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We are looking to head for night out in Edinburgh this weekend. Looking to have Helen chatted up by guy or guys while we are out having her flirting and dancing with other guys is a major turn on for us both. Have any other couples had any experience of this?
Which is the best way to approach as we assume nobody will approach if we are sitting as a couple so we were thinking of being separate in busy club and just hope somebody approaches her and I can sit nearby watching it unfold.
Or how have couples worked the situation to have someone chat up the wife with hubby being present. Any advice welcomed |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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We enjoy this. Helen is a fine looking woman, I’m sure if she was dressed to impress on a night out, male attention shouldn’t be a problem. Jim
"We are looking to head for night out in Edinburgh this weekend. Looking to have Helen chatted up by guy or guys while we are out having her flirting and dancing with other guys is a major turn on for us both. Have any other couples had any experience of this?
Which is the best way to approach as we assume nobody will approach if we are sitting as a couple so we were thinking of being separate in busy club and just hope somebody approaches her and I can sit nearby watching it unfold.
Or how have couples worked the situation to have someone chat up the wife with hubby being present. Any advice welcomed "
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This is sometimes our dynamic, I’ll be honest and say that in vanilla environments unless your wife is very confident and forward the vast majority of guys will not approach, no matter how you look. You’d have much more luck in a swingers club that allows single guys. In Edinburgh that is the After Dark club out by Sighthill… |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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It is how we get most of our play either in bars or when on holiday.
We are very sociable so frequently get chatting to someone.
If we think it might lead to play one of us will squeeze the others hand twice. A squeeze back once means no and twice it's game on.
The flirting will then begin and then she'll say something like would you like to continue this conversation somewhere else.and then we'll either move on to our house/hotel or a motel. |
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We’ve done this in a busy bar. Just stood together drinking and dancing and guy approached after I’d given him a bit of eye contact.
We chatted, danced, flirted and kissed. It was really hot. So was he..
He wanted me to himself away from the bar.
We were happy to carry on the party but he clearly wasn't with the Mr present.
I feel he freaked a little.. 
It was a fun night.  |
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"We’ve done this in a busy bar. Just stood together drinking and dancing and guy approached after I’d given him a bit of eye contact.
We chatted, danced, flirted and kissed. It was really hot. So was he..
He wanted me to himself away from the bar.
We were happy to carry on the party but he clearly wasn't with the Mr present.
I feel he freaked a little..
It was a fun night. "
We would love that. Hubby is happy to stand back and watch Helen flirt kiss and tease but if anything further was to happen hubby would be involved. Just the flirty teasing and dancing would be horny for us |
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"We’ve done this in a busy bar. Just stood together drinking and dancing and guy approached after I’d given him a bit of eye contact.
We chatted, danced, flirted and kissed. It was really hot. So was he..
He wanted me to himself away from the bar.
We were happy to carry on the party but he clearly wasn't with the Mr present.
I feel he freaked a little..
It was a fun night.
We would love that. Hubby is happy to stand back and watch Helen flirt kiss and tease but if anything further was to happen hubby would be involved. Just the flirty teasing and dancing would be horny for us"
Exactly what our dynamic was too. It was really horny.
Get that eye contact and flirt on and have a great time guys. |
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Happened to me a number of years ago in Harrogate, I’d been chatting to and been dancing with a beautiful petite lady and as the evening drew to a close she asked if I’d like to join her and her cuck husband back at their hotel. What a night  |
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We've done this plenty of times, you're right in thinking that men won't approach her if you just hang out together though.
Id say there's a few things to think about, one is the kind of bar, it needs to be one with a dancefloor and music etc really. Loads of these in Edinburgh so shouldn't have a problem.
Secondly, you will have more luck on the dancefloor where she can dance with guys while you give some space.
Finally don't be disappointed if nothing happens, it can really depend on the night.
You may find some guys eyeing her up but not approaching, then you can think about what you might want to do in that situation
Good luck! |
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"We've done this plenty of times, you're right in thinking that men won't approach her if you just hang out together though.
Id say there's a few things to think about, one is the kind of bar, it needs to be one with a dancefloor and music etc really. Loads of these in Edinburgh so shouldn't have a problem.
Secondly, you will have more luck on the dancefloor where she can dance with guys while you give some space.
Finally don't be disappointed if nothing happens, it can really depend on the night.
You may find some guys eyeing her up but not approaching, then you can think about what you might want to do in that situation
Good luck!"
Thanks for that, definitely will find a busy club with dancefloor where I can stand back and let her have space. Will be a good night regardless of any fun I’m sure |
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In swinger clubs I would leave her alone for a while to give the guys a bit of room and over the years it worked well.
In a vanilla situation it only ever happened the once and that was on a cruise.
We didn't really plan anything but a solo guy we had got to know over a few days became her dance partner (I'm not a dancer) and it developed from there.
On the last night they went from dance floor to cabin. You can imagine the rest. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 9 weeks ago
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I get the fantasy element of this but I'd question if it was fair on the guys involved.
If they assume she's single and aren't told differently then they may be seriously pissed off if/when they discover they're being used to fulfill a couples fantasy.
Because 'consent'.
The majority of guys I suspect wouldn't naturally start chatting up a married woman in a bar/club.
Duping them into doing so is pretty disrespectful to them. |
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"I get the fantasy element of this but I'd question if it was fair on the guys involved.
If they assume she's single and aren't told differently then they may be seriously pissed off if/when they discover they're being used to fulfill a couples fantasy.
Because 'consent'.
The majority of guys I suspect wouldn't naturally start chatting up a married woman in a bar/club.
Duping them into doing so is pretty disrespectful to them. "
This was my thought. I would be royally effed off if I found out after the event that I was being used for fantasy fulfilment without my consent. If the genders were the other way round I doubt we’ve have got this far down the thread before someone queried the ethics. |
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"I get the fantasy element of this but I'd question if it was fair on the guys involved.
If they assume she's single and aren't told differently then they may be seriously pissed off if/when they discover they're being used to fulfill a couples fantasy.
Because 'consent'.
The majority of guys I suspect wouldn't naturally start chatting up a married woman in a bar/club.
Duping them into doing so is pretty disrespectful to them.
This was my thought. I would be royally effed off if I found out after the event that I was being used for fantasy fulfilment without my consent. If the genders were the other way round I doubt we’ve have got this far down the thread before someone queried the ethics. "
 I have been thinking something similar (especially the ol'gender reversal thoughts)
I also think Scotland's consent laws are a bit (from a male perspective) loose. Apologies if I have this wrong, but under law, consent can be given, "event" can take place, a period of time later consent can be retrospectively removed by one party, and charges can be brought.
Honestly though, I hope OP can find someone willing and consenting, just OP should be aware that there are lots of scenarios where "the guy they want" says No |
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"I get the fantasy element of this but I'd question if it was fair on the guys involved.
If they assume she's single and aren't told differently then they may be seriously pissed off if/when they discover they're being used to fulfill a couples fantasy.
Because 'consent'.
The majority of guys I suspect wouldn't naturally start chatting up a married woman in a bar/club.
Duping them into doing so is pretty disrespectful to them.
This was my thought. I would be royally effed off if I found out after the event that I was being used for fantasy fulfilment without my consent. If the genders were the other way round I doubt we’ve have got this far down the thread before someone queried the ethics.
I have been thinking something similar (especially the ol'gender reversal thoughts)
I also think Scotland's consent laws are a bit (from a male perspective) loose. Apologies if I have this wrong, but under law, consent can be given, "event" can take place, a period of time later consent can be retrospectively removed by one party, and charges can be brought.
Honestly though, I hope OP can find someone willing and consenting, just OP should be aware that there are lots of scenarios where "the guy they want" says No"
When we have done a similar thing she has always informed the guy of the situation early on in the conversation. Basically as soon as she knows she wants to go further than talk. |
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By *stwo80Couple 9 weeks ago
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As you get to a bar or club,split and go in separately,buy your own drink and check around for the guys watching you,they will be there!
Heels n cleavage help and an air of "come get me".
Works for me  |
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By *STOOCouple 9 weeks ago
durham |
Get her to wear a short black skirt, a see through top or one that shows her cleavage and stockings and heels.
Tell her to make eye contact with a guy she fancies and wait for the appropriate moment to go to the toilet for 10 minutes.
Can guarantee she'll be getting chatted up or taken somewhere to get fucked before you get back to your pint!! |
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We were at an xmas party in the galmont galway one and I left.her to go to the gents when I arrived back there was a guy sitting in my seat chatting her up I winked at her and walked on past to thw bar and watched from a distance. Next thing the 2 of them got up and I followed them keeping my distance and they disappeared into the gents.I gave them a few minutes and went in and the 2 of them where in one of the cubicles fucking I could hear here moaning and him grunting lol so I listened in the next. Cubicle till j heard him cum then I left and went back to the bar where she joined me looking like the cat that got the cream lol so if the guys are there it will happen |
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We arranged to meet a guy at a local pub but decided it would be fun for her to meet him on her own.
We didn’t want to risk her safety so she sat outside in the beer garden and I sat a few tables away so I could see her.
She wore a nice dress, sexy black bodice with stockings and suspenders.
When he arrived she gave him a kiss he got some drinks and they chatted for a while flirting.
She held his hand then put it on her leg, I watched as his hand slid up her thigh to her knickers and played with her.
She told him I couldn’t make it as I had to work.
She txt me to say go to the house and hide.
I went to the house and hid on the staircase for ten minutes then they arrived, door opened and she led him inside.
He slowly kissed her and undressed her as I watched.
They both had a great time, he was very respectful and left a happy guy.
We both enjoyed the scenario, both very horny and had our own fun after. |
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By * and BCouple 9 weeks ago
Durham |
We are a bit astonished that people would dupe folk, let their partners take them home then watch them without any consent or knowledge about what they are getting themselves into, some people have no morals  |
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I often speak to couples at bars in the hope they have this dynamic! I've not found one yet but have met lots of nice people and had good chats, I just wait to see if they might hint at being open to it (I leave loose openings after having got comfortable chatting such as what a gorgeous couple they are / if they don't mind me saying he's a lucky guy).
My tips would be:
find a table with an extra seat, sit next to each other so a guy could join opposite, much easier / inviting to start a conversation
Eye contact, if Mrs was looking at me and holding eye contact, I would be coming to have a chat
Once you've got a guy at the table, let him know. It doesn't have to be massively direct as the flirtation is such a sexy part of the journey, but if he's sat opposite you can run your foot against him, give flirty looks and take those opportunities to let him know you're open
Good luck and I'll keep talking to those couples in the hope I meet you some time! |
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It happened to us on a cruise, I'd gone to loo and when I got back the wife was in conversation with an attractive mid fifties woman.
Anne, my wife, introduced me to her,Louise.
It soon became very apparent that Louise had the hots for my wife.
Within five minutes, David was introduced to us, Louise other half.
The night ended up with Anne getting fucked by both David and Louise.
A pity it was the last night of the cruise. |
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You’d be surprised how easy this can be if you approach it with an open mind of ‘we are away from home, we are never going to see these people again”.
With my ex wife, we were ‘pulled’ by a lovely couple in Swansea on a night out once, just got chatting in a club, everyone getting on well, girls dancing etc, invited us back to theirs after to keep the party going, where they ‘revealed’ they were swingers and really attracted to us - and we surprised them by saying we were the same. Became great friends.
But in terms of single guys, we would often go clubbing when staying away from home, either overnight or on holiday, and the wife would like to dance so would hit the dance floor while I sat on the side watching her dance. Inevitably she would attract male attention and she would enjoy flirting, kissing etc, and if all going well would head over my way and casually drop in ‘this is my husband’.
Some would freak out, some would go with it, and we’d often take a guy back to the hotel.
Holiday hotels/bars, waiters and bar staff can be a fruitful hunting ground also… |
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"Some of the hotels I've stayed in i doubt she would have to do very much at all. As a lady who does a lot of single business travelling I always get someone chancing their luck. "
I'm not surprised your are beautiful |
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