Why are people so rude and just block people without telling them why.
Great conversation then blocked out of the blue no explanation just RUDE!!!
I thought people had respect for each other in this lifestyle. |
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Respectfully, expecting an explanation seems a bit entitled OP. It’s as simple as they decided you’re not for them. Try not to take things so personally. Fab world isn’t like vanilla world in terms of blocking - it’s a pretty common occurrence |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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"Why are people so rude and just block people without telling them why.
Great conversation then blocked out of the blue no explanation just RUDE!!!
I thought people had respect for each other in this lifestyle. "
I often find that 9 times of 10 it’s because you have a different opinion to them, or you’ve dared to challenge them on viewpoints they are trying to force on you!
On the other occasions it’s probably justified for a reason, but there isn’t anything that can’t be solved through communication, unfortunately that’s something that’s severely lacking within todays society |
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By *WANDTGCouple 7 weeks ago
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We've had conversations and have told the person it won't be going anywhere, not being rude to them but they are like a dog with a bone. They just won't let go , so we have to go over old ground explaining why they aren't compatible ( normally wrong age, straight or a smoker). Then they will message again 3 weeks later asking for a meet , so we again explain the situation. After 2 strikes it's a block |
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"We've had conversations and have told the person it won't be going anywhere, not being rude to them but they are like a dog with a bone. They just won't let go , so we have to go over old ground explaining why they aren't compatible ( normally wrong age, straight or a smoker). Then they will message again 3 weeks later asking for a meet , so we again explain the situation. After 2 strikes it's a block "
This. So we got fed up of it and if a person we have engaged with is not going anywhere its easier to block.
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"Why are people so rude and just block people without telling them why.
Great conversation then blocked out of the blue no explanation just RUDE!!!
I thought people had respect for each other in this lifestyle. "
And that whole idea falls down because blocking isn't rude. |
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By *tew008Man 7 weeks ago
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"Why are people so rude and just block people without telling them why.
Great conversation then blocked out of the blue no explanation just RUDE!!!
I thought people had respect for each other in this lifestyle. "
You ugly brother |
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If we don't want to talk to someone we don't have to explain why.
I can't see how having lots of reasons is any better to be honest. Do you really want to find out why x number of people don't like you/ don't fancy you? |
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By *heelerMan 7 weeks ago
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"Why are people so rude and just block people without telling them why.
Great conversation then blocked out of the blue no explanation just RUDE!!!
I thought people had respect for each other in this lifestyle. "
I agree it seems a lot worse now people before said no thanks or not for me but now it's mostly a blocking I suppose it stops guys from continue messaging them. |
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"Why are people so rude and just block people without telling them why.
Great conversation then blocked out of the blue no explanation just RUDE!!!
I thought people had respect for each other in this lifestyle.
I agree it seems a lot worse now people before said no thanks or not for me but now it's mostly a blocking I suppose it stops guys from continue messaging them. "
This. We tried to be polite when we first joined and thought people would reciprocate and respect our no thanks. Had a fair few just refuse to take no for an answer, or continually send random shite. So we got more liberal with it.
After all, this site is meant to be fun, not a chore dealing with halfwits. |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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Try not to take blocking too seriously. Sure, it's frustrating if you're already chatting but places like these have a habit of attracting a certain type of person.
One who won't take no for an answer and if allowed to, will constantly message over and over. Sometimes they turn nasty, kick off, spout abuse and treat people like shit.
Sadly, this is the online world we live in now and people choose to block before any potential fallout occurs.
It's that particular person's way of feeling safe online. If that's how they want to deal with people they no longer want to talk to, then it's their choice.
Sure, closure is nice. Sometimes we have to create it ourselves, though.
Expect less from others and it gets much easier. You learn to appreciate the ones who make effort and stick around more, rather than those who wronged you. 😊 |
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By *BCambsCouple 7 weeks ago
Biggleswade |
Today we received some good but mainly poor messages.
As an experiment we politely declined each one. They continued to message. Oh. Why. What. Give me a chance. Etc etc.
One no became 3 to 5 more messages.
We said no to 25 emails today.
We sent 25 no's.
20 additional follow up messages saying why.
10 follow up messages to that why. 6 more really no thank you's stop now.
1 reply to an insult.
25 messages saying "No Thank you" resulted in 62 messages we had to send.
We could have blocked them and sent 0 messages and still have the same result.
Blocking is so much easier than sending many many additional messages.
These No's take away the energy and excitement that should be going to the guys we like! |
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"Why are people so rude and just block people without telling them why.
Great conversation then blocked out of the blue no explanation just RUDE!!!
I thought people had respect for each other in this lifestyle. "
If it was probable that a simple "Sorry, I don't think I'm interested in continuing this conversation" would be enough for the other person to say a polite goodbye and leave it at that, more people might say that.
However, there's a reason we just choose to block. Generally, if someone is going to go stomp their feet and all caps about it, blocking was absolutely the right choice 💜 |
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"Why are people so rude and just block people without telling them why.
Great conversation then blocked out of the blue no explanation just RUDE!!!
I thought people had respect for each other in this lifestyle. "
For the sake of argument, say you send 5 messages a day.
At the end of the week you have 35 no thank you, you're not what I'm looking for messages. At the end of the year you've had 1,825 or an average of 152 a month.
Q1 - Do you reply to all of them with a thank you message?
Q2 - Do you feel better for being rejected 1,825 times?
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One of my first FBs on here had a strict rule that,after an initial message she would either respond or block. The block was simply saying not for me. As many of us have experienced on here,sometimes when we try to explain why we aren’t interested,people get offended and abusive. It’s simply easier to block. I’m sure it’s not only us that have had the… OMG… you’re gorgeous… sorry… not interested…. Wouldn’t touch with a barge pole anyhow situation |
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"Nobody owes anyone a reason nor does anyone owe anyone a reply.
It is even in the sites FAQ page."
Exactly this.
The online stuff just ain't all that. Best to get out into the real world and interact with people rather than thinking a few messages will get you what you want.
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"Nobody owes anyone a reason nor does anyone owe anyone a reply.
It is even in the sites FAQ page.
Exactly this.
The online stuff just ain't all that. Best to get out into the real world and interact with people rather than thinking a few messages will get you what you want.
Exactly. Thats why we only meet at clubs and it’s always a social. If we click,who knows,if we don’t,plenty more fish in the sea and we always have a great time regardless
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I block plenty of people, and I don't feel the need to offer an explanation to them. It's not rude, it's saves us both wasting out time
I have tried the polite 'this isn't working for me' approach and more often than not, it's just not worth the abuse. |
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"Why are people so rude and just block people without telling them why.
Great conversation then blocked out of the blue no explanation just RUDE!!!
I thought people had respect for each other in this lifestyle. "
It’s just fab. It’s strangers don’t take it too seriously. No one on here is worth that level of thought getting worked up over tbh. Just play the game and keep rolling  |
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