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"I like you am VERY fussy . The best way I have found is to go to a swingers club , not to play but just to have a look find and chat to a few guys and swop fab names . Then chat and arrange something for a later date x " We was about to suggest that  | |||
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May be it's different by region, as I've found this site has a wealth of brilliant single men.. and the clubs
Are you searching for men that are looking to meet with only couples? Some (underlined) would rather meet with single females and meet with couples as they find single women hard to meet... I do know some though, that only meet with couples and fabs has many diamonds hidden | |||
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"Socials, simples. " and partys and Clubs(the ones which vet the guys before they allowed to attend  )........have also met great guys from chatting on here
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"From what we have experienced(on the site) so far we are not impressed with the local men!" If its any consolation I don't think anyone on here is particularly impressed by their local swinging scene. | |||
"I (Gem) am quite fussy when it comes to men and thus far we have not met with any single men. This is not for the want of trying as we have been let down twice now by single men who turned out to be time wasters. From what we have experienced(on the site) so far we are not impressed with the local men! thats not to say all are bad by the way! What we would like to know if couples found single men in different ways and how they went about it rather than using the site. i.e we are thinking of going out around the town one night and chatting to some men whilst we are out. We do not want to offend anyone of the vanilla kind and therefore seek advice! Has anyone else had a way of finding who they wanted via alternative means and how did you go about it
Thanks x"Hi guys! A couple of comments from me - I know you asked for suggestions from couples but figured a perspective from the 'target market' you seek may be useful! Firsty, as you say you can both travel and accomodate - how wide are you making your search area? If you're not having much luck on your doorstep, try looking further afield - you may find some good potentials who are more than happy to travel further than you may think! A technique that's worked for both singles and couples I know is to browse local profiles similar to themselves and 'research' their verifications! It may highlight a fewlocal potentials for you to consider! Also - and please don't take this the wrong way - if I was to receive a message from you (and i've had my fair share of fun with couples and love it!) whilst your text is clear and open, and your pics good enough to raise interest, the overriding question in my mind would be why after 7 months on site and apparently being regulars at clubs , you only have one visible webcam verification. This would put me off personally and may be doing the same to those you are contacting. It's not just couples that are worried about beinglet down by singles with no meet in person veri's - it works the other way too! Good luck - fingers crossed you'll find some willing candidates soon! | |||
"I (Gem) am quite fussy when it comes to men and thus far we have not met with any single men. This is not for the want of trying as we have been let down twice now by single men who turned out to be time wasters. From what we have experienced(on the site) so far we are not impressed with the local men! thats not to say all are bad by the way! What we would like to know if couples found single men in different ways and how they went about it rather than using the site. i.e we are thinking of going out around the town one night and chatting to some men whilst we are out. We do not want to offend anyone of the vanilla kind and therefore seek advice! Has anyone else had a way of finding who they wanted via alternative means and how did you go about it
Thanks x
Hi guys!
A couple of comments from me - I know you asked for suggestions from couples but figured a perspective from the 'target market' you seek may be useful!
Firsty, as you say you can both travel and accomodate - how wide are you making your search area? If you're not having much luck on your doorstep, try looking further afield - you may find some good potentials who are more than happy to travel further than you may think!
A technique that's worked for both singles and couples I know is to browse local profiles similar to themselves and 'research' their verifications! It may highlight a fewlocal potentials for you to consider!
Also - and please don't take this the wrong way - if I was to receive a message from you (and i've had my fair share of fun with couples and love it!) whilst your text is clear and open, and your pics good enough to raise interest, the overriding question in my mind would be why after 7 months on site and apparently being regulars at clubs , you only have one visible webcam verification. This would put me off personally and may be doing the same to those you are contacting.
It's not just couples that are worried about beinglet down by singles with no meet in person veri's - it works the other way too!
Good luck - fingers crossed you'll find some willing candidates soon! "Thank you for your perspective. The reason behind no verifications is due to the fact that my husband works away for 6 weeks and then is home for 6 weeks so technically the 7 months is halved!! Just over 3 months in our terms. We have met people at clubs but have never exchanged our info on fab. As far as we were concerned we kept them seperate as we did not want to keep in touch as such! We have searched as far as sheffield and surrounds so around 70 mile radius and we thought we had met two very genuine guys. Unfortunately both turned out to be dreamers. All of whom were verified etc so to us verifications dont mean too much! We lost interest in the site once we found people were not as they say they were! Good point about the verifications and we will be descriptive in our profile re the reasoning behind Thanka to everyone elses input. It is interesting to know how people get on when approaching men when out on a night out. | |||
"We have been to swingers clubs where single men are present. It must have been the nights but we found the single guys to be odd. well the ones we spoke to anyway haha. " Was this at some of the smaller clubs? Maybe you could try some of the more established clubs. | |||
"We have been to swingers clubs where single men are present. It must have been the nights but we found the single guys to be odd. well the ones we spoke to anyway haha. Was this at some of the smaller clubs? Maybe you could try some of the more established clubs. " We plan to try different clubs. The clib we have been to is one of the most popular. We put it down to a few bad nights as generally we only attend couples nights and they are excellent! | |||
" Thank you for your perspective. The reason behind no verifications is due to the fact that my husband works away for 6 weeks and then is home for 6 weeks so technically the 7 months is halved!! Just over 3 months in our terms. We have met people at clubs but have never exchanged our info on fab. As far as we were concerned we kept them seperate as we did not want to keep in touch as such! We have searched as far as sheffield and surrounds so around 70 mile radius and we thought we had met two very genuine guys. Unfortunately both turned out to be dreamers. All of whom were verified etc so to us verifications dont mean too much! We lost interest in the site once we found people were not as they say they were! Good point about the verifications and we will be descriptive in our profile re the reasoning behind Thanka to everyone elses input. It is interesting to know how people get on when approaching men when out on a night out. " Don't worry too much about the verifications, especially webcam ones. Personally, when I come across a profile with only webcam veri's it make me think that they are unlikely to actually meet and more often than not I'll move on and keep looking. The ideas of increasing your search radius and of checking other couples profiles to see who they've met are both good suggestions though. | |||
"We have been to swingers clubs where single men are present. It must have been the nights but we found the single guys to be odd. well the ones we spoke to anyway haha. " Hahaha @odd | |||
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"We've also found it difficult to meet single guys and have been let down by them not turning up. This ruins your confidence in travelling any distance without having a plan B for a backup guy. Having said that we have met a couple of really nice guys but it took us about a year (fussy is not the word!). It is difficult but single guys are like buses. You can't find one for ages then two turn up at the same time. Just perseverance on the site will pay off but it's a bit of work. Good luck. " Good to know we are not the only ones! Lol It is worrying if the person will meet after travelling such a distance. Having a back up as you say could be useful lol. Thank you for the support. | |||
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"From what we have experienced(on the site) so far we are not impressed with the local men! If its any consolation I don't think anyone on here is particularly impressed by their local swinging scene." Have got to disagree with this!!! | |||
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"We have been to swingers clubs where single men are present. It must have been the nights but we found the single guys to be odd. well the ones we spoke to anyway haha. Was this at some of the smaller clubs? Maybe you could try some of the more established clubs. I We plan to try different clubs. The clib we have been to is one of the most popular. We put it down to a few bad nights as generally we only attend couples nights and they are excellent!" We tend not to go on couples nights.... They're won't be as many single guys. Try a greedy girl night? | |||
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"If you find something that works let us know. We have something in mind we would like to try with a single guy but can't seem to find the right one. We are friendly with a couple who have a reliable guy that they play with but in a way it does not seem right to ask them for an intro and I suppose more fun to find our own. " that's strange as your profile says you are not looking for single guys I don't go looking for couples I just love to meet them at clubs is safer then you don't get messed about I really like the social side of the swinging take care nice couple | |||
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"Most guys overpromise and then underdeliver..." So do quite a few couples in my experience. | |||
"Most guys overpromise and then underdeliver... So do quite a few couples in my experience. " I think 90% of people on here do wether man , couple or woman  | |||
"Most guys overpromise and then underdeliver... So do quite a few couples in my experience. " I think 90% of people on here do wether man , couple or woman | |||
"Most guys overpromise and then underdeliver... So do quite a few couples in my experience. I think 90% of people on here do wether man , couple or woman "Damn.... Hope that doesn't mean I've used up my 10%!  | |||
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"Most guys overpromise and then underdeliver... So do quite a few couples in my experience. " In what way? Very easy to see if a man delivers or not lol | |||
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"Most guys overpromise and then underdeliver... So do quite a few couples in my experience. In what way? Very easy to see if a man delivers or not lol" They can fail to deliver because they are only in it for each other and forget about the guy - or treat him like a tool to be used. Anyone who treats a single guy (or anyone else for that matter) as a mere commodity is 'failing to deliver' in my book. | |||
"Most guys overpromise and then underdeliver... So do quite a few couples in my experience. In what way? Very easy to see if a man delivers or not lol They can fail to deliver because they are only in it for each other and forget about the guy - or treat him like a tool to be used. Anyone who treats a single guy (or anyone else for that matter) as a mere commodity is 'failing to deliver' in my book. " i think this is the first time me and prof are going to agree....
I need a lie down....
it does take 3 to make a meet.... and sometime it feels as if couples do look down on singles... and you would treat them in ways you certainly wouldn't if you were meeting couples..... | |||
"Most guys overpromise and then underdeliver... So do quite a few couples in my experience. In what way? Very easy to see if a man delivers or not lol They can fail to deliver because they are only in it for each other and forget about the guy - or treat him like a tool to be used. Anyone who treats a single guy (or anyone else for that matter) as a mere commodity is 'failing to deliver' in my book. i think this is the first time me and prof are going to agree....
I need a lie down....
it does take 3 to make a meet.... and sometime it feels as if couples do look down on singles... and you would treat them in ways you certainly wouldn't if you were meeting couples....."I agree on a lot of what you write, Fabio.
...particularly about Krispy Creme doughnuts... | |||
"Most guys overpromise and then underdeliver... So do quite a few couples in my experience. In what way? Very easy to see if a man delivers or not lol They can fail to deliver because they are only in it for each other and forget about the guy - or treat him like a tool to be used. Anyone who treats a single guy (or anyone else for that matter) as a mere commodity is 'failing to deliver' in my book. i think this is the first time me and prof are going to agree....
I need a lie down....
it does take 3 to make a meet.... and sometime it feels as if couples do look down on singles... and you would treat them in ways you certainly wouldn't if you were meeting couples....."I agree with these guys. Most of the single men I meet I spend a long time chatting to them and we will arrange a meet when we feel comfortable with each other and when we can coordinate our diaries.... There's a lot to be said for not having much time to meet. I can honestly sayI have never been disappointed with anyone I've met on here. And I don't think any of them have been local either so that shouldn't really make a difference. | |||
"Most guys overpromise and then underdeliver..." The only promise I make is to turn up... | |||
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"Most guys overpromise and then underdeliver... So do quite a few couples in my experience. In what way? Very easy to see if a man delivers or not lol They can fail to deliver because they are only in it for each other and forget about the guy - or treat him like a tool to be used. Anyone who treats a single guy (or anyone else for that matter) as a mere commodity is 'failing to deliver' in my book. i think this is the first time me and prof are going to agree....
I need a lie down....
it does take 3 to make a meet.... and sometime it feels as if couples do look down on singles... and you would treat them in ways you certainly wouldn't if you were meeting couples....."We don't. But we have more class than most and we fully agree some couples are the absolute worst. | |||
"Most guys overpromise and then underdeliver... So do quite a few couples in my experience. In what way? Very easy to see if a man delivers or not lol They can fail to deliver because they are only in it for each other and forget about the guy - or treat him like a tool to be used. Anyone who treats a single guy (or anyone else for that matter) as a mere commodity is 'failing to deliver' in my book. i think this is the first time me and prof are going to agree....
I need a lie down....
it does take 3 to make a meet.... and sometime it feels as if couples do look down on singles... and you would treat them in ways you certainly wouldn't if you were meeting couples.....
We don't. But we have more class than most and we fully agree some couples are the absolute worst."Oh I'm ALL for a bit of class! Now is this working class? Middle class? Upper class? or even Aristocracy? | |||
"Most guys overpromise and then underdeliver... So do quite a few couples in my experience. In what way? Very easy to see if a man delivers or not lol They can fail to deliver because they are only in it for each other and forget about the guy - or treat him like a tool to be used. Anyone who treats a single guy (or anyone else for that matter) as a mere commodity is 'failing to deliver' in my book. i think this is the first time me and prof are going to agree....
I need a lie down....
it does take 3 to make a meet.... and sometime it feels as if couples do look down on singles... and you would treat them in ways you certainly wouldn't if you were meeting couples.....
We don't. But we have more class than most and we fully agree some couples are the absolute worst.
Oh I'm ALL for a bit of class! Now is this working class? Middle class? Upper class? or even Aristocracy? "Class is irrespective of socio-economic status. You can of course find some extremely rich chavs. | |||
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"Most guys overpromise and then underdeliver... So do quite a few couples in my experience. In what way? Very easy to see if a man delivers or not lol They can fail to deliver because they are only in it for each other and forget about the guy - or treat him like a tool to be used. Anyone who treats a single guy (or anyone else for that matter) as a mere commodity is 'failing to deliver' in my book. i think this is the first time me and prof are going to agree....
I need a lie down....
it does take 3 to make a meet.... and sometime it feels as if couples do look down on singles... and you would treat them in ways you certainly wouldn't if you were meeting couples.....
We don't. But we have more class than most and we fully agree some couples are the absolute worst.
Oh I'm ALL for a bit of class! Now is this working class? Middle class? Upper class? or even Aristocracy?
Class is irrespective of socio-economic status.
You can of course find some extremely rich chavs."Oh yes woteva happened to him who won lottery n was on tag n blew it all on quad bikes n his mates (ahem I hope that hasn't libelled anyone lol) N ya can get poor 'aristos ' - the back ads in the Lady magazine used to carry one for a charity seeking donations to help 'distressed gentlefolk' - always used to raise a smirk whilst seated in dentists surgery awaiting torture | |||
The volume of males is one obstacle, its not insurmountable, others have offered ways for you to refine your search techniques, best of luck,,
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"If you find something that works let us know. We have something in mind we would like to try with a single guy but can't seem to find the right one. We are friendly with a couple who have a reliable guy that they play with but in a way it does not seem right to ask them for an intro and I suppose more fun to find our own. that's strange as your profile says you are not looking for single guys I don't go looking for couples I just love to meet them at clubs is safer then you don't get messed about I really like the social side of the swinging take care nice couple "Nothing "strange" just not what we are looking for at the moment. If someone who catches our eye is what we are looking for then we approach them just like they can approach us. Mystery solved. | |||
I like your profile too sorry if I offended you wasent any harm intended I no wat you mean now if you are ever at aclub and notice me please come and say hi | |||
"ok thank you I like your profile too sorry if I offended you wasent any harm intended I no wat you mean now if you are ever at aclub and notice me please come and say hi "sorry this message is for crazysexycool | |||
"I (Gem) am quite fussy when it comes to men and thus far we have not met with any single men. This is not for the want of trying as we have been let down twice now by single men who turned out to be time wasters. From what we have experienced(on the site) so far we are not impressed with the local men! thats not to say all are bad by the way! What we would like to know if couples found single men in different ways and how they went about it rather than using the site. Clubs are the easiest way you can take your pick, or not and either way you get to party. i.e we are thinking of going out around the town one night and chatting to some men whilst we are out. We do not want to offend anyone of the vanilla kind and therefore seek advice! Has anyone else had a way of finding who they wanted via alternative means and how did you go about it
Thanks x" | |||
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"Thank you to input. We have made some changes and we will see how we get on
"Bugger!!! you've not changed your age range frazzle shrazzle dazzle | |||
"Thank you to input. We have made some changes and we will see how we get on
Bugger!!! you've not changed your age range frazzle shrazzle dazzle "That is one thing we are keeping the same | |||
"Thank you to input. We have made some changes and we will see how we get on
Bugger!!! you've not changed your age range frazzle shrazzle dazzle
That is one thing we are keeping the same "Grrrrrrrrrrrrr lol  | |||
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