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AM I WRONG FOR WHAT IM DOING
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have a girlfriend and she doesn't know I play away I really want to have a 3some with her and another woman but it has to be some1 that's will make her feel comfortable ! What to do what to do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The ONLY thing you can do is talk to your gf and make sure she wants it to
I have heard of quite a few set ups where the guy has arranged something that there other half has not got a clue about and it did not end well
If you gf is game then cool |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have to agree, you're in the wrong. Broach the subject of threesomes when you're being intimate with her and see how she responds. But tell her it's all about her pleasure, not yours.Then, if she's keen, set up a couples profile.
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By *AM2214Man
over a year ago
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I'm a hypocrite so ignore me!
Yes it's wrong. But then you know that or you wouldn't ask.
The way you describe setting up a threesome suggests your god hasn't mentioned this being something she would ordinarily want to do. Just my opinion but that's a recipe for disaster.
The idea of broaching the subject whilst intimate is fine but make sure you also ask in more normal setting etc.
As an example. My wife used to tell me she wanted to see me being fucked by a bloke etc. of course I'd have been happy. But the reality was she didn't actually want it to happen it was just 'dirty talk' when I was in her asking how it felt.
As I say I'm a hypocrite of sorts. But others seem in agreement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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one of the biggest ingredients of successful swinging is trust between partners and the people you invite in. you are obviously not trustworthy at all and I hope your gf finds out and dumps you. this thread will also spread the word of that and you are likely to get many more answers to the same effect. how about making sure youre looking after her and taking care of her needs and not just your own?
most couples get into swinging as the next step from talking dirty and fantasies discussed during sex. most single men do it cos they think 2 chicks is the be all and end all of sex when its really not.
looking forward to seeing more replies on this thread. be prepared to be bashed.
good luck
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a girlfriend and she doesn't know I play away I really want to have a 3some with her and another woman but it has to be some1 that's will make her feel comfortable ! What to do what to do "
Im cheating and yes I know its wrong. Have you asked her if she wants to play with you and a woman?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You are not "playing away" you are cheating and deceiving a person you supposedly care about. You probably think you are clever and she won't find out so "what she doesn't know won't hurt her". Whether she finds out or not makes no difference to the fact that you are selfish and are willing to risk her feeling devasted should she find out. End the relationship, she deserves better than you. |
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If there is karma, your girlfriend who trusts you will have seen this on your laptop and will be planning payback. If however you decide to be honest with her and discus what you are doing she may give you her blessing or may want to join you. If she doesn't want to join you perhaps it's time for you to move on to someone who shares your views. Honesty rather than deceit will save you the pain of being found out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep its cheating
if you found out she was on a site getting shagged bandy by loads of guys and she tried to justify it by saying i want a 3some would you be happy |
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"one of the biggest ingredients of successful swinging is trust between partners and the people you invite in. you are obviously not trustworthy at all and I hope your gf finds out and dumps you. this thread will also spread the word of that and you are likely to get many more answers to the same effect. how about making sure youre looking after her and taking care of her needs and not just your own?
most couples get into swinging as the next step from talking dirty and fantasies discussed during sex. most single men do it cos they think 2 chicks is the be all and end all of sex when its really not.
looking forward to seeing more replies on this thread. be prepared to be bashed.
good luck
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Totally agree...if the trust and openness is not there then both the relationship and swinging together will not work.
To the OP....communication is the key but done in a way that is sensitive and understanding of her needs and desires....if she says no then she has given her answer and if you keep going on about it she will think that you want this more than you want her. |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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It is wrong.
Swinging is when consenting partners is involved.
Cheating is what you are engaging in.
If you have an open relationship it is different though. As a woman a 3some with another woman has never interested me. How about you suggest another man. Or her meeting men alone first.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a girlfriend and she doesn't know I play away I really want to have a 3some with her and another woman but it has to be some1 that's will make her feel comfortable ! What to do what to do "
Who am I to judge you. Do what your conscience tells/permits |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a girlfriend and she doesn't know I play away I really want to have a 3some with her and another woman but it has to be some1 that's will make her feel comfortable ! What to do what to do
Who am I to judge you. Do what your conscience tells/permits "
Its not passing judgement, the op asks for opinions in the title of his thread  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a girlfriend and she doesn't know I play away I really want to have a 3some with her and another woman but it has to be some1 that's will make her feel comfortable ! What to do what to do
Who am I to judge you. Do what your conscience tells/permits
Its not passing judgement, the op asks for opinions in the title of his thread "
I didn't say YOU couldn't pass an opinion just that I wasn't gonna make a judgement (or opinion) . I've read too many similar threads to bother engaging cos inevitably the OP's will please emselves in the end anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a girlfriend and she doesn't know I play away I really want to have a 3some with her and another woman but it has to be some1 that's will make her feel comfortable ! What to do what to do "
Sorry, but you're wrong for what you're doing, you're lying and cheating.
There is no place in swinging for liars and cheats.
Most men fantasise about MFF, and for most men it will never be more than a fantasy - and that's the decent, honest men. You are very unlikely to find a woman on here who will collude with you in deceiving your girlfriend, just for your pleasure, whether you dress it up as 'someone that will make her feel comfortable' or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Firstly yes what you are doing is totally wrong and im sure karma will catch up with you.
Secondly by asking this question in an open forum you have reduced your chances of a meet by about 99.9%
Foolish post. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a girlfriend and she doesn't know I play away I really want to have a 3some with her and another woman but it has to be some1 that's will make her feel comfortable ! What to do what to do
Who am I to judge you. Do what your conscience tells/permits
Its not passing judgement, the op asks for opinions in the title of his thread
I didn't say YOU couldn't pass an opinion just that I wasn't gonna make a judgement (or opinion) . I've read too many similar threads to bother engaging cos inevitably the OP's will please emselves in the end anyway"
Apoligies if i read you wrong  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a girlfriend and she doesn't know I play away I really want to have a 3some with her and another woman but it has to be some1 that's will make her feel comfortable ! What to do what to do "
Talk to your girlfriend about it and then you'll find out if she is happy about it and if she is you can find someone you are both attracted to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have to agree, you're in the wrong. Broach the subject of threesomes when you're being intimate with her and see how she responds. But tell her it's all about her pleasure, not yours.Then, if she's keen, set up a couples profile.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"wondered how long it would take him to vanish! 4 hours lol. "
Think you'll find he realised he fucked up with the thread, realised that it's let potential female meets know he's attached, and is already back on under a new name and viewing this thread.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a girlfriend and she doesn't know I play away I really want to have a 3some with her and another woman but it has to be some1 that's will make her feel comfortable ! What to do what to do
Who am I to judge you. Do what your conscience tells/permits
Its not passing judgement, the op asks for opinions in the title of his thread
I didn't say YOU couldn't pass an opinion just that I wasn't gonna make a judgement (or opinion) . I've read too many similar threads to bother engaging cos inevitably the OP's will please emselves in the end anyway
Apoligies if i read you wrong "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"wondered how long it would take him to vanish! 4 hours lol.
Think you'll find he realised he fucked up with the thread, realised that it's let potential female meets know he's attached, and is already back on under a new name and viewing this thread.
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Ha ha so funny that they start a thread then no longer on site ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ah ya see! Well the scenario probably goes thus
He posts thread
Wife has single profile in here too
Wife reads his thread
Wife phones OP
Heap big argument ensues
OP n wife meet up in town for coffee
Wife n OP 'fall I'm love' all over again
OP m wife go churchyard have gr8 shag
OP deletes fab account
Wife deletes her fab account
Both happy ever after
Drinking pins colada in sunset
Amen  |
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