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Frustrations with the lifestyle?
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Hi all,
We have been on the scene now for three or four years by now and are starting to feel a bit frustrated (not in the good way).
we used to have a favourite club (Fclub, London) but that has closed down now and we havent found any other nice clubs... we have tried all the obvious clubs in the southeast and to say we have been disappointed in quite a few of them would be an understatement!
The thing is because of our work lives etc we dont have the time for endless private meets trying to meet people we click with and want to play with.
Does anyone else have this problem or is it just us? we have got to the stage where we are thinking of taking a break and perhaps having a trip to Amsterdam later in the year for some adult fun. |
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I think its natural to get frustrated with the site and the people and the millions of penis pictures, fakes, people who don't read profiles etc etc.
Its hard to tell what you're after club wise but we feel incredibly happy we found and have become regulars at ourplace4fun and with the surge in popularity the place has brilliant hosting/good facilities (expanding) a reasonable price and a really good (quite young) crowd and no im not being paid to say this !!!! but after being to clubs all over the country this is the one we keep going back to because they put such an effort into making sure you have a good night.
Private meets are hard, difficult to organise and having 4 people who are all attracted to each other and in the mood that day is difficult to gaurentee!
A trip abroad or a break or trying something new always helps to refresh everything
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Its been since the club closed down really, all we really want to do is find somewhere we can relax and meet people who actually put an effort into their appearance!
We have heard good things about ourplace4fun but we have heard that its a mixed night every night and we have traditionally found that its always overpopulated with men.
Yeah we decided to save up and go to Amsterdam and try a club over there and perhaps see if we can get another woman to join us one night....we are both really looking forward to it! |
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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago
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"Private meets are hard, difficult to organise and having 4 people who are all attracted to each other and in the mood that day is difficult to guarantee!
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Yes, it's very tiring sometimes, particularly being a bi playful couple, if the scenario is straight fun then fine but otherwise becomes even more difficult, we may yet try the club thing again where groundwork tends to be replaced by how horny they/we are and it be easier to slip into mode  |
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The south east does have some widely considered to be excellent clubs, the issue is the south east is also a huge land space geographically.
clubs considered to be excellent will vary person to person but there is the Vanilla alternative, Liberty Elites, Ourplace4fun, Abfabs, etc etc
Ourplace4fun has dedicated couples/single females only nights but I believe they are mid week and while they do allow men in on a Saturday there are some fixed rules in place;
The men allowed in are vetted before hand and they allow a "limited" number in, these guys are given the rules (as everyone is) the club employs several "couples only" areas and there are "white lines" round the other numerous play areas you can only encroach when invited in by someone already inside the area.
On a personal level after being to a few "mixed" nights at clubs before I almost had to be dragged by wild horses into a club who had a mixed night on a Saturday but the way they control it and the rules in place mean you wont get bothered in any way.
Abroad is a good plan too as some of the European superclubs are just excellent.
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Yes, it's very tiring sometimes, particularly being a bi playful couple, if the scenario is straight fun then fine but otherwise becomes even more difficult, we may yet try the club thing again where groundwork tends to be replaced by how horny they/we are and it be easier to slip into mode "
Bodylanguage is an integral part of being a human being, also the ability to have a conversation and a "laugh" etc this is why we find we find a lot more compatible couples through clubs and going to clubs than outside it, outside clubs its a couple of pictures on a webpage that might be good but probably dont do the people justice and a profile that again might not give the real reflection of the person.
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"Hi all,
We have been on the scene now for three or four years by now and are starting to feel a bit frustrated (not in the good way).
we used to have a favourite club (Fclub, London) but that has closed down now and we havent found any other nice clubs... we have tried all the obvious clubs in the southeast and to say we have been disappointed in quite a few of them would be an understatement!
The thing is because of our work lives etc we dont have the time for endless private meets trying to meet people we click with and want to play with.
Does anyone else have this problem or is it just us? we have got to the stage where we are thinking of taking a break and perhaps having a trip to Amsterdam later in the year for some adult fun. "
Yes we know exactly what you mean, we used to visit the "old" F CLUB often, but since it's change of unit and since closure it's been somewhat difficult.
Private parties are our best option, but it's hard to find like minded others who do them, and where you are able to fit into the "clique".
2 great clubs around are VA and Liberty Elite (granted not particularly close to London) - we find Libs tend to attract more younger types (which is what we are and what we look for) on special nights so we find ourselves going there more thesedays.
Some friends we have (who were regulars at f club, almost furniture lol) travel to Libs regularly from Gatwick area, they are impressed with it so much.
Perhaps look a bit further afield and make more of a weekend of it.
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we are relatively new to the scene but i would echo what BlackCherry said, we have always had a great time at OP4F. They enforce the rules but not in a strict way, the white line rule works and whenever I've said no to a guy it's been instantly respected. They are great hosts and there's been a great mix of people every time we have been and it's never felt single male busy, if you know what i mean.
I hope you find something that works for you and enjoy Amsterdam - I'm sure that will be fun too
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Well then Missblonde we have probably met, because we definatly considered ourselves part of the furniture there as well!!
The problem for us is that we dont have the time to make a weekend of it, so for us if we did go it would again be fairly rare. We dont even really consider VA to be southeast... we would consider that to be more midlands. Although havent heard of libs before.
I think for us unfortunatly swinging is definatly going to ease off for the foreseeable future until we find something that works for us. |
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