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Hiya,
I've just mad this thread for a bit of a whinge really!
It's just that, I get chatting with a woman, she seems cool... We get on fine, maybe she's local too. we send photos, etc. After a few days chatting, we discuss the possibility of meeting. Everything going great.
Then, all of a sudden: "user is no longer on the site". Grrrrrr.
Why do women just disappear?!? It's happened to me so many times. It's ridiculous!
The other thing I get is where you chat in watsapp and then they just get disconnected or start to ignore you after a few weeks even though you didn't say anything wrong. LOL.
Whinge over!  |
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Lol. I've thought that myself but why would some guy want to make a fake profile like that? Isn't it a waste of time? Lol.
What is the benefit? Its just a complete waste of time!
If they are men though, they are very convincing.
I just don't get it. If I'm a man, looking to meet women, why would I make a woman profile and start chatting to men?!?! Lol.
Any guy who can do that seriously needs to get a life! Haha! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Count your blessings, it's better they go before the meet, "user is no longer on the site" is far better than those who disappear mid shag, user no longer on cock is very frustrating  |
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Or maybe they grow impatient and go away in the belief that you are just wanting to chat rather than meet ?
"Women" who are actually men does seem to be a problem, but there are also a lot of (genuine) women who want a bit of a naughty chat but don't want to meet. They don't get the chat if they openly state that they only want to chat, because it's simply not what most men want. They get what they want (naughty chat) for a while and then move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Some men just disappear too by the way. Happened to me a few weeks ago. Was due to meet following day and he disappeared the night before. Being a sensitive soul I assumed it had something to do with me then after thinking back and pondering I've come to the conclusion that he was probably married/attached and couldn't go through with it! |
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"Or maybe they grow impatient and go away in the belief that you are just wanting to chat rather than meet ?
"Women" who are actually men does seem to be a problem, but there are also a lot of (genuine) women who want a bit of a naughty chat but don't want to meet. They don't get the chat if they openly state that they only want to chat, because it's simply not what most men want. They get what they want (naughty chat) for a while and then move on."
That's a good point. There has been a woman in the past who was open about this and I stopped chatting because I thought it was a waste of time. I think a lot of women just like the attention and nothing more. Which is totally up to them ofcourse.
They like the chatting and attention but dont want to meet. I think this probably is the cause of most of the frustrations I have on here. |
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"Some men just disappear too by the way. Happened to me a few weeks ago. Was due to meet following day and he disappeared the night before. Being a sensitive soul I assumed it had something to do with me then after thinking back and pondering I've come to the conclusion that he was probably married/attached and couldn't go through with it! "
Yeah, i can believe it hun! Probably caught on fab by his gf! Had to come off it! LOL |
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"or maybe they just run for the hills when you send a pic ?  "
Well I generally get good feedback on ky pics so I don't think its that.
I think maybe also, women feel sexy, have a bit of a chat and look on fab, then feel guilty and delete their profile? Something like that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If they want sexy chat with men, why don't they set up a normal male profile, add photos, etc and chat with gay men?!?! Lol.
Idiots ruin this site... It's a shame.
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Cos there is a lot of gay guys who like the thrill of being with straight guys. Just one of those fantasy things.
I don't see it as ruins the site, its just part of the site. Don't let it get to you.
You just have to learn to sniff out the fakes |
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"or maybe they just run for the hills when you send a pic ?
Well I generally get good feedback on ky pics so I don't think its that.
I think maybe also, women feel sexy, have a bit of a chat and look on fab, then feel guilty and delete their profile? Something like that?"
It could be that too. Who knows we've had it happen with men too, even went so far as meeting a guy for a drink then he deleted his profile lol.......I didn't think we were that bad |
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"Hiya,
I've just mad this thread for a bit of a whinge really!
It's just that, I get chatting with a woman, she seems cool... We get on fine, maybe she's local too. we send photos, etc. After a few days chatting, we discuss the possibility of meeting. Everything going great.
Then, all of a sudden: "user is no longer on the site". Grrrrrr.
Why do women just disappear?!? It's happened to me so many times. It's ridiculous!
The other thing I get is where you chat in watsapp and then they just get disconnected or start to ignore you after a few weeks even though you didn't say anything wrong. LOL.
Whinge over! "
women eh |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hiya,
I've just mad this thread for a bit of a whinge really!
It's just that, I get chatting with a woman, she seems cool... We get on fine, maybe she's local too. we send photos, etc. After a few days chatting, we discuss the possibility of meeting. Everything going great.
Then, all of a sudden: "user is no longer on the site". Grrrrrr.
Why do women just disappear?!? It's happened to me so many times. It's ridiculous!
The other thing I get is where you chat in watsapp and then they just get disconnected or start to ignore you after a few weeks even though you didn't say anything wrong. LOL.
Whinge over!
women eh "
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"I find that men are also guilty of deleting their accounts mid-conversation. It's not just the ladies."
I wouldn't know hun. I can imagine that is probably the case though.
Though it is odd because if a guy is doing well, he should follow it through because finding a suitable woman is quite a task. There are very few single women on here in comparison to men.
Any guys doing that are just complete time wasters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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This is why i don't really speak to or reply to anybody unless they have been verified genuine and have at least 1 verification by meet.
That way i know i have a better chance of a meet if they do reply |
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"Hiya,
I've just mad this thread for a bit of a whinge really!
It's just that, I get chatting with a woman, she seems cool... We get on fine, maybe she's local too. we send photos, etc. After a few days chatting, we discuss the possibility of meeting. Everything going great.
Then, all of a sudden: "user is no longer on the site". Grrrrrr.
Why do women just disappear?!? It's happened to me so many times. It's ridiculous!
The other thing I get is where you chat in watsapp and then they just get disconnected or start to ignore you after a few weeks even though you didn't say anything wrong. LOL.
Whinge over!
women eh "
Hahaha!! Yes... Women.. lol. I still love you ladies though. |
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"I had one last night. Was going to meet and when I looked at his last message in order to reply - 'user no longer on site'.
I suspect he was married."
Now that is infuriating. What a waste of time. Why even bother sending you a message in the first place if he can't meet? |
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"This is why i don't really speak to or reply to anybody unless they have been verified genuine and have at least 1 verification by meet.
That way i know i have a better chance of a meet if they do reply "
I'll be doing the same from now on I think! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think for women aswell as men, it can be seen as a bit of an ego boost being on here. People fab your pictures and want to chat and meet, so if you're not feeling very confident or attractive it can give you a bit of a boost! I know thats not the right way to be using the site but i think there's an element of playing out the fantasy on here, and when it comes down to it..the fantasy seems a safer and better option..hence the eventual deleted profile. If i'm being honest, i'm not full of self confidence, so its nice to get fabs of my pics....I just don't seem to get messages or invites to meet...lol  |
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"Hiya,
I've just mad this thread for a bit of a whinge really!
It's just that, I get chatting with a woman, she seems cool... We get on fine, maybe she's local too. we send photos, etc. After a few days chatting, we discuss the possibility of meeting. Everything going great.
Then, all of a sudden: "user is no longer on the site". Grrrrrr.
Why do women just disappear?!? It's happened to me so many times. It's ridiculous!
The other thing I get is where you chat in watsapp and then they just get disconnected or start to ignore you after a few weeks even though you didn't say anything wrong. LOL.
Whinge over! "
Not just women who disappear, men and women disappear.... X |
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"I think for women aswell as men, it can be seen as a bit of an ego boost being on here. People fab your pictures and want to chat and meet, so if you're not feeling very confident or attractive it can give you a bit of a boost! I know thats not the right way to be using the site but i think there's an element of playing out the fantasy on here, and when it comes down to it..the fantasy seems a safer and better option..hence the eventual deleted profile. If i'm being honest, i'm not full of self confidence, so its nice to get fabs of my pics....I just don't seem to get messages or invites to meet...lol "
Me too from both F and M feeling real paranoid lol |
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"I think for women aswell as men, it can be seen as a bit of an ego boost being on here. People fab your pictures and want to chat and meet, so if you're not feeling very confident or attractive it can give you a bit of a boost! I know thats not the right way to be using the site but i think there's an element of playing out the fantasy on here, and when it comes down to it..the fantasy seems a safer and better option..hence the eventual deleted profile. If i'm being honest, i'm not full of self confidence, so its nice to get fabs of my pics....I just don't seem to get messages or invites to meet...lol
Me too from both F and M feeling real paranoid lol "
You've got sum nice pics, so i don't see why not! Your profile heading does say only girls tho, and no men...so that may be why you're not getting any invites from men! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"its fake as man ,u sure chatroom cam see real woman its ok"
Good idea however even if it's a real woman she might not be serious at all thus wasting your time.
Fool proof way is to only speak to people with at least 1 verification by meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Women "disappear" all the time. And "women" disappear all the time. There are a lot of defaulters on the site. Its a shame, as it wastes everyone's time. A good approach is to exchange a couple of messages, then if it seems to be going well, ask for a mobile number and email address. "Disappear -ees" tend to occur then  but at least you've qualified them out, without wasting any more time. Also, this is a swinging site ... so if you get the impression that in your messaging its seeming to be becoming a "Dating Agency" scenario ... again your time is being wasted. Swinging sites are about arranging meets, pure and simple. Anything else isn't real. Best of luck. |
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"I think for women aswell as men, it can be seen as a bit of an ego boost being on here. People fab your pictures and want to chat and meet, so if you're not feeling very confident or attractive it can give you a bit of a boost! I know thats not the right way to be using the site but i think there's an element of playing out the fantasy on here, and when it comes down to it..the fantasy seems a safer and better option..hence the eventual deleted profile. If i'm being honest, i'm not full of self confidence, so its nice to get fabs of my pics....I just don't seem to get messages or invites to meet...lol "
That's very true. I'm far more confident as a person now, mainly due to being told that I'm 'attractive'. I do like to carry out what I say though. I'd never tell someone I'd meet when I have no intentions of doing so.
Don't worry about the invites, etc. All of us guys out number women by s silly number. Were all in the same boat. To get invites, you have to be sociable then you get them. From experience, men are expected to do all or majority of the leg work. Women seem to prefer the man to guess what they're thinking and just arrange it! It's hard.
Tell me of I'm wrong ladies. Lol |
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"I think for women aswell as men, it can be seen as a bit of an ego boost being on here. People fab your pictures and want to chat and meet, so if you're not feeling very confident or attractive it can give you a bit of a boost! I know thats not the right way to be using the site but i think there's an element of playing out the fantasy on here, and when it comes down to it..the fantasy seems a safer and better option..hence the eventual deleted profile. If i'm being honest, i'm not full of self confidence, so its nice to get fabs of my pics....I just don't seem to get messages or invites to meet...lol
That's very true. I'm far more confident as a person now, mainly due to being told that I'm 'attractive'. I do like to carry out what I say though. I'd never tell someone I'd meet when I have no intentions of doing so.
Don't worry about the invites, etc. All of us guys out number women by s silly number. Were all in the same boat. To get invites, you have to be sociable then you get them. From experience, men are expected to do all or majority of the leg work. Women seem to prefer the man to guess what they're thinking and just arrange it! It's hard.
Tell me of I'm wrong ladies. Lol"
Its nice to know i'm not the only one! lol. Its a lot easier to 'get meets' if you go to a club i think, as people can see the whole you, and get a good impression of what you're like. I've had my confidence boosted by visiting the odd club, and its a lot easier to meet people than trawling through all the profiles on here and sending messages that a lot of the time don't get replied too. |
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"I think for women aswell as men, it can be seen as a bit of an ego boost being on here. People fab your pictures and want to chat and meet, so if you're not feeling very confident or attractive it can give you a bit of a boost! I know thats not the right way to be using the site but i think there's an element of playing out the fantasy on here, and when it comes down to it..the fantasy seems a safer and better option..hence the eventual deleted profile. If i'm being honest, i'm not full of self confidence, so its nice to get fabs of my pics....I just don't seem to get messages or invites to meet...lol
That's very true. I'm far more confident as a person now, mainly due to being told that I'm 'attractive'. I do like to carry out what I say though. I'd never tell someone I'd meet when I have no intentions of doing so.
Don't worry about the invites, etc. All of us guys out number women by s silly number. Were all in the same boat. To get invites, you have to be sociable then you get them. From experience, men are expected to do all or majority of the leg work. Women seem to prefer the man to guess what they're thinking and just arrange it! It's hard.
Tell me of I'm wrong ladies. Lol
Its nice to know i'm not the only one! lol. Its a lot easier to 'get meets' if you go to a club i think, as people can see the whole you, and get a good impression of what you're like. I've had my confidence boosted by visiting the odd club, and its a lot easier to meet people than trawling through all the profiles on here and sending messages that a lot of the time don't get replied too. "
Yeah, well, don't get me wrong. Ive had a lot of meets from here. I've never been to a club though. To get meets from here, you have to befriend the women first. I've never met a woman who just wants sex like us guys do. With the messages, you just try to be friends first then let it develop without forcing the issue. That's how I do it anyway.
Ive got a set way of doing it. If you want to know more, message me and ill share my secrets. Lol |
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"I had one last night. Was going to meet and when I looked at his last message in order to reply - 'user no longer on site'.
I suspect he was married.
Now that is infuriating. What a waste of time. Why even bother sending you a message in the first place if he can't meet?"
Perhaps he needed a confidence boost - the idea that he can still pull? |
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"I had one last night. Was going to meet and when I looked at his last message in order to reply - 'user no longer on site'.
I suspect he was married.
Now that is infuriating. What a waste of time. Why even bother sending you a message in the first place if he can't meet?
Perhaps he needed a confidence boost - the idea that he can still pull?"
I agree with this |
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"I think for women aswell as men, it can be seen as a bit of an ego boost being on here. People fab your pictures and want to chat and meet, so if you're not feeling very confident or attractive it can give you a bit of a boost! I know thats not the right way to be using the site but i think there's an element of playing out the fantasy on here, and when it comes down to it..the fantasy seems a safer and better option..hence the eventual deleted profile. If i'm being honest, i'm not full of self confidence, so its nice to get fabs of my pics....I just don't seem to get messages or invites to meet...lol
That's very true. I'm far more confident as a person now, mainly due to being told that I'm 'attractive'. I do like to carry out what I say though. I'd never tell someone I'd meet when I have no intentions of doing so.
Don't worry about the invites, etc. All of us guys out number women by s silly number. Were all in the same boat. To get invites, you have to be sociable then you get them. From experience, men are expected to do all or majority of the leg work. Women seem to prefer the man to guess what they're thinking and just arrange it! It's hard.
Tell me of I'm wrong ladies. Lol
Its nice to know i'm not the only one! lol. Its a lot easier to 'get meets' if you go to a club i think, as people can see the whole you, and get a good impression of what you're like. I've had my confidence boosted by visiting the odd club, and its a lot easier to meet people than trawling through all the profiles on here and sending messages that a lot of the time don't get replied too.
Yeah, well, don't get me wrong. Ive had a lot of meets from here. I've never been to a club though. To get meets from here, you have to befriend the women first. I've never met a woman who just wants sex like us guys do. With the messages, you just try to be friends first then let it develop without forcing the issue. That's how I do it anyway.
Ive got a set way of doing it. If you want to know more, message me and ill share my secrets. Lol"
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"I think for women aswell as men, it can be seen as a bit of an ego boost being on here. People fab your pictures and want to chat and meet, so if you're not feeling very confident or attractive it can give you a bit of a boost! I know thats not the right way to be using the site but i think there's an element of playing out the fantasy on here, and when it comes down to it..the fantasy seems a safer and better option..hence the eventual deleted profile. If i'm being honest, i'm not full of self confidence, so its nice to get fabs of my pics....I just don't seem to get messages or invites to meet...lol
Me too from both F and M feeling real paranoid lol
You've got sum nice pics, so i don't see why not! Your profile heading does say only girls tho, and no men...so that may be why you're not getting any invites from men! "
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"I think for women aswell as men, it can be seen as a bit of an ego boost being on here. People fab your pictures and want to chat and meet, so if you're not feeling very confident or attractive it can give you a bit of a boost! I know thats not the right way to be using the site but i think there's an element of playing out the fantasy on here, and when it comes down to it..the fantasy seems a safer and better option..hence the eventual deleted profile. If i'm being honest, i'm not full of self confidence, so its nice to get fabs of my pics....I just don't seem to get messages or invites to meet...lol
Me too from both F and M feeling real paranoid lol
You've got sum nice pics, so i don't see why not! Your profile heading does say only girls tho, and no men...so that may be why you're not getting any invites from men!
Have couples profile too "
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"I think there are a lot of people that like the idea of swinging but poop their pants with fear when it comes to meeting someone sexually confident. "
Hmm, this is true also. No need to disappear though. Why not just say "I'm nervous.". Lol |
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