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Looking for our first couple meet maybe.
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Hi Fabs,
We are looking at another couple to meet.
But want to take it easy at first.
Maybe just watching the other couple and watching us.
What is classed as a soft swing?
Just want to dip our toe in at the moment. |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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So soft swing would be, to our understanding everything except penetrative sex. We have known others classify it as full sex with your own partners with no swappping.
The best way we have found is to try a club. Alot of clubs have forum posts and group chats and you can talk to and mingle on there and tell people what you are looking for and maybe find a couple that could assist.
None of that is sure fire, but we have had great luck ourselves. |
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Let's try that again...While not completely new we are currently reengaging after a bit of a panic break and starting to meet socially again.
As far as we are concerned the definition of soft is 'where the first person wants to stop. It's all still exciting  Wink if you want to chat. x |
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To be honest, forget the terminology and phrases used.
Talk between yourselves and figure what you would be comfortable with for your first situation, then find someone that would be happy to go along with those bou boundaries.
Don't be pushed or pressured into anything.
Wishing you all the very best with your first experience. |
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"Hi Fabs,
We are looking at another couple to meet.
But want to take it easy at first.
Maybe just watching the other couple and watching us.
What is classed as a soft swing?
Just want to dip our toe in at the moment."
We'd consider soft swing as anything other than full penetrative sex.
But also looking for other couples, we're open minded to see where things go but before anything, would love to at least start with a social. |
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"Hi Fabs,
We are looking at another couple to meet.
But want to take it easy at first.
Maybe just watching the other couple and watching us.
What is classed as a soft swing?
Just want to dip our toe in at the moment."
Looking at your profile, maybe girl on girl and play with own partner would suit you? That was our first couple of experiences in clubs, then we went from there. Some couples will play that way. |
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Soft swing to us is everything apart from full penetrative sex as others have mentioned.
We know definitions vary, so perhaps club meets would be your best option to find what you're looking for.
Best of luck OP |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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"To be honest, forget the terminology and phrases used.
Talk between yourselves and figure what you would be comfortable with for your first situation, then find someone that would be happy to go along with those bou boundaries.
This is great advice OP!
Don't be pushed or pressured into anything.
Wishing you all the very best with your first experience. "
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Hi. This is currently where we’re at, for the moment. We’ve been to a couple of clubs where is was easy to play in the same room with other couples, without getting involved. Maybe get chatting to a couple and meet at a club? Xx |
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It sounds like we're in similar situations, although we're slightly further down the road on this than you guys.
We had our first meet with a couple a few weeks ago after a prolonged period of chatting and getting to know them. It was very exciting and nerve-wracking but I don't know what we were worried about. Once we met in person it felt really natural, and what was supposed to be just playing with our own partners and maybe a kiss or two between the girls ended up with a lot more interaction (without going onto too much detail lol). It's hard to find the 'right' couple, but its worth the effort to give it a try and get those toes dipped |
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As others have said, please, try not to get caught up on terminology. There’s as many definitions as there are people. Be clear with each other and communicate what your limits are and what you are willing to do. People will be okay with it. If they’re not, they’re not for you.
This applies to club meets as well. Clubs are a great way to start. There are a lot of newbie nights now too. Start with couples only nights and go from there IMO.
Best of luck! It really is good fun. |
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Soft swing = everything but penile penetration.
Full swap = Everything including penile penetration.
Voyuerism = watching other people do sexual acts.
All those are covered in clubs one way or another. |
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