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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Do you, should you write a 2nd, 3rd or more verifications for someone?
Would you write one each time you met them ?"
personal call.... me... not unless something has drastically changed..
so, for example, if i met them at a social... and then at a club.. yes!
or if they had changed from couple to single ect....
but other then that.. i don't feel the need to detail every meet it have |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to avoid people with several veris from the same person. I see it as an attempt to "bump" their profile with the help of someone they know. By the same token, I ignore any veris that are not of the "met in person" type. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think some like having a few verifications from the same people to show they are looking for regular and not only after one off meets
some like to see others do re meets, other don't like to see more than one from the same person
which ever way you do it someone wont like it lol |
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By *tomCom OP Man
over a year ago
Wellingborough |
"i hate leaving a verification for a person more than once. i really dont see the point in it at all"
I agree.
It is a verification to say they are real. Though people seem to use it more as a review section.
How long before star rates hehe |
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"think I do it twice max, but i do avoid profiles with repeated veris, seems stalkerish  "
I agree! It looks a bit like they are peeing on their territory sometimes! Lol. I've left 2 for the same guy.
If someone I met regularly left me more frequently I'd just display the first one and the most recent. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes and why not if after all you are genuine swingers and meet regularly for sex and its get better and better each then why not .....i have / do and after all its up to the recipient to accept/ignore ??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think some like having a few verifications from the same people to show they are looking for regular and not only after one off meets
some like to see others do re meets, other don't like to see more than one from the same person
which ever way you do it someone wont like it lol"
thats why we have a few from the same people as we are not looking for "notches on the bed posts" but friends and social experiences with great people as well as some dirty fun. Nothing to do with bolstering our profile etc etc  |
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"think I do it twice max, but i do avoid profiles with repeated veris, seems stalkerish
I agree! It looks a bit like they are peeing on their territory sometimes! Lol. I've left 2 for the same guy.
If someone I met regularly left me more frequently I'd just display the first one and the most recent. X"
you summed it up beautifully  |
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By *tomCom OP Man
over a year ago
Wellingborough |
"think I do it twice max, but i do avoid profiles with repeated veris, seems stalkerish
I agree! It looks a bit like they are peeing on their territory sometimes! Lol. I've left 2 for the same guy.
If someone I met regularly left me more frequently I'd just display the first one and the most recent. Xyou summed it up beautifully "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"think I do it twice max, but i do avoid profiles with repeated veris, seems stalkerish "
Damn and I was about to write a veri saying you left your house at 8:37 and walked to the bus stop, after having cornflakes for breakfast, or at least it looked like cornflakes but the telescope is not as good as the one I am getting next week........  |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
I show all of mine and have multiples. It shows people that I'm comfortable with one-offs, repeats and regular so they get more of an idea of what I'm like. If I see others with multiples then I make similar judgements. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"think I do it twice max, but i do avoid profiles with repeated veris, seems stalkerish "
Stalker ish is a bit extreme, what if they are fuck buddies?
If I had one I'd verify them but not every time we met.
Extreme more than stalker  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've got several from the same couple and we've done the same with them, but that was as much to wind someone else up as anything else.
Like somebody else said though, it does show that you're happy to meet people more than once. |
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If they are reliable yes we will leave more than one verfications ,help show other couples the decent guys who turn up ,and we dont mind them putting us on thier profile more than once,s out time wasters and shows we are willing to meet people again if invited ,bit we only use the one club so bound to bump into people more than once anywau |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only display one per person I think that's enough and if they are really graphic then I don't even do that.
I saw a profile with 30 verfications 12 were from the same person  |
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"Do you, should you write a 2nd, 3rd or more verifications for someone?
Would you write one each time you met them ?"
If I see several verifications from the same person it looks like territory marking: it's off putting! |
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"I show all of mine and have multiples. It shows people that I'm comfortable with one-offs, repeats and regular so they get more of an idea of what I'm like. If I see others with multiples then I make similar judgements. "
This - I have never seen it as off putting - TBH I think after about 3 meets or so we stopped writing veris for each other - not even something I ever considered someone would consider as off putting lol |
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"Do you, should you write a 2nd, 3rd or more verifications for someone?
Would you write one each time you met them ?
If I see several verifications from the same person it looks like territory marking: it's off putting!"
...especially when it includes the wishful "I'd love to keep him to myself..." |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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to some it shows that they are still actively meeting even if the newest veri is from someone they have already met its yet another case of each to there own, you can never please everyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nah I wouldn't leave a second veri
When I see profiles with multi veri's from the same person it makes me think they've become a fb/fwb couple, especially if there are no new veri's in between and I dislike blow by blows of someone's evening, never mind the last weeks/months of their life
I dont feel the need to tell the word what I have been doing with who and when |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have someone that I play with regular. We were leaving it and sometimes write the other ones that we don't display.
We talked about it the other day and decided on an annual review lol.
I don't mind getting them or leaving them as long as it doesn't read to clingy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The more I think about it, the more I think the whole verification system is just a bit odd. Lots of people use it to leave blow by blow accounts of meets. Surely it's just to prove people exist, not a rating system? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i hate leaving a verification for a person more than once. i really dont see the point in it at all
I agree.
It is a verification to say they are real. Though people seem to use it more as a review section.
How long before star rates hehe"
It's actually already been requested. |
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By *tomCom OP Man
over a year ago
Wellingborough |
"The more I think about it, the more I think the whole verification system is just a bit odd. Lots of people use it to leave blow by blow accounts of meets. Surely it's just to prove people exist, not a rating system? "
Like I say, it is not just used to say if I person is real or not, but also to review meets as well as some self promotion.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally don't usually bother with multiple verifications unless there is something new to say. I've already verified them as genuine and never use verifications to give full details of the meet, so I don't see the point. I take very little notice of graphic verifications. |
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By *tomCom OP Man
over a year ago
Wellingborough |
"I personally don't usually bother with multiple verifications unless there is something new to say. I've already verified them as genuine and never use verifications to give full details of the meet, so I don't see the point. I take very little notice of graphic verifications."
Though could a verification also be used to verify the person was a good meet, average meet or a bad meet? Verify what they say they are good at they are good out? (Small problem with that, people would only add verification that made them sound good, bad or average ones would just be hidden) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I personally don't usually bother with multiple verifications unless there is something new to say. I've already verified them as genuine and never use verifications to give full details of the meet, so I don't see the point. I take very little notice of graphic verifications.
Though could a verification also be used to verify the person was a good meet, average meet or a bad meet? Verify what they say they are good at they are good out? (Small problem with that, people would only add verification that made them sound good, bad or average ones would just be hidden)"
And that's why a star system would never work, because what one person finds good, another wont. I leave veri's to say they are gen, turned up, a few highlights of the person but that's it.
As obi said 'horses for courses' |
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By *tomCom OP Man
over a year ago
Wellingborough |
"People will only show what they want you to see
I have loads that say how awful a meet with me really is and how I'm nothing like my pics..... "
I know.. I have the secret 'See hidden verifications' option turn on ... |
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I don't mind getting them or leaving them as long as it doesn't read to clingy. "
I think that's what's off putting to me: some do seem clingy. I saw one profile with 12 verifications: my phone shows me how many, before people think I counted. I was impressed until I noted they were all from the same woman. Each encounter graphic and her praise gushing.
I think he was scared to meet anyone else in case he endangered his pets! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People will only show what they want you to see
I have loads that say how awful a meet with me really is and how I'm nothing like my pics.....
I know.. I have the secret 'See hidden verifications' option turn on ... "
Damn.....how much do you have to pay for that option?! |
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I don't mind getting them or leaving them as long as it doesn't read to clingy.
I think that's what's off putting to me: some do seem clingy. I saw one profile with 12 verifications: my phone shows me how many, before people think I counted. I was impressed until I noted they were all from the same woman. Each encounter graphic and her praise gushing.
I think he was scared to meet anyone else in case he endangered his pets! "
Hahaha!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My favourite is the multiple verifications from someone that peaks to soon and leaves a ridiculously gushing and over the top first verification and then tries to out do it with each subsequent one. |
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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago
Bridgwater - Somerset |
A second veri means two things, person is into repeat meets, also, first veri was not just being kind, first was good enough to repeat.
May also be that one was a house meet and the other a club or a dogging meet.
More than two is pushing it though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dunno what the issue is OP..u have multiple verifications urself...in fact, in my eyes...some are closeish together they were essentially pointless to be written lol  |
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Think if you meet on more than one occasion and you have had fun on both or more occasions then there is nothing wrong with verifying more then once as it shows your reliable obviously fun or why the second or more meet. I'm proud to show off any veris if people are that stuffy they don't like. unlucky
Then may be we are not for you any way. Too much bitchiness on fab and not enough fun ha ha keep on smiling guys and gals |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have veris from the same person, but thats cos we meet every now and then and the experiece is always different. I have no problem leaving them a couple either. Ive left cam veris and then meet veri once weve met.... Each to their own
If somone dont like my profile or repeated veris, then tough, Go elsewhere.
I'm not looking to be popular or have many notches, i am here just enjoy the NSA sex when i want it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally wouldn't do it, I see no reason for constantly verifying someone. I think it looks off putting on a profile and does seem stalkerish. The ones I've seen usually go on to do longer, bigger and better veris each time.
But it's up to the profile owner if they want to look as if they prefer meeting with the same people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My favourite is the multiple verifications from someone that peaks to soon and leaves a ridiculously gushing and over the top first verification and then tries to out do it with each subsequent one."
That's one of my favourites too, and the two single women trying to out verify each other on a guys profile. I don't want it to stop because it does make for great reading |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Each to their own.
However, to me, multiple verifications from the same person/people is perhaps a sign of boundary/ownership marking by the verification giver as well as receiver.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because I meet on & off with the same people over a long perid of time I will sometimes re verify but I do ask that they drop the old ones & just dsplay the new. Some guys just don't get this & show all of them, so now I've stopped updating verifications unless they specifically ask me to x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have veris from the same person, but thats cos we meet every now and then and the experiece is always different. I have no problem leaving them a couple either. Ive left cam veris and then meet veri once weve met.... Each to their own
If somone dont like my profile or repeated veris, then tough, Go elsewhere.
I'm not looking to be popular or have many notches, i am here just enjoy the NSA sex when i want it! "
Exactly |
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"My favourite is the multiple verifications from someone that peaks to soon and leaves a ridiculously gushing and over the top first verification and then tries to out do it with each subsequent one.
That's one of my favourites too, and the two single women trying to out verify each other on a guys profile. I don't want it to stop because it does make for great reading "
Agree: keeps me amused! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tend to avoid people with several veris from the same person. I see it as an attempt to "bump" their profile with the help of someone they know. By the same token, I ignore any veris that are not of the "met in person" type."
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