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Hey everyone 
So we've been in the lifestyle for a couple of years and have only met with single women and couples.
Recently we chatted about maybe inviting a single man to join us. We love the idea of it but we know what it can be like on here for single men and it can be hard to find the genuine ones.
Does anyone have any advice on how to find the genuine men?
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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"If you go to organised social ask other couples for recommendations. "
Or, do the same here? Check the veris of couples around your area and ask them for recommendations? |
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By *andK78Couple 7 weeks ago
Newport |
Where in the same position, we have been let down a couple of times now, tend to ask guys to meet us at the Social events now and still don't turn up.
Planning more club visits to hopefully meet genuine people.
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Whatever you do make sure you map out every scenario that could take place.
We thought we had, but the event ran away with us a little and it ended up more the extra man controlling it, rather than us. This took the shine off it a little bit, as he was getting more out of it than we were.
Much wiser now.  |
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"Where in the same position, we have been let down a couple of times now, tend to ask guys to meet us at the Social events now and still don't turn up.
Planning more club visits to hopefully meet genuine people.
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We can't give any advice but likewise like to here some. Finding the right guy for us has always been the real unicorn in the lifestyle. There are so many guys out there (and good ones in all fairness as well as bad or unreliable) yet so few that tick the boxes. It's so difficult just to find that three way vibe and teamwork.
We've ironically nearly found the guy more times on vanilla nights out than on the scene.
The search continues...
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By *renzMan 7 weeks ago
Between Chichester and Havant |
Probably the same way you find couples or single females. Strike up a conversation. If you only receive single word replies then they aren't interested. Arrange a social meet, confirm the day before, during the day and the hour before. If at any time they go quiet they are unlikely to turn up. Tell them if you haven't heard from them by an hour before meeting you're not going to turn up. Communication and gut instinct. |
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By *bxanfCouple 7 weeks ago
Shadow Moses, Stourbridge |
What we did is we put up a status saying what we wanted then went through the replies and contacted the ones that seemed genuine and could hold a conversation.
After that we narrowed it down by chatting on here for a few days and that left us with one guy who was a perfect fit. |
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"I would recommend contacting silver and gold members. Those of us supporting the site are much more likely to be genuine. "
Interesting to know the source of the data for analysis to come to such conclusions?
My advise: check the verification of the couples around you. Hunt the guys who left genuine verification and cross check the verification from couple on his page.
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By *bflirtyCouple 6 weeks ago
Milton Keynes |
Never had a problem with them not showing up, they do seem to be reliable.
Always worth a FaceTime to see if they actually look like their photo and are something close to the age they've put on here.
As others have said, may be have a social meet first - if they can't be bothered to do that then they're only really in it for the quick hookup and own gratification.
Good luck, it is actually a lot of fun |
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Have an evening at your local swingers club, just go with the idea of a few drinks and a chat, the single guys there are into what you are looking for and they have already turned up, plus if you find one you really like you can play immediately as little or as much as you wish |
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Site supporters only
Verified only and check what veri they've left the profile
Talk for a good while on here first
We've chatted to a few on here, who seem perfect, then a week or so later you see a status that you don't like.
Never had an issue finding the right guy, but couples we do struggle with |
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We just hosted our first bi MMF at home this weekend past - we had met the guy briefly at the swinger club we go to and got on well but never played until now - so that would be my tip: essentially a social first and then you'll know you're comfortable inviting a relative stranger into your home, which helps keep everyone relaxed.
(Note - it was a fantastic evening!!) |
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By *ppicplCouple 6 weeks ago
Glasgow |
What we learned is that many men will say literally anything to shag another man’s wife and will morph into the person that they think you want them to be to get their foot in the door so to speak. So if you’re chatting on here and the match seems too good to be true, it probably is. The term ‘talk is cheap’ is never truer than for organising an MMF. |
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"What we learned is that many men will say literally anything to shag another man’s wife and will morph into the person that they think you want them to be to get their foot in the door so to speak. So if you’re chatting on here and the match seems too good to be true, it probably is. The term ‘talk is cheap’ is never truer than for organising an MMF. "
Seems like a minefield. What is the solution? My first MMF was brilliant but I don't think I had any expectations the only thing I knew was we all got on well together and connected when we met in a social setting first |
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The solution is communication, it means both parties fully understand the requirements.
Too many profiles say they don't want ping pong messages, but for us it's essential. If the lady prefers lots of quality foreplay over being rounded for 4 hours, but you turn up with a cock full of viagra and a can of delay spray, it's guaranteed to not be the night that all want.
Know your talents, know your limits and find the right people to work with |
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"Hey everyone
So we've been in the lifestyle for a couple of years and have only met with single women and couples.
Recently we chatted about maybe inviting a single man to join us. We love the idea of it but we know what it can be like on here for single men and it can be hard to find the genuine ones.
Does anyone have any advice on how to find the genuine men?
Xxx"
Ha !!... exactly our problem. We opened our profile up to single guys for a day and later quickly closed it again  . Incredibly difficult finding a suitable GENUINE guy who can read and that Cherry actually fancies  . They can still fab our photos to gain our attention (it's usually those who can't read or are 1000 miles away though) |
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