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Too many verifications?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I know that many folk on here (most) will not meet or even chat to people WITHOUT verificatios. Understandable as so many fakes on here.

Anyone else been told they have too many?

I think it's only polite to display veri's you have been sent. Not to do so is like denying you met as though ashamed.

Some of mine are from party guests as I hold a fair few of these. Some are repeats. (Fair enough - some folk have left the site since so I'm probably 20+ down on real number).

Can you have too many? Is it right for people who are on a site to look for casual sex to judge you for being successful in doing this?

Ideas and comments??

Thanks

Chris xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

personally those with the 'too many' judgement can fuck off...simple..

most lack the will to actually read..and I think by some of their readings I've actually shagged everyone I've met on the site..that includes the men,TV/TS

anyway...even if I have...they can still fuck off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Honestly it comes up a lot.

People will be put off by too many veri's.

I'm not sure if it's the bed post notch thing or puts out anywhere or what it is.

I dont think not showing veri's means you are ashamed of meeting with someone

My life is my own and who I meet with is my business.

I will show those veri's I want, when I want.

If I go to a club and play there, I might add them as a friend on here, however, I wont ask for nor do a veri

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Honestly it comes up a lot.

People will be put off by too many veri's.

I'm not sure if it's the bed post notch thing or puts out anywhere or what it is.

I dont think not showing veri's means you are ashamed of meeting with someone

My life is my own and who I meet with is my business.

I will show those veri's I want, when I want.

If I go to a club and play there, I might add them as a friend on here, however, I wont ask for nor do a veri

Same here at clubs etc. Don't always get people's names anyway (omg that siunds shallow..... I do always verify back tho if they send one first)

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman over a year ago

Deviant City

I've been told I have too many veri's, yet most of my are social ones.....and I don't think I've that many compared to some! Can't please everyone

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By *opping_candyWoman over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I don't think you have 'too many', I looked at the dates on some and if you had 4 veris from different people in one day from individual meets that might seem excessive (though I'd think you'd had a damn good time!) but it's pretty obvious that many of your same or close date veris are from parties. If people can't take the time to read what is there, instead of just looking at the overall number, then as keenfuck says above, fuck 'em.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I sometimes get told I've been about a bit.. but as a greedy girl and regular club goer I'm going to get lots.

I don't care what others think x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its not the amount of verifications that would be an issue for me but type of them can sometimes be offputting on a profile

Ps...not in anyway ashamed of my own,the people that gave them know that,I just don't feel any need to have them on display

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We always think about removing some of our veri's but then we are on a swingers site you would of thought people on here wouldn't be the sort of people to judge on how many there are but instead want to add to it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Some sensible comments. Thanks folks for restoring my faith that there are actually sane people on here.

It doesn't take that long to scan veris and see that I'm not really a greedy boy. (Not much anyway....)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's a plse yaself wot u do folks situation innit

I'd rather meet someone who had a few VERIs than none. Then again I'm not sure I'd meet someone wiv 100 VERIs posted cos altho I may assume peeps have had sex wiv lots of folk I don't necessarily wanna know that - double standards I agree b4 anyone shoots me down!

Then again how many VERIs is TOO many - its all subjective innit.

If peeps wanna post ALL their meets that's their prerogative - n sum may only b 'socials '

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Were proud to of met some great peeps on here so we show verys simple as that weve bin on scene for 4 years and had some excelent fun and if our chosen play / meet partners want others to know what were like so be it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We always think about removing some of our veri's but then we are on a swingers site you would of thought people on here wouldn't be the sort of people to judge on how many there are but instead want to add to it

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here here xxxxxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not sure how it's possible to have too many veris on a swinging site!

Don't forget that someone could have 100 veris but only display 5.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know that many folk on here (most) will not meet or even chat to people WITHOUT verificatios. Understandable as so many fakes on here.

Anyone else been told they have too many?

I think it's only polite to display veri's you have been sent. Not to do so is like denying you met as though ashamed.

Some of mine are from party guests as I hold a fair few of these. Some are repeats. (Fair enough - some folk have left the site since so I'm probably 20+ down on real number).

Can you have too many? Is it right for people who are on a site to look for casual sex to judge you for being successful in doing this?

Ideas and comments??

Thanks

Chris xx"

If anyone bothers to actually read through your profile they will see that you host parties on a regular basis. Considering that there's usually at least half a dozen at any party I've been to I wouldn't call the amount you've met over almost two years excessive.

I don't mind people who think I have too many veris or meet too often voicing their opinions so long as they do it in the correct manner. That is by heading out their front door, locating my complaints department (recognisable as the nearest brick wall) and airing their grievances therein.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have 836 verifications. Every time I try and show some it crashes my profile because I have so many. So I just have to keep them all hidden.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I know that many folk on here (most) will not meet or even chat to people WITHOUT verificatios. Understandable as so many fakes on here.

Anyone else been told they have too many?

I think it's only polite to display veri's you have been sent. Not to do so is like denying you met as though ashamed.

Some of mine are from party guests as I hold a fair few of these. Some are repeats. (Fair enough - some folk have left the site since so I'm probably 20+ down on real number).

Can you have too many? Is it right for people who are on a site to look for casual sex to judge you for being successful in doing this?

Ideas and comments??

Thanks

Chris xx"

It's not right to judge but we all do it. You've just said it's not polite to hide verifications. That's a judgement in itself. I'm not ashamed of the people I've met, I just put more emphasis on privacy and discretion.

I don't think it's rude not to show them, mine are hidden because who I meet isn't your business, it's mine. Verification appears to be a must for most people. It's not for me. I'm happy to rely on my own instincts and not need to read references from other people. It's a bit like a film review... I'll decide whether I like a movie. I don't need someone else to do that for me.

My view on you showing your verifications is simply that it's your profile to show whatever you like. It's personal choice. Some will love reading about your sexual experiences, others won't. Some will accept that you're genuine simply by the little green tick that shows someone has verified that you're real. Some won't care if you don't have that little green tick and meet anyway because they rely on their own judgement.

It is indeed each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have 836 verifications. Every time I try and show some it crashes my profile because I have so many. So I just have to keep them all hidden."

Seeing that you only been on here a year, that's nearly three a day....wow!!!! How comes we haven't met lol!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

why is it judging someone? i click off those with alot of veris and it shows we arent here for the same thing..

im not here get meet after meet and so look for someone simular..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Number of visible veri's + number of hidden veri's + those you've lost due to people leaving the site, divided by number of years on site - months you hid your profile due to a stalker/dog dying x do you just meet for fun or socials too - multiple veri's from the same people + coffee meet veri's - webcam veri's cause after all they mean sod all + really old phone veri's for those that have been around since day on = who really cares what anyone else thinks!!!!

People leave/post/hide veri's for their own reasons - and if that attracts you or puts you off - so be it!!

Like all things 'Fab ' - it's personal preference!

Horses for courses!!

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By *inktherapyCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

I've varied between showing all/ none/ some of our veris. I currently show some, mainly recent ones. What people do is their own business and you can be judged for whatever you do - so do what is right for you

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By *--Cinders---Couple over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

Yes been told I have to many, some women wont meet guys who have met me and some guys wont meet cos of my list of veri's but at end of the day am happy to show them..i have met some lovely people on here and had some fantastic fun and for me its a confidence thing. I wont be swinging for much longer, age is against me but while I still can I will. We are all here for the same thing, just different reasons..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Interesting thread topic. I never list the profile names of either Friends or Verifiers, and prefer it if my name is never listed too by them. Its really to protect people I like from being approached en-masse, as many on here seem to use those sources as "shotgun" mailing lists. I prefer to be approached by members who are finding me through the Browse capability, just as I research members in whom I'm interested via Browse. Just a personal preference, thats all. And a feeling that with my relationships, it was down to effort on my part.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can't please all of the people all of the time so just please yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You can't please all of the people all of the time so just please yourself. "

totally

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know that many folk on here (most) will not meet or even chat to people WITHOUT verificatios. Understandable as so many fakes on here.

Anyone else been told they have too many?

I think it's only polite to display veri's you have been sent. Not to do so is like denying you met as though ashamed.

Some of mine are from party guests as I hold a fair few of these. Some are repeats. (Fair enough - some folk have left the site since so I'm probably 20+ down on real number).

Can you have too many? Is it right for people who are on a site to look for casual sex to judge you for being successful in doing this?

Ideas and comments??

Thanks

Chris xx"

a few nice social ones are good I dont show explicit veris just social ones nowadays have fun tc Cat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Showing verifications is just further proof you enjoyed someone's company and that the respect still exists well after the fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *B9 QueenWoman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

That's how I feel? Surely the essence of swinging is tolerance?

And I too think if people don't like either the quantity or quality of my veris they can fuck off.

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By * Jay69Man over a year ago

Bridgwater - Somerset

Age against you? Keep swinging girl - as long as it's fun!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We got told to busy once omg shouled read them most are from people we chatted to @ clubs partys etc x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know that many folk on here (most) will not meet or even chat to people WITHOUT verificatios. Understandable as so many fakes on here.

Anyone else been told they have too many?

I think it's only polite to display veri's you have been sent. Not to do so is like denying you met as though ashamed.

Some of mine are from party guests as I hold a fair few of these. Some are repeats. (Fair enough - some folk have left the site since so I'm probably 20+ down on real number).

Can you have too many? Is it right for people who are on a site to look for casual sex to judge you for being successful in doing this?

Ideas and comments??

Thanks

Chris xx"

The verification police

Remember a lot meet on here socially and sex doesn't even happen I've met many for a cuppa and met fellow forum friends with no sex in sight

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By *an and wifeyCouple over a year ago

n lincs

I think it's polite to verify some one on here if you have met and especially if you have had sexual entanglements and enjoyed so people can show you are real and if they also enjoyed thefun you had so other people can consider you as a real player. As for people that don't display veris then that is there choice. We don't have many but if some one veri's us that we have met and had fun with then we display. Think that all makes sense lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If someone told me I had too many verifications I wouldn't meet them, as they are obviously not on here for the same thing as me. I'll run my profile how I want.

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By *londeCazWoman over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"If someone told me I had too many verifications I wouldn't meet them, as they are obviously not on here for the same thing as me. I'll run my profile how I want."

Yep, me too. My latest ambition is to get over 100 verifications so those that think it's way too many have something to complain about. Next coupla socials I go to, I'm thinking of wearing a sign saying "Please verify me"...I may even offer sex for verifications!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Give up swinging, you must be kidding? You're 55 good lady, by today's average you have nigh on 30 years left to live!

What says you have to chuck it all in so early anyway? I plan on making my seventies one of the most sexually delightful decades of my life, as I can then throw working 75 hours a week in the bin and I'll have an ocean of free time! When Im not hefting weights, running 10ks or preparing the perfectly nutritionally balanced meals that throws my body clock firmly into reverse, I'll be scoffing viagra like smarties and having sex round the clock if I so wish!

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"If someone told me I had too many verifications I wouldn't meet them, as they are obviously not on here for the same thing as me. I'll run my profile how I want.

Oh man, I passed 100 a while ago.

. I am such a tart!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If someone told me I had too many verifications I wouldn't meet them, as they are obviously not on here for the same thing as me. I'll run my profile how I want.

Oh man, I passed 100 a while ago.

. I am such a tart!"

Apple or blueberry?

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"If someone told me I had too many verifications I wouldn't meet them, as they are obviously not on here for the same thing as me. I'll run my profile how I want.

Oh man, I passed 100 a while ago.

. I am such a tart!

Apple or blueberry?

Cherry.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's how I feel? Surely the essence of swinging is tolerance?

And I too think if people don't like either the quantity or quality of my veris they can fuck off.

Lol the amount of veri's on a profile doesn't bother us. We always think life is for living and having fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It shouldnt really matter how few/many veris you have. Some will be from webcam and some from meets... Some ppl socialise, and enjoy the club scene so going to get verified by lots. Its the context of the said words about aperson that matters, If i read profile thats gives running commentaries of their sexual details on every veri laft, i dont bother with them.

A veri for me should include, they were genuine, a little desscription of the person, appearence, personality and how well the meet went, If you enjoyed the persons company and how they treated you. To me thats a good all rounder and much prefer to read them...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It shouldnt really matter how few/many veris you have. Some will be from webcam and some from meets... Some ppl socialise, and enjoy the club scene so going to get verified by lots. Its the context of the said words about aperson that matters, If i read profile thats gives running commentaries of their sexual details on every veri laft, i dont bother with them.

But it's other people that leave veri's, not the person whose profile you're looking at. So a bit unfair to dismiss a person because they met someone that gives a very detailed veri?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If someone told me I had too many verifications I wouldn't meet them, as they are obviously not on here for the same thing as me. I'll run my profile how I want.

Bloody hell can't believe I missed out on that offer!

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By *londeCazWoman over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"If someone told me I had too many verifications I wouldn't meet them, as they are obviously not on here for the same thing as me. I'll run my profile how I want.

Bloody hell can't believe I missed out on that offer!

I'll get you next time

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By *londeCazWoman over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"If someone told me I had too many verifications I wouldn't meet them, as they are obviously not on here for the same thing as me. I'll run my profile how I want.

Oh man, I passed 100 a while ago.

. I am such a tart!"

My hero

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If someone told me I had too many verifications I wouldn't meet them, as they are obviously not on here for the same thing as me. I'll run my profile how I want.

Oh man, I passed 100 a while ago.

. I am such a tart!"

High 5 to that lady!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think if peope think we have to many they can get lost .we put our veries up and are who we are .poppyxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If someone told me I had too many verifications I wouldn't meet them, as they are obviously not on here for the same thing as me. I'll run my profile how I want.

for verifications!!!

Oh man, I passed 100 a while ago.

. I am such a tart!

High 5 to that lady!!!

"
i am over 100 aiming for two hundred now .let them moan about that .wicked chuckle .poppyxx

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By *thwalescplCouple over a year ago

brecon

How many is "too many"?

We have a lot compared to some, would have a few more if verifs from those that have left remained.

Does this mean people will pass us by?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But it's other people that leave veri's, not the person whose profile you're looking at. So a bit unfair to dismiss a person because they met someone that gives a very detailed veri?"

Hence why I go check out the veri they left for said person...

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By *ombshellWoman over a year ago

islington

how many is too many ! i have 247 ...lol but then again i have been here 7 years ....

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"how many is too many ! i have 247 ...lol but then again i have been here 7 years ....

I am not worthy! I certainly hope to match that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know that many folk on here (most) will not meet or even chat to people WITHOUT verificatios. Understandable as so many fakes on here.

Anyone else been told they have too many?

I think it's only polite to display veri's you have been sent. Not to do so is like denying you met as though ashamed.

Some of mine are from party guests as I hold a fair few of these. Some are repeats. (Fair enough - some folk have left the site since so I'm probably 20+ down on real number).

Can you have too many? Is it right for people who are on a site to look for casual sex to judge you for being successful in doing this?

Ideas and comments??

Thanks

Chris xx"

No, I do not think there is such a thing as 'too many' but - and I have to say this about yours, Chris - people generally give scant regard to what their published veris say about them when others read them. The message (if there is one) which comes over about your own, OP, says to me 'here is a guy who needs to justify himself'. The number you have on show is not the issue - it's what they 'say', and what they 'say' to me is that you haven't gone back over them and asked yourself what image it gives someone reading your profile for the first time. The sheer number 'could' put some people off, but for me that's not the issue. So many are from people you have met at the same party/club. Why do you need to have more than one for each event? You were there, someone has given you a veri, you got the kudos that comes with it. Do you need to have, in one case, four from the same thing?

Personally, I would be looking to show only the veris which demonstrate that I have been active for a period of time (which you clearly have) and which say something 'special'/unique about ME.

I can well understand someone rejecting you due to the sheer number - because there are so many they probably scanned to the bottom of the list and thought 'Sod that!'. People do it, and you won't change that.

Think I would be looking to show the veris which spoke about ME, rather than the parties I held, unless your raison d'etre for being here is to promote your parties as your priority.

Just my thoughts, as you asked....

Ted

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Too many verifications turns me off! Not logical I know, because they mean a guy is genuine. But it's just a bit yucky thinking of him having been with so many women. That's how I feel, I can't help it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"how many is too many ! i have 247 ...lol but then again i have been here 7 years ....

A big high 5 to you too!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Too many verifications turns me off! Not logical I know, because they mean a guy is genuine. But it's just a bit yucky thinking of him having been with so many women. That's how I feel, I can't help it!"

But he could have 100 veris and only display 5

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

True. But I think someone who actually has that many, would probably be the sort of person who would want to display them not hide them. The inescapable fact for me is that graphic verifications turn me off, end of story. But I'm not really a swinger

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't display my verifications not for the fact I'm ashamed it because I've had ppl contact ppl I have met nd asking questions about me instead of just talking ta me nd finding out for themselves...

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"I know that many folk on here (most) will not meet or even chat to people WITHOUT verificatios. Understandable as so many fakes on here.

Anyone else been told they have too many?

I think it's only polite to display veri's you have been sent. Not to do so is like denying you met as though ashamed.

Some of mine are from party guests as I hold a fair few of these. Some are repeats. (Fair enough - some folk have left the site since so I'm probably 20+ down on real number).

Can you have too many? Is it right for people who are on a site to look for casual sex to judge you for being successful in doing this?

Ideas and comments??

Thanks

Chris xx"

Too many? No, shows the person meets if that's important for you to know. More than one from the same person? Off putting! Territory marking makes me nervous as I meet at my home and I don't want a deranged playmate stalking "her man" to my house thanks.

I avoid men with multiple verifications from women who want to "keep him to herself" like the plague!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Haha! Yes I've noticed a few of those too. But it makes me wonder whether we're all as enlightened and liberated as we like to think? I suspect that underneath, maybe very deeply buried, women are still looking for partners, and men are looking for sex. Discuss lol!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Haha! Yes I've noticed a few of those too. But it makes me wonder whether we're all as enlightened and liberated as we like to think? I suspect that underneath, maybe very deeply buried, women are still looking for partners, and men are looking for sex. Discuss lol!

Its quite possible. Primary instincts are hard to break after all. The same way I imagine many men who use dating sites are merely looking for sex.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

Not necessarily true, people are put off by different things that don't seem logical on a swingers site: I'm guilty too.

If someone has "bareback" in their user name for example I'm put off. I'll protect myself as best I can and treat all meets like they bareback, but won't meet those that state they do: silly, but there you go. I like to dress playmates in lingerie, but I'm put off by men sending me pictures of themselves in lingerie.

Nowt as queer as folk that's for sure!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes Bliss you're definitely right re dating sites. It's all a game really, even if we don't know we're playing it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I understand Miss. Maybe it's about being too blatant instead of subtle. I think??

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By *ILLY aka SirslagWoman over a year ago

Land of the Prince Bishops

think i may have a quarter of my veris on show prob they are the ones ive met with my fb/dom all the others that are hidden are a mixture of parties/cpls/single meets and it would be fair to assume theres a few but im not ashamed of any of them they are like my apprenticeship through fab lol they are hidden because they arnt relative to my present situation on here x

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By *ILLY aka SirslagWoman over a year ago

Land of the Prince Bishops

"Yes been told I have to many, some women wont meet guys who have met me and some guys wont meet cos of my list of veri's but at end of the day am happy to show them..i have met some lovely people on here and had some fantastic fun and for me its a confidence thing. I wont be swinging for much longer, age is against me but while I still can I will. We are all here for the same thing, just different reasons.."
had the same happen to me with a guy ive met a few times he was also meeting another fem but she wouldnt meet him anymore after she had read hed been seeing me hey ho her loss etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Number of visible veri's + number of hidden veri's + those you've lost due to people leaving the site, divided by number of years on site - months you hid your profile due to a stalker/dog dying x do you just meet for fun or socials too - multiple veri's from the same people + coffee meet veri's - webcam veri's cause after all they mean sod all + really old phone veri's for those that have been around since day on = who really cares what anyone else thinks!!!!

People leave/post/hide veri's for their own reasons - and if that attracts you or puts you off - so be it!!

Like all things 'Fab ' - it's personal preference!

Horses for courses!!

I don't look at the numbers...aside from not really being arsed all the things you've said here highlight why it would be pointless to. I have had far more veri's than I currently have, but people have left the site. I have met more than I have received veri's from and had repeat meets with a number of guys so the veri's shown are really only a snapshot of my swinging life. If someone deems them to be too many I dread to think what they'd feel about the real number!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thanks Spangle! Glad I'm not alone

It's a bit like the concept of slut as applied to women who've had a lot of sexual partners. Men don't always realise that some women can view them in the same way, though there's no word for it as far as I know. Apart from yeuck lol!

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By *igSuki81Man over a year ago

Retirement Village

"Thanks Spangle! Glad I'm not alone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks Spangle! Glad I'm not alone

It's a swingers site not a dating site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If someone told me I had too many verifications I wouldn't meet them, as they are obviously not on here for the same thing as me. I'll run my profile how I want."

ditto

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks Spangle! Glad I'm not alone

Some of us quite enjoy being sluts though...after all this isn't e-harmony

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Thanks Spangle! Glad I'm not alone

Some of us quite enjoy being sluts though...after all this isn't e-harmony

And some of us like male sluts. I'm on here to have sex after all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks Spangle! Glad I'm not alone

Some of us quite enjoy being sluts though...after all this isn't e-harmony

And some of us like male sluts. I'm on here to have sex after all."

That too...they're less clingy!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are we not here to have sex (Obviously not with those that have too much sex...sorry, I mean are seen to have too much sex)???

For the second time tonight I'm forced to enquire........wtf???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well, each to their own

But personally we agree with Tarina. Notches and bedposts come to mind when we see profiles with loads of verifications.

It just goes to show that it takes all sorts to make a world. Even a little world like FS. Nothing wrong with that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well, each to their own

But personally we agree with Tarina. Notches and bedposts come to mind when we see profiles with loads of verifications.

It just goes to show that it takes all sorts to make a world. Even a little world like FS. Nothing wrong with that

"
how do you know with less veries they actually got less veries ? They may just be hiding them?poppyxx

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By *cott katieCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury Shropshire

We don't have many but have hidden them & our friends list, only because a person we friended then proceeded to contact everyone on our list and ask questions about our veris x

I proud we've succeed in this circle, we've met some great friends and had some great sex, most of whom we re-meet x it's about having fun and enjoying yourself with as many people as your comfortable with x stuff everyone else xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Some very interesting comments...thanks to you all. Nice to see so many ladies so supportive of my own position on the matter..xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

still saying the same...

I'll pass up a shag if they judged my meets or the amount

in fact..I could almost double my verifications if I had my old profile back(not boasting)

it would read exactly the same really, a mix of parties,socials..

I really have a strong distaste for people that in my eyes, havent the foggiest clue about the scene

reading above a couple of views against 'many-veri'...fair enough, but really dont complain at times when ur possibly meeting fuds that fail to attend etc or act generally just like cunts..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well, each to their own

But personally we agree with Tarina. Notches and bedposts come to mind when we see profiles with loads of verifications.

It just goes to show that it takes all sorts to make a world. Even a little world like FS. Nothing wrong with that

Someone might only have 2 or 3 veris on here but had sex with over 100 people in the vanilla world. Unless people ask their potential meets how many sexual partners they've had then there's no way of knowing.

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