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By *os19Man 1 week ago
Edmonton |
"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
. I think this will only work if you guys make the first move.It’s highly unlikely a single guy will approach a couple unless he knows one or both of them.
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Also I think that picking people up on a night out becomes less likely as you grow older. Many older men on a night out will be expected home at a certain time and picking up a couple is probably the last thing on the list of likely events of the others. |
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"Also I think that picking people up on a night out becomes less likely as you grow older. Many older men on a night out will be expected home at a certain time and picking up a couple is probably the last thing on the list of likely events of the others. "
Thats a good point |
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By *harAndBryCouple 1 week ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
In almost five years of doing this, we've managed to pick up one guy at a garden centre and take him home, and Char's managed to blow one guy in a car park next to a pub.
We've been approached a few times in shops and also approached a few guys and if they've been single, Char's swapped numbers, but nothing's ever come of it.
Keep trying, but have realistic expectations.
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"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. . I think this will only work if you guys make the first move.It’s highly unlikely a single guy will approach a couple unless he knows one or both of them."
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Have the lady make the first move, if you get on then make it clear what you’re both looking for. Men aren’t going to spend time chatting to a random couple for long if they think you’re just chatty people and being friendly. |
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"In almost five years of doing this, we've managed to pick up one guy at a garden centre and take him home, and Char's managed to blow one guy in a car park next to a pub."
Genuinely curious as to how you pick someone up at the garden centre! What’s the opening line? Something about a bush? |
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By *harAndBryCouple 1 week ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"Genuinely curious as to how you pick someone up at the garden centre! What’s the opening line? Something about a bush?"
We're normally VERY careful taking our flashing pics, but he clocked us and followed us around. We nodded hello at one stage then as we were getting in the car we noticed he'd parked in a corner. We drove over, got talking, he copped a feeling in the car then we asked him if he wanted to come back with us.
Unfortunately you have to scroll through to June '23 to see the pics in our gallery!
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As a single guy there's no way I'd approach a couple even if the lady was being flirtatious. They'd have to make the first move or id just assume they were pissing around having a laugh at my expense or kidding on, so I'd likely smile and move on.. |
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"had an expeirence where a couple started chatting didnt think anything was up for fun until she handed me a blue pill and winked the rest is history
I think you need to be bolder "
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Mrs has done this a few times in our 5 years together.
She has the most success in Butlins at the Adult Weekenders, she'll get chatting to a guy while she's waiting to be served at the bar, 5mins later they're snogging.
I'd recommend booking yourselves there, everyone is out on the pull and only a 5min walk from their room  |
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"No success here at a regular bar. Kat has gone to order drinks in all her finery and remained at the bar only for the guys just to stand there muted. We’re surprised not one approaches. "
If guys have seen you both drinking together then that’s probably why no effort was made. |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 days ago
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I’ve had a guy come up to me and just have a chat, about life etc. Normal talk shit to someone on a night out.
I’m open and friendly naturally so didn’t mind it.
He brought up the subject of his wife later and we had a great time at their place.
It may depend on the person you choose, if they friendly and open to the idea?
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By (user no longer on site) 7 days ago
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"No success here at a regular bar. Kat has gone to order drinks in all her finery and remained at the bar only for the guys just to stand there muted. We’re surprised not one approaches. "
As TallinHandsome said, no man would approach a couple on a night out, as 9/10 times, it would probably end in tears.
You guys need to make the move, so they know what you’re after. |
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Most blokes will stay away from a couple,so you would have to make the first move,I think,if one of you came to me and explained what your looking for,think you would be surprised at how many would jump at it,I know I would. |
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Most guys won't approach if they've seen you arrive together, if you want to pick up a guy like that you will almost certainly have to make the first move. If a couple approached me like that I would definitely be up for it. |
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Following on from this
Mrs doesn't stand at the bar waiting for someone to approach, she will start a conversation, flirt a little and then lean in for a snog
In this day and age, the women have to be very forward, there are lots of gentlemen quite rightly worried about repercussions of making the first move and getting it wrong
"Mrs has done this a few times in our 5 years together.
She has the most success in Butlins at the Adult Weekenders, she'll get chatting to a guy while she's waiting to be served at the bar, 5mins later they're snogging.
I'd recommend booking yourselves there, everyone is out on the pull and only a 5min walk from their room "
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100% this
This is how it's happened for us
"Best left to the lady to do then just let her tell the lucky its on the cards aslong as its with the other half half. He will already be wanting to fuck the misses."
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"Following on from this
Mrs doesn't stand at the bar waiting for someone to approach, she will start a conversation, flirt a little and then lean in for a snog
In this day and age, the women have to be very forward, there are lots of gentlemen quite rightly worried about repercussions of making the first move and getting it wrong
Mrs has done this a few times in our 5 years together.
She has the most success in Butlins at the Adult Weekenders, she'll get chatting to a guy while she's waiting to be served at the bar, 5mins later they're snogging.
I'd recommend booking yourselves there, everyone is out on the pull and only a 5min walk from their room "
100 percent correct. |
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We pick up guys all the time in bars. It’s actually easier than getting a decent meet on here.
Boobs is very good at chatting to guys she fancies at the bar or on the dance floor. She tells them we are swingers and then sees if they are interested in joining us . Also beards does similar in the gay bars. |
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This is easier than you’d imagine, with a little bit of planning, the right attitude and a bold approach.
Along with my ex, we would often go clubbing when staying away from home, either overnight hotel break or on holiday, and the wife would like to dance so would hit the dance floor while I sat on the side watching her dance.
Inevitably she would attract male attention and she would enjoy flirting, kissing etc, and if all going well would head over my way and casually drop in ‘this is my husband’.
Some would freak out, some would go with it, and we’d often take a guy back to the hotel.
Holiday hotels/bars, waiters and bar staff can be a fruitful hunting ground also. |
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"We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple
You can’t leave it up to the guy to work it out. You need to be up front and tell them. "
Some people are not naturally up front and for all the want of trying you can't force that out of someone.
You're right in what you said before though. You have to create your own luck, nothing comes to you. I do wonder if OP may have that trail of thought |
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I have been hit on a lot in the past even when I'm clearly out with my husband and not "aiming" to pull.
My advice is wear something sexy, flattering although not absolutely over the top "slutty". Go to the bar on your own, leave him sat at a table. If there's a gaggle of guys stood together, accidentally knock into one of them (great if your're wearing heels and it's a bit of a cobbled/uneven floor). You'll probably end up being able to get your drink bought and have a bit of a gossip. If there's any of them that particularly take your eye and it's mutual, focus on them and keep talking to them throughout the night. If they are moving on to a different bar, go with them. While you make it clear you are out with Mr, don't stick to his side like glue all night. Bring the guy over to the table, introduce each other, keep it flirty.
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Had this happen to me as a single guy.
Was on a solo holiday to GC and sat in the hotel bar after breakfast to watch the Euros. Was the only person there at that point and a couple staying at the hotel walked in.
We struck up a conversation and spoke to 30mins, then the man made an excuse to get something from their room and left the missus. We chatted for a further 30mins and she admitted that they were trying to pick me up but he wanted it and she wasn’t so sure.
Anyway, the lack of directness and possible wading through nerves put me off, so made my excuses and left. |
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We have managed this a couple of times successfully.
I am naturally quite confident and flirty when I want to be and a few touches on a leg helps things along. We I get a positive reaction I will go to the toilet and hubby will just ask if he want to join us both. If it’s positive then hubby will go to the toilet and allow us 10 mins to chat alone as well.
Both times on holiday. Things are much more relaxed and less time pressured then back home. |
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We tend to find nights out a great place to pick up guys, ladies and the occasional couple. I think the biggest problem for us is not having a space to take them back to and likewise them. Also as we're not so keen to go to a strangers house, other people are likewise not so keen to go to a strangers house. So having somewhere neutral like a hotel to go back to helps.
Luckily being in a big city there tends to be lots of people visiting/working from hotels. Hotels work for us as a nice neutral space. We met a vanilla couple (now an ex vanilla couple) who were staying in the same hotel as a Christmas party which turned out to be a really hot night. Mrs bumped into 3 lovely guys who were working in the area on a night out. She went back to their hotel and had a lovely time.
So I would say from our experience picking up guys is not so difficult but having a nice neutral space like a hotel room to go back to can make the difference in sealing the deal. |
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By *d4ugirlsMan 18 hours ago
Green Cove Springs |
"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
Have to approach this from a different angle.
What subtle hints are you giving to a guy to show your intentions?
That way there I am not missing opportunities!
The rubbing on the upper thigh, being asked to go on the dance floor and grinded on, being flashed breasts are pretty obvious and happen all the time according to the Stories and Fantasy section.
A thick fella ( in the head, better say brain so not missinterpreted) needs to know the subtle hints! |
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"The male of the couple can talk to the single guy in the toilet or when his wife is away to powder her nose and tell him what the couple are looking for. Simples."
Not all guys would be up for this, and believe it or not there are men who would be shocked by this. |
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By *eyeYCouple 17 hours ago
Nr Leicester |
If we were interested in picking up a single guy, we'd have D initiate chat as he's great at connecting with people, have some pictures of me in less attire (not action or fully nude) and ask them if they're interested in seeing more/for real..
We feel it would be far more upfront from him than me flirting and then dropping the fact we're a couple on the guy..
He's managed it with ladies so would have no issue applying to guys.. 👍 |
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Perhaps if you go to towns where you’re not known you could be more direct.
Believe me, most guys need to be hit over the head or given a hand written invite a week in advance to actually get the message! |
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"Perhaps if you go to towns where you’re not known you could be more direct.
Believe me, most guys need to be hit over the head or given a hand written invite a week in advance to actually get the message! "
Paul is like this as he gets flirted with a lot but doesn't have a clue that it's happening even when I point it out. |
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