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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi people,
I have been on here a while and only really met one person. So I ask, what are People's views on finding a relationship. I am not ugly, I have no problem picking up women at the weekend, I have money a good job, loads of friends and I have been told I am good fun. My problem is I am feed up trying to find someone in a normal social environment that is half as adventurers as some of you ladies on here. Example, met a lady last week in a bar, took her home to find out she does not like giving head! Laters!!!!!
So am I mad hoping to find the above? |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
Question is- did you give her oral sex? I don't like to give if I don't receive as I have found in the past that with some men once they are satisfied they then get up and leave, leaving me very frustrated. Lesson learnt by me.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Question is- did you give her oral sex? I don't like to give if I don't receive as I have found in the past that with some men once they are satisfied they then get up and leave, leaving me very frustrated. Lesson learnt by me. "
Yes, I did. I would be surprised to find men on here that did not. |
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"She didnt give you oral so ... laters
Not quite like that. But, I would like to expand my sexual experiences. There was a lot she would not do. "
Sounds like you tried cramming all your fantasies in on the first meet! Bet you even tried slipping it up her bum! Even swinging relationships take time to develop, the more you know about each other and trust each other the more fun you can have. Not having a pop at you but it does sound like you are looking for someone who will do it all on a first meet. Finding a FBI or relationship is possible but take your time and discover new things together over a period not on the first night. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok, I really think that people are missing the point here. Just so everyone understand, as there seems to be a lot if focus on the lady and the lack of blow job! I was paraphrasing, the sex was not great and as it turns out we did not click.
My question, really is around relationships on this site. Do they work, do they happen, has anyone had a successful one? Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a shagging site mate, not match.com. I've met some great ladies through the site but none of them, me included, are looking for more than great sex.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a shagging site mate, not match.com. I've met some great ladies through the site but none of them, me included, are looking for more than great sex. "
+1... POF is prob more the site for you. Before I met RG I was notorious for being on POF, met some really fun women and had some great sex. Perhaps you'd have more success there?!
All behind me now as I feel I've met 'the one' she gives me everything ive ever desired and more. Funnily enough we met at work, go figure! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a shagging site mate, not match.com. I've met some great ladies through the site but none of them, me included, are looking for more than great sex. "
HANG ON
You can't say no one is looking for more than sex on here .
I have read time and again in the form about very happy couples that have met on here
I came on here looking for NSA but have to admit that over time I have started to think it might be time to start dateing again . I am not saying I am looking for my mr right on here but I am saying if I meet a guy and we click I am going to try really hard to not run for the hill lol |
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By *affy72Woman
over a year ago
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"HANG ON You can't say no one is looking for more than sex on here.
I have read time and again in the forum about very happy couples that have met on here. I came on here looking for NSA but have to admit that over time I have started to think it might be time to start dating again. I am not saying I am looking for my mr right on here but I am saying if I meet a guy and we click I am going to try really hard to not run for the hill lol "
Totally agree with this. I'm often surprised that some people have found more than NSA through this site, but it makes total sense really as it doesn't matter where/how you meet someone - if you click, you click! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is hope!!! "
You never know what's round the corner, when i 1st joined the site over 7 years ago I was only looking for NSA, met my partner on here, been together since then x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok, I really think that people are missing the point here. Just so everyone understand, as there seems to be a lot if focus on the lady and the lack of blow job! I was paraphrasing, the sex was not great and as it turns out we did not click.
My question, really is around relationships on this site. Do they work, do they happen, has anyone had a successful one? Xx"
You picked up a girl in a bar, went home and had bad sex and didn't click? That comes as no surprise! You wouldn't have been able to read her profile, see her likes and dislikes - and read verifications giving you an idea of whether she was just 'ok' or 'wild and adventurous and sucked like a dyson'!!
In real life quick hook ups rarely end as anticipated! On here you can do a little homework at least and try and find shared tastes/interests!!
Yes - people do find relationships on here. Some last, some don't - but that's the same in 'vanilla-land' isn't it? But on here I'd suggest approaching things with no expectancy, unless its clear on someone's profile that they're open to a relationship!
As a total relationshipphobe I'm definitely not in that market - bit trust me - I've seen and come across many who are! So just keep looking!
Good luck!!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok, I really think that people are missing the point here. Just so everyone understand, as there seems to be a lot if focus on the lady and the lack of blow job! I was paraphrasing, the sex was not great and as it turns out we did not click.
My question, really is around relationships on this site. Do they work, do they happen, has anyone had a successful one? Xx
You picked up a girl in a bar, went home and had bad sex and didn't click? That comes as no surprise! You wouldn't have been able to read her profile, see her likes and dislikes - and read verifications giving you an idea of whether she was just 'ok' or 'wild and adventurous and sucked like a dyson'!!
In real life quick hook ups rarely end as anticipated! On here you can do a little homework at least and try and find shared tastes/interests!!
Yes - people do find relationships on here. Some last, some don't - but that's the same in 'vanilla-land' isn't it? But on here I'd suggest approaching things with no expectancy, unless its clear on someone's profile that they're open to a relationship!
As a total relationshipphobe I'm definitely not in that market - bit trust me - I've seen and come across many who are! So just keep looking!
Good luck!! "
Thanks, but this is more about find someone that is as sexually active as me. I guess the point is very clinical. Why bother with a bar! When you have fab. Is that so wrong ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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maybe u just haven't clicked with someone who wants to see you more for sex and experiment with
get some more photos on your profile and a profile with likes and dislikes and attend and few socials interact with people
and have fun
i love this site the socials are great fun and i have met some fantastic friends on here
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I guess the point is very clinical. Why bother with a bar! When you have fab. Is that so wrong ? "
sorry but i think a social meet is VERY IMPORTANT and if someone wants to get to know me for me and not just my body they will think of my safety before a play meet
after all its not a binding contract |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok, I really think that people are missing the point here. Just so everyone understand, as there seems to be a lot if focus on the lady and the lack of blow job! I was paraphrasing, the sex was not great and as it turns out we did not click.
My question, really is around relationships on this site. Do they work, do they happen, has anyone had a successful one? Xx"
There must be some people on here who have ended up in a relationship. Me & my mate tried pof, no manners on there all the msgs started with hi fancy a fuck? at least on here majority dont do that. Have you tried meeting a lady for a social drink or coffee prior to the actual meet? likes and dislikes could be discussed over that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are probably as many singles (of both sexes)on here that are looking while claiming not to be as there are married people claiming to be single...
But etiquette dictates that single swingers must repeat the NSA mantra to avoid sending people running. |
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By *1KandiCouple
over a year ago
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If you are single this is your time to look for and find out what type of girl you are looking for. If a girl does not do it for you in all the areas you want then maybe she is not the one. Keep looking until you find the one that feels right in all ways - sex is just one of the pars of the relationship.
As for me I will do anything for my guy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you are single this is your time to look for and find out what type of girl you are looking for. If a girl does not do it for you in all the areas you want then maybe she is not the one. Keep looking until you find the one that feels right in all ways - sex is just one of the pars of the relationship.
As for me I will do anything for my guy. "
Yet i found love when i wasnt looking or hunting it just happened! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi people,
I have been on here a while and only really met one person. So I ask, what are People's views on finding a relationship. I am not ugly, I have no problem picking up women at the weekend, I have money a good job, loads of friends and I have been told I am good fun. My problem is I am feed up trying to find someone in a normal social environment that is half as adventurers as some of you ladies on here. Example, met a lady last week in a bar, took her home to find out she does not like giving head! Laters!!!!!
So am I mad hoping to find the above? "
Oh and OP, one of my friends, who is one of the kinkiest people I've ever known, never gives head because she's a recovered bulimic and hates the sensation, you may want to be a little more open minded on how you define adventurous. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hi people,
I have been on here a while and only really met one person. So I ask, what are People's views on finding a relationship. I am not ugly, I have no problem picking up women at the weekend, I have money a good job, loads of friends and I have been told I am good fun. My problem is I am feed up trying to find someone in a normal social environment that is half as adventurers as some of you ladies on here. Example, met a lady last week in a bar, took her home to find out she does not like giving head! Laters!!!!!
So am I mad hoping to find the above?
Oh and OP, one of my friends, who is one of the kinkiest people I've ever known, never gives head because she's a recovered bulimic and hates the sensation, you may want to be a little more open minded on how you define adventurous."
Thanks for the advice! Please read above. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you are single this is your time to look for and find out what type of girl you are looking for. If a girl does not do it for you in all the areas you want then maybe she is not the one. Keep looking until you find the one that feels right in all ways - sex is just one of the pars of the relationship.
As for me I will do anything for my guy. "
I agree, is it wrong to want perfection? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok, I really think that people are missing the point here. Just so everyone understand, as there seems to be a lot if focus on the lady and the lack of blow job! I was paraphrasing, the sex was not great and as it turns out we did not click.
My question, really is around relationships on this site. Do they work, do they happen, has anyone had a successful one? XxThere must be some people on here who have ended up in a relationship. Me & my mate tried pof, no manners on there all the msgs started with hi fancy a fuck? at least on here majority dont do that. Have you tried meeting a lady for a social drink or coffee prior to the actual meet? likes and dislikes could be discussed over that?"
What is pof? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" I guess the point is very clinical. Why bother with a bar! When you have fab. Is that so wrong ?
sorry but i think a social meet is VERY IMPORTANT and if someone wants to get to know me for me and not just my body they will think of my safety before a play meet
after all its not a binding contract "
I agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok, I really think that people are missing the point here. Just so everyone understand, as there seems to be a lot if focus on the lady and the lack of blow job! I was paraphrasing, the sex was not great and as it turns out we did not click.
My question, really is around relationships on this site. Do they work, do they happen, has anyone had a successful one? XxThere must be some people on here who have ended up in a relationship. Me & my mate tried pof, no manners on there all the msgs started with hi fancy a fuck? at least on here majority dont do that. Have you tried meeting a lady for a social drink or coffee prior to the actual meet? likes and dislikes could be discussed over that?
What is pof?"
It's a dating site , but they have clamped down recently on guys looking for sex on there x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Question is- did you give her oral sex? I don't like to give if I don't receive as I have found in the past that with some men once they are satisfied they then get up and leave, leaving me very frustrated. Lesson learnt by me. "
yep ive learnt that very same lesson x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Question is- did you give her oral sex? I don't like to give if I don't receive as I have found in the past that with some men once they are satisfied they then get up and leave, leaving me very frustrated. Lesson learnt by me.
yep ive learnt that very same lesson x"
How rude! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yet another guy useing a swing site as a dateing site tutt tutt just my opinion"
What's wronge with singles on here dateing each other . Would you like us to sign some sort of agreement on signing up , people us this site in difrent ways ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yet another guy useing a swing site as a dateing site tutt tutt just my opinion
What's wronge with singles on here dateing each other . Would you like us to sign some sort of agreement on signing up , people us this site in difrent ways ! "
Have to agree here! If your having sex with someone there must be some kind of connection? So why not data - hay I am only human! Xxz |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yet another guy useing a swing site as a dateing site tutt tutt just my opinion
What's wronge with singles on here dateing each other . Would you like us to sign some sort of agreement on signing up , people us this site in difrent ways !
Have to agree here! If your having sex with someone there must be some kind of connection? So why not data - hay I am only human! Xxz"
i agree
if there is no connection i wouldnt get my knickers off for them let alone fuck em |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe you need to reconsider your approach to why ladies might want you?
You pick up a girl in a bar, take her home and then diss her because she doesnt give head - ergo she is not adventurous.
So says the man who is bisexual but doesnt kiss guys because its not his thing???!!!
You have ignored so much of what other posters have said in response to your OP and contradicted yourself in your responses to some posts too.
Swinging might be about sex but primarily for most people its also about respect - easy word to say, not such an easy concept to grasp. |
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"Yet another guy useing a swing site as a dateing site tutt tutt just my opinion
What's wronge with singles on here dateing each other . Would you like us to sign some sort of agreement on signing up , people us this site in difrent ways ! "
i think the couples get worried that the single people looking for love are going to try and run away with their other halves lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe you need to reconsider your approach to why ladies might want you?
You pick up a girl in a bar, take her home and then diss her because she doesnt give head - ergo she is not adventurous.
So says the man who is bisexual but doesnt kiss guys because its not his thing???!!!
You have ignored so much of what other posters have said in response to your OP and contradicted yourself in your responses to some posts too.
Swinging might be about sex but primarily for most people its also about respect - easy word to say, not such an easy concept to grasp."
Thank you for your input |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe you need to reconsider your approach to why ladies might want you?
You pick up a girl in a bar, take her home and then diss her because she doesnt give head - ergo she is not adventurous.
So says the man who is bisexual but doesnt kiss guys because its not his thing???!!!
You have ignored so much of what other posters have said in response to your OP and contradicted yourself in your responses to some posts too.
Swinging might be about sex but primarily for most people its also about respect - easy word to say, not such an easy concept to grasp."
On second thoughts, I take offence to what you term as me being dis respectful!
I really do not think that it is that unreasonable to try and find someone on a swinging website to have a relationship with. Yes I am looking for someone that is sexually as active as I am and in honesty. What is the problem with that.
What is interesting is that a lot of people on here seem to have picked up solely and squarely on the blow job issues. For the second time I was paraphrasing and using that as an example! This post is about people's opion to relationships.
If you read my profile fully, you would have seen that I was in a relationship with a good freind off here when I was first on here. I think she would disagree with point implied around me being a dis respectful person. But, of course that would be because she knows me!
Rant over
P.s to all the poeple that have contacted me directly thank you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe you need to reconsider your approach to why ladies might want you?
You pick up a girl in a bar, take her home and then diss her because she doesnt give head - ergo she is not adventurous.
So says the man who is bisexual but doesnt kiss guys because its not his thing???!!!
You have ignored so much of what other posters have said in response to your OP and contradicted yourself in your responses to some posts too.
Swinging might be about sex but primarily for most people its also about respect - easy word to say, not such an easy concept to grasp.
On second thoughts, I take offence to what you term as me being dis respectful!
I really do not think that it is that unreasonable to try and find someone on a swinging website to have a relationship with. Yes I am looking for someone that is sexually as active as I am and in honesty. What is the problem with that.
What is interesting is that a lot of people on here seem to have picked up solely and squarely on the blow job issues. For the second time I was paraphrasing and using that as an example! This post is about people's opion to relationships.
If you read my profile fully, you would have seen that I was in a relationship with a good freind off here when I was first on here. I think she would disagree with point implied around me being a dis respectful person. But, of course that would be because she knows me!
Rant over
P.s to all the poeple that have contacted me directly thank you. "
I'm single and haven't ruled out meeting someone for a relationship, but I don't look on here for a guy to settle down just because that's not what this site is about. I enjoy having lots of fun with guys I meet on here but if someone happens to come along who is single and looking for more, I would happily consider a relationship, it's more about how you feel about each other than where you met them.
Good luck and have fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe you need to reconsider your approach to why ladies might want you?
You pick up a girl in a bar, take her home and then diss her because she doesnt give head - ergo she is not adventurous.
So says the man who is bisexual but doesnt kiss guys because its not his thing???!!!
You have ignored so much of what other posters have said in response to your OP and contradicted yourself in your responses to some posts too.
Swinging might be about sex but primarily for most people its also about respect - easy word to say, not such an easy concept to grasp.
On second thoughts, I take offence to what you term as me being dis respectful!
I really do not think that it is that unreasonable to try and find someone on a swinging website to have a relationship with. Yes I am looking for someone that is sexually as active as I am and in honesty. What is the problem with that.
What is interesting is that a lot of people on here seem to have picked up solely and squarely on the blow job issues. For the second time I was paraphrasing and using that as an example! This post is about people's opion to relationships.
If you read my profile fully, you would have seen that I was in a relationship with a good freind off here when I was first on here. I think she would disagree with point implied around me being a dis respectful person. But, of course that would be because she knows me!
Rant over
P.s to all the poeple that have contacted me directly thank you. "
You are entitled to your opinion just as I am entitled to mine.
My point was that you did yourself little favour with your opening comment regarding the woman you mentioned and the way in which you spoke about her and on a site like this first impressions count for quite a lot. You made a derogatory comment about something she did not find appealing and to me that was disrespectful and I would imagine I am not alone in that.
Yes people may have picked up on that point rather than your question about relationships but you were the one who opted to open the thread that way.
I did read your profile fully before I posted and I did find it ironic that you diss someone else for not doing something they find distasteful when you blatantly make the same statement in your own profile!
I was not overlooking your question regarding relationships, it was simply not relevant to the point I was making.
Everyone is entitled to use the site as suits them but treating everyone with respect goes a long way to promoting oneself in a positive light.
My comment regarding respect was a general one, it was not directed at you personally, had it been I would have said you were disrespectful and I didnt! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Maybe you need to reconsider your approach to why ladies might want you?
You pick up a girl in a bar, take her home and then diss her because she doesnt give head - ergo she is not adventurous.
So says the man who is bisexual but doesnt kiss guys because its not his thing???!!!
You have ignored so much of what other posters have said in response to your OP and contradicted yourself in your responses to some posts too.
Swinging might be about sex but primarily for most people its also about respect - easy word to say, not such an easy concept to grasp.
On second thoughts, I take offence to what you term as me being dis respectful!
I really do not think that it is that unreasonable to try and find someone on a swinging website to have a relationship with. Yes I am looking for someone that is sexually as active as I am and in honesty. What is the problem with that.
What is interesting is that a lot of people on here seem to have picked up solely and squarely on the blow job issues. For the second time I was paraphrasing and using that as an example! This post is about people's opion to relationships.
If you read my profile fully, you would have seen that I was in a relationship with a good freind off here when I was first on here. I think she would disagree with point implied around me being a dis respectful person. But, of course that would be because she knows me!
Rant over
P.s to all the poeple that have contacted me directly thank you.
You are entitled to your opinion just as I am entitled to mine.
My point was that you did yourself little favour with your opening comment regarding the woman you mentioned and the way in which you spoke about her and on a site like this first impressions count for quite a lot. You made a derogatory comment about something she did not find appealing and to me that was disrespectful and I would imagine I am not alone in that.
Yes people may have picked up on that point rather than your question about relationships but you were the one who opted to open the thread that way.
I did read your profile fully before I posted and I did find it ironic that you diss someone else for not doing something they find distasteful when you blatantly make the same statement in your own profile!
I was not overlooking your question regarding relationships, it was simply not relevant to the point I was making.
Everyone is entitled to use the site as suits them but treating everyone with respect goes a long way to promoting oneself in a positive light.
My comment regarding respect was a general one, it was not directed at you personally, had it been I would have said you were disrespectful and I didnt! "
I think we are going to have to agree to disagree here. Sorry if I offend you with
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"Ok, I really think that people are missing the point here. Just so everyone understand, as there seems to be a lot if focus on the lady and the lack of blow job! I was paraphrasing, the sex was not great and as it turns out we did not click.
My question, really is around relationships on this site. Do they work, do they happen, has anyone had a successful one? Xx"
yes, I was very clear on my single profile I wanted a relationship with a guy who would also still want to swing
I found it and we are now engaged |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ok, I really think that people are missing the point here. Just so everyone understand, as there seems to be a lot if focus on the lady and the lack of blow job! I was paraphrasing, the sex was not great and as it turns out we did not click.
My question, really is around relationships on this site. Do they work, do they happen, has anyone had a successful one? Xx
yes, I was very clear on my single profile I wanted a relationship with a guy who would also still want to swing
I found it and we are now engaged "
Wow that is great stuff , congratulations u lucky lady on all counts . |
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"Ok, I really think that people are missing the point here. Just so everyone understand, as there seems to be a lot if focus on the lady and the lack of blow job! I was paraphrasing, the sex was not great and as it turns out we did not click.
My question, really is around relationships on this site. Do they work, do they happen, has anyone had a successful one? Xx
yes, I was very clear on my single profile I wanted a relationship with a guy who would also still want to swing
I found it and we are now engaged
Wow that is great stuff , congratulations u lucky lady on all counts . "
Thank you, I did get slated by some had some nasty messages " this isnt a dating site" etc, just ignored them. How else do you find a partner into the same as you. Tried the vanilla dating sites with no luck
Good luck , hope you find what you want
Miss P xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe you need to reconsider your approach to why ladies might want you?
You pick up a girl in a bar, take her home and then diss her because she doesnt give head - ergo she is not adventurous.
So says the man who is bisexual but doesnt kiss guys because its not his thing???!!!
You have ignored so much of what other posters have said in response to your OP and contradicted yourself in your responses to some posts too.
Swinging might be about sex but primarily for most people its also about respect - easy word to say, not such an easy concept to grasp.
On second thoughts, I take offence to what you term as me being dis respectful!
I really do not think that it is that unreasonable to try and find someone on a swinging website to have a relationship with. Yes I am looking for someone that is sexually as active as I am and in honesty. What is the problem with that.
What is interesting is that a lot of people on here seem to have picked up solely and squarely on the blow job issues. For the second time I was paraphrasing and using that as an example! This post is about people's opion to relationships.
If you read my profile fully, you would have seen that I was in a relationship with a good freind off here when I was first on here. I think she would disagree with point implied around me being a dis respectful person. But, of course that would be because she knows me!
Rant over
P.s to all the poeple that have contacted me directly thank you.
You are entitled to your opinion just as I am entitled to mine.
My point was that you did yourself little favour with your opening comment regarding the woman you mentioned and the way in which you spoke about her and on a site like this first impressions count for quite a lot. You made a derogatory comment about something she did not find appealing and to me that was disrespectful and I would imagine I am not alone in that.
Yes people may have picked up on that point rather than your question about relationships but you were the one who opted to open the thread that way.
I did read your profile fully before I posted and I did find it ironic that you diss someone else for not doing something they find distasteful when you blatantly make the same statement in your own profile!
I was not overlooking your question regarding relationships, it was simply not relevant to the point I was making.
Everyone is entitled to use the site as suits them but treating everyone with respect goes a long way to promoting oneself in a positive light.
My comment regarding respect was a general one, it was not directed at you personally, had it been I would have said you were disrespectful and I didnt!
I think we are going to have to agree to disagree here. Sorry if I offend you with
My comments. "
Like I said you are entitled to your opinion and I to mine, I'd say that is agreeing to disagree.
Your comments did not offend me personally, I just dont think you put yourself across well with your opening comment and that was what I was trying to say.
Like everyone else I hope you find what you are looking for on the site, it can be an incredibly positive and liberating experience and there are some amazing people to meet. |
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over a year ago
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"Ok, I really think that people are missing the point here. Just so everyone understand, as there seems to be a lot if focus on the lady and the lack of blow job! I was paraphrasing, the sex was not great and as it turns out we did not click.
My question, really is around relationships on this site. Do they work, do they happen, has anyone had a successful one? Xx
yes, I was very clear on my single profile I wanted a relationship with a guy who would also still want to swing
I found it and we are now engaged
Wow that is great stuff , congratulations u lucky lady on all counts .
Thank you, I did get slated by some had some nasty messages " this isnt a dating site" etc, just ignored them. How else do you find a partner into the same as you. Tried the vanilla dating sites with no luck
Good luck , hope you find what you want
Miss P xx"
Slated! Really do not understand so people.! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yet another guy useing a swing site as a dateing site tutt tutt just my opinion"
Why??
I joined this site looking for NSA over 7 years ago, ended up meeting my oh after me being on here as a single for a few weeks.
So why can't a guy come on here looking for someone who shares same interests and want to share with others on here?? |
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I'd love to find a relationship with someone on here, vanilla bores me and I don't want that going forward. Also I have had two relationships with guys I've met ion her, one for 5 years one for 3years so it does happen xx |
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I'm a firm believer if its meant to happen it will !
Met gio on another site we chatted for weeks finding out about each other and what we both wanted and fantasies etc. We found we had a connection and met for social. Realised we wanted nsa fun together and now over two years are still fwbs and have become good friends.
We always talk to each other honestly and trust each other as built up a rappor. Some of the things I do with gio I never thought I wud but coz theres trust I let him. In the end this is a sex site not a dating site.
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IMHO, a lot of peeps who say they are looking for NSA deep down are looking for more than that.
Plenty of threads about on feelings, jealousy and envy etc...
Beware of those who have ticking biological clocks and those looking for meal tickets etc...
Cynic here, sorry!   |
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"IMHO, a lot of peeps who say they are looking for NSA deep down are looking for more than that.
Plenty of threads about on feelings, jealousy and envy etc...
Beware of those who have ticking biological clocks and those looking for meal tickets etc...
Cynic here, sorry! "
That is the second time this week I have hear someone talk about meal tickets it that ture? |
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over a year ago
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"IMHO, a lot of peeps who say they are looking for NSA deep down are looking for more than that.
Plenty of threads about on feelings, jealousy and envy etc...
Beware of those who have ticking biological clocks and those looking for meal tickets etc...
Cynic here, sorry!
That is the second time this week I have hear someone talk about meal tickets it that ture? "
It has been known...yes.
But lets be honest, on any dating/swinging/internet meeting site/vanilla life, there will always be a proportion of those that use it who want a meal ticket. |
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"IMHO, a lot of peeps who say they are looking for NSA deep down are looking for more than that.
Plenty of threads about on feelings, jealousy and envy etc...
Beware of those who have ticking biological clocks and those looking for meal tickets etc...
Cynic here, sorry!
That is the second time this week I have hear someone talk about meal tickets it that ture?
It has been known...yes.
But lets be honest, on any dating/swinging/internet meeting site/vanilla life, there will always be a proportion of those that use it who want a meal ticket."
True true |
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"Ok, I really think that people are missing the point here. Just so everyone understand, as there seems to be a lot if focus on the lady and the lack of blow job! I was paraphrasing, the sex was not great and as it turns out we did not click.
My question, really is around relationships on this site. Do they work, do they happen, has anyone had a successful one? Xx
yes, I was very clear on my single profile I wanted a relationship with a guy who would also still want to swing
I found it and we are now engaged "
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I don't see any reason why you can't use fab as a dating site .. If 2 singles are on here and they click then that's good .. Depends on whether you are looking for a relationship with the intention to be predominately vanilla ..
You may not find that here ...
But saying that there are many peeps here who have been successful in finding a playmate and stayed together .
I can't do relationships in the vanilla sense as I find it stifling , but I do have a number of friends who I can have fun with who I see when I can , but without the jealousy that vanilla can cause ..
Does that make sense ??
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"I don't see any reason why you can't use fab as a dating site .. If 2 singles are on here and they click then that's good .. Depends on whether you are looking for a relationship with the intention to be predominately vanilla ..
You may not find that here ...
But saying that there are many peeps here who have been successful in finding a playmate and stayed together .
I can't do relationships in the vanilla sense as I find it stifling , but I do have a number of friends who I can have fun with who I see when I can , but without the jealousy that vanilla can cause ..
Does that make sense ??
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Completely thank you. I feel the same |
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I cannot settle in a conventional relationship anymore, as I do not believe one person can tick all the boxes for me.
Besides, I like living on my own too much to be able to share my living space with another person.
The pets can put up with my mess, however, I doubt if anyone else can!
Also, I have too much to lose, and I do not wish to be sponged off again. Twice I had been sponged off, never again!
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" I have too much to lose, and I do not wish to be sponged off again. Twice I had been sponged off, never again!
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This is prob the mane reson I will stay single . 5 years ago my kids and I had to start over with nothing but the clothes we stood in ! |
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"I cannot settle in a conventional relationship anymore, as I do not believe one person can tick all the boxes for me.
Besides, I like living on my own too much to be able to share my living space with another person.
The pets can put up with my mess, however, I doubt if anyone else can!
Also, I have too much to lose, and I do not wish to be sponged off again. Twice I had been sponged off, never again!
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