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We’ve done separate room with a few different couples. It’s a different dynamic from same room provided everyone trusts each other but you are within earshot usually so not that risky. We’ve enjoyed separate rooms. |
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"It's rarer for sure ...
We play same room in a club, in private house parties we sometimes can be in separate rooms but they never have closed doors so feels less distant
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We've never played with anyone in a club, we've never really pushed it.
We've done separate rooms in a house and separate hotel rooms.
We all have different preferences. |
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We rarely play seperate room and genrally seperate singles rather than couples. We find most of what we do or don't do really depends on the people we're playing with, the situation and what we're feeling at the time. It really ranges from soft swing to hard swing, together or individual side missions. |
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"We rarely play seperate room and genrally seperate singles rather than couples. We find most of what we do or don't do really depends on the people we're playing with, the situation and what we're feeling at the time. It really ranges from soft swing to hard swing, together or individual side missions."
Interesting read thankyou.
For us we just don't feel comfortable watching each other.
We both love to hear what we've been upto, just don't necessarily need to see it.
We've always said though that with the right couple we would possibly build up to same room / group play.
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"We rarely play seperate room and genrally seperate singles rather than couples. We find most of what we do or don't do really depends on the people we're playing with, the situation and what we're feeling at the time. It really ranges from soft swing to hard swing, together or individual side missions.
Interesting read thankyou.
For us we just don't feel comfortable watching each other.
We both love to hear what we've been upto, just don't necessarily need to see it.
We've always said though that with the right couple we would possibly build up to same room / group play.
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For us it's mainly the opposite we love sharing this together and we also love to join in a good orgy.
But the beauty of this lifestyle is the freedom to enjoy world as you want to enjoy it in the format that works for you. From a couples perspective to safely communicate what you want with each other and be able to enjoy that as part of your relationship. Maybe that'll always be the same, maybe not. We've changed as we've explored new things and like I said it also change depending on the people we meet and where we're at in that time.
We love this life and we've found for us it's not always static. |
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Depends how you view it.
I am on here with my wife but I've left her at home when I've gone to a hotel with another woman.
Plus at the club, she's gone off with a woman into a private room on a few occasion whilst ive stayed in the bar with the womans partner chatting. .
Technically that's seperate room. |
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We do both same room is good to all have a laugh and watch each other but equally the separate room is fun as you can hear what is happening but can't see them it can be fun to think ehats going on |
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"Couples that prefer separate room play, is it really rare?
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I wouldn't say really rare. We have lots of friends that seem to do this. Have met one half at a club and the other is somewhere else.
We have dabbled but much prefer it when we play together... I don't like it personally... it makes me feel uncomfortable
Cali |
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"Couples that prefer separate room play, is it really rare?
I wouldn't say really rare. We have lots of friends that seem to do this. Have met one half at a club and the other is somewhere else.
We have dabbled but much prefer it when we play together... I don't like it personally... it makes me feel uncomfortable
Cali "
Interesting, thanks for sharing your experiences.
We find it so uncomfortable playing together, it really takes away from the experience.
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"Couples that prefer separate room play, is it really rare?
I wouldn't say really rare. We have lots of friends that seem to do this. Have met one half at a club and the other is somewhere else.
We have dabbled but much prefer it when we play together... I don't like it personally... it makes me feel uncomfortable
Cali
Interesting, thanks for sharing your experiences.
We find it so uncomfortable playing together, it really takes away from the experience.
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oh for me watching Mr enjoy himself or him watching me makes the whole experience so much better. The only time I've not been there I felt left out and that it wasn't a together thing. X |
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We did a "most of the night" chalet swap at La Mirage. Good! Good to be able to concentrate fully on the person you are with. Good to not wonder what your partner is up to. Good to take your time and have no care about when someone else finishes or wants attention. It also feels sensually naughty   |
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"We did a "most of the night" chalet swap at La Mirage. Good! Good to be able to concentrate fully on the person you are with. Good to not wonder what your partner is up to. Good to take your time and have no care about when someone else finishes or wants attention. It also feels sensually naughty "
This is exactly our feelings.
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"Seems to be! Too rare in our opinion lol
Would love to do separate house play but even separate room is hard enough to find in Loughborough."
Not far away from Stoke on Trent, if you guys ever fancy a social sometimes.....just let us know. |
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For us same room full swap can sometimes be distracting as you’re watching your partner rather than concentrating on who your playing with. It can also turn into a competition with each swap couple trying to make particular acts last longer or moving through more positions plus most guys don’t want to be the first to finish.
Separate rooms can bizarrely be a bit more relaxed. |
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"For us same room full swap can sometimes be distracting as you’re watching your partner rather than concentrating on who your playing with. It can also turn into a competition with each swap couple trying to make particular acts last longer or moving through more positions plus most guys don’t want to be the first to finish.
Separate rooms can bizarrely be a bit more relaxed. "
YES!!!!! Hit the nail on the head here. |
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We definitely don't find same room distracting, but instead energizing and encouraging. The hotness of seeing your partner get enjoyed and enjoy another person while you do the same is what drew us into the lifestyle.
Also, we are both bi, so we prefer our couples meets to more a mini-orgy than a simple swap. |
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"We definitely don't find same room distracting, but instead energizing and encouraging. The hotness of seeing your partner get enjoyed and enjoy another person while you do the same is what drew us into the lifestyle.
Also, we are both bi, so we prefer our couples meets to more a mini-orgy than a simple swap."
As couples, we couldn't be any different if we tried lol |
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"Much prefer seperate play .. same room i find uncomfortable. I know i seem to be in the minority .
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We totally agree.....it's ok to be in the minority. The world would be boring if we all wanted the same.
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We have only done separate room with 1 couple and have done it twice with them. Absolutely amazing experience for both of us. We would still play same room, however 1st choice would now be separate room. Something very naughty about it. We loved it |
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"We have only done separate room with 1 couple and have done it twice with them. Absolutely amazing experience for both of us. We would still play same room, however 1st choice would now be separate room. Something very naughty about it. We loved it "
Thankyou for your comment.
It takes a lot of trust and you really have to find the right people.
But we agree.....it's our favourite. |
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We have only played together same room so far but considering me being in another room while she plays.
It's something we've discussed a fair bit but just hasn't happened yet. |
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"We have only played together same room so far but considering me being in another room while she plays.
It's something we've discussed a fair bit but just hasn't happened yet."
Spend time finding the right people and you'll have a great time. |
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"We have only played together same room so far but considering me being in another room while she plays.
It's something we've discussed a fair bit but just hasn't happened yet.
Spend time finding the right people and you'll have a great time. "
Yes that's the plan.
We thought we found the right guy a few months ago but it didn't work out that way. |
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We have done 99% same room but recently with our most long standing swinging partners we have branched off into occasional seperate room play.
I do think both have their place in our lifestyle at least, can see why it's not for everyone.
For us, when we discussed it afterwards we both agreed that we would never want to be exclusively seperate room players, we like the togetherness, but with a couple you have known for years seperate can offer a sort of freedom that you just can't necessarily achieve in the same room.
In the same room, your partner may trust you 100% and you the same of them, but they will still moderate their behaviour in a thousand tiny ways to try to please their primary partner. In separate rooms that doesn't happen and both are free to shake loose just a little bit more than they otherwise would. |
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" In separate rooms that doesn't happen and both are free to shake loose just a little bit more than they otherwise would. "
I think this is why I am so against separate rooms... If there are things we wouldn't do in front of each other, then I wouldn't want them being done at all.
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It's great that you guys know what works best for you.
We've been together many years and our level of trust is 100%...we just don't enjoy same room.
It's a funny thing as lots of couples are into same room play only....yet have solo accounts and meet on their own, but that's different. |
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"It's great that you guys know what works best for you.
We've been together many years and our level of trust is 100%...we just don't enjoy same room.
It's a funny thing as lots of couples are into same room play only....yet have solo accounts and meet on their own, but that's different. "
it is what works best for each individual. We trust each other 100% but like to see each other x
To be fair I see more couples that meet separately or other rooms than only play together |
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"It's great that you guys know what works best for you.
We've been together many years and our level of trust is 100%...we just don't enjoy same room.
It's a funny thing as lots of couples are into same room play only....yet have solo accounts and meet on their own, but that's different. it is what works best for each individual. We trust each other 100% but like to see each other x
To be fair I see more couples that meet separately or other rooms than only play together "
I wish we saw the same lol....it seems very rare. Either that or we just aren't as hot as we think. Haha. |
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" In separate rooms that doesn't happen and both are free to shake loose just a little bit more than they otherwise would.
I think this is why I am so against separate rooms... If there are things we wouldn't do in front of each other, then I wouldn't want them being done at all.
Cali"
I think it's about perspective, and none of it is overt.
It's being able to relax knowing that your partner isn't analysing you to assess your happiness.
I trust that she isn't going to break any rules, and want her to be able to relax and not worry about me. And she feels the same in respect of me when I'm off with his wife.
But it's also why it absolutely has to be with people we trust implicitly |
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I’d like to try this but would have to trust the guy she’s going with 100%. I would be slightly worried she might end up in a situation she’s not comfortable with. I’ve stepped in before when I’ve seen she’s not comfortable or enjoying it. Other than that it’s hit thought |
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With the right couple yes we would play in separate rooms but it would depend upon how many previous times we had been with the couple before. And single ladies beard has no problem with being in a separate room so that the ladies can explore without an audience or can be with beard without boobs in the room |
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More great comments and opinions.
We spend a great deal of time looking for people and filter out until we find the correct people.
From your very first social you know exactly what somebody is like and how nice their approach is.
It's why really our preference has always been couples. There always feels like a mutual respect between couples to be sure everyone is going to be kept safe.
My partners has had experiences with single people that haven't given her the same good feeling.
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We have really struggled to find couples who play in seperate rooms.
When we first joined the scene we were adamant that it would be same room only but over the years that has changed and honestly don't think we'd go back to same room again.
For us we feel more comfortable and relaxed and can let ourselves go more when we play separately xx |
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We have done both ans enjoy both. We also go to clubs separately if one can’t go. There are advantages to separate room play for example you can hear sexy stories from each other when you catch up or on the way home xx |
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We have done both and enjoy both. We also go to clubs separately if one can’t go. There are advantages to separate room play for example you can hear sexy stories from each other when you catch up or on the way home xx |
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"We have done both ans enjoy both. We also go to clubs separately if one can’t go. There are advantages to separate room play for example you can hear sexy stories from each other when you catch up or on the way home xx"
Stories whilst reconnecting makes for the hottest sex ever. |
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"Couples that prefer separate room play, is it really rare?
We prefer same room initially but have often played separate if all goes well "
It's funny, we're opposite.
We want to find a nice couple, play separate for a while and over time consider same room. |
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When I was with the ex, we were predominantly about same room playing. We were in this together and it was about mutual fun. Circumstances did sometimes lead to different experiences including separate room, or her meeting alone, but that was always the exception, not the norm, as our priority was each other. |
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By *WB85Man 6 weeks ago
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Our priority is each other, we're married.
This is a fun addition to our marriage.
The other big reason of separate play for us is childcare, it's incredibly difficult to arrange.
It's good that worked for you and your ex though. |
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By *WB85Man 6 weeks ago
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"Our "kink" is seeing and hearing each others sexual enjoyment, so for us separate rooms would defeat the object entirely. "
That's cool, we're all different. We all have to do what works for us. |
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By *andSxxCouple 6 weeks ago
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We did both and really enjoyed it.The advantage of a shared room is shared entertainment, seeing, hearing and feeling what the others like.
The advantage of a separate room is that it is much more intimate and erotic, because you are alone, with the other person. And you can focus more on what she/he likes and what you like.
In addition, we did it a few times with a swinger couple of our friends, that we were not only in a separate room but also in a separate apartment for one day . It was an amazing experience. Similar to remarriage or getting married, but without any consequences.🤭🥰 |
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I've done both and it's great, listening through the walls knowing how much fun the others are having is a massive turn on and it's easier if the beds and rooms are really small. Great fun. Everybody needs to be in agreement on this. |
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"We did both and really enjoyed it.The advantage of a shared room is shared entertainment, seeing, hearing and feeling what the others like.
The advantage of a separate room is that it is much more intimate and erotic, because you are alone, with the other person. And you can focus more on what she/he likes and what you like.
In addition, we did it a few times with a swinger couple of our friends, that we were not only in a separate room but also in a separate apartment for one day . It was an amazing experience. Similar to remarriage or getting married, but without any consequences.🤭🥰"
That's a very hot scenario!!!  |
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