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By *he Black Experience OP   Man 11 weeks ago

banbury

Based on a topic I posted this morning.

Where I met a couple it's their first time inviting a 3rd. He wasn't able to perform she had loads of fun.

I can't help but feel like a tiny bit guilty, wondering if I've now caused some type of issue in their relationship. Is that weird? Am I overthinking it? I messaged him to check in, say thanks for a lovely evening and wish them well but haven't heard from him. Probably I'm overthinking this.

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By *herrybakewellCouple 11 weeks ago

Staffordshire

You're over thinking.

They invited you in.

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By *hillenCouple 11 weeks ago

Borehamwood

Caveat emptor

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By *aughtystaffs60Couple 11 weeks ago

Staffordshire

The secret of a being a bull is to involve the cuck. Even if it's just inviting him to insert your penis and perhaps a little fluffing.

Cucks have feelings too and not all want to be humiliated. Some are doing it because the want their mrs to have a good time. A good bull tries to find out what the motive is a form a relationship with the couple. Get it right and you will be invited back numerous times.

Get it wrong and it'll probs just be 1 meet and everyone moves on.

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By *he Black Experience OP   Man 11 weeks ago

banbury


"The secret of a being a bull is to involve the cuck. Even if it's just inviting him to insert your penis and perhaps a little fluffing.

Cucks have feelings too and not all want to be humiliated. Some are doing it because the want their mrs to have a good time. A good bull tries to find out what the motive is a form a relationship with the couple. Get it right and you will be invited back numerous times.

Get it wrong and it'll probs just be 1 meet and everyone moves on."

Ahh sorry I see my mistake here . It wasn't a cuck and bull thing . Wrong choice using the word bull. The situation wasn't handled like this more of a threessome was the intention and all of us were supposed to have been involved, no humiliation or anything of that sort . Wrong wording using bull, just best word I thpught of to describe me being no.3

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By *he Silver FuxMan 11 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

It happens… usually after the woman has had a fantastic time and her partner didn’t; insecurity, jealousy… any number of issues. If you behaved as a gentleman, stayed within boundaries it’s not going to be your fault.

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By *ellhungvweMan 11 weeks ago

Cheltenham

You are overthinking OP but at the same time you need to be careful with a first time couple. It is often sensory overload for a lot of hubbies and he will need time to process it.

If someone isn’t enjoying it (wife, hubby or me) then everyone owes that person a bit of a duty of care - I would check that he is ok during play. If he wasn’t happy then I would call an end to play

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By *he Black Experience OP   Man 11 weeks ago

banbury


"You are overthinking OP but at the same time you need to be careful with a first time couple. It is often sensory overload for a lot of hubbies and he will need time to process it.

If someone isn’t enjoying it (wife, hubby or me) then everyone owes that person a bit of a duty of care - I would check that he is ok during play. If he wasn’t happy then I would call an end to play"

Agreed unfortunately that wasn't the case he insisted we kept going.

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By *aughtystaffs60Couple 11 weeks ago

Staffordshire


"You are overthinking OP but at the same time you need to be careful with a first time couple. It is often sensory overload for a lot of hubbies and he will need time to process it.

If someone isn’t enjoying it (wife, hubby or me) then everyone owes that person a bit of a duty of care - I would check that he is ok during play. If he wasn’t happy then I would call an end to play

Agreed unfortunately that wasn't the case he insisted we kept going. "

Sounds like you've behaved like a gentleman then. As someone else said maybe they are just having a little pause and reflection on what happened and just need to decompress a bit. If theirs is a good relationship they will be having a chat about what happened, enjoying reliving the moments and then perhaps thinking mmmmmmmm let's do that again. He was a really nice fella.

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By *aughtystaffs60Couple 11 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Cuckold Angst is a well known condition. I suffer from it as I try to make sure all are happy and I don't go too over the top being too cucky. That is a turn off for mrs N I am sure.

Bull Angst is a new one to me but shows you are a caring one and in my opinion must have a lot of success doing it but have had a difficult session and it's playing on your mind a little.

Personally I don't think that is a problem but could mean you are quite a sensitive person and MMF might turn into more of a thrupple type situation if regular meets started to happen.

Cuckolding is more than just shagging another blokes mrs. If that was the case one offs would be the norm. I suspect they are not.

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By *istletoe KissesWoman 11 weeks ago

There and Here

Truthfully and respectfully, you're overthinking it.

You've checked in to say you enjoyed meeting them, now leave them be. Many couples will want, and need, to take time to analyse and process their first time meeting someone else. It's not unique to you. Far from you ruining their relationship or causing trouble, in the early days at least it's good practice for a couple to think about what they liked, didn't like, might change in future encounters, and indeed just take time to reconnect with each other.

There's a slight whiff of boastfulness, or maybe superiority, that I find a bit distasteful if I'm honest. Perhaps it's the assumption/pondering that one encounter of sex with you and your bigger penis has somehow caused a rift. Of course it's a possibility that they weren't ready for introducing a third, but that's for them to figure out on their own.

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By *tevenTellyCouple 11 weeks ago

Newmarket

As a Stag of a similar couple.

I'd appreciate your concern but if my wife had a good time I'd welcome you back anytime. Alot of it for me is the experience not just about getting my own orgasm. I mean I always want mine also but there are plenty other aspects to enjoy.

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By *ilva69Man 11 weeks ago

stockport


"Based on a topic I posted this morning.

Where I met a couple it's their first time inviting a 3rd. He wasn't able to perform she had loads of fun.

I can't help but feel like a tiny bit guilty, wondering if I've now caused some type of issue in their relationship. Is that weird? Am I overthinking it? I messaged him to check in, say thanks for a lovely evening and wish them well but haven't heard from him. Probably I'm overthinking this. "

He can’t

You can

She enjoyed

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By *erry bull1Man 11 weeks ago

doncaster

You did what they both expected of you

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