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Here's my tuppenceworth ... some people like big cuddly guys so it's not that (although of course, guys with a six-pack will usually be top of the pile). I've had a look at your profile and it's woefully lacking.
You need a better description of what you like and what you can offer.
A few body shots (not necessarily naked) wouldn't go amiss then people will know if you're their type. And change your body type from 'curvy' to something else ... no man should describe himself as 'curvy' - it gives a horrible mental image 
Keep a positive attitude and get involved with the scene - maybe go to a club or social. Once established, you'll get plenty of meets  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Hi there im a large guy looking for some fun but im beginning to think unless you have a 6 pack your wasting your time on here is there any advise  "
yep.... if that is your defeatist attitude, you are not doing yourself any favours...
I am a large guy... I am having a blast because I use all the tools available to me, to try and make myself stand out from other people.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't think its the fact that your a larger bloke to be honest, you need more information on your profile. Yes a profile can be too long and informative , but a lot if people judge you in your profile and if its to sort then they just going to pass by without a second thought.
And its that first veri that hard to get. And yeah a lot of women like the six pack boys, but im not in anyway of athletic build, infact I'd describe myself as a lanky string of p### if I'm totally honest. The way I've got most of my meets is purely being friendly and cheeky.
Try putting some more info on your profile and if anyone gets in touch don't treat them like a potential meet, be friendly first, and be yourself , and a few more pics wouldn't go amiss either |
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"Hi there im a large guy looking for some fun but im beginning to think unless you have a 6 pack your wasting your time on here is there any advise "
a small minority of the meets i had were guys with 6 packs, but they were guys who engaged my mind and made me laugh |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No met a guy with a 6 pack on here yet.
Probably more to do with your profile and attitude. "
I had a six pack I swapped it for a keg, after major surgery that is |
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there are people who would rather have love handles over a six pack any day of the week. but there isn't a lot on your profile. add some more picks (not cock shots) and rewrite then go from there good luck enjoy and have fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People find all different shapes and sizes sexy and sexual attraction is often more than just physical. As people said above, revamp your profile, put more pics up and see what happens! Good luck. |
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"For everyone there is someone ..." ( sorry Kenny )
Have you ever considered that a 6 foot ripped Adonis may have trouble meeting on here as people may think : " mmm, lovely but too good for me " ??
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"Hi there im a large guy looking for some fun but im beginning to think unless you have a 6 pack your wasting your time on here is there any advise
yep.... if that is your defeatist attitude, you are not doing yourself any favours...
I am a large guy... I am having a blast because I use all the tools available to me, to try and make myself stand out from other people...."
That's because you have the "C".......the confidence....
It's all about confidence....
Confidence opens doors....creates openings...
Think of sitting in a pub or club...and several people walk in...there will always be one that you look at and think..."Fuck yeah"
And that's the one with the confident, don't give a fuck, I know I look hot manner.
They might not be the tallest, smallest, biggest, loveliest....but they will have the swagger...
Ain't I right Big guy.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi there im a large guy looking for some fun but im beginning to think unless you have a 6 pack your wasting your time on here is there any advise "
Couple of things.
No 1. If she knows you play and is okay with that then why not set up a couples profile. It's easier for couples and who knows she might enjoy it. Sauce for the goose ....suace for the gander.
No 2. Why do you expect this site to be different from real life. Do you think the women have lower expectations. If you find it hard attracting women in the real world then this site is going to be no different. You have to work at it bud. Ain't going to come easy. |
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"Hi there im a large guy looking for some fun but im beginning to think unless you have a 6 pack your wasting your time on here is there any advise
Couple of things.
No 1. If she knows you play and is okay with that then why not set up a couples profile. It's easier for couples and who knows she might enjoy it. Sauce for the goose ....suace for the gander.
No 2. Why do you expect this site to be different from real life. Do you think the women have lower expectations. If you find it hard attracting women in the real world then this site is going to be no different. You have to work at it bud. Ain't going to come easy. "
Not true. I never pull on a night out bit have had plenty of meets on here  |
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Yes it is tough here for bigger guys.
Then again, it is in 'real life' too
Did u think it woud be any different ?
The advice given above is fair, but you must accept that 'fit' guys are always gonna find it easier than you are.
Once you realise that, it is up to you what you do about changing it.
Action rather than reaction will generally get you further.
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Here's my tuppenceworth ... some people like big cuddly guys so it's not that (although of course, guys with a six-pack will usually be top of the pile). I've had a look at your profile and it's woefully lacking.
You need a better description of what you like and what you can offer.
A few body shots (not necessarily naked) wouldn't go amiss then people will know if you're their type. And change your body type from 'curvy' to something else ... no man should describe himself as 'curvy' - it gives a horrible mental image
Keep a positive attitude and get involved with the scene - maybe go to a club or social. Once established, you'll get plenty of meets "
Spot on! I for one have no issue with cuddly guys.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi there im a large guy looking for some fun but im beginning to think unless you have a 6 pack your wasting your time on here is there any advise "
Plus, this is just my choice but i dont play with married guys....so even if you were an adonnis it wouldnt matter to me  |
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"Hi there im a large guy looking for some fun but im beginning to think unless you have a 6 pack your wasting your time on here is there any advise "
Ffs women go for personality more than looks . Look around and ugly guys with poor dress sense, how do they get sexy girls its simple personality , work on your jokes and confidence
Well you have a choice ,, be happy as you are or lose weight,
Losing weight is good for your health in the long term. Your doctor can help or go private with a slimming clinic I used to be a 48 inch waist as soon as you start losing the weight it is great and you feel more confident and sexier |
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if you really think that being 'large' is the issue perhaps think about losing some weight - also if you think that picture will entice any ladies then leave it up there - the takeaway cartons and mess on the side table add so much to the ambience and allure! Z |
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By (user no longer on site)
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""For everyone there is someone ..." ( sorry Kenny )
Have you ever considered that a 6 foot ripped Adonis may have trouble meeting on here as people may think : " mmm, lovely but too good for me " ??
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Ive been with a slim guy, nice abs, he didnt think so, also a slightly bigger guy, he had a bit of a belly, but he made me laugh, well they both did. My few meets havent been specific body shapes, all different, not all made me laugh though and that is more important the connection etc. Good luck and make them laugh, be yourself and yes more pics  |
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No 2. Why do you expect this site to be different from real life. Do you think the women have lower expectations. If you find it hard attracting women in the real world then this site is going to be no different. You have to work at it bud. Ain't going to come easy.
Not true. I never pull on a night out bit have had plenty of meets on here "
Lol women just have to put a badge on saying I will fuck the first person that looks at me to get "lucky"
Guys have to try a little harder and I agree if you can't get a girl in real life , you won't be able to get one online and as a guy it's easier to get a girl in real life than it is online.
Women pick up very quickly if you think that you are not good enough for them . Or come across as desperate, creepy or just plain stalkerish .
Just my opinion and I will probably be criticised for this |
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If you're thinking that your weight is the major stumbling block in regards to you meeting women from here and in 'real life' then you could always, and this might sound crazy...
You could always shed a few pounds. |
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No 2. Why do you expect this site to be different from real life. Do you think the women have lower expectations. If you find it hard attracting women in the real world then this site is going to be no different. You have to work at it bud. Ain't going to come easy.
Not true. I never pull on a night out bit have had plenty of meets on here
Lol women just have to put a badge on saying I will fuck the first person that looks at me to get "lucky"
Guys have to try a little harder and I agree if you can't get a girl in real life , you won't be able to get one online and as a guy it's easier to get a girl in real life than it is online.
Women pick up very quickly if you think that you are not good enough for them . Or come across as desperate, creepy or just plain stalkerish .
Just my opinion and I will probably be criticised for this "
I think that's probably spot on. Z |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Hi there im a large guy looking for some fun but im beginning to think unless you have a 6 pack your wasting your time on here is there any advise
yep.... if that is your defeatist attitude, you are not doing yourself any favours...
I am a large guy... I am having a blast because I use all the tools available to me, to try and make myself stand out from other people....
That's because you have the "C".......the confidence....
It's all about confidence....
Confidence opens doors....creates openings...
Think of sitting in a pub or club...and several people walk in...there will always be one that you look at and think..."Fuck yeah"
And that's the one with the confident, don't give a fuck, I know I look hot manner.
They might not be the tallest, smallest, biggest, loveliest....but they will have the swagger...
Ain't I right Big guy...."
it doesn't even have to be confidence in that sense... I just go out and be the best "me" I can be....
for some people it may make them think "ooooh...." when they may have thought "nah"...
for example... i was in a club last night and a couple said then when they first looked at me, i looked intimidating.. but when they chatted and got to know me... they thought the opposite...
you can change the perception......
some of that may be confidence... but i think a lot of it is an ease and being comfortable within myself..... |
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No 2. Why do you expect this site to be different from real life. Do you think the women have lower expectations. If you find it hard attracting women in the real world then this site is going to be no different. You have to work at it bud. Ain't going to come easy.
Not true. I never pull on a night out bit have had plenty of meets on here
Lol women just have to put a badge on saying I will fuck the first person that looks at me to get "lucky"
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i also dont do this |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ill work on my profile so do people think a club will help my to meet new people"
i suggested on your last thread about this that Lincoln now has a regular social...it's not far from louth...get yourself along...I saw lots of connections being made there...definitely worth a go |
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I think confidence is a key factor as with anything in life confidence and comfort in your own skin, clubs are a very good place to go as well as people tend to not be as rigid to the shopping list of attractive traits and wants you see on profiles when a human being is actually infront of them.
However there is a tinge of truth in what you say and the underlying issue is these sites are all about 75% male, "single" males that is and with that comes a massive amount of attention for female profiles regardless of what they look like or their requirements which means they can and will be picky to the Nth degree, I'm not railing against this just pointing it out it does mean that often personality comes in distant second to looks.
But as its a site aimed around physical pleasure I think its just something you accept !
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