"My wife recently mentioned that she finds the idea of being submissive in the bedroom a turn on.
As a complete novice, what would be your advice? "
Get a flogger and a few impact toys it will be the best ! |
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Chat together - if she fancies ‘submitting’ she must have some idea of what she wants to do and/or have done to her. Chatting about stuff, and consenting to it, is fun!
There’s a huge spectrum of what this could entail which probably go from a bit of rough sex to the more extreme end of, I don’t know, being peed on or being whipped to a bloody pulp, you get the idea. |
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By *ickawitchCouple 1 week ago
Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you) |
"Chat together - if she fancies ‘submitting’ she must have some idea of what she wants to do and/or have done to her. Chatting about stuff, and consenting to it, is fun!
There’s a huge spectrum of what this could entail which probably go from a bit of rough sex to the more extreme end of, I don’t know, being peed on or being whipped to a bloody pulp, you get the idea. "
Most definitely agree.
Discuss it in detail first ascertain what you’re both comfortable with.
And start slowly, very slowly. You’ll have limits and boundaries, but you’ll find these will probably change as things develop and you get more comfortable and confident.
Wifey and I have been playing for over 20yrs but we still enjoy trying new games |
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"My wife recently mentioned that she finds the idea of being submissive in the bedroom a turn on.
As a complete novice, what would be your advice? "
Do some reading and learn to understand about risk reduction, consent, good technique. The Topping Book by Dossie Easton is a good place to start. |
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Communication is key here, as already said, the spectrum is wide on this so you need some guide from her and a way of expressing your boundaries too. Whatever you do, don’t watch Fifty Shades and assume that’s it (for many reasons!)😂 |
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