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By *irsSubCouple 3 days ago
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I'd say there isn't anything "wrong" with your profile, decent pics, bio is OK, can't accommodate is a red flag as it makes it look like your married.
As why you're struggling to get a foot in the door it often seems to us like a lot of guys miss the point of fab (and swinging in general). It's not really a hookup site, or if you look at it that way as a single guy it's really unfair, uber competitive one.
If you want a foot in the door of swinging, go to socials, go to clubs and mingle. |
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Get rid of the legal disclaimer, its meaningless.
What are you into and offering as you don't give much away at the min.
You need to add a bit of personality and stand out op.
You have a decent selection of pics though. |
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As a couple seeking single men, we would pass you over immediately because your profile doesn't offer anything special. It looks like you spent 10 seconds writing it. This is a site full of kinky fuckers, so if you're into something different, then spell it out. Minimum 100 words. As others have said, the legal guff is pointless.
No full face pics on your profile is also a mistake, especially as the little bit we do see suggests you're quite good looking. That plus your inability to host says to us that you're married and playing without permission. Oh, and unless you are a Television presenter or a Cabinet Minister, "because of my job" ALWAYS means "because of my wife".
Are you sending Winks? Because they are a waste of time if sent by single men.
Are you sending messages that consist of "hey"? Because that's the quickest way to never get any response.
Sorry if that all sounds harsh. |
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It's hard to say your doing something wrong if we have no idea what you are doing. However, please see below some thoughts based on assumptions we have made from your profile. They may not be accurate assumptions, but at least you can see how people may be viewing you.
Considering you have been on here for around five years, there really isn't much to go on from your profile, no verifications, not much of a forum presence and your bio is pretty pointless.
Firstly, drop the disclaimer, it does nothing except to prove you have no idea what you are talking about.
Then block single men from messaging you in your message filters so you can drop the line 'Not looking for guys thank you'.
That leaves you with just three lines of text. Do you really feel that those three lines are enough to make people want to know more about you? I ask because it seems to me that you have three lines of throwaway text. For example, who doesn't 'Enjoy good company, banter, flirting and naughty fun'? I would suggest that description will apply to everyone on this site, therefore it won't help you stand out from the crowd.
As previously mentioned, you don't have much of a forum presence. That's fine, many people don't even know there is a forum, but it does suggest that you have perhaps not used all the tools of the site to make your presence known. Don't rely on messaging alone, so often messages are not read, deleted or simply ignored (especially if the profile isn't enticing). Have you used the chatrooms for example? Maybe through the chatroom you could get cam verified, which would be a good first start.
Unfortunately, a long term presence on the site with a pretty empty profile, no veri's etc comes across as the profile of a person in a relationship looking for something behind there partners back. I'm not judging, just telling you what we see. I'd suggest that after five years the site isn't working for you and that your best bet is to get off the site and meet some people face to face at a social or a club.
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Some of your photos are very ‘same same’..
lose the pic with the face mask, you’re trying to appeal to people and seem friendly, not impress your mates.
Try some clothed pics.
Get to a club, talk to people like humans, make friends.
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