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By *al69 OP Man 4 weeks ago
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I have the opportunity to visit a club for the first time. What can I expect and how does the evening usually pan out ?
I do appreciate I'm going solo, but are you generally welcomed as a single ? X |
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Every evening is different. You'll need to socialable and not be afraid to say hello to people. Some people will be happy to have a chat (doesn't mean they want to play), some won't be happy to have a chat and may even appear rude. Many Men go home disappointed because they walk around not talking to anyone or sit on their own saying nothing. We've had fun with "single" guys in clubs. Many though just look without the balls to say hello (we've not yet had fun with the guys who just look and lick their lips  ). Go on a few nights to the same club and you're more likely to get chatting to people, get experience and confidence. |
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The advice about chatting to people is a good one. I tend to ignore guys who just walk around the club without saying a word and just stare, or, worse even, take their cocks out and start wanking just staring at me. The real turn off though is guys who try to touch me without even saying "hi". It makes me feel like I'm good enough to fuck but not good enough to talk to.
So yes, please, OP, do talk to people in a club. Yes, it's not easy, but it will definitely make you stand out. |
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Confidence is attractive but arrogance is off putting so there’s a fine line to walk.
We like to be approached by single guys in clubs but if they look a bit anxious we wil often approach them just to help them feel more welcome if we can even if she doesn’t necessarily fancy him.
We like single guys in clubs and if they’ve been given the cold shoulder a few times we can understand their reticence.
Be polite and chatty mate and you’ll be fine.
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"I have the opportunity to visit a club for the first time. What can I expect and how does the evening usually pan out ?
I do appreciate I'm going solo, but are you generally welcomed as a single ? X "
“Fantastic! Another single guy!” …….said no club ever lol….
Choose your first club/event carefully. Check out the club reviews section in here, and look for reviews left by other single guys. You can tell who genuinely felt welcomed, and actually enjoyed their visit, from those who just want other people to notice them….
All clubs are basically the same; the experience is only as good as the people you meet inside.
If you can read body language, you can tell who would be receptive to you approaching them, but most huddle around in their friendship groups and tend to freeze out unknown single guys anyway.
Don’t expect a swinger club to be filled with ladies. You will find more single women in your local Wetherspoons than you will in a swinger club.
Ensure you tell the people on reception it’s your first time, as this will be your best chance of the club staff/hosts making any effort to make you feel welcome.
Go for it, don’t talk yourself out of trying one. You’re more likely to find it a bit of an anti climax once inside, they’re really not all that  |
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"I have the opportunity to visit a club for the first time. What can I expect and how does the evening usually pan out ?
I do appreciate I'm going solo, but are you generally welcomed as a single ? X
“Fantastic! Another single guy!” …….said no club ever lol….
Choose your first club/event carefully. Check out the club reviews section in here, and look for reviews left by other single guys. You can tell who genuinely felt welcomed, and actually enjoyed their visit, from those who just want other people to notice them….
All clubs are basically the same; the experience is only as good as the people you meet inside.
If you can read body language, you can tell who would be receptive to you approaching them, but most huddle around in their friendship groups and tend to freeze out unknown single guys anyway.
Don’t expect a swinger club to be filled with ladies. You will find more single women in your local Wetherspoons than you will in a swinger club.
Ensure you tell the people on reception it’s your first time, as this will be your best chance of the club staff/hosts making any effort to make you feel welcome.
Go for it, don’t talk yourself out of trying one. You’re more likely to find it a bit of an anti climax once inside, they’re really not all that "
Wow.
I wonder if your cynicism was apparent during your visit and you then gave off a negative vibe to people? |
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I'm a shy newbie and my first club was about 3 weeks ago so still finding my feet.
What do you want from this? Sex obviously. But just sex? Or are you looking at the social side too, because that's a massive part of it and the best. If you are not then it's probably not for you.
Look for newbie nights. They are a great way in. There will be people like you and the regulars will know and in my experience there to welcome you.
The hot tub. A great place to chat. You are straight, but don't see a single male in there and run away. Ask if it's ok to jump in. He may be with someone who is getting changed and is about to join him. And you could all be exactly what you are all looking for. If not, you now know someone and that makes life so much easier.
Don't be like 😡🤢 if you see something you personally find disgusting. Just move on and keep your opinions to yourself.
CONSENT.
Chat to the staff if you are unsure on anything. Don't just think we'll that rule is daft so surely it's ok for me to ignore it. The rules are there for everybody's safety and wellbeing.
Events. It may be obvious and I'm not teaching you to suck eggs, but don't go to an egg sucking party if you don't like sucking eggs.
Workshops. Some places have nights where you can be introduced to something new in a safe environment by people who know what they are talking about. By it's nature there will be other people new to that activity there. So you are all starting on a level playing field.
I went to a hot wax play workshop last night. Everyone had a great laugh. There was no sex, but after chatting to a couple in the hot tub I got a message this morning. They said that they had had a chat and were asking if I would be interested in joining them as they find what they want. That wouldn't have happened if I was just walking round looking for a shag.
Be respectful and don't bullshit people. They will have seen and heard it all before and will pick up on it. And remember, that person you pissed off will go to other clubs and talk to other people.
Did I mention CONSENT?
Go with an open mind. As I say, I am very shy. I rarely talk to strangers in the pub, and I have probably spoke to more people socially in the last 3 weeks than I have in the last year in the normal world. A month ago I would have felt embarrassed getting out of the water at a leisure centre. Last night (with everyone's consent and knowledge) I had a stranger take photos of a naked me having had my cock and balls had hot UV wax dropped on them.
So far I have been to a total 5 nights at 4 clubs. Play has happened on 3 nights including being involved in a 9 person gangbang. The other 2 nights there was no play. But I had just as good a night.
There ends my newbie manifesto. By no means am I saying it's right. It's just my observations from my limited experience.
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Oh, get photo verified on any sites you use. It takes minutes and you will be showing less than your current profile pic. It will be private so you don't have to worry about someone seeing your face. That's not so much a club thing. Just good advice for here. |
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"I have the opportunity to visit a club for the first time. What can I expect and how does the evening usually pan out ?
I do appreciate I'm going solo, but are you generally welcomed as a single ? X
“Fantastic! Another single guy!” …….said no club ever lol….
Choose your first club/event carefully. Check out the club reviews section in here, and look for reviews left by other single guys. You can tell who genuinely felt welcomed, and actually enjoyed their visit, from those who just want other people to notice them….
All clubs are basically the same; the experience is only as good as the people you meet inside.
If you can read body language, you can tell who would be receptive to you approaching them, but most huddle around in their friendship groups and tend to freeze out unknown single guys anyway.
Don’t expect a swinger club to be filled with ladies. You will find more single women in your local Wetherspoons than you will in a swinger club.
Ensure you tell the people on reception it’s your first time, as this will be your best chance of the club staff/hosts making any effort to make you feel welcome.
Go for it, don’t talk yourself out of trying one. You’re more likely to find it a bit of an anti climax once inside, they’re really not all that
Wow.
I wonder if your cynicism was apparent during your visit and you then gave off a negative vibe to people? "
Which visit lol? I’ve only been to 8 clubs, to a total of 19 visits. None in the SE though….. |
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As someone who was a single on the scene and still has occasionally venture alone I would say the club and specific night/party makes a difference. Some places are a more welcoming and have a warmer atmosphere for single men than others. In my experience clubs that are warmer to single men tend to have better quality of single guys in terms of personality and behaviour. Maybe it's a chicken and egg scenario but my reckoning is the two factors are strongly linked.
So I would say selection of club is really important (so do your research) and behaviour with the same respect and warmth you wish to be treated with.
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