boss etc) and she couldnt possibly meet me now because of that and messing her business with the take away place.
on reflection a suspiciously fast response from the police over a meh case?
I cant think i did anything wrong, and it was only ~30mins from when we confirmed meeting to me actually being there.
to me it seems like i was setup,
I mean you would have to be stupid to order a meal u cant pay for and rely on some person you never met to pay for it, who isnt even there yet and getting a taxi on a friday night to get there, and expect that person to arrive 5-10mins early with more cash than he said he had, right?
she didnt even say thankyou or sorry.
what you guys and gals think?
I reported her btw.
so i get a bunch of painful memories for my 50quid wasted.
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Sorry matey, but you had no grounds for reporting her. This is how it is - you let your cock rule your head and you were prepared to pay for almost anything just to get a meet. What has happened is that you have learned - I hope! - a lesson from last night and won't repeat it. Keep right in the front of your mind that you are here to have casual sex - not to be someones food bank.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh dear, that sort of thing happens off site too, it's know as leading a man on. Drinks, meal, lift home and just a thanks at the end of it...
Don't fall for it again.
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A PAYG woman is less than £50..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wait a sec.. You said in op that you got there and met takeaway guy.. Then in later post she called you while in taxi? And why would you phone her after getting cash to find out where to go? Surely you gave the driver an address??
Sommats not right about this whole thing |
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I recon the delivery guy was her man and the takeaway ploy used to fleece guys with no sense.
Probably made a few squid that night and many more to follow.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry this happened to you. Some people are feckin idiots.
£28 for a chinese takeaway?? Either she is a very greedy girl or takeaways down your way are very expensive. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry matey, but you had no grounds for reporting her. This is how it is - you let your cock rule your head and you were prepared to pay for almost anything just to get a meet. What has happened is that you have learned - I hope! - a lesson from last night and won't repeat it. Keep right in the front of your mind that you are here to have casual sex - not to be someones food bank.
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Of course he can report it.. yes he was a fool but needs reporting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry matey, but you had no grounds for reporting her. This is how it is - you let your cock rule your head and you were prepared to pay for almost anything just to get a meet. What has happened is that you have learned - I hope! - a lesson from last night and won't repeat it. Keep right in the front of your mind that you are here to have casual sex - not to be someones food bank.
ted.
Of course he can report it.. yes he was a fool but needs reporting."
He can report it, yes, but I still think there are no real grounds for doing so. If what we are led to believe is true then, at best, it's 50/50 'fault-wise'... |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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Onwards & upwards... You have reported it, learn from it.
Be careful about showing your vulnerabilities on here, there are people who prey and exploit them.
Good luck for the future. |
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Why would you pay for her food and someone else's food if you weren't even going to eat?
Next time don't think with your cock lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry matey, but you had no grounds for reporting her. This is how it is - you let your cock rule your head and you were prepared to pay for almost anything just to get a meet. What has happened is that you have learned - I hope! - a lesson from last night and won't repeat it. Keep right in the front of your mind that you are here to have casual sex - not to be someones food bank.
ted.
Of course he can report it.. yes he was a fool but needs reporting.
He can report it, yes, but I still think there are no real grounds for doing so. If what we are led to believe is true then, at best, it's 50/50 'fault-wise'..."
Not really, she made certain she got the food before fucking the op off eh.
Well if I'm understanding things correctly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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He can report it, yes, but I still think there are no real grounds for doing so. If what we are led to believe is true then, at best, it's 50/50 'fault-wise'..."
Sorry but I see it as someone taking the total piss.. so needs reporting...
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"Sorry matey, but you had no grounds for reporting her. This is how it is - you let your cock rule your head and you were prepared to pay for almost anything just to get a meet. What has happened is that you have learned - I hope! - a lesson from last night and won't repeat it. Keep right in the front of your mind that you are here to have casual sex - not to be someones food bank.
ted.
Of course he can report it.. yes he was a fool but needs reporting.
He can report it, yes, but I still think there are no real grounds for doing so. If what we are led to believe is true then, at best, it's 50/50 'fault-wise'..."
Have to agree here the OP said
I mean you would have to be stupid to order a meal u cant pay for and rely on some person you never met to pay for it, who isnt even there yet and getting a taxi on a friday night to get there, and expect that person to arrive 5-10mins early with more cash than he said he had, right? Yet he agreed to do this in order to get the meet!
It is very much 50/50 blame 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would have reported them for deception and money for sex to be fair. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would have reported them for deception and money for sex to be fair. "
Based on what the OP has said, you'd be hard-pushed to prove deception and, again, if what has been said is correct, the only money that changed hands was for a take-away.... for her and 'another friend'!! Lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry matey, but you had no grounds for reporting her. This is how it is - you let your cock rule your head and you were prepared to pay for almost anything just to get a meet. What has happened is that you have learned - I hope! - a lesson from last night and won't repeat it. Keep right in the front of your mind that you are here to have casual sex - not to be someones food bank.
ted.
Of course he can report it.. yes he was a fool but needs reporting."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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He can report it, yes, but I still think there are no real grounds for doing so. If what we are led to believe is true then, at best, it's 50/50 'fault-wise'...
Sorry but I see it as someone taking the total piss.. so needs reporting...
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"I would have reported them for deception and money for sex to be fair. "
But he didn't get any sex  |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
Never buy anything for a meet. Just turn up clean, on time and with condoms |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wait a sec.. You said in op that you got there and met takeaway guy.. Then in later post she called you while in taxi? And why would you phone her after getting cash to find out where to go? Surely you gave the driver an address??
Sommats not right about this whole thing "
I've just read the OP again and agree it seems odd!
The whole 'ringing her to ask where to go' after you've allegedly already been there once?
Surely you wouldn't have forgotten that quickly? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tbh id rather have a wank then go to all that bother for a meet |
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over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's terrible getting ripped off like that!
Put it down to a lesson learned!
You were right to report it as hopefully no body else will get stung by the same con! |
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Did the OP actually see any of the food that cost 28.75? Why pay for it when he didn't order it, and why would the delivery driver waste any time waiting to get paid. Surely they would just leave? |
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"So i took a chance on a new member, and arranged to meet her tonight, at hers.
I agree to pay for a takeaway for her, and get a taxi to her place, we had agree to meet about 10pm, and i actually get there at 9.49ish, cant pay by card for the taxi so i use some cash, which leaves me short for her takeaway thats 28.75 quid. which is a ton of food and i told her 2-3 times i didnt want anything.
oh and the takeaway guy is mad cos hes been there already for 5-10mins. thats who i meet after getting out of the taxi.
I have to sprint to the nearest shop which isnt close to get cash to pay for her dinner AND the late dinner of someone else.
then i ring her to find out where to go and shes "thanks for nothing ive just had the police round because of you" (because i couldnt pay for all the meal right away the delivery guy was on the phone with his boss etc) and she couldnt possibly meet me now because of that and messing her business with the take away place.
on reflection a suspiciously fast response from the police over a meh case?
I cant think i did anything wrong, and it was only ~30mins from when we confirmed meeting to me actually being there.
to me it seems like i was setup,
I mean you would have to be stupid to order a meal u cant pay for and rely on some person you never met to pay for it, who isnt even there yet and getting a taxi on a friday night to get there, and expect that person to arrive 5-10mins early with more cash than he said he had, right?
she didnt even say thankyou or sorry.
what you guys and gals think?
I reported her btw.
so i get a bunch of painful memories for my 50quid wasted.
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Perhaps you need to start by getting a few things right when writing your story.
You state you "arranged to meet her tonight"........you posted this in the early hours of Saturday.
You then claim you got "a taxi on Friday to get there".......
Friday isn't tonight if you got the taxi on Saturday as you claim.
How did the takeaway guy know you were paying, and how come you had to ring her to find out where to go when the taxi dropped you "at her place" which conveniently was also where the takeaway guy delivered the food to.....which you paid for. Are you saying he delivered the food to her then waited for you to pay? In such case, you would have known where he delivered the food......wouldn't you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I bet she wasn't alone and you paid for them to be fed. You got done she got fed. |
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Also, she must have lived quite far from you of the taxi cost over £20!!
You've reported her that's all you can do. Chalk it up to a stupid thing you did.
As for the comment above bout it not being tonight I think he was posting after it happened and the tonight reference was to earlier that night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I reported her too...out of the whole takeaway I got a measly few prawn crackers ...but it was a great bj |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reported her too...out of the whole takeaway I got a measly few prawn crackers ...but it was a great bj"
Haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes I wonder if im far to cynical or far too naive
Paddys story seems more believeable to me this morning |
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over a year ago
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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I think you need to be a bit more sensible the next time you arrange a meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you fed her and her 5 kids that night ....lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think you need to be a bit more sensible the next time you arrange a meet "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think she suggested take away...
Yeah I got mugged and feel really shit about it. Keep wondering if I should of done something different. Can't sleep n feel sick.
It would of been my first meet since November, and I wasn't being pushy at all, so it really hurts, specialy with my poor mental health
Disapointed some people are positive about taking advantage of others too."
OP you're probably a bit more vulnerable than usual because of your mental health so tread a bit more carefully when it comes to arranging meets. Sadly there are people out there who will exploit others. Chalk it up to experience and it could have been worse judging from some of the horror stories I've read on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm confused, if you had rushed off to get more money for the takeaway then called her and she said she didn't want to meet you after everything that happened, at what point did you actually pay for the takeaway? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly ive been in the same siuation alot ofthe genuine fellas have.
You live n learn |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reported her too...out of the whole takeaway I got a measly few prawn crackers ...but it was a great bj"
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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ok there is no need to start getting nasty or picking his profile apart.
To the OP....it isn't a crime to trust people, but you might want to adopt a more cynical approach when arranging meets with strangers,
If what you are saying is true it does indeed sound like a rip off so I would report it for Admin to take a look at |
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