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I know this is a silly subject to bring up on a swingers site but here it goes, i splilt up with My ex girlfriend to get with a girl i met on a night out with a friend 4 years ago, things seemed really stale with my then girlfriend so i thought id give this new girl a try, i was 26 at the time, and caused her a lot of hurt, i never stopped thinking about her and now im single i saw her last week whilst driving and im now thinking of contacting her, is it best to let sleeping dogs lie, or test the water with her? |
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over a year ago
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I just churned this over in my mind quite frantically.
There are many reasons for and against but I think ultimately is boils down to the fact that you left her for someone else.
Doe she really deserve any more heartache from you? |
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Maybe your right mate, to be honest when i broke up with her i was young and stupid, plus i had a few issues at the time, im pretty sure she is still single and if i got back with her id make sure id never hurt her again |
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"Maybe your right mate, to be honest when i broke up with her i was young and stupid, plus i had a few issues at the time, im pretty sure she is still single and if i got back with her id make sure id never hurt her again"
Well if you really mean it give it a try, but if she says no, I wouldn't pursue it out of respect to her. |
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U need to ask urself why it ended in the first place? And even though u may have had issues at the time and being young ... What makes u think it won't happen again! Personally I would never go back... But its totally up to u x |
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Nothing ventured nothing gained. Ask her out for a coffee. If she agrees let her take the lead and go at her pace.
If she agrees be prepared for alot of anger against you from her family and friends. It was them that had to pick up the pieces when you left her.
Best of luck |
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"Nothing ventured nothing gained. Ask her out for a coffee. If she agrees let her take the lead and go at her pace.
If she agrees be prepared for alot of anger against you from her family and friends. It was them that had to pick up the pieces when you left her.
I know, her mum was never to keen on me anyway, for all i know she could well tell me to clear off, but il never know if i dont test the water
Best of luck"
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So since you dumped her have you often thought about getting back with her? Or is it just now you are single that getting back with her seems a good idea? |
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"So since you dumped her have you often thought about getting back with her? Or is it just now you are single that getting back with her seems a good idea?"
Yeah i always thought about her, but at the time id been with her for 3 years and was under pressure to take the next step, i think i wasnt ready at the time
And was looking for a way out |
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"So since you dumped her have you often thought about getting back with her? Or is it just now you are single that getting back with her seems a good idea?
Yeah i always thought about her, but at the time id been with her for 3 years and was under pressure to take the next step, i think i wasnt ready at the time
And was looking for a way out"
Maybe I'm wrong but you seem to think she will just go back with you as if nothing happened: she's probably still mad at you or simply doesn't care about you anymore...
Why not just sending her a message like "hey, I saw you recently and I tought I'd take some news" and then go with the flow!
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"So since you dumped her have you often thought about getting back with her? Or is it just now you are single that getting back with her seems a good idea?
Yeah i always thought about her, but at the time id been with her for 3 years and was under pressure to take the next step, i think i wasnt ready at the time
And was looking for a way out
Good shout mate, your right as shes hardly gonna be friendly with me
Maybe I'm wrong but you seem to think she will just go back with you as if nothing happened: she's probably still mad at you or simply doesn't care about you anymore...
Why not just sending her a message like "hey, I saw you recently and I tought I'd take some news" and then go with the flow!
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lol! your going to try and get back with a woman that you dumped so you could ride someone else.
Good luck, your going to need it and learn to sleep with one open if you do get back together |
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You never know... sometimes you can forgive (to the condition that the other doesn't fuck up again, but that's another story!)
If you really miss her, have changed and are ready to make efforts to be nicer with her, get in touch with her and see what happens (might become friends at least)... If you don't, just go your own way and leave her alone!
It's just my advice but I think it's the best for the both of you! |
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Yes u could say she's an ex for a reason and I'm much a believer in that if u can leave for someone else(whether or not cheating involved) in ur head she wasn't right for u. Think why is it ur thinking if her? If its answers like ur bored/singke/curious back away. If its genuinely u have feelings for her and she's not just a space filler then contact her. She may feel the same but prepare urself for both response. Hope things work out for u xx |
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"I know this is a silly subject to bring up on a swingers site but here it goes, i splilt up with My ex girlfriend to get with a girl i met on a night out with a friend 4 years ago, things seemed really stale with my then girlfriend so i thought id give this new girl a try, i was 26 at the time, and caused her a lot of hurt, i never stopped thinking about her and now im single i saw her last week whilst driving and im now thinking of contacting her, is it best to let sleeping dogs lie, or test the water with her?"
your dead a long time mate, test the water and if you get a drop dead you sh.t at least youll know where you stand.
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"Maybe your right mate, to be honest when i broke up with her i was young and stupid, plus i had a few issues at the time, im pretty sure she is still single and if i got back with her id make sure id never hurt her again"
The thing is, you can't promise that! People change and feelings change so there are no guarantees in life.
You "got bored" of her once, so what's to stop it happening again?
And are you sure that right now it's not just a case of keeping her on the back burner as pursuing the other girl didn't work out? Because that's how I'd feel.
She's your ex for a reason, I'd leave it as that.
- Amy. x |
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"I know this is a silly subject to bring up on a swingers site but here it goes, i splilt up with My ex girlfriend to get with a girl i met on a night out with a friend 4 years ago, things seemed really stale with my then girlfriend so i thought id give this new girl a try, i was 26 at the time, and caused her a lot of hurt, i never stopped thinking about her and now im single i saw her last week whilst driving and im now thinking of contacting her, is it best to let sleeping dogs lie, or test the water with her?"
You found her stale and the first chance you got you went sniffing elsewhere. Now you're single and bored you want to inflict yourself on your ex.
Not looking stale now you're on your jack. Hopefully she's moved on. Leave her alone and go trawl your selfish arse elsewhere!  |
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Did she know you dumped her in favour of someone else? Because women don't like that you know. At a guess I'd say (assuming she did know) that she either hates you or has totally gotten over you, 4 years is a long time. |
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"I know this is a silly subject to bring up on a swingers site but here it goes, i splilt up with My ex girlfriend to get with a girl i met on a night out with a friend 4 years ago, things seemed really stale with my then girlfriend so i thought id give this new girl a try, i was 26 at the time, and caused her a lot of hurt, i never stopped thinking about her and now im single i saw her last week whilst driving and im now thinking of contacting her, is it best to let sleeping dogs lie, or test the water with her?"
so it happened 4 years ago..you caused her alot of hurt...yet never stopped thinking about her????
so done your thing for 4 years and now back to her?? why now????
surely if u didnt stop thinking about her you would of done something sooner?? and what happened to the girl you went off with??? |
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"Maybe your right mate, to be honest when i broke up with her i was young and stupid, plus i had a few issues at the time, im pretty sure she is still single and if i got back with her id make sure id never hurt her again"
Mate u r on swingers site and as u r single u on here 4 what ?
Am gonna guess sex , u r like me my friend a filthy bastard and I think always liable 2 cheat , if u really like / love your ex let it go u finished her 4 some1 else and the reason u left her was cause more than likely the other girl was either fitter or dirter
Enjoy your weekend |
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