There's a part of the Forum called Swingers Support and Advice. That's worth visiting.
Lurk around the various threads on any of the fora to "read your audience".
If you find profiles you like from the search facilities on the main site, see how they post pics, write their bios, and what their veris look like.
It's a big site, with thousands of subscribers, so work out, after a week or three of getting the feel for the place, who you think "your people" would be (who appeals to you, who are you likely to appeal to), and then put time and effort into making yourselves stand out a little, and approach people.
It's a constant feedback loop, so give it a couple of months of genuine effort and it can start to pay off.
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Is your wife looking to play with the lady too op? That's not clear as shes down as straight, so possibly clarify that.
It's v hard for couples to find women to join them on here, as every other couple wants the same.
General tips, always read a profile and only message if you think you fit what they're after too.
Be patient.
Get to an organised social, i am half a couple and we've made more connections at them, than just using fab. |
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By *oxy jWoman 4 weeks ago
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best tips from me in find a club and chat with other couples ..
but also realize clubs are not everyones taste
some people like socials me and hubs dont like them
swinging is not for all so make sure you are both 100% on the same page and set boundaries and rules that you both agree and stick to only strong relationships survive this scene ..
be prepared to reject many and indeed be rejectedyou will not be for everyone that just the nature of life in general as most people dont fancy other people just a fact of life..
have thick skin
fab is massive and the forums are tiny in comparison same with clubs just a small part of the scene tho some will have you believe that the forums are the rule book of swinging ..its not
its a hard lifestyle to break into especially guys but also couples and women..
your profile is your shop window some make sure the text and photos are good
back to what you seek a woman to join you as a couple but mainly for the man well lets not put you off but your possibly looking for the hardest thing to find on the scene and you'll see so many couples wanting the same and getting nowhere as i already said get used to rejection sexual attraction is so important for most women and not the only thing niether as most ruin it via messages...
there is no such thing as luck on this scene and effort is everything as youll soon find out 99% of the site is men i say that because your going to come across so many fake profiles women and couples profiles run by a guy...
dont be put of cause if you get it right then this scene is a blast and generally gets better the longer your on it |
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