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"I would expect some communication.. The build up to a meet is one of the most exciting/horniest things ever "Yes I agree , I have another play with someone else and lots of sexy texts which are turning us both on
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"Im the same, i like a bit of flirty banter leading up to it. Otherwise i dont feel any chemistry when we meet it just feels too cold. " Phew , I was beginning to think I was the only one who liked flirty banter | |||
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"Im the same, i like a bit of flirty banter leading up to it. Otherwise i dont feel any chemistry when we meet it just feels too cold. Phew , I was beginning to think I was the only one who liked flirty banter "I like it as well. Its all part of the excitement and getting to know what each person expects from the meet. Such fun and such a turn on. | |||
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"I think if he's genuine he'd be exchanging a few erotic messages prior to the meet. Seems a bit clinical if the date is arranged and there's no contact prior to it. Pre match mental foreplay via messages/talking is a winner with me." Thankyou  | |||
"So I have met for coffee, lovely guy and got on well ... So eventually find a date to play a week Friday ... So what's the problem I hear you ask ?? Well there has been no messages from him since ... I get the feeling he just wants me to turn up in a weeks time and play. . Do peeps think I am expecting too much to have some correspondence or do I assume he has lost interest . If you had a play date arranged would you be charming and wooing your lady up to the date of play ... Or am I being too old fashioned "his loss most guys would crawl over broken glass for a meet x | |||
"I think if he's genuine he'd be exchanging a few erotic messages prior to the meet. Seems a bit clinical if the date is arranged and there's no contact prior to it. Pre match mental foreplay via messages/talking is a winner with me. Thankyou "You're more than welcome and I hope the meet proves a success | |||
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"So I have met for coffee, lovely guy and got on well ... So eventually find a date to play a week Friday ... So what's the problem I hear you ask ?? Well there has been no messages from him since ... I get the feeling he just wants me to turn up in a weeks time and play. . Do peeps think I am expecting too much to have some correspondence or do I assume he has lost interest . If you had a play date arranged would you be charming and wooing your lady up to the date of play ... Or am I being too old fashioned "Personally, i would like a build up to the date of play..maybe teasing texts, seductive words etc etc i wouldnt just expect to turn up and find her all horny for you...i prefer the animalistic behaviour when meeting lol I find that naughty texts before the day you meet enhance your desire for each other ...then again, im old fashioned lol  | |||
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"I'm not looking for romance and frankly I'd be put off and pissed off if I was bombarded with text: I don't meet the needy. A weekly message is enough, but that's what works for me. " My thoughts exactly. I'm here for sex not marriage. If I get bombarded with messages it puts me right off my stroke! | |||
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"I think if he's genuine he'd be exchanging a few erotic messages prior to the meet. Seems a bit clinical if the date is arranged and there's no contact prior to it. Pre match mental foreplay via messages/talking is a winner with me." | |||
"OK, so the OP isn't meeting until the 24th, yet the poor guy is supposed to be messaging her every day or else he's going to be a no show? Yes, he should message, and reply to messages, but he's got 10 days to do so! Don't give up on him yet!!" I don't expect daily messages at all , heard from him sat which is fine , but before we arranged the play date he messaged me every day , but now stopped | |||
"OK, so the OP isn't meeting until the 24th, yet the poor guy is supposed to be messaging her every day or else he's going to be a no show? Yes, he should message, and reply to messages, but he's got 10 days to do so! Don't give up on him yet!!" | |||
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"So I have met for coffee, lovely guy and got on well ... So eventually find a date to play a week Friday ... So what's the problem I hear you ask ?? Well there has been no messages from him since ... I get the feeling he just wants me to turn up in a weeks time and play. . Do peeps think I am expecting too much to have some correspondence or do I assume he has lost interest . If you had a play date arranged would you be charming and wooing your lady up to the date of play ... Or am I being too old fashioned "fuck me I've seen your pics I would be sending you flowers and txts to make sure I did get to meet you  | |||
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"OK, so the OP isn't meeting until the 24th, yet the poor guy is supposed to be messaging her every day or else he's going to be a no show? Yes, he should message, and reply to messages, but he's got 10 days to do so! Don't give up on him yet!! I don't expect daily messages at all , heard from him sat which is fine , but before we arranged the play date he messaged me every day , but now stopped "With the exception of one special guy, Ive had this happen to me and ive been like you too worried whether to message here or text if you have their mobile no in case they feel you are being too clingy. I think one text to him saying maybe hi how are you? hopefully he will reply then you can take it from there. Good luck hope it goes well for you | |||
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"tbh i would move on and find someone who will give you what you want from a meet ie naughty texts, the odd chat and the build up to the meet which is a huge part of the fun its not as if your short of choice on here unless he is your dream fantasy perfect guy and you just want to shag him and your prepared to put up with his shortcomings" Yes I agree , kinda got disappointed with his very flat reaction to my very raunchy message | |||
"tbh i would move on and find someone who will give you what you want from a meet ie naughty texts, the odd chat and the build up to the meet which is a huge part of the fun its not as if your short of choice on here unless he is your dream fantasy perfect guy and you just want to shag him and your prepared to put up with his shortcomings Yes I agree , kinda got disappointed with his very flat reaction to my very raunchy message " | |||
"tbh i would move on and find someone who will give you what you want from a meet ie naughty texts, the odd chat and the build up to the meet which is a huge part of the fun its not as if your short of choice on here unless he is your dream fantasy perfect guy and you just want to shag him and your prepared to put up with his shortcomings Yes I agree , kinda got disappointed with his very flat reaction to my very raunchy message "think most guys on here would like a raunchy message, naughty texts etc wouldnt chase the guy its his loss | |||
"So I have met for coffee, lovely guy and got on well ... So eventually find a date to play a week Friday ... So what's the problem I hear you ask ?? Well there has been no messages from him since ... I get the feeling he just wants me to turn up in a weeks time and play. . Do peeps think I am expecting too much to have some correspondence or do I assume he has lost interest . If you had a play date arranged would you be charming and wooing your lady up to the date of play ... Or am I being too old fashioned fuck me I've seen your pics I would be sending you flowers and txts to make sure I did get to meet you "Flowers !! Lmao , as long as they were freesias
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"So I have met for coffee, lovely guy and got on well ... So eventually find a date to play a week Friday ... So what's the problem I hear you ask ?? Well there has been no messages from him since ... I get the feeling he just wants me to turn up in a weeks time and play. . Do peeps think I am expecting too much to have some correspondence or do I assume he has lost interest . If you had a play date arranged would you be charming and wooing your lady up to the date of play ... Or am I being too old fashioned "Cold feet? | |||
"his loss most guys would crawl over broken glass for a meet x" I wouldn't but then again I can meet girls in real life . Had no luck here but then I am the time of life grown up kids good job plenty of free time to go out. No problem getting a girl in real life I take the opinion if the girl isn't chasing me move on find someone else who is willing to spend time with me . There are plenty out there and most girls you meet in a pub or club are a lot less hassle And more likely to put out on first meeting than any woman trying to meet here and 9 times out of 10 they do the washing up in the morning Plenty more rats in the sewer as they say | |||
"Im the same, i like a bit of flirty banter leading up to it. Otherwise i dont feel any chemistry when we meet it just feels too cold. " Totally agree and those type of meets dont work for me! | |||
"You don't say in your post op whether or not you've been messaging HIM! If you have, and he's not replied, then maybe he has lost interest. If you haven't, why? Or is it always the blokes that have to initiate the conversation?" Exactly...he might be thinking the exact same thing you are...she's not sent a message since we arranged the play meet so has she lost interest. Or he may not want to start sending messages and have you tell him to back off. Think sending a 'how are you' message as has been said would be beneficial and see what the reaction is. Does take two to tango! | |||
"Thankyou everyone for your various replies , I will send him a flirtatious message ... I did send one of my stories to him which is on the story forum ,( how I would like a meet ) and was told nice story but I'm tired :-/ I was hoping for him to reciprocate ! So I have been very flirtatious and poss too too sexy and scared him off
"Sorry...replied without reading the full thread! If he hasn't responded and doesn't in the run up to the meet then maybe he has lost interest. Or if he hasn't had many meets maybe he's nervous and doesn't know how to react to a dirtier message. Go with your gut though and if you think he's not interested then leave it at that x | |||
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A very short description of how I like a meet to go )
Imagine my hard nips in you mouth , rolling your tongue over the bumpy ness .. I kneel down before you and lick your hardness , my tongue swirling and licking your pre cum ... My tongue slides down your shaft towards your balls , sucking and nibbling xxx
gently suck on your balls , you feel my warm mouth around them ... I then place my mouth over the end of your cock , sucking and sliding my lips up and down its length , slowly and firmly ... Your breathing deepens as it goes in deeper and deeper . Your fingers play with my nips then move gently to my honeypot , slippery and hot your fingers slide inside , first one then the second .. You try and find the spot and rub it making me moan with pleasure , the sounds of my moans you feel against your cock .You are rock hard now and plead to be inside me ... You lie back and gently I sit on your cock inch by inch it disappears ... I ride you , in gentle rhythm again and again ... Then I pull out .. I sit on your face , your lips and tongue darting in and around my swollen clit and tissues .. Getting wetter and wetter .
Your fingers deep in me and your cock in my mouth we fuck each other until I am ready for bob ... Bob goes on , my hips rise and fall , moaning your fingers fucking me as he vibrates , your mouth sucking my nips .... Breathing more and more heavily , I stop for a second and let the orgasm rip thru my body , your fingers trapped by my muscles .. You feel me coming , you see me coming , you hear me coming .. My body arches and all muscles tighten for a few mins .. Then they relax and then you enter me , going as fast and deep as you can .. I grip your buttocks and pull you in deeper and deeper ... Then you. Cum .. I watch your face as you cum , your eyes wide and full of passion at that moment ..
You shudder as you cum , your seeds dry , perspiration dripping onto my face ... You keep moving and my fanny squeezes every last drop from you .... Both of us spent we giggle and laugh and relax in the afterglow xxx | |||
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"Ok peeps this is what I wrote .. Ps bob is my vibe
A very short description of how I like a meet to go )
Imagine my hard nips in you mouth , rolling your tongue over the bumpy ness .. I kneel down before you and lick your hardness , my tongue swirling and licking your pre cum ... My tongue slides down your shaft towards your balls , sucking and nibbling xxx
gently suck on your balls , you feel my warm mouth around them ... I then place my mouth over the end of your cock , sucking and sliding my lips up and down its length , slowly and firmly ... Your breathing deepens as it goes in deeper and deeper . Your fingers play with my nips then move gently to my honeypot , slippery and hot your fingers slide inside , first one then the second .. You try and find the spot and rub it making me moan with pleasure , the sounds of my moans you feel against your cock .You are rock hard now and plead to be inside me ... You lie back and gently I sit on your cock inch by inch it disappears ... I ride you , in gentle rhythm again and again ... Then I pull out .. I sit on your face , your lips and tongue darting in and around my swollen clit and tissues .. Getting wetter and wetter .
Your fingers deep in me and your cock in my mouth we fuck each other until I am ready for bob ... Bob goes on , my hips rise and fall , moaning your fingers fucking me as he vibrates , your mouth sucking my nips .... Breathing more and more heavily , I stop for a second and let the orgasm rip thru my body , your fingers trapped by my muscles .. You feel me coming , you see me coming , you hear me coming .. My body arches and all muscles tighten for a few mins .. Then they relax and then you enter me , going as fast and deep as you can .. I grip your buttocks and pull you in deeper and deeper ... Then you. Cum .. I watch your face as you cum , your eyes wide and full of passion at that moment ..
You shudder as you cum , your seeds dry , perspiration dripping onto my face ... You keep moving and my fanny squeezes every last drop from you .... Both of us spent we giggle and laugh and relax in the afterglow xxx"i can see the bloke thinking feck me i only want a shag | |||
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"Thankyou everyone for your various replies , I will send him a flirtatious message ... I did send one of my stories to him which is on the story forum ,( how I would like a meet ) and was told nice story but I'm tired :-/ I was hoping for him to reciprocate ! So I have been very flirtatious and poss too too sexy and scared him off
"It's hard work messaging someone you haven't looked in the eye, you don't know what sort of life they lead away from here, how they tick from day-to-day. Personally, I have a business to run, and haven't really got time to be replying to messages which say "How are you?" Erm, down tools lads, hold on, I need to just send some important mail..."Very well thank you." Now, do you mind if I continue with this million pound job that has to be done by THIS weekend? I wouldn't slate this chap just yet, maybe he's juggling his life so that he's free for your meet with no distractions. When it comes to timewasters, I think I'm more wary of people who want to keep you simmering on the edge for weeks, via "sexy" stories etc (which,even with the best will in the world, are not going to be winning the Booker Prize any time soon). IME, they tend to be the ones whose Aunt dies the night before a meet, but they can reschedule for 4 weeks time. Hmmm, OK, well, how about asking if I'm free in 3 and a half weeks then? What do you want him to do when he reads your story? Drop his pants and rub one out there and then, or do you want him to stay hard till you meet? Stories, like sexy talk, for me personally, can be stimulating in the moment, but excruciatingly tedious weeks away from any possible progression. Like he said "Hmmm, yeah, nice story". And? Teasing and flirting creates a peak, the trick is not to start the build up weeks away and then expect the other party to be at the peak at the end of the month. Lots of men don't work that way! They may well be down the other side by then. Let's face it, the longer the anticipation, the bigger disappointment it may all be anyway, and the epic shag-fest you are expecting might turn out to be a two-pump jump - he's been Don't write him off just yet, and have a good time when you do meet him. | |||
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"So I have met for coffee, lovely guy and got on well ... So eventually find a date to play a week Friday ... So what's the problem I hear you ask ?? Well there has been no messages from him since ... I get the feeling he just wants me to turn up in a weeks time and play. . Do peeps think I am expecting too much to have some correspondence or do I assume he has lost interest . If you had a play date arranged would you be charming and wooing your lady up to the date of play ... Or am I being too old fashioned "Once we have arranged a meet then to be honest we don't tend to make contact until a couple of days before just to double check things are still ok. If we kept getting messages saying things like I/we are going to do such and such to you....Or how are you messages every day would bore the pants off me! Don't get me wrong like a bit flirting but actions speak louder than words as they say.... But just goes to show we all have different approaches. | |||
"So I have met for coffee, lovely guy and got on well ... So eventually find a date to play a week Friday ... So what's the problem I hear you ask ?? Well there has been no messages from him since ... I get the feeling he just wants me to turn up in a weeks time and play. . Do peeps think I am expecting too much to have some correspondence or do I assume he has lost interest . If you had a play date arranged would you be charming and wooing your lady up to the date of play ... Or am I being too old fashioned "Based purely on what you have posted here (cos we don't know the gent in question or his circumstances! ) I would interpret it as follows He's looking for a shag He's now got a shag organised That's what you are to him - a shag And he'll meet you as arranged Or then again maybe he won't turn up OUCH  | |||
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I do understand flirtatious buildup and most chaps I have met are more than happy to reciprocate once we have made a date to play .
Am not completely writing him off as he is a lovely guy but just don't think the spark is there ...
Am going to message a less flirty mail today and see if he is still interested .
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"Im the same, i like a bit of flirty banter leading up to it. Otherwise i dont feel any chemistry when we meet it just feels too cold. Phew , I was beginning to think I was the only one who liked flirty banter "Not alone ,we like to tease and flirt discuss the things we may do. Even discuss clothing I (miss p) may or may not wear | |||
"OK, so the OP isn't meeting until the 24th, yet the poor guy is supposed to be messaging her every day or else he's going to be a no show? Yes, he should message, and reply to messages, but he's got 10 days to do so! Don't give up on him yet!! I don't expect daily messages at all , heard from him sat which is fine , but before we arranged the play date he messaged me every day , but now stopped "You say you don't want daily messages but you heard from him Saturday and today is only Tuesday. Yet your thinking he has already lost interest because you haven't heard from him in 3 days. | |||
"So I have met for coffee, lovely guy and got on well ... So eventually find a date to play a week Friday ... So what's the problem I hear you ask ?? Well there has been no messages from him since ... I get the feeling he just wants me to turn up in a weeks time and play. . Do peeps think I am expecting too much to have some correspondence or do I assume he has lost interest . If you had a play date arranged would you be charming and wooing your lady up to the date of play ... Or am I being too old fashioned " | |||
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"I dont think i'd be expecting wooing as this sounds more like a date rather than a swing meet, but a couple of flirty messages to know he's still keen would be the norm I think. I agree with the other poster who said send him one and see if he responds - if not it does look like you have a fantacist rather than a genuine player. good luck x "I didn't mean wooing in the sense of a date thing , just a few horny messages to keep the anticipation going . It's not a prob now as he hasn't got day off , despite agreeing the day and asked me to keep it free for him in case he did get day off . | |||
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"Not at all banter and sexy flirting is always great as you can get into what eaxh other are into rather than jumping in blind. Not talking about hundreds of messages a day but a but if flirting builds tensions. " Yes , I agree | |||
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"In honesty why were you waiting for his message,every mam here knows women are inundated with messages and will reply if interested. Taking thread at face value if a meet was week away I'd chill for a couple of days then test water, hoping for a couple of days of naughty teasey chat just before event x" I was just about to post similar. I've not read all posts in this thread, have you messaged him? He may be thinking similarly to yourself, as quoted here, many guys realise women can be overwhelmed with messages and so not wanting to put you off appearing clingy he may well be waiting either for you to message or closer to the time. | |||
"So I have met for coffee, lovely guy and got on well ... So eventually find a date to play a week Friday ... So what's the problem I hear you ask ?? Well there has been no messages from him since ... I get the feeling he just wants me to turn up in a weeks time and play. . Do peeps think I am expecting too much to have some correspondence or do I assume he has lost interest . If you had a play date arranged would you be charming and wooing your lady up to the date of play ... Or am I being too old fashioned "I would woo and keep the interest going. It's only polite if you have a play meet. | |||
I like to know the guy is looking forward to meet and can't wait to have me
I'd be quite upset for a guy to go quiet and is likely question meeting him.
That's just my opinion and know others feel differently but I quite like a guy who likes to flatter me and be slightly obsessive | |||
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"In honesty why were you waiting for his message,every mam here knows women are inundated with messages and will reply if interested. Taking thread at face value if a meet was week away I'd chill for a couple of days then test water, hoping for a couple of days of naughty teasey chat just before event x" I had messaged him , am not sitting here waiting for him to message me , but the flurry of messages stopped after we had arranged the play . So just a bit perplexed that's all | |||
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"I would expect some communication.. The build up to a meet is one of the most exciting/horniest things ever "I agree , this is the main reason for myself . Otherwise I would stick to meeting women out x | |||
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"I'm not looking for romance and frankly I'd be put off and pissed off if I was bombarded with text: I don't meet the needy. A weekly message is enough, but that's what works for me. " Agreed. I'll usually send one message just to double check/ re-affirm plans as the meet draws closer, but that's about it. It is hard enough gauging the proper protocol in such situations without giving the impression of neediness or pushiness. | |||
"If he's not giving you the attention you need then he isn't worth your time, there's plenty of other men on here who will " | |||
"In honesty why were you waiting for his message,every mam here knows women are inundated with messages and will reply if interested. Taking thread at face value if a meet was week away I'd chill for a couple of days then test water, hoping for a couple of days of naughty teasey chat just before event x I had messaged him , am not sitting here waiting for him to message me , but the flurry of messages stopped after we had arranged the play . So just a bit perplexed that's all "have you heard from him yet? if not give up girl I would | |||
and still flirting Having said that, what works for some doesn't work for others | |||
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"I don't like needy/clingy, a million messages a day types, but on the other hand I like a bit of a flirt and a tease leading up to a play meet. Exchange a few naughty pics, etc." This Only this Mancini | |||
"I personally would find lack of messages and contact before a meet a real turn off especially after a social. I like guys to flirt and chat with me leading up to a meet. Talk about what we want to do and our likes and dislikes. I also like a guy to show interest I like to know the guy is looking forward to meet and can't wait to have me
I'd be quite upset for a guy to go quiet and is likely question meeting him.
That's just my opinion and know others feel differently but I quite like a guy who likes to flatter me and be slightly obsessive "Your a couple, seeking couples. How does that work then? I can see potential "problems" arising if the husband of the other couple was sending flirty messages to the female of the couple! You read about couples complaining about both parties not included in messages etc. Just highlights how you can't please all the people all the time! | |||
"I personally would find lack of messages and contact before a meet a real turn off especially after a social. I like guys to flirt and chat with me leading up to a meet. Talk about what we want to do and our likes and dislikes. I also like a guy to show interest I like to know the guy is looking forward to meet and can't wait to have me
I'd be quite upset for a guy to go quiet and is likely question meeting him.
That's just my opinion and know others feel differently but I quite like a guy who likes to flatter me and be slightly obsessive
Your a couple, seeking couples. How does that work then? I can see potential "problems" arising if the husband of the other couple was sending flirty messages to the female of the couple!
You read about couples complaining about both parties not included in messages etc.
Just highlights how you can't please all the people all the time! "Sorry I guess I should clarify that I used to play as single and with single guys before becoming part of a couple and now only meet couples. So my previous post was about when I used to meet single guys I wasn't talking about wanting attention from male half of couple But I'd feel similar if a couple we planned to meet went quiet. Guess I like social side as much as play and like a couple to show some interest leading up to meet. Mainly I chat to the lady of couple leading up to a meet. I find it puts us both at ease and builds to a hot relaxed play. | |||
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"U not been old fashioned he been a arse sod him I say get rid and nexst us girls have too much choice on here lets be honest its the guys who find it hard going to get a meet we dont .. think should be a name and shame page on here then we no who not to bother with for the men aswell get rid the time wasters I say .. " Just.....what??! | |||
"U not been old fashioned he been a arse sod him I say get rid and nexst us girls have too much choice on here lets be honest its the guys who find it hard going to get a meet we dont .. think should be a name and shame page on here then we no who not to bother with for the men aswell get rid the time wasters I say .. " Name and shame for not messaging every 5 minutes? Well that's totally reasonable and not harsh in any way. | |||
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"I would expect some communication.. The build up to a meet is one of the most exciting/horniest things ever " | |||
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"Im the same, i like a bit of flirty banter leading up to it. Otherwise i dont feel any chemistry when we meet it just feels too cold. " I would be worried if there was no flirty banter, builds excitement to the actual event | |||
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"Even build up can get laboured and boring after a while. There's only so many times before a meet that i need to be told what you plan to do to me during said meet. I appreciate everyone is different and views it differently. But i don't feel like i ever need to maintain that level and intensity of conversation for the week (or more) leading up to a meet. This behaviour turned me off meeting a couple once. Both were on at different times of the day and both seemed to demand details of what was going to happen during the planned meet (from my POV). " I have had the same thing with a single guy daily numerous times asked me where he was allowed to cum ... For about a week same thing over and over. In the end I said we have already spoken about this and he sulked needless to say I didn't meet him  | |||
"U not been old fashioned he been a arse sod him I say get rid and nexst us girls have too much choice on here lets be honest its the guys who find it hard going to get a meet we dont .. think should be a name and shame page on here then we no who not to bother with for the men aswell get rid the time wasters I say .. " That's a bit harsh! She didn't say he was a time waster just that the banter and flirting was not as much as she'd like. | |||
"Even build up can get laboured and boring after a while. There's only so many times before a meet that i need to be told what you plan to do to me during said meet. I appreciate everyone is different and views it differently. But i don't feel like i ever need to maintain that level and intensity of conversation for the week (or more) leading up to a meet. This behaviour turned me off meeting a couple once. Both were on at different times of the day and both seemed to demand details of what was going to happen during the planned meet (from my POV). I have had the same thing with a single guy daily numerous times asked me where he was allowed to cum ... For about a week same thing over and over. In the end I said we have already spoken about this and he sulked needless to say I didn't meet him "I get this a lot too. I'm not sure whether its a fault of mine but I like meets to be spontaneous and unexpected, not some timetable to tick off! I had one guy arranged to come as part of a group and he wanted to discuss every detail. In the end he wanked for 10 mins, came, and buggered off. Sometimes the build up can make the meet more disappointing, not less. | |||
"Even build up can get laboured and boring after a while. There's only so many times before a meet that i need to be told what you plan to do to me during said meet. I appreciate everyone is different and views it differently. But i don't feel like i ever need to maintain that level and intensity of conversation for the week (or more) leading up to a meet. This behaviour turned me off meeting a couple once. Both were on at different times of the day and both seemed to demand details of what was going to happen during the planned meet (from my POV). I have had the same thing with a single guy daily numerous times asked me where he was allowed to cum ... For about a week same thing over and over. In the end I said we have already spoken about this and he sulked needless to say I didn't meet him "That would put me off too. There is a difference between banter/flirting and overdoing it. | |||
"U not been old fashioned he been a arse sod him I say get rid and nexst us girls have too much choice on here lets be honest its the guys who find it hard going to get a meet we dont .. think should be a name and shame page on here then we no who not to bother with for the men aswell get rid the time wasters I say .. " Name and shame for what?!! Blimey it gets more and more bizarre on here. | |||
"Even build up can get laboured and boring after a while. There's only so many times before a meet that i need to be told what you plan to do to me during said meet. I appreciate everyone is different and views it differently. But i don't feel like i ever need to maintain that level and intensity of conversation for the week (or more) leading up to a meet. This behaviour turned me off meeting a couple once. Both were on at different times of the day and both seemed to demand details of what was going to happen during the planned meet (from my POV). " A man after my own heart! I get turned off if someone asks what I'm going to do to them. I've cancelled a play meet after meeting socially as I was bombarded by text, whatsap etc: I felt overwhelmed and stalked after an hour in Costas. I shudder to think how he'd react if he knew my address. On a positive note it helped me hone how I meet people. Now I have a cooling off period between social and play meet. There's no guarantee I'll eliminate all the crazies this way, but (touch wood) it's working so far! | |||
" Sometimes the build up can make the meet more disappointing, not less." Has been my experience on more than one occasion! | |||
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"Think I would have to flirt a bit .. even done a count down. To meets .. gotta keep the lady interested .. here's the proof boys .. take good note.. I'd have to chat every chance I could x" Some, like myself find this off putting... So no real proof of anything here | |||
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"U not been old fashioned he been a arse sod him I say get rid and nexst us girls have too much choice on here lets be honest its the guys who find it hard going to get a meet we dont .. think should be a name and shame page on here then we no who not to bother with for the men aswell get rid the time wasters I say .. Name and shame for not messaging every 5 minutes? Well that's totally reasonable and not harsh in any way. "not every 5 mins but a message to say not forgot bout the meet hope all still ok thats all it takes now and again if I dont here till last min but its like they carnt be that bothered so why should I nothing wrong with a odd message sometimes | |||
"Anyone who makes arrangements to meet and does not even send one message after that even if just to check it is still on has no intention of meeting, as far as I am concerned - for whatever reason they may have. I begin then to look for another meet and discount them as a potential. At the very least it is good manners to send a message or two, flirting or non-flirting. You are, after all, intending on becoming intimate. Any guy who thinks this is clingy can p*** off in my opinion. It's GOOD manners, ffs! If you can show no respect to at least confirm and just expect to show up with the woman in question having gone to the trouble of preparing herself then that's just not going to happen - not in my house!" | |||
"Anyone who makes arrangements to meet and does not even send one message after that even if just to check it is still on has no intention of meeting, as far as I am concerned - for whatever reason they may have. I begin then to look for another meet and discount them as a potential. At the very least it is good manners to send a message or two, flirting or non-flirting. You are, after all, intending on becoming intimate. Any guy who thinks this is clingy can p*** off in my opinion. It's GOOD manners, ffs! If you can show no respect to at least confirm and just expect to show up with the woman in question having gone to the trouble of preparing herself then that's just not going to happen - not in my house!" Well said | |||
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"So I have met for coffee, lovely guy and got on well ... So eventually find a date to play a week Friday ... So what's the problem I hear you ask ?? Well there has been no messages from him since ... I get the feeling he just wants me to turn up in a weeks time and play. . Do peeps think I am expecting too much to have some correspondence or do I assume he has lost interest . If you had a play date arranged would you be charming and wooing your lady up to the date of play ... Or am I being too old fashioned "could it be that he is married and unable to communicate | |||
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"I'm in the same position. Had a social on thurs. we agreed to meet this coming tues I dropped a. 'How are you?' On fri No reply And he's been on fab I'd say this happens to 60% of my meets. Even verified men " Going to play devil's advocate and turn this around slightly..... This could happen for any whole host of reasons. He might have changed his mind but couldn't bring himself round to telling you. Or, he might just not have been able to reply at that time. Truth be told, arranging a meet doesn't automatically make any obliged to respond to subsequent messaging. At least, that is the standard response you see from people on the forums when men who have arranged meets complain about the sudden lack of communication from women and/ or couples. The above is not a slight at you at all by the way. | |||
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"It comes down to manners If I change my mind then I tell the person politely in advance Anything else is just ignorant and/or cowardice " I agree - too often on here I see people excusing simple POOR manners. Rudeness is rudeness. I assume, as we are all adults, that we were raised to know what good manners are - we even raise our children the same - yet, on here, there are all sorts of excuses made! It is totally unacceptable in my book and the moment I am treated like that then the block button is used. If one considers the well-mannered way of behaving then there IS an obligation to respond. If you make arrangements at the very least confirm nearer the date - simple. If not then you are rude. And I don't care who disagrees with that! There are enough decent guys on here not to have to put up with ignorant ones. | |||
