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I must admit there are lots of fake profiles, and it does seem to be getting worse. I had one of my old profiles reused by someone a couple of years ago. The only thing is it wasn't photo verified and I always do that. |
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"I must admit there are lots of fake profiles, and it does seem to be getting worse. I had one of my old profiles reused by someone a couple of years ago. The only thing is it wasn't photo verified and I always do that."
How was one of your old profiles used? |
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"We really are struggling to find real and/or genuine women on this site. Seems to be getting worse for fakes and time wasters"
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Most likely you have found them already, but you prefer to disregard them as fake. They are that large percentage of profiles that do not reply to your messages. The few that do reply, it's likely to be the fake ones. |
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By (user no longer on site) 2 weeks ago
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What are you offering?
Maybe take time out from messaging and have a hard think about what you are looking for and what you bring to the table, and write the profile accordingly?
I may be very wrong, but the profile feels like it is made by a man?
Which may put women off. |
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You are looking for what is probably the smallest demographic on here - and you’re looking for someone who isn’t bothered what your man looks like, according to your profile. I imagine that reduces your pool of potential to nothing (or rather, the types of profiles you describe above). |
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By *hirleyMan 2 weeks ago
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"We really are struggling to find real and/or genuine women on this site. Seems to be getting worse for fakes and time wasters"
Not to sound negative but your preference is very narrow, so statistically you're not as likely to find what you want in someone as much as many other profiles here 🤷♂️ |
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By *hirleyMan 2 weeks ago
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"You are looking for what is probably the smallest demographic on here - and you’re looking for someone who isn’t bothered what your man looks like, according to your profile. I imagine that reduces your pool of potential to nothing (or rather, the types of profiles you describe above). "
Beat me to it  |
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Unfortunately your're looking for the most wanted demographic, who can quite literally pick and choose.
As a couple, what's making you stand out to a potential suitor? What can you offer, other than mentioning "fun" three times in as many sentences. |
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"Plenty of women on here are real. What's a genuine woman to you? ones that don't hide their profile like you"
Hiding my profile means I'm not genuine? Right.....No one owes anyone anything on here, you know that right?  |
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"We really are struggling to find real and/or genuine women on this site. Seems to be getting worse for fakes and time wasters"
Perhaps it's your filtering process or your interpretation of genuine because there are lots of genuine people on fab. |
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By *hirleyMan 2 weeks ago
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"Thank you to everyone that actually offered advice/help.
Shame a certain demographic came in just to be angry "
Nobody is showing signs of angry imo. It's just you have sent a few mixed messages that people here are trying to address, I'm sure you know they have no obligation and won't care if you struggle when you don't want to listen. These are basic things really, that are easy to rectify |
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"Thank you to everyone that actually offered advice/help.
Shame a certain demographic came in just to be angry "
A certain amount of sarcasm, maybe. Anger, no. Forgive me for speaking on everyone’s behalf, but what we’re suggesting is that you revisit your profile (and perhaps your expectations) before looking for blame elsewhere. |
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By *abioMan 2 weeks ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"We really are struggling to find real and/or genuine women on this site. Seems to be getting worse for fakes and time wasters"
Single women are to couples, as couples are single men…
Lots in one group looking for a smaller amount in the other
So I would off the same starting point of advice…
Why should (or would) a single woman pick to play with you both over any other couple? What is your selling point?
Work that out… and then go backwards…. |
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Hi just joined weeks or so
Near edinburgh , finding it almost really difficult to get verified sicial or otherwise , any advise or people near who can help
I am photo verified
Much appreciated for any help |
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By *oxesMan 2 weeks ago
Southend, Essex |
"We really are struggling to find real and/or genuine women on this site. Seems to be getting worse for fakes and time wasters"
You have been on here over a year and only met one person. Maybe you are finding it hard because people will struggle to verify your status. |
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By *harAndBryCouple 2 weeks ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"Hi just joined weeks or so
Near edinburgh , finding it almost really difficult to get verified sicial or otherwise , any advise or people near who can help
I am photo verified
Much appreciated for any help"
Bad form to jump on someone else's post, best start your own thread.
(Bry) |
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Firstly I can assure you it's just as hard the other way round.
I'm on the verge of giving up with couples and putting my energy into single men - yes, it's gotten that bad.
Secondly you don't have any recent verifications, your only one is hidden, you don't have any recent photos nor any photos of mr.
So it would be a no on many counts from me. |
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By *oxesMan 2 weeks ago
Southend, Essex |
"Firstly I can assure you it's just as hard the other way round.
I'm on the verge of giving up with couples and putting my energy into single men - yes, it's gotten that bad.
Secondly you don't have any recent verifications, your only one is hidden, you don't have any recent photos nor any photos of mr.
So it would be a no on many counts from me. "
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"That's funny I read there's plenty women on here hmm interesting then why is it ur all ghosts pretty much I mean I had loads offer from guys but u females are a myth "
What were your expectations in 6 weeks. Most women don't message first. |
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If you want a woman to join both of you, why not have pictures of both of you?
Personally, we wouldn't message a profile of it doesn't show both people. That's just how we work it though.
If it was a mans profile he would be told to put effort into his bio. |
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We're not in a position to give advice on how to hook up with women on here because we don't really use the site for that.
However we can also share there are other avenues you can find what you're looking for that maybe more successful (we find they work for us). The first being our main playground clubs/parties/organised socials. But also don't forget the everyday world. We sometimes pick up single ladies just out and about or in bars and clubs. Sometimes ladies in the lifestyle (we tend to find our people) and (more often) those who aren't but are open to it or want to try it. We just find the physical world far more success than the online world. |
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"We really are struggling to find real and/or genuine women on this site. Seems to be getting worse for fakes and time wasters"
Unfortunately, I suspect that your profile, relative youth and inexperience are a large part the issue here.
You don't really seem to know what you want, or what you could offer to a potential meet, other than "fun". This means that genuine women are extremely unlikely to be interested... we are not playthings.
As a single woman, if I was meeting couples, I would want a much better idea of the dynamic and to see photos of both.
Maybe sit down and think about what you are seeking from Fab and how you can better express that in your profile. I would also reconsider your age range...would you really meet a lady in her 90s? |
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