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Very little response
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Hey gang,
I’ve been on and off here over the years.., but rarely get much interest except from fellas…?
I’m a regular straight chap with a love of sex and would love to get more involved in the swinging scene..
Any advice on what I can do to improve my profile and attract ladies/couples would be very much appreciated…
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OP, a couple of things when I looked at your profile:
Your first line is negative which paints you in a bad light from the off. Maybe delete it?
Try rewriting some of the lines so that the majority don't start with I...
And good luck, you're one of several thousand single guys on here  |
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"OP, a couple of things when I looked at your profile:
Your first line is negative which paints you in a bad light from the off. Maybe delete it?
Try rewriting some of the lines so that the majority don't start with I...
And good luck, you're one of several thousand single guys on here "
Writing and rewriting ...Nobody reads or care.
Go to venues, meet real people. They'll introduce you to others. Don't rely that your profile will catch you fish by itself. |
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"Writing and rewriting ...Nobody reads or care. "
I disagree.
Some very long profiles (I'm looking at you) might not get read but I have found that having a few decent-ish paragraphs makes a difference.
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Only being able to meet in the day may limit you, as lots of people work office hours op.
Also, women and couples do read and take notice of profiles, so maybe expand on what you can offer them if they chose to meet you. |
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People can like reliability, so users who come and go may seem like a less dependable option.
The onus is on each man to demonstrate himself and why he's unique. Use socials and clubs to boost your circle of contacts |
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By *NLOS123Man 17 weeks ago
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I don’t buy into the statistics thing of men outnumbering woman or couples. There are successful single men on here
You say you have had very little response which means you’ve had some responses. So that’s positive and a lot more than most men will ever get.
So what then stops those responses becoming meets for socials or more
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By (user no longer on site) 17 weeks ago
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Your bio reads as if you're a married man who is looking to cheat on his partner.
Can't accommodate
Daytime meets
Hotel meet
Other points;
There are a million guys on here.
I wouldn't call myself an ugly chap but there are a ridiculous amount of absolutely chiseled guys on here that make me question my fitness.
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Any advice on what I can do to improve my profile and attract ladies/couples would be very much appreciated…
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Your profile pic is your bottom which attracts bi-men and also your comment about being a heavy cummer. Personally I like toned torso and arm pics. |
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Women tend to be outnumbered on here by the amount of men that join this site, also we all have our own preferences to whom and what we like. You're either for them or your not. I guess be honest with yourself in what you're looking for, don't be pushy and respect to person when they say no. |
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"Not quite sure what you’re getting at…?
I simply asked for some help…  "
Click on "quote" so that we know who you are responding to.
I think it takes time, perseverance and understanding to be successful in the swinger community.
A lot of men are here for a fuck buddy but most women and couples are not wired that way.
My take is that most men on Fab lack social skills and just want someone to come around to their home to suck their cock...aka low effort.
Being neurodivergent, I am NOT a low effort person...as you can tell by my profile...but most men can't be bothered to read my profile and therefore shoot themselves in the foot before they even begin.
My poly playmates are readers and gentlemen....they do seem to have a certain level of discipline and confidence to go after what they want also, socially or professionally or sexually and they bring that same energy to learning to navigate the swinger lifestyle. |
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"Not quite sure what you’re getting at…?
I simply asked for some help… "
Assuming it's my comment.
Your profile says you are looking for sex.
That's better than "will fill in later" But it's still bland and low effort.
But that is the vast majority of people on here.
There is nothing in your profile that explains why a woman should choose you, rather than any other.
Are you relying on your pictures to sell you?
There is no magic formula, different women are looking for different things, when it comes to sexual partners.
But at the moment, you have only ticked one box. You are looking for a partner.
More details about what you want, what you can offer her (sexually) etc. Will tick more boxes for some ladies, and hopefully lead to replies and maybe meets.
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