Hey all I don’t know if I’m doing this right or even in the right place 🙈so apologies
I’m wondering if there’s any female doms that would be willing some tips or advice as I’m looking to try taking control a bit more. We have dabbled a bit with me being in charge but I’m not very confident. Any advice welcome TIA MJ xx |
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In addition to munches, have a look at kink workshops particularly on negotiation, communication and safety. Lots of pro Dommes offer tutoring and one-to-ones to learn. There is a big difference between a top and a Domme. Do you like power play and power exchange dynamics?
For instance, I love topping, and in particular pleasure topping. I haven’t the time or capability for the responsibility that comes with be being a Domme, nor am I a sadist so I don’t tend to do pain play or heavy emotional scenes. I’m not a fan of top-drop and prefer a more fun and fluid scene within the boundaries negotiated.
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By *elkieWoman 5 days ago
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From the other side of the slash:
Look for the things that make YOU feel powerful and in control, or make HIM feel vulnerable, exposed, safe, protected.
Build an aftercare routine first: cuddles and grounding to bring you back together. Normalise telling him how proud you are of him and how well he did. You are in control, he wants your approval. Work on that.
And THEN, outside aftercare space, get your reassurance that he likes what you did, and what you could do better, and that he is proud of you, because he is ALSO in control and you ALSO want your approval.
Then add the fun kinky stuff. Easy. |
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