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Is my Mrs playing away ????
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1. She doesnt want sex intercourse
2. She doesnt want oral
3. Her profile was found on a dating site , when called out she said she did not set it up , her friend did for a laugh.
4. Found some sexy under wear, that ive never seen her wear.
5. Suppose thats why I am on here haha
6. Finally, any decent dating sites haha  |
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I really don’t understand sexless relationships. Sex is a normal part of a relationship, so if one partner doesn’t want sex anymore, the other partner really should be finding out why that is.
Is it something that can be fixed? If so, fix it. If not, agree what’s gonna happen moving forward. Do they just not want sex with you or not want sex at all. Discuss opening the relationship perhaps. In my experience, if one side isn’t giving the other any, sooner or later they will look elsewhere. |
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Perhaps she is looking for a bigger cock to satisfy her .. maybe some one with a 2 foot cock cos your monster is naturally not floating her boat .. anymore
Ever think she or a friend saw you on fab and worked the oracle? |
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Totally agree, often get mixed messages from each other. We have chatted, MANY TIMES menopause factors etc. She doesnt want it or doesnt want to get me aroused. Previously it was fab. Stumped atm. She never pressures me to establsh what my needs are , nor doesnt care. I have given her time space & tried. But finding here on dating site was a shocker. Rather be honest & end it. Its more about can you have a sex less relationship. Its never been an issue for me previously. Was hoping for some help on here. Thank you  |
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All sounds like it to me but a couple of questions.
1) Does the prospect of another man fucking her give you wood?
2) you're asking this question on a sex site so you must be playing away too? (Or at least planning to) |
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By *r TriomanMan 3 weeks ago
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"Simple, go on the dating site, set yourself up a fake profile, and message her to see if she’s available.
Take a bottle of Pena Colada."
And if you arrange to meet outside, there's a very real chance that you'll get caught in the rain so bonus  |
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"Totally agree, often get mixed messages from each other. We have chatted, MANY TIMES menopause factors etc. She doesnt want it or doesnt want to get me aroused. Previously it was fab. Stumped atm. She never pressures me to establsh what my needs are , nor doesnt care. I have given her time space & tried. But finding here on dating site was a shocker. Rather be honest & end it. Its more about can you have a sex less relationship. Its never been an issue for me previously. Was hoping for some help on here. Thank you "
But you are on here cheating yourself, for over a year!!! |
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She’s currently posting on another site….
I think my haobands cheating..
1. Found his profile on a swing site….
2…
Talk to her, her view of it might be different….if you don’t it’s doomed anyway both on sites looking for others….so nothing to lose |
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"Totally agree, often get mixed messages from each other. We have chatted, MANY TIMES menopause factors etc. She doesnt want it or doesnt want to get me aroused. Previously it was fab. Stumped atm. She never pressures me to establsh what my needs are , nor doesnt care. I have given her time space & tried. But finding here on dating site was a shocker. Rather be honest & end it. Its more about can you have a sex less relationship. Its never been an issue for me previously. Was hoping for some help on here. Thank you "
I don't know if she knows you're on here but be honest with her about that and tell her exactly how you want to move forward explaining that if you can't come to a mutual agreement you're going to end your marriage. She can then tell you her conditions for moving forward and you can agree to carry on together or apart.
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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"1. She doesnt want sex intercourse
2. She doesnt want oral
3. Her profile was found on a dating site , when called out she said she did not set it up , her friend did for a laugh.
4. Found some sexy under wear, that ive never seen her wear.
5. Suppose thats why I am on here haha
6. Finally, any decent dating sites haha "
1.Great cock
2.Yes she is |
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"1. She doesnt want sex intercourse
WITH YOU
2. She doesnt want oral
PROVES NOTHING
3. Her profile was found on a dating site , when called out she said she did not set it up , her friend did for a laugh.
WITH FRIENDS LIKE THOSE...... ( are you all six ? )
4. Found some sexy under wear, that ive never seen her wear.
WOW.... IS SHE THAT CONTROLLED ?
5. Suppose thats why I am on here haha
NAH ..... YOU ARE HERE AS YOU WANT TO BE AND USING HER SUSPECTED BEHAVIOUR TO JUSTIFY YOUR OWN BAD BEHAVIOUR ( if any of this is bad rather than sad that is )
6. Finally, any decent dating sites haha "
LOADS.......... FOR SINGLE MEN. |
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Possibly. Probably.
There were signs my ex was cheating, before he made it obvious.
Wouldn't have sex with me.
Didn't kiss me.
No oral.
Being particular with his underwear and trimmed his pubic hair.
I found a photo on my laptop he had accidentally taken while on Chaturbate.
Someone thinks that was me controlling him. I don't get it.
I didn't immediately go out and find someone to get my own back.
Years after I first suspected him of having an affair with a family friend, and eventually him admitting it, I found a much younger lover to have the intimacy he was withholding from me.
It filled that gap in my life, but it didn't make me feel better.
I'm still not over how he treated me.
I'd confront her and get it all dealt with ASAP, before you waste years of your life not knowing, and being accused of cheating yourself.
All the best. |
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"Totally agree, often get mixed messages from each other. We have chatted, MANY TIMES menopause factors etc. She doesnt want it or doesnt want to get me aroused. Previously it was fab. Stumped atm. She never pressures me to establsh what my needs are , nor doesnt care. I have given her time space & tried. But finding here on dating site was a shocker. Rather be honest & end it. Its more about can you have a sex less relationship. Its never been an issue for me previously. Was hoping for some help on here. Thank you "
Are you only thinking about ending it now you think she's doing what you've been trying to do for at least a year?  |
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"Possibly. Probably.
There were signs my ex was cheating, before he made it obvious.
Wouldn't have sex with me.
Didn't kiss me.
No oral.
Being particular with his underwear and trimmed his pubic hair.
I found a photo on my laptop he had accidentally taken while on Chaturbate.
Someone thinks that was me controlling him. I don't get it.
I didn't immediately go out and find someone to get my own back.
Years after I first suspected him of having an affair with a family friend, and eventually him admitting it, I found a much younger lover to have the intimacy he was withholding from me.
It filled that gap in my life, but it didn't make me feel better.
I'm still not over how he treated me.
I'd confront her and get it all dealt with ASAP, before you waste years of your life not knowing, and being accused of cheating yourself.
All the best."
He didn’t do it to hurt you, although he knew it would if he got caught. Men and women think about sex and relationships and cheating in completely different ways. I’m not justifying his actions, just trying to get you to think about it differently. Don’t think “he did this to me”, think about it as “he couldn’t control himself and in better off without him” |
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"Possibly. Probably.
There were signs my ex was cheating, before he made it obvious.
Wouldn't have sex with me.
Didn't kiss me.
No oral.
Being particular with his underwear and trimmed his pubic hair.
I found a photo on my laptop he had accidentally taken while on Chaturbate.
Someone thinks that was me controlling him. I don't get it.
I didn't immediately go out and find someone to get my own back.
Years after I first suspected him of having an affair with a family friend, and eventually him admitting it, I found a much younger lover to have the intimacy he was withholding from me.
It filled that gap in my life, but it didn't make me feel better.
I'm still not over how he treated me.
I'd confront her and get it all dealt with ASAP, before you waste years of your life not knowing, and being accused of cheating yourself.
All the best.
He didn’t do it to hurt you, although he knew it would if he got caught. Men and women think about sex and relationships and cheating in completely different ways. I’m not justifying his actions, just trying to get you to think about it differently. Don’t think “he did this to me”, think about it as “he couldn’t control himself and in better off without him” "
Couldn't control himself? We're talking about a grown ass man here not a d*unk adolescent. |
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"Possibly. Probably.
There were signs my ex was cheating, before he made it obvious.
Wouldn't have sex with me.
Didn't kiss me.
No oral.
Being particular with his underwear and trimmed his pubic hair.
I found a photo on my laptop he had accidentally taken while on Chaturbate.
Someone thinks that was me controlling him. I don't get it.
I didn't immediately go out and find someone to get my own back.
Years after I first suspected him of having an affair with a family friend, and eventually him admitting it, I found a much younger lover to have the intimacy he was withholding from me.
It filled that gap in my life, but it didn't make me feel better.
I'm still not over how he treated me.
I'd confront her and get it all dealt with ASAP, before you waste years of your life not knowing, and being accused of cheating yourself.
All the best.
He didn’t do it to hurt you, although he knew it would if he got caught. Men and women think about sex and relationships and cheating in completely different ways. I’m not justifying his actions, just trying to get you to think about it differently. Don’t think “he did this to me”, think about it as “he couldn’t control himself and in better off without him” "
Excusing mens actions as not being able to control themselves is naive and dangerous. Adults can control their actions and are very well aware of the consequences |
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By *pthillMan 3 weeks ago
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"1. She doesnt want sex intercourse
2. She doesnt want oral
3. Her profile was found on a dating site , when called out she said she did not set it up , her friend did for a laugh.
4. Found some sexy under wear, that ive never seen her wear.
5. Suppose thats why I am on here haha
6. Finally, any decent dating sites haha "
Yes, she’s getting bummed raw |
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If she’s not interested in sex with you I’d say you’ve lost her respect and you’re not fulfilling her needs elsewhere. That’s where you need to look and if that can’t be rectified I doubt the sexual connection will ever return - just write it off and move on.
You can be a sexual person but if you’re pissed off with the relationship in general sex is no longer on the cards. Thats my humble opinion anyway! 😂 |
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My wife would never play away. She can have as much cock and pussy as she wants, that’s a fair bit aswell. I’m lucky to have found my life partner and she thinks the same. Don’t forget folks. The grass always looks greener? You have found that special girl to begin with.  |
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"Totally agree, often get mixed messages from each other. We have chatted, MANY TIMES menopause factors etc. She doesnt want it or doesnt want to get me aroused. Previously it was fab. Stumped atm. She never pressures me to establsh what my needs are , nor doesnt care. I have given her time space & tried. But finding here on dating site was a shocker. Rather be honest & end it. Its more about can you have a sex less relationship. Its never been an issue for me previously. Was hoping for some help on here. Thank you "
Don't let it become toxic. With all the games and fuckery and tit for tat.
If it's hard to communicate, maybe couples counselling may help? That's kind of what it's best for.
If your needs aren't getting met and it's making you miserable then something needs to change. I am fairly certain sneaking around fucking other people isn't a positive solution though.
You're going to get mud slung at you here it's just how this place is. |
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If her brain works the same ways yours did at finding her on a dating site maybe she just found out you'd been on here over a year.
If your relationship isn't working at least talk it out with her and see if there's a resolution. If not, give both of yourselves the freedom to do what you want without having to lie to or hurt each other 💜 |
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"Totally agree, often get mixed messages from each other. We have chatted, MANY TIMES menopause factors etc. She doesnt want it or doesnt want to get me aroused. Previously it was fab. Stumped atm. She never pressures me to establsh what my needs are , nor doesnt care. I have given her time space & tried. But finding here on dating site was a shocker. Rather be honest & end it. Its more about can you have a sex less relationship. Its never been an issue for me previously. Was hoping for some help on here. Thank you
But you are on here cheating yourself, for over a year!!!"
Exactly. I hope she finds a better person |
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By *uga40Man 2 weeks ago
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"1. She doesnt want sex intercourse
2. She doesnt want oral
3. Her profile was found on a dating site , when called out she said she did not set it up , her friend did for a laugh.
4. Found some sexy under wear, that ive never seen her wear.
5. Suppose thats why I am on here haha
6. Finally, any decent dating sites haha "
is she on here |
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We have overcome some big hurdles together, we have hit the brink a few times... yet here we are 14 years and counting... our love, commitment and respect for each other has done nothing but grow since we learnt to be fully open with each other... and that is the key!
Talk!
At 1 point you were best friends, told each other everything and looked at each others happiness as your number 1 priorities.
Something changed. Like with every couple it does. You grow, you change. Sometimes you grow closer and at times you grow further away. We all go through it.
How do you deal with it?
You talk!
You speak out honestly about your wants and needs in life. You respect each other's views and decisions even if its not in your favor.
Reset!
Talk!
Respect each other!
One way or another it will get resolved.
Wishing you the best.
Jay
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"1. She doesnt want sex intercourse
2. She doesnt want oral
3. Her profile was found on a dating site , when called out she said she did not set it up , her friend did for a laugh.
4. Found some sexy under wear, that ive never seen her wear.
5. Suppose thats why I am on here haha
6. Finally, any decent dating sites haha "
going through similar things at the moment but getting a divorce as mutual agreement |
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