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Newbies, any advice for us?
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Simply put OP, you are a single man and in the minority and therefore not in demand.
For a more complex answer, then perhaps we should start with what you expectations were when you joined the site. Dis you expect to join a site where sex was guaranteed, or on tap. Or did you expect to join a social media site where sex 'may' happen. They are two different things.
For example, if you went on Facebook and simply plastered 'want a fuck' to every profile you came across it wouldn't be long before you were called to task.
This site is no different, but there is always the chance that, being as direct as above or no, you will get sex. It is still not a given.
So.....
First advice, be real about your expectations.
Then be real about you. Brighten up your profile with some more pics, you can always pixelate your face, but show you in your best light.
Write about you. No one knows you like you do, so invite people to learn more about you. If the spark isn't there to start with, no one will ask for more.
I could ramble on, but I know others are waiting to say there piece. To sum up our advice, put more effort into your profile and less expectation into your inbox  |
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Thank you for the advice. I'll read all other advice but I think it's basically lighten up profile and statistically I'm not in a good place. Expectations have been minimal anyway. Anything physical would be a bonus. |
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By *ucka39Man 10 weeks ago
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"Thank you for the advice. I'll read all other advice but I think it's basically lighten up profile and statistically I'm not in a good place. Expectations have been minimal anyway. Anything physical would be a bonus."
Hiya op
Take on the advice given above, users read and view your profile before deciding whether to respond to messages, so be creative in yours add a little bit of humour and rest what was mentioned by others
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" Yes on profile advice"
When you previously asked this question I suggested you delete the pic with rabbit droppings in your lounge. You said it was cat biscuits. You have cropped the pic but I can still see bits all over the floor.
Your other pic baffles me. Why is your booted foot in a long roll of carpet ?
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So your bio says you’re looking for “F”, let’s assume that is females.
Your profile says you’re looking for couples as well
Your bio says you could be persuaded to meet other than “F”
What are you looking for?
It’s confusing and who wants to be doing persuasion. If I am not what someone is looking for and they are not what I am looking for I am definitely not persuading them or being persuaded to be with them
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Some of your phrasing is a bit off-putting: ‘I could be possibly persuaded otherwise’ and ‘not averse to fetish’. Enthusiastic consent is a requirement in this world, and in both these cases it sounds like you’re not sure, or not that bothered. |
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Here's how we described it to one guy. Imagine you got cold called by a different company every 10 minutes. That's what being a couple or a girl is like on here. Before sending off a generic message, make sure your profile sells you to the max and your message is pertinent to who you are contacting. Lx |
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Hi I also have a couple’s profile with Mrs so know what it’s like we get loads of messages most either directed at mrs blanking me so those get deleted as it a couple’s profile and we have singles profile for individual meets. Also sending cock pics if we want to see them we will ask. I also looked at ur profile and u refer to ur age and bones clicking that may put some off as can u perform ok if getting stiff in the wrong places. I’m sure u can but it talking urself down but most of all read the profile u going to message and refer to it in ur message some also use words to quote to show u have read it and if it a couple speak to both even if only one of them is messaging u but it is difficult for men on here as there are so many you may find it easier going to clubs where u may come across people on fab who may verify you look in forum clubs/events and there are lots u can get into without membership by putting name down on guest list we usually do bbw events at chams |
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As others stated, you are a single man and thousands of them around
If you can accommodate that helps along with being nice/polite/clean and we like quiet people that dont bs/brag etc - being fit, relatively fit and well hung goes a long way imo
be prepared to answer all question and dont expect a meet just becuse you've exchanged a few messages |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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Same here i think is a fake site is imposible i meet a lot in tinder other apps i neet a women from tinder told me wnat to meet every day told me never see aomethink like that ,but this people from this site i think is scam or fake couples account ... |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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Hi there i amdoing what exactly what you say here and same i can t meet and i am very respectful guy ,profesional i know how i nedd to treat a women and still not meet yet somebody and i speack very nice with people i know what is about here to be honest i should to meet with with one women told to have a social at 12:00 and when i should to meet not answer anymore , think is i meet a in tinder before ,in real life same i flirt a lot but not meet any single girl who want to do swing so for this i come here to start to make friends in future maybe make a partner and meet here in this beautiful comunity , the most bad think is a know how i am in bed and is a shame to not share this with a women to see this ,i meet a women from tinder told me never see somethink like that ,after almost 2 hours of sex his bed was 60% weet and she told need to change the matress and 😅😅 but here(fabswingers) nobody give you a chance to give your best here |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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Mate trust me go in pub in real life this site is a wadte of time ,most of the people have stupid rulls the dont meet onky if you have verification and all this bullshit i was meet a women from tinder i show what means sex and is call me every single day ,go in pub in real life find a real girl hot this is waste of time i coming from spain where i meet a lot wbt(i was on skyjet and 20-25 girls on yacht luxury invite me there on the sea ,this iste is a waste of time with stupid rulls by couples we dont meet if yo udon t have at least 2 verification...we don t meet if don t have a partner bla bla bla ,trust i will delete soon this site and go to club ,pub don t look here anymore is a waste of time trust me
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"Same here i think is a fake site is imposible i meet a lot in tinder other apps i neet a women from tinder told me wnat to meet every day told me never see aomethink like that ,but this people from this site i think is scam or fake couples account ... "
This is your experience. It's not everyone's experience. It's certainly not my experience. |
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"Mate trust me go in pub in real life this site is a wadte of time ,most of the people have stupid rulls the dont meet onky if you have verification and all this bullshit i was meet a women from tinder i show what means sex and is call me every single day ,go in pub in real life find a real girl hot this is waste of time i coming from spain where i meet a lot wbt(i was on skyjet and 20-25 girls on yacht luxury invite me there on the sea ,this iste is a waste of time with stupid rulls by couples we dont meet if yo udon t have at least 2 verification...we don t meet if don t have a partner bla bla bla ,trust i will delete soon this site and go to club ,pub don t look here anymore is a waste of time trust me
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Definitely not a waste of time for me, I had plenty of meets in 18 months and met a fantastic partner.
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"Do go to local social events
Do go to clubs
Don’t message anyone because you fancy them, message them because you meet the criteria they state on their profile."
I'd say please only message people if you fancy them. I only want to connect with people who genuinely find us attractive and if they don't, that's fine, but we won't be anyone's 'any hole is a goal' |
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"I’m new to all this not getting many chats is it because of the age? Or something else pls help been wanting to get into this for a while but no luck"
You’re not that new, you’ve had your profile over a year. 4 pictures and 3 are a cock. One sentence, if you can call it that, as a bio?
If that’s a true representation of you, leave it as is. If not, make some effort.
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"Do go to local social events
Do go to clubs
Don’t message anyone because you fancy them, message them because you meet the criteria they state on their profile.
I'd say please only message people if you fancy them. I only want to connect with people who genuinely find us attractive and if they don't, that's fine, but we won't be anyone's 'any hole is a goal' "
Probably phrased that wrong, what I meant was don’t just message people because you fancy them without seeing whether you fit their criteria too, otherwise op is just wasting his time and theirs.
If op just messages all the people he fancies without reading their profile then he will have a lot of knock backs or no replies. |
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"Do go to local social events
Do go to clubs
Don’t message anyone because you fancy them, message them because you meet the criteria they state on their profile.
I'd say please only message people if you fancy them. I only want to connect with people who genuinely find us attractive and if they don't, that's fine, but we won't be anyone's 'any hole is a goal'
Probably phrased that wrong, what I meant was don’t just message people because you fancy them without seeing whether you fit their criteria too, otherwise op is just wasting his time and theirs.
If op just messages all the people he fancies without reading their profile then he will have a lot of knock backs or no replies."
OK fair |
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