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Hi guys! It's much more challenging than we thought it would be to arrange an mfm.
If there are any single males (with verifications) then please get in touch on here!
We stopped single male messages because we had too many lol! |
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By *_FynnMan 6 weeks ago
Near You |
"You want single males to get in contact with you, but you've blocked single males.
Err...
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Yea , cognitive disconnect, took a moment to get the request.
Plus not show up on a simple search unless unchecking box's
Anywhoots. Good luck  |
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"You want single males to get in contact with you, but you've blocked single males.
Err...
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Probably to stop all the one word messages from silhouettes.
A post on here is more likely to be an actual message.  |
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"Hi guys! It's much more challenging than we thought it would be to arrange an mfm "
We've tried for some considerable time to find single males that tick all our boxes. Almost impossible !. When they appear to be what we're looking for we find they're playing away, have no intention of meeting, Cherry doesnt fancy them or they go quiet on us even though clearly logging on frequently  . You'd think it would be easy with so many on site... |
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By *JMidsMan 6 weeks ago
Midlands |
Having swung as a couple who played with single guys and as a single myself would be not to bother with fab at all. Go to clubs and socials, you can see how guys handle themselves then and more than one in one evening. Have a chat see you make a connection with. Road test them in a playroom and if it is all good you can then swap fab details and meet them for regular fun.
After swinging for a while you find most of the decent guys on the scene play with the same couples and most of us are friends so we introduce each other to couples who we know in the clubs.
I hope that helps from a single guys perspective
I don't mean to diss my fellow single guys on fab and sorry to be blunt but it is a minefield out there and you will not have a quality meet with most either through lack of class or sexual performance. |
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We’ve been in the same position, yes we’ve found a few good guys but you do find it hard we’ve chat to guys on fab for weeks then arrange a meet and they vanish/ghost you and even block you. It’s definitely put us, well female on the back foot thinking it’s her. But there are some little gems it’s just hard to find them and probably just has hard for them to get noticed amongst the drift wood ones. |
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By *ibLeiMan 6 weeks ago
Manchester |
"I don't mean to diss my fellow single guys on fab and sorry to be blunt but it is a minefield out there and you will not have a quality meet with most either through lack of class or sexual performance."
Not a single guy thing, but a guy thing. The thing that isn’t often said out loud about couples is how appalling male halves tend to be. My personal interactions (and the interactions of multiple friends) with couples have often been atrocious because of that. A complete lack of manners and often ‘the attitude’ - as if they were doing you a favour by approaching you. |
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"Having swung as a couple who played with single guys and as a single myself would be not to bother with fab at all. Go to clubs and socials, you can see how guys handle themselves then and more than one in one evening. Have a chat see you make a connection with. Road test them in a playroom and if it is all good you can then swap fab details and meet them for regular fun.
After swinging for a while you find most of the decent guys on the scene play with the same couples and most of us are friends so we introduce each other to couples who we know in the clubs.
I hope that helps from a single guys perspective
I don't mean to diss my fellow single guys on fab and sorry to be blunt but it is a minefield out there and you will not have a quality meet with most either through lack of class or sexual performance."
This, again as a single guy on here meets are hard to come by. Clubs however have nights when we are welcome and you notice who’s serious and who are the wanking dead. Let’s the social aspect come to light and you have more chance of a genuine meet as they’ve had to put effort into become a member having a wash (hopefully) dressing smart etc |
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By *harAndBryCouple 6 weeks ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
Not only is it difficult to find guys (and single women, and couples), when you do they don't show up. 60% no show last year, two meets arranged so far this year and two no-shows.
Good luck with the Fabbing!
(Bry) |
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By *fhbMan 6 weeks ago
dartford |
Hi, not local but in your neck of the woods on a regular basis and would be interested in meeting up.
Obviously quite understand if that's not what your looking for but I genuinely enjoy the mfm dynamic and would love to have a chat and see if we have any connection
Iain |
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Same here. We have found very few single guys that suit us and go all the way. We really thought it would be that most single guys given the opportunity to join a couple for sexual fun would jump at the chance. Obviously, we think it’s a higher rate of success in a club environment but then there are less single guys. We really are confused. If I “C” was single, I would jump at the chance. We both thought that a single male would be interested just for his own satisfaction whilst also satisfying us and us getting our pleasure. We would never want a guy who we asked to join us not to get his own fun and satisfaction. Honestly, how many single women are on here or in clubs looking for a single guy? Is it that heavily weighted that makes couples a 2nd option? |
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Despite being a relative Newby I'm finding meet couples pretty straightforward and great fun, helps being a relatively normal guy who is decent and friendly and not being too pushy, always going at the couples speed, they are the ones inviting ME into their relationship so don't be a knob@ hope op finds what they are looking for x |
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"Hi guys! It's much more challenging than we thought it would be to arrange an mfm.
If there are any single males (with verifications) then please get in touch on here!
We stopped single male messages because we had too many lol!"
I would love to check my profile x |
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"I would have thought it's one of the easiest things to find here if you have realistic expectations "
You'd think so wouldn't you?
Unfortunately loads talk the talk but when it comes down to it can't walk the walk. |
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"We find the right single males to be the most illusive unicorn on Fab."
Absolutely, there may be a lot less ladies that will play with couples but the ones that say they will are real. You don't have to wade through all the dreamers, fantasists and wannabes. |
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By *ouplemidzCouple 8 hours ago
Middle of the Midlands |
"We find the right single males to be the most illusive unicorn on Fab."
We have to aggree with you there. It's very hard finding single males here.
You get the one line messages, the copy n paste messages that they have added someones name or area too.lol
Then we get I've read your profile and think we could have fun when clearly they haven't so stop replying when we chat about what we are into.
The ones who stop talking when they realise it's hubby replying.
We meet in clubs simply because you can chat and see how you get on not have your time wasted on here by guys getting off sitting on a computer and not turning up.
Oh and we know there are some descent guys here but that's a small minority.
It would be nice to be able to chat with more genuine guys here but it won't happen. |
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By *harAndBryCouple 7 hours ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"We find most like the idea of meeting until it comes to it they bottle it lol we’d say maybe 15-20% will actually turn up but of blocked you’re narrowing it further "
We're doing quite well this year, then. Ten meets arranged, four have turned up. A staggering 40% success rate 🤣
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We have given up looking for single guys in here.
We had a lot of bad experiences; no shows, guys trying to force wife to take p@ppers on solo meet, VWE guys who don’t know what foreplay is (ouch!) as well as ghosting and various other issues. It’s too difficult. Some guys, not all, are single for a reason unfortunately.
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"We find the right single males to be the most illusive unicorn on Fab.
We have to aggree with you there. It's very hard finding single males here.
You get the one line messages, the copy n paste messages that they have added someones name or area too.lol
Then we get I've read your profile and think we could have fun when clearly they haven't so stop replying when we chat about what we are into.
The ones who stop talking when they realise it's hubby replying.
We meet in clubs simply because you can chat and see how you get on not have your time wasted on here by guys getting off sitting on a computer and not turning up.
Oh and we know there are some descent guys here but that's a small minority.
It would be nice to be able to chat with more genuine guys here but it won't happen. "
We pretty much exclusively meet people in clubs (or occasionally random people who take our eye when out for drinks in town). After all these years we've only had one meet from fab (a few weeks ago). Simply because the online world is hard work and often fruitless. The real face to face world you can judge pretty quickly chemistry and as you point out you know they are genuine plus more importantly actually present. However again in clubs we've had far more success with finding the right single ladies for FMF than finding the right single guys for MFM. Despite the ratios being as they are. The right single guy who works for us in a MFM if just hard to find. |
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"We have given up looking for single guys in here.
We had a lot of bad experiences; no shows, guys trying to force wife to take p@ppers on solo meet, VWE guys who don’t know what foreplay is (ouch!) as well as ghosting and various other issues. It’s too difficult. Some guys, not all, are single for a reason unfortunately.
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As always it is the bad ruining it for the rest of us decent guys! I have had two recent conversations with women on here on this very subject. One was ghosted just last Friday. The male unicorn is as elusive as the female one...or is he? |
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"We have given up looking for single guys in here.
We had a lot of bad experiences; no shows, guys trying to force wife to take p@ppers on solo meet, VWE guys who don’t know what foreplay is (ouch!) as well as ghosting and various other issues. It’s too difficult. Some guys, not all, are single for a reason unfortunately.
As always it is the bad ruining it for the rest of us decent guys! I have had two recent conversations with women on here on this very subject. One was ghosted just last Friday. The male unicorn is as elusive as the female one...or is he? "
It is the bad ruining it for the good. After a few bad experiences you begin to ask if it’s worth it.
Any couple or woman will have a list to things they are looking for, as will guys. You have to match and then the other party has to be genuine. We find guys who are genuine were the hardest to find. There are a lot of dreamers and married guys as well as guys who just want a shag but don’t really understand the lifestyle or dynamic.
One guy thought it was ‘weird’ that Mr allowed Mrs to play with other guys 
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Well getting those verifications is not an easy first step. And I'm sure you're you're looking for something very specific, which is not a judgement, I'd do the same. Keep at it and I'm sure someone will show up. I don't know if you'll find them in the forums though. |
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"We have given up looking for single guys in here.
We had a lot of bad experiences; no shows, guys trying to force wife to take p@ppers on solo meet, VWE guys who don’t know what foreplay is (ouch!) as well as ghosting and various other issues. It’s too difficult. Some guys, not all, are single for a reason unfortunately.
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Youch. I'm sorry that the guys on here can be total assholes that gave you bad experiences. I really don't blame the woman blocking single men. |
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By *il-widgeMan 42 minutes ago
Stoke on Trent |
Or you do as I do and reply from seeing a comment in this thread instead of checking out their profile and balls it up.....🤦♂️🙄🫣
Lesson learned....more haste less speed and due diligence will be done in the future |
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