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By *weAJ OP Man 2 days ago
Bolton |
Hi,
I’m looking to attended a club at some point. I hope that with this thread it’s possible for me to go there knowing what should be expected of me as a single man in a club. Obviously I wouldn’t be going with the expectation of getting my end away straight away but equally I don’t want to be stood in the corner watching. I would be more then happy to have a conversion with a female or couple at most but I don’t want to come across the wrong way
I see from some threads that some guys can be pushy and expect everything so this makes me feel uneasy about myself going however would love the chance to atleast experience it.
Is I the case that no couples would even entertain a single bloke because of this?
What is the right way to go about it all at a club.
Any help would be massively appreciated in advance
Much love
AJ x |
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Make an effort.
Shit, shower, shave. A nice suit and good shoes, clean fresh boxer briefs.
Don't expect to play first time, try to become at least semi regular - enough to be recognised. Have a look at the club ads and see if there's a VIP list or chat group.
Just be friendly but not creepy. Talk to the face not the tits. You're gonna see body parts that turn you on and you're gonna see body parts that don't. It's just skin, don't stare, don't gawp, just be chill. |
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By *weAJ OP Man 2 days ago
Bolton |
I see someone say don’t be a wanking zombie 😂 that’s something I mainly want to avoid. I want to be involved but not to the full extent. I’m happy to chat and get to know rather then asking for a shag on day dot.
Is that something that appeals to people just chatting or would they avoid that and go to the regulars straight away? |
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By *irsSubCouple 2 days ago
Darlington |
Nearly Everytime we go to a club we are happy to play with single guys, however 90% don't have a clue how to get it. If youre respectful, chat in the non play areas and avoid walking around the play areas being predatory there is good chance you will find someone to play with.
Timing also plays a part, interrupting our play to ask to join in will almost always end up with us saying "no thanks", chat to us before hand in the bar then there's a good chance we would invite you to play (as long as there is some attraction there). |
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By *irsSubCouple 2 days ago
Darlington |
"I see someone say don’t be a wanking zombie 😂 that’s something I mainly want to avoid. I want to be involved but not to the full extent. I’m happy to chat and get to know rather then asking for a shag on day dot.
Is that something that appeals to people just chatting or would they avoid that and go to the regulars straight away? "
As a couple we don't really think of there being "regulars" just single guys who know what to do and ones that don't. There are people we've encountered multiple times who we see as creepy and would never play with |
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"I see someone say don’t be a wanking zombie 😂 that’s something I mainly want to avoid. I want to be involved but not to the full extent. I’m happy to chat and get to know rather then asking for a shag on day dot.
Is that something that appeals to people just chatting or would they avoid that and go to the regulars straight away? "
The social side is a big thing at clubs because the lounge areas are basically a slightly naughty pub
I talk to loads of people in club lounges
Doesn't mean I'm looking for more
Most conversations start with a smile, pass the ice or a compliment
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"Nearly Everytime we go to a club we are happy to play with single guys, however 90% don't have a clue how to get it. If youre respectful, chat in the non play areas and avoid walking around the play areas being predatory there is good chance you will find someone to play with.
Timing also plays a part, interrupting our play to ask to join in will almost always end up with us saying "no thanks", chat to us before hand in the bar then there's a good chance we would invite you to play (as long as there is some attraction there). "
What they said.
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make a effort look good smell nice be polite best to chat in the bar area first to get to know people don’t go with the impression that you will be hooking up with anyone just go looking to make new friends. It is hard as a single guy in clubs as it is off putting when a lot for lads are just hanging around |
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By *weAJ OP Man 2 days ago
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"I see someone say don’t be a wanking zombie 😂 that’s something I mainly want to avoid. I want to be involved but not to the full extent. I’m happy to chat and get to know rather then asking for a shag on day dot.
Is that something that appeals to people just chatting or would they avoid that and go to the regulars straight away?
The social side is a big thing at clubs because the lounge areas are basically a slightly naughty pub
I talk to loads of people in club lounges
Doesn't mean I'm looking for more
Most conversations start with a smile, pass the ice or a compliment
Okay I didn’t realise there was a softer side to the clubs for chats. That’s ideal! thanks x
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"Nearly Everytime we go to a club we are happy to play with single guys, however 90% don't have a clue how to get it. If youre respectful, chat in the non play areas and avoid walking around the play areas being predatory there is good chance you will find someone to play with.
Timing also plays a part, interrupting our play to ask to join in will almost always end up with us saying "no thanks", chat to us before hand in the bar then there's a good chance we would invite you to play (as long as there is some attraction there). "
Exactly this! It's too late to get my attention when I'm already in the middle of a play as all I want to concentrate on then is getting as much pleasure from the play as I can, and giving pleasure to the person/people I am already playing with.
My rule is, if I am not good enough to someone to chat to me away from play areas, they are no good for me in the play areas. |
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