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By *1wins OP Man 1 week ago
Southampton |
Hi everyone. I was talking to the male part of a lovely couple this morning having great conversation. We swapped pics and details then all of a sudden blocked me. Is this a regular occurrence? |
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"Hi everyone. I was talking to the male part of a lovely couple this morning having great conversation. We swapped pics and details then all of a sudden blocked me. Is this a regular occurrence?"
Maybe there was no partner
Maybe when the partner came back she didn’t like you (it happens)
Maybe you said something he didn’t like and instead of saying something he blocked you
This may sound harsh but from your photos you said you shared there may be no physical attraction
It happens |
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It happens and I've done it though I'm not proud of it. The problem is that, sometimes, I have tried to bring something to a close by saying politely that we're not compatible or that there isn't an attraction there and people have seen fit to argue their case which leads to maybe 3 or 4 more back and to messages which I don't have the spoons for. I barely keep up with the messages from people that I am attracted to so it does become easier to use the block button as a definitive end to the conversation at times.
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Most initial chats will reach a dead end and very often they won't write to say that it's not progressing further. And it's practically good sense to block, as it prevents future wasted messaging that wouldn't achieve anything.
Having realistic expectations is essential here, to remain optimistic etc. No reply = no thanks, as Fab FAQs state.
Don't fixate on a single contact as this is NSA sex and pursuing multiple avenues may balance your attention. |
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"Hi everyone. I was talking to the male part of a lovely couple this morning having great conversation. We swapped pics and details then all of a sudden blocked me. Is this a regular occurrence?"
Yes, it's happened to me and others I know a few times. |
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A lot of people just block instead of just saying "no thanks." That may be because they've had a torrent of abuse after telling someone they're not interested. If someone replies to me and says "no thanks," I always send them a message saying "Thanks for your courteous reply and I wish you all the best." |
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My profile clearly states certain rules. If I don’t reply means I’m not interested. Sounds maybe harsh but the volume of messages as a single female is crazy. The other day a guy kept messaging so I responded read my profile which he clearly hadn’t 😂 his 5”5 height.
I got a reply calling me a fucking bitch and the rest then he blocked me 😂
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"Hi everyone. I was talking to the male part of a lovely couple this morning having great conversation. We swapped pics and details then all of a sudden blocked me. Is this a regular occurrence?"
Hell yes lol, though more often they suddenly ghost us leaving us as friends, their face pics in received messages etc (weird). Just today alone we've had two couples suddenly leave site mid chat !?, they may have been removed by admin too.... frustrating to say the least. |
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By *1wins OP Man 1 week ago
Southampton |
They were a nice bi couple. We had shared pics and what we were all into and even talked of a meet and scenario that could happen. So not sure. Just a polite no thanks or reason why would be nice…. Oh well the hunt for a nice couple continues but hard with so many single guys out there. |
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"They were a nice bi couple. We had shared pics and what we were all into and even talked of a meet and scenario that could happen"
In your opening post you said you were talking to the male. I assumed when the woman saw your pics and messages she chose to block you. |
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"Stand back a moment and have a think about how inhuman that process is... Chat chat chat... Block. Freaking weird behavior we seem to accept and excuse. "
Its even more inhumane if you tell someone youve changed your mind after chatting and get a torrid of abuse back from them, sometimes it's easier just to block |
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"Hi everyone. I was talking to the male part of a lovely couple this morning having great conversation. We swapped pics and details then all of a sudden blocked me. Is this a regular occurrence?"
Yes happens a lot unfortunately |
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"Stand back a moment and have a think about how inhuman that process is... Chat chat chat... Block. Freaking weird behavior we seem to accept and excuse.
Its even more inhumane if you tell someone youve changed your mind after chatting and get a torrid of abuse back from them, sometimes it's easier just to block "
Yes that is too. Funny what we tolerate in the search for casual encounters with strangers. |
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"If I get sent a picture after chatting and I’m not interested I’ll always say sorry unfortunately not my type. Take care and happy fabbing.
No reason to be an arsehole about it "
I'd rather just get the one liner back 'No sorry not for me' so I like your reply.and there's no bad feelings. |
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By *irsSubCouple 1 week ago
Darlington |
"If I get sent a picture after chatting and I’m not interested I’ll always say sorry unfortunately not my type. Take care and happy fabbing.
No reason to be an arsehole about it
I'd rather just get the one liner back 'No sorry not for me' so I like your reply.and there's no bad feelings. "
The issue some couples have is that either they get abuse back or the recipient of a "no thanks" just doubles down and tries to persuade them otherwise. We only tend to block people who keep coming after not getting the hint |
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"If I get sent a picture after chatting and I’m not interested I’ll always say sorry unfortunately not my type. Take care and happy fabbing.
No reason to be an arsehole about it
I'd rather just get the one liner back 'No sorry not for me' so I like your reply.and there's no bad feelings.
The issue some couples have is that either they get abuse back or the recipient of a "no thanks" just doubles down and tries to persuade them otherwise. We only tend to block people who keep coming after not getting the hint"
I tend to know if the person is not really interested so I just tleave it and not bother them again
If they did message again then I would reply and see where it led. |
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By *INTMan 1 week ago
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Has happened to me here twice and once on another site.
Currently in a strange situ that I really can't make sense of.
Single woman messaged me. We got chatting and were really, really getting along. Was excited to find someone on the same wavelength. We'd made plans to meet (this coming weekend, in fact) mostly just to hang out and talk shit - she'd intimated possibly more but the primary objective was just to meet & hang out. All good.
Two weeks ago she stopped replying or opening messages. I'm not blocked as far as I can tell as I can still see when she's online.
After the first week of silence I sent a message highlighting that I seem to have lost her interest (and that's okay - we don't owe each other anything).
After the second week of silence I sent a goodbye. Not my style to be a spammer & I will never darken her inbox again.
Although this isn't my first ever rejection, it's the manner which is upsetting and distressing.
The silence is torture.
And a little cruel.
C'est la vie. |
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"If I get sent a picture after chatting and I’m not interested I’ll always say sorry unfortunately not my type. Take care and happy fabbing.
No reason to be an arsehole about it
I'd rather just get the one liner back 'No sorry not for me' so I like your reply.and there's no bad feelings.
The issue some couples have is that either they get abuse back or the recipient of a "no thanks" just doubles down and tries to persuade them otherwise. We only tend to block people who keep coming after not getting the hint"
This.
Ive said a polite no thanks after a face pic and had a torrent of abuse. Some people do not and cannot handle rejection.
If you don't have a thick skin on this site you'll struggle. |
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"Hi everyone. I was talking to the male part of a lovely couple this morning having great conversation. We swapped pics and details then all of a sudden blocked me. Is this a regular occurrence?"
Yes. It’s the husband running the account, his wife has no interest or maybe completely unaware that the old Fab profile is still going or ‘maintained’. He contacts single men, getting his thrill at the engagement, fantasising, wanking over messages and photos in the lead up to a meet with his wife… and… it’s never going to happen. Never was. He may be desperately trying to convince her behind the scenes to take part but typically… she had a go at swinging years ago (just to indulge her husband), didn’t enjoy it or just can’t be bothered anymore. She may have low libido (perimenopause / menopause) and believes she is ‘past it’. Husband is still horny though.
The big red flag is they have no recent meet verifications and old photographs.
I quickly learnt to dismiss these ‘couple’ profiles, block them if necessary. Waste of your time. |
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"Has happened to me here twice and once on another site.
Currently in a strange situ that I really can't make sense of.
Single woman messaged me. We got chatting and were really, really getting along. Was excited to find someone on the same wavelength. We'd made plans to meet (this coming weekend, in fact) mostly just to hang out and talk shit - she'd intimated possibly more but the primary objective was just to meet & hang out. All good.
Two weeks ago she stopped replying or opening messages. I'm not blocked as far as I can tell as I can still see when she's online.
After the first week of silence I sent a message highlighting that I seem to have lost her interest (and that's okay - we don't owe each other anything).
After the second week of silence I sent a goodbye. Not my style to be a spammer & I will never darken her inbox again.
Although this isn't my first ever rejection, it's the manner which is upsetting and distressing.
The silence is torture.
And a little cruel.
C'est la vie. "
Dude… it was almost certainly a man pretending to be a single woman. |
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By *INTMan 1 week ago
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"Has happened to me here twice and once on another site.
Currently in a strange situ that I really can't make sense of.
Single woman messaged me. We got chatting and were really, really getting along. Was excited to find someone on the same wavelength. We'd made plans to meet (this coming weekend, in fact) mostly just to hang out and talk shit - she'd intimated possibly more but the primary objective was just to meet & hang out. All good.
Two weeks ago she stopped replying or opening messages. I'm not blocked as far as I can tell as I can still see when she's online.
After the first week of silence I sent a message highlighting that I seem to have lost her interest (and that's okay - we don't owe each other anything).
After the second week of silence I sent a goodbye. Not my style to be a spammer & I will never darken her inbox again.
Although this isn't my first ever rejection, it's the manner which is upsetting and distressing.
The silence is torture.
And a little cruel.
C'est la vie.
Dude… it was almost certainly a man pretending to be a single woman."
Nope, definitely not. Well verified. 100% woman. |
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By *irsSubCouple 1 week ago
Darlington |
"Hi everyone. I was talking to the male part of a lovely couple this morning having great conversation. We swapped pics and details then all of a sudden blocked me. Is this a regular occurrence?
Yes. It’s the husband running the account, his wife has no interest or maybe completely unaware that the old Fab profile is still going or ‘maintained’. He contacts single men, getting his thrill at the engagement, fantasising, wanking over messages and photos in the lead up to a meet with his wife… and… it’s never going to happen. Never was. He may be desperately trying to convince her behind the scenes to take part but typically… she had a go at swinging years ago (just to indulge her husband), didn’t enjoy it or just can’t be bothered anymore. She may have low libido (perimenopause / menopause) and believes she is ‘past it’. Husband is still horny though.
The big red flag is they have no recent meet verifications and old photographs.
I quickly learnt to dismiss these ‘couple’ profiles, block them if necessary. Waste of your time."
These accounts seem fairly common but also very easy to suss out within 2-3 messages. I find that people on here can seem to horny (almost as if they were wanking whilst chatting lol). Also when they seem to want to discuss exactly what might happen is a massive red flag. |
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By *riel13Woman 1 week ago
Northampton |
"Has happened to me here twice and once on another site.
Currently in a strange situ that I really can't make sense of.
Single woman messaged me. We got chatting and were really, really getting along. Was excited to find someone on the same wavelength. We'd made plans to meet (this coming weekend, in fact) mostly just to hang out and talk shit - she'd intimated possibly more but the primary objective was just to meet & hang out. All good.
Two weeks ago she stopped replying or opening messages. I'm not blocked as far as I can tell as I can still see when she's online.
After the first week of silence I sent a message highlighting that I seem to have lost her interest (and that's okay - we don't owe each other anything).
After the second week of silence I sent a goodbye. Not my style to be a spammer & I will never darken her inbox again.
Although this isn't my first ever rejection, it's the manner which is upsetting and distressing.
The silence is torture.
And a little cruel.
C'est la vie.
Dude… it was almost certainly a man pretending to be a single woman.
Nope, definitely not. Well verified. 100% woman. "
Some men will verify a woman they have never met in the hopes of her attention and a return veri so ya know  |
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By *ugby 123Couple 1 week ago
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"Has happened to me here twice and once on another site.
Currently in a strange situ that I really can't make sense of.
Single woman messaged me. We got chatting and were really, really getting along. Was excited to find someone on the same wavelength. We'd made plans to meet (this coming weekend, in fact) mostly just to hang out and talk shit - she'd intimated possibly more but the primary objective was just to meet & hang out. All good.
Two weeks ago she stopped replying or opening messages. I'm not blocked as far as I can tell as I can still see when she's online.
After the first week of silence I sent a message highlighting that I seem to have lost her interest (and that's okay - we don't owe each other anything).
After the second week of silence I sent a goodbye. Not my style to be a spammer & I will never darken her inbox again.
Although this isn't my first ever rejection, it's the manner which is upsetting and distressing.
The silence is torture.
And a little cruel.
C'est la vie.
Dude… it was almost certainly a man pretending to be a single woman."
Or someone who decided the chat wasn't for them |
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By *ugby 123Couple 1 week ago
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We should remember that all users can choose who they speak to and whether they stop that chat after it has been started. It doesn't mean that those people who stop chatting for whatever reason are fake or have fake veri's.
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By *aciamiCouple 1 week ago
Hertfordshire |
We do it. Sometimes it becomes evident that they clearly haven't read our profile and make comments that demonstrate we really aren't on the same page and so block. Why waste our time on someone who couldn't find the 30 seconds it would take to read and digest our profile and what we're looking for.
A great example is guys in couples making out they're a bull. As soon as that word is mentioned it gets an instant block. That's not what we're here for and is a total turn off. |
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By *INTMan 1 week ago
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"Has happened to me here twice and once on another site.
Currently in a strange situ that I really can't make sense of.
Single woman messaged me. We got chatting and were really, really getting along. Was excited to find someone on the same wavelength. We'd made plans to meet (this coming weekend, in fact) mostly just to hang out and talk shit - she'd intimated possibly more but the primary objective was just to meet & hang out. All good.
Two weeks ago she stopped replying or opening messages. I'm not blocked as far as I can tell as I can still see when she's online.
After the first week of silence I sent a message highlighting that I seem to have lost her interest (and that's okay - we don't owe each other anything).
After the second week of silence I sent a goodbye. Not my style to be a spammer & I will never darken her inbox again.
Although this isn't my first ever rejection, it's the manner which is upsetting and distressing.
The silence is torture.
And a little cruel.
C'est la vie.
Dude… it was almost certainly a man pretending to be a single woman.
Or someone who decided the chat wasn't for them"
This is what I believe. And I'm fine with it. It's happened before where a chat fizzles out and we just leave it at that. No problem. No questions asked.
This case was different. Unusual. Surprising. Wrapping my head around it but very clearly and very deliberately respecting their wishes. |
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"Hi everyone. I was talking to the male part of a lovely couple this morning having great conversation. We swapped pics and details then all of a sudden blocked me. Is this a regular occurrence?"
He was proably a single guy not a couple.
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You said something that made him think you are not for us.
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"Hi everyone. I was talking to the male part of a lovely couple this morning having great conversation. We swapped pics and details then all of a sudden blocked me. Is this a regular occurrence?
He was proably a single guy not a couple.
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You said something that made him think you are not for us.
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He were probably a photo collector so if you get blocked delete the photos you sent straightaway. |
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"Hi everyone. I was talking to the male part of a lovely couple this morning having great conversation. We swapped pics and details then all of a sudden blocked me. Is this a regular occurrence?
He was proably a single guy not a couple.
Or
You said something that made him think you are not for us.
He were probably a photo collector so if you get blocked delete the photos you sent straightaway. "
Doesnt stop someone screen shotting the pic right away |
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By *iviTV/TS 2 days ago
London |
Hah I just had this, it was quite jarring but you brush it off for the reasons stated in this thread.
We had a day and location set for a meet, they'd initiated contact etc. we'd shared face pics etc. then suddenly wham, blocked 🤭
As a trans/enby person who can look very femme and other times masculine, I just imagine they had second thoughts around compatibility or something, eh.
Saves me worrying about fitting them in anyway 😂but kinda nice to know it's fairly standard fabs stuff |
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