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joining club for a first time
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hey everyone, i've never been in the club, and since im recently single, would love to get into one, but somehow getting nervous about going there alone.
any advice how to push myself to it or maybe someone can come with me lol |
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"would be easier with someone who knows how it is in there lol, as i got no idea, just get in and get naked, or what lol.
prob afraid of doing something and getting kicked out lol"
The main thing to remember not to get kicked out (hardly ever happens anyway) is remember not to touch without asking/being invited to. And keep drinking to minimum so you can keep a clear head. |
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"would be easier with someone who knows how it is in there lol, as i got no idea, just get in and get naked, or what lol.
prob afraid of doing something and getting kicked out lol"
Just bite the bullet and do it ! Just relax - mingle and talk |
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Think of it like a bar that has extra facilities.
Research and filter the places for the right facilities, prices and single men events and opening times for you.
Then you'd be sociable once in. Only those without respect for others, who stalk or touch are wrong there. Keep moving around and don't have others feel bogged by you etc |
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"would be easier with someone who knows how it is in there lol, as i got no idea, just get in and get naked, or what lol.
prob afraid of doing something and getting kicked out lol"
We went as a couple of newbies - it turned out being with someone equally inexperienced actually made it a better shared experience than going with someone who knew it all. We did a lot of reading, made a lot of assumptions and then got there and was very pleasantly surprised by the vibe of being with our tribe of like minded, sexually liberated people.
I think like others have said - just do it and work it out as you go. Be yourself and don't be a dick and you're not getting thrown out. |
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By *JohnMan 12 weeks ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
Read their website. The rules should be there, along with any dress code they might have, details of how to join, and a calendar of events. Choose the right night to go to.
Get a tour (I don't think I've been to a club that will let people in without one, but apparently they exist). Listen to what they say.
The rules at clubs are generally "don't be a dick". Respect the people and respect their consent. Don't try to do anything without asking.
Treat it as a social night out, because at every club I've been to that's what it is. There will be sex, you'll be able to watch, and you might get to take part. But if that's the only thing you're there for, you'll probably be disappointed.
You won't be walking straight into an orgy, and it's never free-for-all. With a few exceptions people keep their clothes (or most of them) on for at least the first part of the night. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 12 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
If you're able to walk into a normal.pub or club then you'll be fine going to a swingers club.
Many try the 'looking for someone to go with me' approach, but few would want to risk going with a complete stranger, especially if on a course night where you're expected to stay as a couple all night. And there's no real benefit for a single woman in going with a guy on a singles night because generally they'll get in for free anyway.
If you do want to try and find someone to go with then you'll probably need to find someone for a few socials and 1-2-1 meets to get to know them first. |
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Picking the right event is key.
We highly recommend whatwomenwant parties at VA for newbies as new guests are well looked after.
There is a group chat beforehand for you to make connections beforehand, ask any questions and given lots of info and tips. Then on the day you are greeted by one of the hosts, given a tour and introduced to people.
For events up north we'd recommend Sunday funday at cupids they play games and get people mingling.
Good luck x |
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"hey everyone, i've never been in the club, and since im recently single, would love to get into one, but somehow getting nervous about going there alone.
any advice how to push myself to it or maybe someone can come with me lol"
You have the Attic in Derby, and Purple Mamba in Nottingham close to you.
Purple Mamba consistently has positive reviews from single guys, about how they feel welcomed inside, I would pay them a visit if I were closer myself.
The Attic also seems to welcome single guys, and has recently been refurbished/extended I believe, and is also a place I would like to visit at some point.
Try to pick a venue with positive reviews from other single guys (you can read up in the clubs section in here), as every club will take your money, but few will pay you any attention (unless you're misbehaving) once you've left the reception desk.... |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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Perfect write ,i amxnew here same i want to go there for first time because here i don t meet nobody ...most of couple want to have a partner so the best think is the club ,but is very important to not touch nobody without ask her permisiln ,i am scare a bit same to go there and i don t know nobody who want to join me |
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By *irsSubCouple 12 weeks ago
Darlington |
To be a successful single guy in a club (and fab) is expectations and respect. The successful ones will chat in the bar / smoking area / hottub, and make connections that will often lead to fun. Don't become the wanking dead stalking the play areas looking for scraps. |
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On our first visit to a club
We chose to go to Tenerife
We’d often spoken about swinging
The first time we got a tour a round the place but never played just chatting to people in the smoking area
We went back the following night and my wife decided to chat to two younger guys and invited them to a room
We had already noticed two other guys who looked very nervous
So on the way to the room she invited the other two guys too
5 guys and one woman for our first ever swinging experience
If your going to do it then jump straight into the deep end |
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"hey everyone, i've never been in the club, and since im recently single, would love to get into one, but somehow getting nervous about going there alone.
any advice how to push myself to it or maybe someone can come with me lol"
Did you get to go ? |
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"hey everyone, i've never been in the club, and since im recently single, would love to get into one, but somehow getting nervous about going there alone.
any advice how to push myself to it or maybe someone can come with me lol"
Just treat it as a normal night out at the pub nothing is promised so you could just go and socialise first to get a feel of the environment. Then if you like it you can go back and explore more (MR) |
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