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‘Not heard from you in a while…’
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I’m suddenly getting quite a few messages saying things along the lines of ‘not heard from you in a while…’ from various men I have never, ever messaged with.
I guess they think that I’ll just assume I’ve forgotten and start chatting - but what a duplicitous way to start something.
It’s a new technique to me, so just wanted to make people aware! Or have I been lucky to not have encountered this to date?!
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We get this quite often.
We usually say that there must’ve been a good reason that we didn’t carry on chatting or meet so ending it here.
Followed by a block so that they can’t chance it again.
We like the new feature of being able to see that there was chat and what the chat was when viewing profiles. |
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I have not had that on Fab much (I'd probably just say to the person "you have the wrong profile" or similar), but I have had some people message me on other chats. People I have met or was chatting with, then they chose to stop messaging, for whatever reason. Then all of a sudden they remember I exist, start chatting and expect things to be exactly the way they were all those months or years ago. It doesn't work that way. |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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"I’m suddenly getting quite a few messages saying things along the lines of ‘not heard from you in a while…’ from various men I have never, ever messaged with.
I guess they think that I’ll just assume I’ve forgotten and start chatting - but what a duplicitous way to start something.
It’s a new technique to me, so just wanted to make people aware! Or have I been lucky to not have encountered this to date?!
Gx"
Make people aware? That sounds like it’s something sinister. Maybe they have made a genuine mistake and it’s not a new angle.
It’s a shame that we look for the worst in people and assume they are devious tricksters. Let’s have some positivity and look for the good in people. |
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Fab’s new messaging date system on profiles is an excellent development. We can now see when we last communicated even if the messages are deleted. These types of messages are ao pointless, as it’s so easy to check now. We just block and move on.
Consent and honesty is absolutely critical to us, so don’t entertain this type of nonsense. |
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"I’m suddenly getting quite a few messages saying things along the lines of ‘not heard from you in a while…’ from various men I have never, ever messaged with.
I guess they think that I’ll just assume I’ve forgotten and start chatting - but what a duplicitous way to start something.
It’s a new technique to me, so just wanted to make people aware! Or have I been lucky to not have encountered this to date?!
Gx
Make people aware? That sounds like it’s something sinister. Maybe they have made a genuine mistake and it’s not a new angle.
It’s a shame that we look for the worst in people and assume they are devious tricksters. Let’s have some positivity and look for the good in people. "
Fab will tell you when you’ve already messaged someone - it’ll pop up at the top of the profile, so no, it’s not a mistake. Last time I ‘looked for the good’ in someone I ended up getting SA’d so you’ll pardon me for exercising some healthy caution. |
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We get this, from people who we genuinely may have chatted with at some point briefly over several months ago.
"Remember us, we chatted 8 months ago?"
Er, no, sorry, we logged into 65 messages this morning and the chances of remembering a discussion we had last week never mind 8 months ago is a big ask. |
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"I’m suddenly getting quite a few messages saying things along the lines of ‘not heard from you in a while…’ from various men I have never, ever messaged with.
I guess they think that I’ll just assume I’ve forgotten and start chatting - but what a duplicitous way to start something.
It’s a new technique to me, so just wanted to make people aware! Or have I been lucky to not have encountered this to date?!
Gx
Make people aware? That sounds like it’s something sinister. Maybe they have made a genuine mistake and it’s not a new angle.
It’s a shame that we look for the worst in people and assume they are devious tricksters. Let’s have some positivity and look for the good in people. "
I think it's happening too often to be genuine mistakes. Wee had them from couples as well. We assume that's a single guy posing as a couple and trying his luck.
There is probably a thread on reddit or somewhere where a guy tried this on someone gullible and it worked  |
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"We can only be messaged by a verified couple, go to settings.
So many time wasters and picture hunters on these sites"
There are a lot of verified couples where it turns out that now only he can meet. |
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I've had this a few times,
I even had one man try and insist we'd met in the past.
He got where I lived wrong and what I did for work, I think he really wanted a face pic.
I didn't send one as I know full well we never met.
I agree its definitely a deceptive way to try and start chatting to someone and I tend to block them. |
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By *essTTWoman 7 weeks ago
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"I’m suddenly getting quite a few messages saying things along the lines of ‘not heard from you in a while…’ from various men I have never, ever messaged with.
I guess they think that I’ll just assume I’ve forgotten and start chatting - but what a duplicitous way to start something.
It’s a new technique to me, so just wanted to make people aware! Or have I been lucky to not have encountered this to date?!
Gx"
I get this all thr time, it's such an odd way to try and start conversation |
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