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Is your profile showing you in the best light possible, stating what you're looking for and what you can offer? And why women are to choose you from the thousands of other men available? People look at profiles first before choosing whether to reply or not. |
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"Is your profile showing you in the best light possible, stating what you're looking for and what you can offer? And why women are to choose you from the thousands of other men available? People look at profiles first before choosing whether to reply or not. "
Good advice.
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By *ucka39Man 3 weeks ago
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Hiya op
Your profile is like a shop window, so needs to be appealing to others. Maybe browse other profiles,see what they done for ideas only, then create something that fits perfectly around you |
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"I'm not sure.. plus not really sure how to do a good profile.. not really good about talking about myself "
It's worth reading a few of the similar posts from other single men with the same issue, to see what advice given to them can work for you.
People look at profiles that message them, before reading the message. The profile must show what they can do for others. If in doubt, people don't read it, they move on. 99% of people don't match anyway but you need to let the ones who could, know that you're right for them
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I think you will find most guys on here have the same problem,Ladies and couples get tens if not hundreds of messages and have so many to go through that it’s impossible to reply or even spot someone they might be interested in |
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I would recommend reading the profile of the the people you are messaging and make sure you are what they are looking for, age range, single guy etc.
If you are potentially what they are looking for send a polite message and maybe pick out something from there profile to show you have read it. So for example I see you are looking for, I see you also enjoy.
Good luck and happy fabbing  |
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"I read the profiles but didn't think about saying something from it "
Yes try that and dont get hung up on not get a reply. Single ladies and couples get loads of messages plus you can't be everyones cup of tea |
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In all honesty your profile name would be the first thing to put me off. It's a little childish and un-original, the second thing would be lack of verifications.
Just remember that this isn't a dating site, it's a site for fun and frolics and sometimes you're just not for some people.
I think the best advice I could give is to get yourself out to a club, meet people in real life and start getting some decent verifications.
Keep you chin up!
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You are not alone in this regards. I message and get nothing back. There was one couple I messaged. They actually messaged back, saying I was not what they were looking for.
I nearly collapsed 😂😂, as to get a response was a shock.
I messaged to say, I appreciate their honesty and thank you for the reply.
In conclusion you are part of a rather large club. |
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It's best to not bother at all. Even when they message first, you reply and match or exceed their energy and just get ignored anyway. Seems most on here actively ignore people. Get your attention to just ignore |
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Loads of single guys get replies on here - and I reply to a fair few of the messages I get.
The incoming message just needs to be interesting enough to make me check the profile which needs to be aligned to what I’m looking for. |
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"It's best to not bother at all. Even when they message first, you reply and match or exceed their energy and just get ignored anyway. Seems most on here actively ignore people. Get your attention to just ignore"
I’m pretty sure you ll not have trouble getting messages |
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"It's best to not bother at all. Even when they message first, you reply and match or exceed their energy and just get ignored anyway. Seems most on here actively ignore people. Get your attention to just ignore
I’m pretty sure you ll not have trouble getting messages "
I get messages, I reply to the message, I get left on read |
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"Why don't anyone reply to me. What am I doing wrong "
Because you look fucking miserable. Is that really the profile pics that you think are making you look an attractive prospect for sex?
Fucks sake. Look at your profile objectively, from a woman’s point of view… Do you think you look like an exciting, fun, sexy guy? If you received a message from yourself and then glanced at your profile, would you want to reply? |
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Profile is boring and your pics aren’t great. Take a look at other single guy’s profiles that have good verbs and see what they do to present themselves!
Get to a social, you can’t beat irl interaction!
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I’ve not had many replies, but not sent out a huge amount of messages l. I got quite disheartened but then my wife joined and within 4 days had over 1400 messages. That’s also why you don’t get replies, she scans the message, if the opening line is good, she opens it, if the message on the whole is good she checks the profile, if it’s green flags, she replies |
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By *oxy jWoman 3 weeks ago
taunton somerset |
its simple op someone will reply if they want to ie fancy you as sexually as attraction is needed..and by far not the only thing ... swinging is not free sex for all
you need to do your profile you need to be you so other can decide do you need advice to be you?? only you know why you joined only you know what you seek...
most people will not be compactable with others ...men will find the scene very hard and i do mean very hard most get nowhere some get somewhere and some have the scene worked out and do very well tho this is very few ...
the swinging scene is a sex scene but its not a free for all sex scene its a selet or reject scene rejection is massive amongst guys as there are so many compared to couples/women the add in how many fake couple/women accounts run by men meaning there are far fewer couple / woman that it seems...
i dont agree with giving profile advice as it means 2 things to me one your not confident socially or online and two profiles that ask for advise end up samey and boring ... |
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"its simple op someone will reply if they want to ie fancy you as sexually as attraction is needed..and by far not the only thing ... swinging is not free sex for all
you need to do your profile you need to be you so other can decide do you need advice to be you?? only you know why you joined only you know what you seek...
most people will not be compactable with others ...men will find the scene very hard and i do mean very hard most get nowhere some get somewhere and some have the scene worked out and do very well tho this is very few ...
the swinging scene is a sex scene but its not a free for all sex scene its a selet or reject scene rejection is massive amongst guys as there are so many compared to couples/women the add in how many fake couple/women accounts run by men meaning there are far fewer couple / woman that it seems...
i dont agree with giving profile advice as it means 2 things to me one your not confident socially or online and two profiles that ask for advise end up samey and boring ... "
Agree with all of this, also online is not the best all and end all for meeting people, I do far far better in person at a club |
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Sorry to be blunt but your profile is just bland unappealing and tbh just doesn't work. Try taking better pictures smile maybe, suit up, present yourself smartly. There's a ton of ways you can take good pics without flashing the sausage or flesh, your bio reads like a shopping list and tbh just how attractive is that? try being more personal in your bio, make it sound like your actually saying it rather then a list. But the best advice I can genuinely give you is to basically not message everyone you see that just screams of desperation. Be smart with your approach make your first message personal and aimed at the person you want to chat with. No generic hi wanna fuck messages all it takes is some thinking, my profile is far from amazing but it works I get views, I get replies and have had meets just be patient and think first. |
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"Sorry to be blunt but your profile is just bland unappealing and tbh just doesn't work. Try taking better pictures smile maybe, suit up, present yourself smartly. There's a ton of ways you can take good pics without flashing the sausage or flesh, your bio reads like a shopping list and tbh just how attractive is that? try being more personal in your bio, make it sound like your actually saying it rather then a list. But the best advice I can genuinely give you is to basically not message everyone you see that just screams of desperation. Be smart with your approach make your first message personal and aimed at the person you want to chat with. No generic hi wanna fuck messages all it takes is some thinking, my profile is far from amazing but it works I get views, I get replies and have had meets just be patient and think first."
It helps you have a very good sized added extra 😂 |
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"Why don't anyone reply to me. What am I doing wrong
Because you look fucking miserable. Is that really the profile pics that you think are making you look an attractive prospect for sex?
Fucks sake. Look at your profile objectively, from a woman’s point of view… Do you think you look like an exciting, fun, sexy guy? If you received a message from yourself and then glanced at your profile, would you want to reply?"
Really good advice… Do you think looking like Paul Hollywood from Bake Off makes you a fun attractive guy? |
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You are a guy in a sea of 1730301 guys, stand out, smile, make sure your profile is friendly, approachable and shows clearly what you have to offer, what your looking for, basically something to pick you over the other thousands of blokes trying to get their dick wet. |
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For me you’re showing face pics, that is more than a lot of others do.
The comments on how you look in them for me is unkind. I can’t fake a smile for a photo or pretend to look happy. Maybe if there are photos of you when out use them or crop them accordingly
Your profile is lacking in content and how you script that first message is key, however even with amazing photos and bio it is not a guarantee for any success |
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