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Anyone else had problem with loss of libido in mid 50s in women? On hrt had testosterone level checked!
Where as the male half I just get hornier!!!!!
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This has been the story of my life for the last few years thanks to the menopause
You as a husband will kind of have to ride it out a bit whilst your wife deals with the massive changes she is going through
Support, romance and understanding will definitely help her to feel better about herself which in turn will help her feel sexual again
I know it’s tough but not as tough chat she is going through trust me ! |
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"This has been the story of my life for the last few years thanks to the menopause
You as a husband will kind of have to ride it out a bit whilst your wife deals with the massive changes she is going through
Support, romance and understanding will definitely help her to feel better about herself which in turn will help her feel sexual again
I know it’s tough but not as tough chat she is going through trust me ! "
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"This has been the story of my life for the last few years thanks to the menopause
You as a husband will kind of have to ride it out a bit whilst your wife deals with the massive changes she is going through
Support, romance and understanding will definitely help her to feel better about herself which in turn will help her feel sexual again
I know it’s tough but not as tough chat she is going through trust me ! "
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By *elkieWoman 7 weeks ago
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Partners help. Compliments, affection, and taking photos of me are going a long way to keeping my confidence high.
The drop in libido is very, very, very real, and it’s fucking terrifying because my body is not my own right now. It’s like I’ve been possessed by Mary Woodhouse, and I cannot spell out how awful it is. Anything you can do to make her feel more like herself is good.
And obviously, don’t pressure her. I’m assuming you have a lot of good years together, so take a few months of wanking like a teenager and courting your wife to make her feel sexy again.
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And to add ….
The menopause messed with my weight as well as my mind so over 5 years the weight was creeping on and I had no control
We were avid club goers and I hated getting dressed up because I felt fat and not myself therefore I drew into myself further and further
This last year I have dedicated to putting myself back on track. Lost a lot of weight , going to a few club nights to dress up sexy etc. Not necessarily to posy but soak up the sexy atmosphere and even gone into the rooms just the two of us for a bit of play on my instigation !
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My libido took a nose dive for about 2yrs. Mainly due to being exhausted from family duties. It was an odd feeling - I just wasn't interested in anything sexual. I'm now doing less for family and more for myself and I now feel sexy again. Look at her stress at work or from family etc. Since it's return I've been active in embracing it and even visited a club to play. I'm now feeling horny and great. |
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Just because the testosterone level appears ok doesn't mean it is.
Support and letting her know how loved she is is great but she should also badger her doctor regarding hrt. There are so many different types and a bit of extra testosterone can make all the difference. |
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"This has been the story of my life for the last few years thanks to the menopause
You as a husband will kind of have to ride it out a bit whilst your wife deals with the massive changes she is going through
Support, romance and understanding will definitely help her to feel better about herself which in turn will help her feel sexual again
I know it’s tough but not as tough chat she is going through trust me ! "
You say ride it out, she’s been in menopause for years and I would have thought thru it now? She is also on hrt and goes gym most days!
Are you saying it will return on its own or has she just resigned herself to old age and given that side up |
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"Partners help. Compliments, affection, and taking photos of me are going a long way to keeping my confidence high.
The drop in libido is very, very, very real, and it’s fucking terrifying because my body is not my own right now. It’s like I’ve been possessed by Mary Woodhouse, and I cannot spell out how awful it is. Anything you can do to make her feel more like herself is good.
And obviously, don’t pressure her. I’m assuming you have a lot of good years together, so take a few months of wanking like a teenager and courting your wife to make her feel sexy again.
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Is men never stop wanking like teenagers you know lol just some sex inbetween would be nice |
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"My libido took a nose dive for about 2yrs. Mainly due to being exhausted from family duties. It was an odd feeling - I just wasn't interested in anything sexual. I'm now doing less for family and more for myself and I now feel sexy again. Look at her stress at work or from family etc. Since its return I've been active in embracing it and even visited a club to play. I'm now feeling horny and great."
she’s retired and goes to gym every day no stress
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"Just because the testosterone level appears ok doesn't mean it is.
Support and letting her know how loved she is is great but she should also badger her doctor regarding hrt. There are so many different types and a bit of extra testosterone can make all the difference."
hrt with testosterone in it? |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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My wifes libido started to decrease in her late 40s, then she became seriously ill after her recovery she never ever regained her libido so after 17 years we have not had sex. |
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Have you had your Thyroid checked out. Mrs N has been taking Thyroxine for last year and is feeling much better in herself.
Lost a lot of weight. Libido is much better and she feels less tired.
Could be that but hopefully your GP has tested for that too. |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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Yes all tested all ok, it just knocked and it never returned not her fault and i never blame her at all. Its just the way it goes and i have excepted that. But thank u. |
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"This has been the story of my life for the last few years thanks to the menopause
You as a husband will kind of have to ride it out a bit whilst your wife deals with the massive changes she is going through
Support, romance and understanding will definitely help her to feel better about herself which in turn will help her feel sexual again
I know it’s tough but not as tough chat she is going through trust me !
You say ride it out, she’s been in menopause for years and I would have thought thru it now? She is also on hrt and goes gym most days!
Are you saying it will return on its own or has she just resigned herself to old age and given that side up "
Hey OP
There’s no such thing as through it im afraid because those hormones that gave her the sexual desire never return. More something to endure and find other ways to help. Have you looked at supplements? |
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"This has been the story of my life for the last few years thanks to the menopause
You as a husband will kind of have to ride it out a bit whilst your wife deals with the massive changes she is going through
Support, romance and understanding will definitely help her to feel better about herself which in turn will help her feel sexual again
I know it’s tough but not as tough chat she is going through trust me !
You say ride it out, she’s been in menopause for years and I would have thought thru it now? She is also on hrt and goes gym most days!
Are you saying it will return on its own or has she just resigned herself to old age and given that side up
Hey OP
There’s no such thing as through it im afraid because those hormones that gave her the sexual desire never return. More something to endure and find other ways to help. Have you looked at supplements? "
what kind of supplements? Thing is when we make love she enjoys and still cums and even squirts so the biology is still there think may be more a thing in her head about her age maybe I dunno |
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"Just because the testosterone level appears ok doesn't mean it is.
Support and letting her know how loved she is is great but she should also badger her doctor regarding hrt. There are so many different types and a bit of extra testosterone can make all the difference.hrt with testosterone in it?"
They can prescribe testosterone sachets.
Basically get back to the GP and explain, and don't take a fobbing off. |
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"This has been the story of my life for the last few years thanks to the menopause
You as a husband will kind of have to ride it out a bit whilst your wife deals with the massive changes she is going through
Support, romance and understanding will definitely help her to feel better about herself which in turn will help her feel sexual again
I know it’s tough but not as tough chat she is going through trust me !
You say ride it out, she’s been in menopause for years and I would have thought thru it now? She is also on hrt and goes gym most days!
Are you saying it will return on its own or has she just resigned herself to old age and given that side up
Hey OP
There’s no such thing as through it im afraid because those hormones that gave her the sexual desire never return. More something to endure and find other ways to help. Have you looked at supplements? what kind of supplements? Thing is when we make love she enjoys and still cums and even squirts so the biology is still there think may be more a thing in her head about her age maybe I dunno "
Supplements- Have a look at lions mane. |
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"This has been the story of my life for the last few years thanks to the menopause
You as a husband will kind of have to ride it out a bit whilst your wife deals with the massive changes she is going through
Support, romance and understanding will definitely help her to feel better about herself which in turn will help her feel sexual again
I know it’s tough but not as tough chat she is going through trust me !
You say ride it out, she’s been in menopause for years and I would have thought thru it now? She is also on hrt and goes gym most days!
Are you saying it will return on its own or has she just resigned herself to old age and given that side up
Hey OP
There’s no such thing as through it im afraid because those hormones that gave her the sexual desire never return. More something to endure and find other ways to help. Have you looked at supplements? what kind of supplements? Thing is when we make love she enjoys and still cums and even squirts so the biology is still there think may be more a thing in her head about her age maybe I dunno
Supplements- Have a look at lions mane."
Heard of that! What’s in it? |
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"My wife's switched off overnight, and never really came back, she tried, but really wasn't enjoying sex.
The crossdressing became my way of dealing with it and having an outlet."
did the c dressing come after or do you think that what switched her off |
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I’m going to reiterate that it takes patience , understanding and talking it through with your partner
If there is ever a time a relationship can suffer it’s when us ladies go through the menopause. I’ve spoken to so many women on this and unfortunately there are partners out there that have simply decided to cheat or are thinking of cheating rather than ride it out with the very person they are supposed to love
I can not express enough that without the man’s support mentally and physically that relationship will end. We need you to ride it out with us , the libido will ONLY return with your love and support. Trust me , we don’t want our once great sex life to disappear either!
In the USA they take the menopause very seriously and because of private healthcare you can get extensive hormonal tests and treatment
Unfortunately the NHS answer is generic HRT that’s not tailor made for everyone
Personally I pay for private postal blood tests every 3 months now to check my levels and try to supplement accordingly and for the last 9 months have seen a massive improvement on my health, weight loss and sex drive
Don’t rely on your free NHS because they simply are not fussed on the libido side of things - do you own research , get your own tests and help sort it yourself
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By *uga40Man 7 weeks ago
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"Anyone else had problem with loss of libido in mid 50s in women? On hrt had testosterone level checked!
Where as the male half I just get hornier!!!!!
Pms open if don’t wanna chat here, help needed if there is any answers thanks in advance "
mine just went off sex all together but still love her so just bear with it. |
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"My wife's switched off overnight, and never really came back, she tried, but really wasn't enjoying sex.
The crossdressing became my way of dealing with it and having an outlet.did the c dressing come after or do you think that what switched her off "
No, definitely after.
We've talked, she's not interested in sex in any way with anyone, before the menopause she was both adventurous and enjoyed sex |
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By *eper61Couple 7 weeks ago
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There are loads of different treatments and one form of treatment doesn't suit everyone.
Its acknowledged that if you've lost your libido due to menopause then speaking to your GP isn't high on your list of priorities, but changing the treatment (perahps several times if required) my get your libido back. |
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"This has been the story of my life for the last few years thanks to the menopause
You as a husband will kind of have to ride it out a bit whilst your wife deals with the massive changes she is going through
Support, romance and understanding will definitely help her to feel better about herself which in turn will help her feel sexual again
I know it’s tough but not as tough chat she is going through trust me !
You say ride it out, she’s been in menopause for years and I would have thought thru it now? She is also on hrt and goes gym most days!
Are you saying it will return on its own or has she just resigned herself to old age and given that side up "
I (F54) have had four years dealing with the menopause. Trust me it can change everything, libedo, desires, energy, weight etc.
Things that helped for me were
Getting all the medical support available
Talking my hubby through it all so he really understands it well.
Him understanding what I need and want and me understand his needs.
Our sex life changed in many ways from what it was but remains healthy just in different ways. Don’t try and cling to the past antics of your 20’s and 30’s and accept you are in a different phase. There is still lots of fun to be had and new thing to try.
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"I’m going to reiterate that it takes patience , understanding and talking it through with your partner
If there is ever a time a relationship can suffer it’s when us ladies go through the menopause. I’ve spoken to so many women on this and unfortunately there are partners out there that have simply decided to cheat or are thinking of cheating rather than ride it out with the very person they are supposed to love
I can not express enough that without the man’s support mentally and physically that relationship will end. We need you to ride it out with us , the libido will ONLY return with your love and support. Trust me , we don’t want our once great sex life to disappear either!
In the USA they take the menopause very seriously and because of private healthcare you can get extensive hormonal tests and treatment
Unfortunately the NHS answer is generic HRT that’s not tailor made for everyone
Personally I pay for private postal blood tests every 3 months now to check my levels and try to supplement accordingly and for the last 9 months have seen a massive improvement on my health, weight loss and sex drive
Don’t rely on your free NHS because they simply are not fussed on the libido side of things - do you own research , get your own tests and help sort it yourself
"
That’s great advise!! Don’t worry not planning on cheating but am getting bored of just being in the hand pump now if I’m honest!!
Guess the body thinks the baby making days are over you don’t need the ssx drive anymore either!
I’m 49 and hear so many male friends 10 or so years older than me also tell me they either can’t get it up anymore or don’t feel the urge to either! Something to look forward to huh lol |
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"This has been the story of my life for the last few years thanks to the menopause
You as a husband will kind of have to ride it out a bit whilst your wife deals with the massive changes she is going through
Support, romance and understanding will definitely help her to feel better about herself which in turn will help her feel sexual again
I know it’s tough but not as tough chat she is going through trust me !
You say ride it out, she’s been in menopause for years and I would have thought thru it now? She is also on hrt and goes gym most days!
Are you saying it will return on its own or has she just resigned herself to old age and given that side up
I (F54) have had four years dealing with the menopause. Trust me it can change everything, libedo, desires, energy, weight etc.
Things that helped for me were
Getting all the medical support available
Talking my hubby through it all so he really understands it well.
Him understanding what I need and want and me understand his needs.
Our sex life changed in many ways from what it was but remains healthy just in different ways. Don’t try and cling to the past antics of your 20’s and 30’s and accept you are in a different phase. There is still lots of fun to be had and new thing to try.
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but in my head I’m still 21 lol 😂
Women seem to go one way or another with the change! Raving nympho or nothing! This is why I don’t do the lottery lol |
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"I’m going to reiterate that it takes patience , understanding and talking it through with your partner
If there is ever a time a relationship can suffer it’s when us ladies go through the menopause. I’ve spoken to so many women on this and unfortunately there are partners out there that have simply decided to cheat or are thinking of cheating rather than ride it out with the very person they are supposed to love
I can not express enough that without the man’s support mentally and physically that relationship will end. We need you to ride it out with us , the libido will ONLY return with your love and support. Trust me , we don’t want our once great sex life to disappear either!
In the USA they take the menopause very seriously and because of private healthcare you can get extensive hormonal tests and treatment
Unfortunately the NHS answer is generic HRT that’s not tailor made for everyone
Personally I pay for private postal blood tests every 3 months now to check my levels and try to supplement accordingly and for the last 9 months have seen a massive improvement on my health, weight loss and sex drive
Don’t rely on your free NHS because they simply are not fussed on the libido side of things - do you own research , get your own tests and help sort it yourself
That’s great advise!! Don’t worry not planning on cheating but am getting bored of just being in the hand pump now if I’m honest!!
Guess the body thinks the baby making days are over you don’t need the ssx drive anymore either!
I’m 49 and hear so many male friends 10 or so years older than me also tell me they either can’t get it up anymore or don’t feel the urge to either! Something to look forward to huh lol"
Getting old is no fun at all haha !
It’s an old cliche but fist and exercise really helps too
Natural testosterone is produced through gym work too
I hate the gym but I have forced myself to go and it really has helped me |
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"And to add ….
The menopause messed with my weight as well as my mind so over 5 years the weight was creeping on and I had no control
We were avid club goers and I hated getting dressed up because I felt fat and not myself therefore I drew into myself further and further
This last year I have dedicated to putting myself back on track. Lost a lot of weight , going to a few club nights to dress up sexy etc. Not necessarily to posy but soak up the sexy atmosphere and even gone into the rooms just the two of us for a bit of play on my instigation !
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We saw at a club recently and both thought you looked fantastic. Very sexy. Sorry to hear what you've going through and glad to hear you're coming through it. Thanks for the advice, sometimes us men don't fully understand what a woman goes through. ❤️ |
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"And to add ….
The menopause messed with my weight as well as my mind so over 5 years the weight was creeping on and I had no control
We were avid club goers and I hated getting dressed up because I felt fat and not myself therefore I drew into myself further and further
This last year I have dedicated to putting myself back on track. Lost a lot of weight , going to a few club nights to dress up sexy etc. Not necessarily to posy but soak up the sexy atmosphere and even gone into the rooms just the two of us for a bit of play on my instigation !
We saw at a club recently and both thought you looked fantastic. Very sexy. Sorry to hear what you've going through and glad to hear you're coming through it. Thanks for the advice, sometimes us men don't fully understand what a woman goes through. ❤️"
Thank you for that lovely compliment
You are right that men don’t always understand but us ladies don’t understand what’s happening to us either so it’s much appreciated when our men try to |
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"And to add ….
The menopause messed with my weight as well as my mind so over 5 years the weight was creeping on and I had no control
We were avid club goers and I hated getting dressed up because I felt fat and not myself therefore I drew into myself further and further
This last year I have dedicated to putting myself back on track. Lost a lot of weight , going to a few club nights to dress up sexy etc. Not necessarily to posy but soak up the sexy atmosphere and even gone into the rooms just the two of us for a bit of play on my instigation !
We saw at a club recently and both thought you looked fantastic. Very sexy. Sorry to hear what you've going through and glad to hear you're coming through it. Thanks for the advice, sometimes us men don't fully understand what a woman goes through. ❤️"
Sure it was us? |
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"And to add ….
The menopause messed with my weight as well as my mind so over 5 years the weight was creeping on and I had no control
We were avid club goers and I hated getting dressed up because I felt fat and not myself therefore I drew into myself further and further
This last year I have dedicated to putting myself back on track. Lost a lot of weight , going to a few club nights to dress up sexy etc. Not necessarily to posy but soak up the sexy atmosphere and even gone into the rooms just the two of us for a bit of play on my instigation !
We saw at a club recently and both thought you looked fantastic. Very sexy. Sorry to hear what you've going through and glad to hear you're coming through it. Thanks for the advice, sometimes us men don't fully understand what a woman goes through. ❤️
Sure it was us? "
Think that’s answering me not you guys |
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"And to add ….
The menopause messed with my weight as well as my mind so over 5 years the weight was creeping on and I had no control
We were avid club goers and I hated getting dressed up because I felt fat and not myself therefore I drew into myself further and further
This last year I have dedicated to putting myself back on track. Lost a lot of weight , going to a few club nights to dress up sexy etc. Not necessarily to posy but soak up the sexy atmosphere and even gone into the rooms just the two of us for a bit of play on my instigation !
We saw at a club recently and both thought you looked fantastic. Very sexy. Sorry to hear what you've going through and glad to hear you're coming through it. Thanks for the advice, sometimes us men don't fully understand what a woman goes through. ❤️
Thank you for that lovely compliment
You are right that men don’t always understand but us ladies don’t understand what’s happening to us either so it’s much appreciated when our men try to "
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"And to add ….
The menopause messed with my weight as well as my mind so over 5 years the weight was creeping on and I had no control
We were avid club goers and I hated getting dressed up because I felt fat and not myself therefore I drew into myself further and further
This last year I have dedicated to putting myself back on track. Lost a lot of weight , going to a few club nights to dress up sexy etc. Not necessarily to posy but soak up the sexy atmosphere and even gone into the rooms just the two of us for a bit of play on my instigation !
We saw at a club recently and both thought you looked fantastic. Very sexy. Sorry to hear what you've going through and glad to hear you're coming through it. Thanks for the advice, sometimes us men don't fully understand what a woman goes through. ❤️
Sure it was us?
Think that’s answering me not you guys "
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