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Single guys & one line/copy & paste messages
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By (user no longer on site) OP 12 weeks ago
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This has more than likely been bought into discussion and delved into before but something I see often from single women/couples. Seems many don’t like and complain about the amount of single guys sending one line messages or copy & paste. And quite rightly so, I get their point. However, speaking as a single guy who does put the effort into making sure my messages are polite, friendly, decent and relevant to each individual, only to be ignored/rejected anyway, then is it any wonder why so many single guys do in fact send out one line messages/copy & paste?
Plenty here will say that putting effort in will eventually pay off but having been on & off Fab for a number of years & equally putting the effort in, my effort has never paid off.
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The one thing I'd say op, is in my experience people reply when they like the profile of the person that's messaged them and they're what they're looking for.
If they don't or aren't, they'll often delete any message.
So whilst you may think you're what that person is after, they may not agree.
I always look at a profile before any message, if they haven't written much about themselves or have things in it that don't match what I want, I delete. |
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".. as a single guy who does put the effort into making sure my messages are polite, friendly, decent and relevant to each individual, only to be ignored/rejected anyway, then is it any wonder why so many single guys do in fact send out one line messages/copy & paste? "
To me, it reads as "I've already failed with the people I was interested enough in to send a proper message to, guess I'll just see what low hanging fruit I can snag with the spray and pray method."
I don't want to fuck someone who thinks I'll do. I want to fuck people who are actually into me. And a bland one line or copy paste tells me that's not the kind of person who's messaging 💜 |
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When I see statuses saying derogatory things about women, this really puts me off. Men have said things like 'what's up with the women here?' 'Is no-one willing to fuck here?' etc. Most times if I've received a very long email and I've not felt attracted to the person (as we are allowed to choose???), when I reply "no thank you" I'm asked why or they persist on an explanation. I've made my choice, men need to respect that. No means no ..... everywhere!!! |
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As above.
I'll also add that I receive lots of beautifully crafted messages from people who've obviously looked no further than a photo or two on my profile. I don't acknowledge messages where the sender couldn't take a minute to either read my profile or, read it and chose to ignore part of it because they somehow think it doesn't apply to them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 11 weeks ago
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"The one thing I'd say op, is in my experience people reply when they like the profile of the person that's messaged them and they're what they're looking for.
If they don't or aren't, they'll often delete any message.
So whilst you may think you're what that person is after, they may not agree.
I always look at a profile before any message, if they haven't written much about themselves or have things in it that don't match what I want, I delete. "
Makes it extremely difficult when most women/couples within a 20 mile radius are only looking to meet other couples, bbc or tall/athletic men. Subtract those profiles from the equation & if the remaining aren’t interested in you then it’s pretty much game over.
Women & couples on Fab will always complain about us single guys for one reason or another but seriously, they have absolutely no idea just how low our chances are of ever meeting anyone |
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"The one thing I'd say op, is in my experience people reply when they like the profile of the person that's messaged them and they're what they're looking for.
If they don't or aren't, they'll often delete any message.
So whilst you may think you're what that person is after, they may not agree.
I always look at a profile before any message, if they haven't written much about themselves or have things in it that don't match what I want, I delete.
Makes it extremely difficult when most women/couples within a 20 mile radius are only looking to meet other couples, bbc or tall/athletic men. Subtract those profiles from the equation & if the remaining aren’t interested in you then it’s pretty much game over.
Women & couples on Fab will always complain about us single guys for one reason or another but seriously, they have absolutely no idea just how low our chances are of ever meeting anyone "
And sadly for you, that's a you problem. There's thousands and thousands of single male profiles on here. If you don't fit in with the criteria, and you can't get a meet with those who YOU think you fit the criteria, then it is what it is. Unfortunately for you, couples and single females have the luxury of being able to be extremely picky if they desire due to the huge availability of single male profiles whereas you have a much smaller pool to fish in. |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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I’ve made a thread about this sort of thing before if the site isn’t making you happy and its not giving you what you want no one is holding you hostage can always take a break if your frustrated and come back refreshed. The first thing I look at is the profile the message is irrelevant so make sure your profile is the best it possibly can be
Good luck |
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By *bi HaiveMan 11 weeks ago
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"The one thing I'd say op, is in my experience people reply when they like the profile of the person that's messaged them and they're what they're looking for.
If they don't or aren't, they'll often delete any message.
So whilst you may think you're what that person is after, they may not agree.
I always look at a profile before any message, if they haven't written much about themselves or have things in it that don't match what I want, I delete.
Makes it extremely difficult when most women/couples within a 20 mile radius are only looking to meet other couples, bbc or tall/athletic men. Subtract those profiles from the equation & if the remaining aren’t interested in you then it’s pretty much game over.
Women & couples on Fab will always complain about us single guys for one reason or another but seriously, they have absolutely no idea just how low our chances are of ever meeting anyone "
If people aren't interested in you then you can't change that, no matter how carefully you construct a message. People won't suddenly change their preferences just because you write a polite, eloquent message.
As for 'game over'? If you're using Fab as your sole means of finding company then yes, if you're only considering local people then it's possible you'll exhaust all options. That's life. You can't control the number of people in your area.
It's why many use a multitude of approaches. Fab. Organised events and socials, and yes.....clubs.
Few will lead a 'successful' existence on Fab purely by using private messages. |
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"The one thing I'd say op, is in my experience people reply when they like the profile of the person that's messaged them and they're what they're looking for.
If they don't or aren't, they'll often delete any message.
So whilst you may think you're what that person is after, they may not agree.
I always look at a profile before any message, if they haven't written much about themselves or have things in it that don't match what I want, I delete.
Makes it extremely difficult when most women/couples within a 20 mile radius are only looking to meet other couples, bbc or tall/athletic men. Subtract those profiles from the equation & if the remaining aren’t interested in you then it’s pretty much game over.
Women & couples on Fab will always complain about us single guys for one reason or another but seriously, they have absolutely no idea just how low our chances are of ever meeting anyone
And sadly for you, that's a you problem. There's thousands and thousands of single male profiles on here. If you don't fit in with the criteria, and you can't get a meet with those who YOU think you fit the criteria, then it is what it is. Unfortunately for you, couples and single females have the luxury of being able to be extremely picky if they desire due to the huge availability of single male profiles whereas you have a much smaller pool to fish in."
This is very true and is the situation. I am very far from gym fit but know that this is not main issue. The dealbreaker is likely the fact that I am married and only very occasionally able to accommodate due to having children at home. Even though my wife is aware and plays herself, quite simply, given the choice (and choice is the extensive crux for single females here) playing with attached people has the potential for complications. If I had billed myself up as single and able to accommodate, then I would probably get a few more messages. I am not prepared to do this and would probably be spotted a mile off anyway. I am not willing or able to go miles due to time constraints and concerns over the high risk of being ghosted but will likely give the clubs a try-again-with no expectations. At the end of the day, with this massively skewed ratio with an excess of single men, then I remain realistic in my expectations. It really is best not to have any. |
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If a guy also decides to send messages to 100 people increasing his chances then when all the deletes blocks or just ignores come backe the rejection is going to hit a lot harder. If a guy was to read a veri and see that he's not what that person is looking then we could presume that we already know how it will end. |
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"This has more than likely been bought into discussion and delved into before but something I see often from single women/couples. Seems many don’t like and complain about the amount of single guys sending one line messages or copy & paste. And quite rightly so, I get their point. However, speaking as a single guy who does put the effort into making sure my messages are polite, friendly, decent and relevant to each individual, only to be ignored/rejected anyway, then is it any wonder why so many single guys do in fact send out one line messages/copy & paste?
Plenty here will say that putting effort in will eventually pay off but having been on & off Fab for a number of years & equally putting the effort in, my effort has never paid off.
So what’s your thoughts on this? "
Personally I don't mind one line messages and will sometimes respond to them. I strongly dislike copy and paste though. Copy and paste are often graphic written fantasies if what man wants to do to a female, either that or a load of general drivel. Those I just delete.. |
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