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Body confidence after gaining weight!
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Hey you sexy lot! Just after some advice.
I'm new to the scene. Used to be a size 6/8 and athletic then became chronically ill. So, naturally my body has changed somewhat over the last 8-10 years.
I've completely lost my confidence in myself. I feel ugly and just not sexy at all. So that then makes swinging very difficult!
What can I do to get that oomph back in my step? I need to start to love my curves as I'll never be back to that size 6/8.
I have a partner who is amazing and supportive (who is also on here) and tells me often that I'm sexy but I just can't believe it myself. Help!  |
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"Look absolutely gorgeous
I'm outside ur age range do can't message in private
Butisten to ur partner he is right
Thank you 😊"
You look stunning. Your figure looks perfect.
The sexiest thing in a woman is her mind and her confidence x |
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Yes will be what a huge number of people really want. Perhaps consider letting yourself be around those who will like you, so that the experience of them finding you attractive becomes normalised and integrated within your expectations. Yes won't have to be having sex with any of them, merely becoming accustomed to people appreciating how you are today, in the flesh. You'll probably find it has a much deeper and stronger effect and meaning, than just hearing it. Fab socials or clubs, could be safe places where you could experience this real-time, without any optional physical contact. Reach into your heart, because you'll likely know instinctively what you need and what could uplift your spirits. |
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"Yes will be what a huge number of people really want. Perhaps consider letting yourself be around those who will like you, so that the experience of them finding you attractive becomes normalised and integrated within your expectations. Yes won't have to be having sex with any of them, merely becoming accustomed to people appreciating how you are today, in the flesh. You'll probably find it has a much deeper and stronger effect and meaning, than just hearing it. Fab socials or clubs, could be safe places where you could experience this real-time, without any optional physical contact. Reach into your heart, because you'll likely know instinctively what you need and what could uplift your spirits. "
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"Yes will be what a huge number of people really want. Perhaps consider letting yourself be around those who will like you, so that the experience of them finding you attractive becomes normalised and integrated within your expectations. Yes won't have to be having sex with any of them, merely becoming accustomed to people appreciating how you are today, in the flesh. You'll probably find it has a much deeper and stronger effect and meaning, than just hearing it. Fab socials or clubs, could be safe places where you could experience this real-time, without any optional physical contact. Reach into your heart, because you'll likely know instinctively what you need and what could uplift your spirits.
Sorry for the typo "
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"Look absolutely gorgeous
I'm outside ur age range do can't message in private
Butisten to ur partner he is right
Thank you 😊
You look stunning. Your figure looks perfect.
The sexiest thing in a woman is her mind and her confidence x"
Thank you! I need to build that confidence some how. |
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One other thing that struck me, is for you to ensure that you take all pressure off yourself, to get to how you want to be. You don't deserve any undue stresses or strains, when your central spirit is hurting and feeling loss, from how you used to be. It's wonderful that you have your partner now and maybe you can let him be the sweetness and nourishment for your soul, whilst you relax more and soak up the goodness reflected from who you are. |
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Please try to be kind to yourself. Whatever you have overcome, you look absolutely stunning! Listen to the compliments, accept them and soon you will start to believe them. For a bit of extra self love, if you can, maybes treat yourself to a massage or a nice body cream - it will help you get back in tune with your body. Get some new underwear (check you’re still in the right bra size if you’ve changed dress size/shape) and a perfume that makes you feel sexy. Men love all shapes and sizes but from your pics, I’d say you look pretty damn perfect ☺️ |
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"Hey you sexy lot! Just after some advice.
I'm new to the scene. Used to be a size 6/8 and athletic then became chronically ill. So, naturally my body has changed somewhat over the last 8-10 years.
I've completely lost my confidence in myself. I feel ugly and just not sexy at all. So that then makes swinging very difficult!
What can I do to get that oomph back in my step? I need to start to love my curves as I'll never be back to that size 6/8.
I have a partner who is amazing and supportive (who is also on here) and tells me often that I'm sexy but I just can't believe it myself. Help! "
Sorry you’re going through this.
Just do more exercise. Walking, running or yoga and reduce your calories.
Stay smiling and strong 💪🏼💪🏼 |
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Ex professional dancer here. Size 6 for years. I went through a long period of bemoaning my physical changes after curtailing dancing and a few health issues that meant i lost a huge amount of my strength and muscle tone.
I was very hard on myself and fixated on what I had lost, didnt like or would change, despite a very supportive hubby.
I had to shift my focus (granted easier said than done) to what I DO LIKE and admire and appreciate about myself and then focus on those. Hence I’ll now buy things that emphasize what I like and hides what I don’t.
Most people will tell you thr sexiest thing about a lady is confidence. How you smile, act, carry yourself and use your femininity (my hubby describes it as the “power of the pussy”) can be the most alluring thing.
A confident 12/14 as opposed to a shrinking violet size 6 would win every time |
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By *m3232Man 8 weeks ago
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I would say that you will still have the same amount of people thinking you look stunning. As there will be a variation as someone may not be in to size 6 but absolutely loves size 8 then the next person loves size 10 and so on.
So it’s more how you see yourself than people not liking your current size. There are so many people out there you will always find plenty that love your look and that includes myself  |
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You look amazing! 🤤
I used to be really self-conscious about my body, but I'm feeling a lot better about it now. We started going to clubs, and I would just hide in a corner wrapped in a towel.
But now I'm like 'meh,' and I walk around in my underwear, sometimes with my boobies out, lol. Going to the clubs actually really helped—seeing all the different shapes and sizes and realising nobody is really judging.
Curls x |
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I'm exactly the same our earlier fab pics I was a size 8 which I had been all my life, I'm now a 14/16 and totally struggle with the alien in the mirror that doesn't look like me anymore.
I'm slowly learning to like my body again but it is still alien however I love my new found boobs!!
Our fab pics have strangely helped me, when the Mr does the pics and I see them after I'm surprised that's me in a good way, but the negative thoughts are still there in day to day life.
I hope you find the love for your new curves, you look great - we are our own worst critics.
Mrs |
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This is such an interesting subject, I'm sorry you're feeling that way but thank you for speaking up as I'm sure so many other people will benefit from the conversation too!
This is something I've always wondered about with the lifestyle, how does it make women feel? As a man, my assumption is that you would feel like an absolute goddess, desired by thousands of men as we all clamber at the hope of being noticed!
Sexiness is such a mindset, and confidence is hot! I'll try not to get too bogged down in how stunning you look in your pictures because I get this is a how you feel thing, but I would hope that getting dressed up (or not) and spending a little time in the cam rooms, or building up to a club, and just looking at the admiration and attention you get, well I hope it makes you feel as good as you deserve to feel about yourself x X X
(P.s. seriously though, you are hot as fuck!!!  ) |
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As someone who in early 30s was slim and now I am not I know what you mean.
I hate getting in to pools and taking all my clothes off don’t mind removing my trousers but hate my belly.
I think you just have to live with it |
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"Look absolutely gorgeous
I'm outside ur age range do can't message in private
Butisten to ur partner he is right
Thank you 😊
You look stunning. Your figure looks perfect.
The sexiest thing in a woman is her mind and her confidence x
Thank you! I need to build that confidence some how."
Come to the next UP THE BRUM socail. They are a wonderful safe place to get to know people. |
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"I'm exactly the same our earlier fab pics I was a size 8 which I had been all my life, I'm now a 14/16 and totally struggle with the alien in the mirror that doesn't look like me anymore.
I'm slowly learning to like my body again but it is still alien however I love my new found boobs!!
Our fab pics have strangely helped me, when the Mr does the pics and I see them after I'm surprised that's me in a good way, but the negative thoughts are still there in day to day life.
I hope you find the love for your new curves, you look great - we are our own worst critics.
Mrs "
OMG THE BOOBS! I've gone from a B cup to a D! That I am pretty chuffed with.  |
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