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aaagghh not another one !!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Profile check !!
So we were reading our profile this morning and came to the conclusion that it was too negative, demanding and long winded.
Did it a bit of a re-write to try to make it a bit friendlier.
Its still a tad long but dies have all our preferences included.
We know its our prof and can put whatever we like on it etc.
We would still appreciate a bit of feedback
What ya think of it?
Is it ok?
Thanks guys
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I dont like the bit where it says you dont play separately. I think you need to change that  "
Aw sorry dude, mallery would get mad if i played with a guy without her  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont like the bit where it says you dont play separately. I think you need to change that
Aw sorry dude, mallery would get mad if i played with a guy without her "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont like the bit where it says you dont play separately. I think you need to change that
Aw sorry dude, mallery would get mad if i played with a guy without her "
well, walked into that one  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I dont like the bit where it says you dont play separately. I think you need to change that
Aw sorry dude, mallery would get mad if i played with a guy without her
well, walked into that one "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Still more 'will nots' than 'wills'.
What is the kissing ban about? Your choice, but...."
Ya the kissing thing is just our choice, we do realise thats not for everyone, so be it.
As for the will nots, its pretty hard to get across what our preferences are without having to use the "will not" words.
How would you go about wording it?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would maybe not state them until you get a dialogue with people going.... "
I wouldve thought it was best to get that stuff out in the open.
Would find it quite difficult to tell someone we dont want to meet them due to their figure etc.
Be kind of pointless striking up a convo with someone that dont meet our preferences and be called timewasters etc. ??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would maybe not state them until you get a dialogue with people going....
I wouldve thought it was best to get that stuff out in the open.
Would find it quite difficult to tell someone we dont want to meet them due to their figure etc.
Be kind of pointless striking up a convo with someone that dont meet our preferences and be called timewasters etc. ???"
You don't need to be so specific. And you might be surprised who you end up getting some rapport with if you have a slightly more open outlook.
Only trying to help (we have had no shortage of meets with all ages and genders)... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I would maybe not state them until you get a dialogue with people going....
I wouldve thought it was best to get that stuff out in the open.
Would find it quite difficult to tell someone we dont want to meet them due to their figure etc.
Be kind of pointless striking up a convo with someone that dont meet our preferences and be called timewasters etc. ???
You don't need to be so specific. And you might be surprised who you end up getting some rapport with if you have a slightly more open outlook.
Only trying to help (we have had no shortage of meets with all ages and genders)..."
I know you are trying to help and we do appreciate your input
We just trying to be honest about our preferences in our profile and dont wish to hurt anyones feelings.
No matter how we word it or dont word it, it still wont change our preferences and we do feel its important to be upfront about that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would maybe not state them until you get a dialogue with people going....
I wouldve thought it was best to get that stuff out in the open.
Would find it quite difficult to tell someone we dont want to meet them due to their figure etc.
Be kind of pointless striking up a convo with someone that dont meet our preferences and be called timewasters etc. ???
You don't need to be so specific. And you might be surprised who you end up getting some rapport with if you have a slightly more open outlook.
Only trying to help (we have had no shortage of meets with all ages and genders)...
I know you are trying to help and we do appreciate your input
We just trying to be honest about our preferences in our profile and dont wish to hurt anyones feelings.
No matter how we word it or dont word it, it still wont change our preferences and we do feel its important to be upfront about that "
Indeed and preferences are your choice (we have some) but you did feel you were being demanding and negative.
Sometimes keeping a few points open to discussion might be wise. At least you will get to talk.....communication is good |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would maybe not state them until you get a dialogue with people going....
I wouldve thought it was best to get that stuff out in the open.
Would find it quite difficult to tell someone we dont want to meet them due to their figure etc.
Be kind of pointless striking up a convo with someone that dont meet our preferences and be called timewasters etc. ???"
Looks good to me. I think you've managed to state your preferences without being rude, which is a rare talent. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would maybe not state them until you get a dialogue with people going....
I wouldve thought it was best to get that stuff out in the open.
Would find it quite difficult to tell someone we dont want to meet them due to their figure etc.
Be kind of pointless striking up a convo with someone that dont meet our preferences and be called timewasters etc. ???
Looks good to me. I think you've managed to state your preferences without being rude, which is a rare talent. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My own personal opinion is that no its not too long but there is nothing about either of you on there i.e. Micky/Mallory is .... I didn't feel it necessary to mention the full room sway as surely that is in the interests.
Some single lines could have been put together ie We are a very much in love couple who simply love sex but swinging is an occasional thing for us and not a vocation.
I also felt that the first three lines could have been amalgamated into one, or reworded in some way.
And again two sentences that could have been put together especially as you have repeated it so maybe consider 'Please don't ask for short notice meets as we do like a social meet over coffee first.'
And don't worry about apologising for the non kissing thing, lots of people don't do it as they feel its too intimate.
You have obviously decided that you prefer one liners but I just felt it was a little stilted; I did like the Sydney line and really, it does say what you want and don't want. I couldn't work out where Warrington couple were coming from though as it covers what you are and are not looking for |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you all for you feedback.
Shyanddemure, your points are fair and i agree the txt is a little robotic.
Will do a further bit of editing to include a bit of about us.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you all for you feedback.
Shyanddemure, your points are fair and i agree the txt is a little robotic.
Will do a further bit of editing to include a bit of about us.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP - although we don't fit the profile you are looking for, I have to be honest and say I doubt I would contact you based on how your profile reads if we were. It's the 'check-list' nature which I find off-putting and I get no feeling of any warmth about you as a result. Okay, you are entitled to your own preferences but, those aside, I do think you need to take a step back and look at how you are presenting yourselves to others. Even I had a feeling that I would be treated a bit like a sexual commodity from the feeling I get having read it.
Just my observations, and you always have to remember the rule in advertising - "if you don't 'get it', it ain't aimed at you"....
Good luck though..
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP - although we don't fit the profile you are looking for, I have to be honest and say I doubt I would contact you based on how your profile reads if we were. It's the 'check-list' nature which I find off-putting and I get no feeling of any warmth about you as a result. Okay, you are entitled to your own preferences but, those aside, I do think you need to take a step back and look at how you are presenting yourselves to others. Even I had a feeling that I would be treated a bit like a sexual commodity from the feeling I get having read it.
Just my observations, and you always have to remember the rule in advertising - "if you don't 'get it', it ain't aimed at you"....
Good luck though..
ted."
Cheers guys, ya we get that it does seem a bit robotic or bland and will do a bittuva an editing on it later.
Thanks for your constructive feedback |
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