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Sorry folks I hide my profile when not on line only for privacy reasons that's all as I've seen my boss and his wife on here and don't want them to know what I'm up to would be abot difficult at work |
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"Hi all I'm really struggling to find a bi couple , ideally local but I can travel . Is there anybody else struggling to find bi couples on here who respond?
Good things come to those who wait  "
This is Very true.
At least I've found it to be so. |
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"Sorry folks I hide my profile when not on line only for privacy reasons that's all as I've seen my boss and his wife on here and don't want them to know what I'm up to would be abot difficult at work "
Block them - they won't be able to see your profile then... |
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By *ickD80Man 11 weeks ago
Wolverhampton |
"Sorry folks I hide my profile when not on line only for privacy reasons that's all as I've seen my boss and his wife on here and don't want them to know what I'm up to would be abot difficult at work "
Why would it be difficult at work if they knew? You’re not doing anything illegal, you’re not hurting anyone, you’re not doing anything that will affect your ability to do your job. If they’re on here as well then why do you think they’re going to judge you for being on here? The fact that your boss is on here means that you absolutely don’t have to worry about him finding out you’re on here. The only people who are going to judge you and have a problem with you being on here are people who’ve never been on here and will assume it’s something that it isn’t.
Do you know that you don’t have to reveal your identity on your profile? You can write your profile and post pictures that maintain your anonymity so that even if they did look at your profile they wouldn’t know it was yours. Or, like others have said, you could just block them.
Hiding your profile is a serious red flag so you’d be a lot better off doing one of those 2 things and if you’re un-hiding your profile when you’re online then your boss can see your profile then anyway. Out of all the options available to you for hiding from your boss you’ve chosen the absolute worst one, which isn’t even an option that should ne considered anyway because it’s not preventing your boss from seeing your profile at all times. |
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"Hi all I'm really struggling to find a bi couple , ideally local but I can travel . Is there anybody else struggling to find bi couples on here who respond? "
I would recommend going to bi nights at clubs or saunas, we have a joint profile but never meet people Just off fab, we prefer meet people face to face at clubs sauna etc. profiles on here don’t always reflect the person, some are better than profiles some not so  |
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OP - have you assessed how many you may have missed, because your profile is hidden? It obviously is going to be next to impossible for most single men to meet anyone of the opposite gender here, when you hide your profile.
People need great certainty, before they feel certain enough that a man could be right for 2 or more other people. They need to assess physical attraction, by seeing you, learn about your personality and sexual tastes, as you've got to satisfy all of the other people. It's not done by playing cat and mouse or them having to choose doubt instead of positive likelihood of the competitive men who have easier access.
If in doubt or if it's made to be hard work for them, then they have already left you behind.
If your behaviour screams that you're not that committed, they will scream fuck off to you. Do the opposite and be welcoming and obliging.
And get to bi events too. Increase your bi social circle. Are you coming to the bi social in early 2025? |
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Like flatting fog, herding kittens..
I have met a few genuine couples and loved it each time but there’s always hope lol
Next weeks lottery numbers are 1,3,35,21,16 and 42
If anyone’s interested lol |
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"We have the opposite problem.
Finding a bi male that will actually turn up is a nightmare."
We could not agree more. In the last few months we have had physical face to face social meets with 3 guys....they were all keen, then on the day they "could not make it". We operate a one strike chance policy, so we are concentrating on parties and clubs now. In fact, off to a party tonight!  |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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"We have the opposite problem.
Finding a bi male that will actually turn up is a nightmare.
We could not agree more. In the last few months we have had physical face to face social meets with 3 guys....they were all keen, then on the day they "could not make it". We operate a one strike chance policy, so we are concentrating on parties and clubs now. In fact, off to a party tonight! "
This blows my mind. Hard enough to get a meet as a single guy so why waste the opportunity when it arises!!! |
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We agree with many of the replies. Incredibly difficult now finding couples and single guys. Was MUCH better when we first joined 10 years ago.... Poor profiles, no photos, ghosting, endless chat while avoiding arranging a meet, fakes, those who leave site mid chat, mismatched interests, claiming bi yet listing straight, claims of sending face pics that never arrive or hidden by sunglasses or very poor quality. A few weeks ago we drove for over and hour to a couple social, no-show. We've even had a false address. Then there's utterly misleading photos leading to a huge shock when we meet. Even in clubs there's often issues, one couple claimed bi/curious etc, we all had a little play and invited to theirs a week later where we were presented with the exact opposite to everything they'd led us to believe !! |
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I have had the pleasure of meeting a few couples on this site and in clubs but they often want to hide the fact they’re bi, especially if it’s the male partner. The female never has any issues saying she’s bi, but if he is, it can put other couples off.
I have met a few couples and afterwards been asked not to verify, because they don’t want others knowing they played with a TV.
It’s lovely to get a message from a bi couple in which their profile states it, but it does appear that there’s not as many as used to, on this site. |
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"We have the opposite problem.
Finding a bi male that will actually turn up is a nightmare.
We could not agree more. In the last few months we have had physical face to face social meets with 3 guys....they were all keen, then on the day they "could not make it". We operate a one strike chance policy, so we are concentrating on parties and clubs now. In fact, off to a party tonight! "
I would definitely turn up |
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Come clean
You’re married
"Sorry folks I hide my profile when not on line only for privacy reasons that's all as I've seen my boss and his wife on here and don't want them to know what I'm up to would be abot difficult at work "
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"Hi all I'm really struggling to find a bi couple , ideally local but I can travel . Is there anybody else struggling to find bi couples on here who respond? "
try not hiding your profile ! That may help
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"Plenty of bi couples. It’s harder to find a genuine, reliable bi male I think.
Mrs"
We agree with that....Genuinely single reliable bi guys are the true Fab Unicorns....We know lots of single female friends, but getting a reliable single bi guy....as rare as hens teeth! |
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They are many Bi Cpls out there and I have been lucky enough to enjoy their attention. Some couples profiles do not list the male as curious or bi, but you can read in between the lines. Just read their profile, look at their interests and read verifications. Construct a nicely worded message to them BOTH and cross your fingers. Don't be desperate. Always lookng for classy non pushy couples here. Jay |
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Bi/bi curious couples exist! We’ve had more problems finding genuine single guys who fit what we’re looking for and when we do find them, they let us down for meets! We’ve had a hotel booked multiple times only to have to cancel it when they back out.
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"Hi all I'm really struggling to find a bi couple , ideally local but I can travel . Is there anybody else struggling to find bi couples on here who respond?
Difficult to find bi couples"
We are here if you look x |
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By *harAndBryCouple 2 weeks ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
Plenty of us around, but having been stoop up by 59% of the single guys we arranged meets with last year, we're only meeting from our friends list for now.
Oddly enough, they all claim to be reliable and will turn up.....
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"Hi all I'm really struggling to find a bi couple , ideally local but I can travel . Is there anybody else struggling to find bi couples on here who respond? "
Its likely because you have a hidden profile. As a couple we like to be able to see photos, likes, profile write up, veris and to veri the veris before we message people or reply. This is likely where you are going wrong. |
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"Sorry folks I hide my profile when not on line only for privacy reasons that's all as I've seen my boss and his wife on here and don't want them to know what I'm up to would be abot difficult at work "
Block them!
But if you message people then go off line and hide your profile the person who reads will likely ignore you
You can't excite all to be when you are online |
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By *harAndBryCouple 2 weeks ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"You can't excite all to be when you are online "
Probably one of those that only sends messages to women showing as online now, then three minutes later sends a passive aggressive ??? when they don't immediately reply.
Must agree that it's hard to understand the rationale behind messaging someone then hiding your profile and expecting some kind of reply.
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"Plenty of bi couples. It’s harder to find a genuine, reliable bi male I think.
Mrs
We're out here too...just looking for hot couples...
Why are the hot ones always so far away…"
Yeah, tell me about it!!
Might have to find my way to the Midlands sometime... |
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For those looking for a bi couple make sure that you are honest and have at least bi cur on your profile make sure and read the profile you find as there may be a reason that you do or don't fit what the couple are looking for. And most importantly make sure you address both parties if you get the chance to message them as its off putting if you try and only talk to one of the people |
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"For those looking for a bi couple make sure that you are honest and have at least bi cur on your profile make sure and read the profile you find as there may be a reason that you do or don't fit what the couple are looking for. And most importantly make sure you address both parties if you get the chance to message them as its off putting if you try and only talk to one of the people "
this would help |
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exible I have had fun with bi couples before but definitely hard to come by within a 50 mile radius. 