But of advice. It am going to sound like a broken records
I have been a member for a long time on this site. I attend socials and clubs but I never seem to get very far with anyone. Reality is I have not had sex in nearly 6 yer. It’s not by choice either. I know I am up against it with the ratio of men to women. All I really would like is a friend with benefits. I am clean, polite and always make the effort. I just can’t understand why no one wants me sexually. I get a lot of rejections on here and I am polite I do not bombard people. I just do not know where I am going wrong. I come across positive and friendly too.
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Well with 57 verifications from clubs and events you're doing something right so just need to take that a bit further than you currently do. I can't tell you how but just need to change things up a bit. Face to face will always be easier than online.
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Here in lays the problem, this is a supposed to be a swinging lifestyle site not a hook up people looking for a quick fuck site.
Unfortunately people treat it like the latter rather than embracing the former.
But I do understand what you mean by luck op.
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For mentioning the fancy dress outfits I wore them to themed swinger parties. And yes I did sexual encounters at those parties in my themed outfits. I never go to parties expecting sex. To me it’s about the lifestyle. I was simply saying that I would like a fwb as I not getting the sexual attention any more. I have tried the dating apps but failing to find anyone that wants me more than a friend. No I have not got photos of me dressed up in fancy dress. I can get dates but it does not lead to anywhere.
Now I know I am not the typical super hot gym fit guy or bbc or bad boy etc. I also see men a lot bigger than me and unfitter than me going to parties and getting sexual attraction. Hence why I said I feel like I am being unlucky. It not just the apps of course I meet people for real outside but again it’s not sexual appeal they want. I didn’t post to feel sorry or omg 6 years is a long time I just felt that I needed some advice. I will certainly take on board and change my image .take down the fancy dress photos if that’s a reason. But it takes away the cheeky light hearted person I am. I want to be different not normal. Something that looks different on the apps |
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I have to note taken on board what has been said and changed and removed photos from my public place. I have had a message calling me a clown or jester which I thought was a bit rude but then might be how they see people at themed parties |
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OP; I’ve done well with Fab over the years, and have also been to clubs (but with much less success). I can honestly say, there are far more women out there in vanillaland, than here in Fab, or the swinger clubs scene. I have to say also, I find it far easier to approach ladies outside of this Fab scene, they seem far more ‘normal’, and I don’t feel the pressure to ‘impress’, like you do in here, as one of a thousand guys chasing one of three ladies locally, or one of twenty guys flitting around the one solo female who turned up in the swinger clubs…… 
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"I suggest also removing September 2018 as you have a better one in a dinner suit and also July 2018 as it is very dark and the background is messy.
Your profile is a big improvement now  "
It sure is |
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